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"If someone shares the care are they a single parent ? " No, that's co parenting. | |||
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"If someone shares the care are they a single parent ? No, that's co parenting. " | |||
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"If someone shares the care are they a single parent ? " Deemed to be by some, as some parents only get every other weekend child free. | |||
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"It's a delicate balance indeed. I'm free at weekends, most have their kids at weekends, so it's mostly a non starter, bar for the occasional few, where our free time matches " Agree, timing is an issue. I have one week free one week dad duties so it's always a bit of luck, including for the bigger socials. | |||
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"There's a stigma to single parenting isn't there, a negative one. And I have actually seen in profiles men saying no single mums. Begs the question as to why doesn't it? Is it because it means mum tum and stretch marks or worse? The fact they'll be after a daddy replacement or security? They'll be needy or stressful? Or maybe they'll be unemployed or don't work full time, so cost is placed on the guy if it comes up? Maybe a single mum is unlikely to meet at hers so that means a hotel meet paid for by the guy? Or he accommodates which won't be an option for the attached men. Or is that she's not available at the drop of a hat? And single dads? When you say you can't accommodate because of kids does a woman think that's a cover for being attached? Do you think women suffer this too? Would a woman avoid a single dad thinking he wanted a mummy replacement, could be needy, stressful, not available, unemployed etc etc? What are the good points to single parents for others on fab? Let's have some positivity shall we? " Theres alot more of no single dads from the ladies than there is to no single mums from the men. As ive found out with accomodation we are expected to accomodate more, as like many single parents many of us refuse as its the childrens home. The men are accused of lieing, theyve got a partner, Ive had many comments said to me by both the ladies and couples. I also know single parents can share the costs, as i did it often. manchester, preston, blackpool, milton keynes all rented, taxied Being a taxi for many forum members going and returning to an organised event. picking up people for the organised event. sharing the costs to gain entry as a couple. I can say we single dads can be better fwb the same can be said for the ladies if you are prepared to except that we have other commitments and our children come first. I wouldnt want to introduce a new fwb to the children but would with a long term fwb that also goes for a couple as well. As long as there exceptable of this as they would be introduced as friends only. | |||
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"Do you find it hard on fab to find what you're looking for? There's a stigma to single parenting isn't there, a negative one. And I have actually seen in profiles men saying no single mums. Begs the question as to why doesn't it? Is it because it means mum tum and stretch marks or worse? The fact they'll be after a daddy replacement or security? They'll be needy or stressful? Or maybe they'll be unemployed or don't work full time, so cost is placed on the guy if it comes up? Maybe a single mum is unlikely to meet at hers so that means a hotel meet paid for by the guy? Or he accommodates which won't be an option for the attached men. Or is that she's not available at the drop of a hat? And single dads? When you say you can't accommodate because of kids does a woman think that's a cover for being attached? Do you think women suffer this too? Would a woman avoid a single dad thinking he wanted a mummy replacement, could be needy, stressful, not available, unemployed etc etc? What are the good points to single parents for others on fab? Let's have some positivity shall we? " No i think its more the unreliability of single mums(not saying you) say your child gets ill and or the baby sitter can't make it | |||
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"There is certainly a societal stigma of single parents but I certainly don't find it off putting. This is not a dating site after all, if a single mum is on here then read her damn profile! More often than not she will tell you what she wants! Often it seems they will want a sexual relationship with a regular partner, not a romantic relationship, and there is NOTHING wrong with that! Most appear to want this for their own safety, and a guy who is reliable and trust worthy. Gents there are a lot of strange men in the world who have strange ideas about women and treat this site like a damn catalogue of women to have their way with. There is a concerning number of statuses from women about cruel messages from men who cant handle rejection. Just because a woman likes sex doesn't make her a slut or worth less ESPECIALLY is she is a mother! The sooner we all realise that women have the power on here and they absolutely could use this site as a "mail order Penis catalogue" the better. I know it's not all men, but good ones seem to be drown out. Apologies for the long message" You’re going to get accused of being Captain Save-a-ho, you realise that? You are brave. I like everything you said. | |||
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"Often it seems they will want a sexual relationship with a regular partner, not a romantic relationship, and there is NOTHING wrong with that! Most appear to want this for their own safety, and a guy who is reliable and trust worthy." I think you've hit the nail on the head there - certainly for me that's pretty spot on. | |||
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"The guys who say that are probably the ones who don't realise the vagina doesn't stay stretched and get upset because you can't meet at the drop of a hat, the attention seeking needy fucker types. Mrs " | |||
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"In the "incel" community, we're seen as damaged goods, we've been discarded by another man, we're second hand etc ***But you also get the extreme where men only go for single mums because we're grateful for any attention we can get... and we're seen as easy. They also think we'll look after them, feed them etc*** My child is older, so it's not so much of an issue now and I have plenty of free time. Even when they were little, men and family life were a totally separate thing. I wouldn't have anyone round the house if they were there, didn't see me with anyone other than actual friends who I knew well. I don't know why men automatically think we want some sort of father replacement. We're perfectly capable of raising kids on our own. " *** | |||
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"No stigma from my point Hardworking mum juggling life, kids and all that comes with it are pretty awesome and deserve some fun in their life Big thumbs up from me" Couldn’t agree more with this | |||
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"If someone shares the care are they a single parent ? No, that's co parenting. " Yep. There’s a difference if you can pass kids back to your former partner | |||
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"But surely the percentage of single women here who have kids is going to be pretty high? The age group seems to be 30s up as far as I can tell. If men want to not bother with single mums, they're reducing their available pool by a significant number. Bit daft. Or is it more that we have baggy vaginas? " Baggy vag They never shrink back. | |||
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"If someone shares the care are they a single parent ? No, that's co parenting. Yep. There’s a difference if you can pass kids back to your former partner " I don't agree. I think anyone who parents on their own some of the time is a single parent. For many women that's all but every other weekend when their partner has them. A lone parent is someone who does all the parenting all the time. | |||
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"But surely the percentage of single women here who have kids is going to be pretty high? The age group seems to be 30s up as far as I can tell. If men want to not bother with single mums, they're reducing their available pool by a significant number. Bit daft. Or is it more that we have baggy vaginas? Baggy vag They never shrink back. " WHAT?! | |||
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"If someone shares the care are they a single parent ? No, that's co parenting. Yep. There’s a difference if you can pass kids back to your former partner I don't agree. I think anyone who parents on their own some of the time is a single parent. For many women that's all but every other weekend when their partner has them. A lone parent is someone who does all the parenting all the time. " That could also apply to some married couples! | |||
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"But surely the percentage of single women here who have kids is going to be pretty high? The age group seems to be 30s up as far as I can tell. If men want to not bother with single mums, they're reducing their available pool by a significant number. Bit daft. Or is it more that we have baggy vaginas? Baggy vag They never shrink back. WHAT?!" I promise you do your pelvic floors and you'll be fine!!!! | |||
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"If someone shares the care are they a single parent ? No, that's co parenting. Yep. There’s a difference if you can pass kids back to your former partner I don't agree. I think anyone who parents on their own some of the time is a single parent. For many women that's all but every other weekend when their partner has them. A lone parent is someone who does all the parenting all the time. That could also apply to some married couples! " Aside from the salient "single" part. | |||
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"But surely the percentage of single women here who have kids is going to be pretty high? The age group seems to be 30s up as far as I can tell. If men want to not bother with single mums, they're reducing their available pool by a significant number. Bit daft. Or is it more that we have baggy vaginas? Baggy vag They never shrink back. WHAT?! I promise you do your pelvic floors and you'll be fine!!!! " I do them, I do them!! | |||
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"If someone shares the care are they a single parent ? No, that's co parenting. Yep. There’s a difference if you can pass kids back to your former partner I don't agree. I think anyone who parents on their own some of the time is a single parent. For many women that's all but every other weekend when their partner has them. A lone parent is someone who does all the parenting all the time. " Big difference between co parenting and being the only parent. No idea what ‘some of the time’ might be and I don’t think I’d want to know | |||
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" That could also apply to some married couples! " Exactly and some fabbers will be in with the kids whilst their other half gets frisky and viceversa | |||
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"But surely the percentage of single women here who have kids is going to be pretty high? The age group seems to be 30s up as far as I can tell. If men want to not bother with single mums, they're reducing their available pool by a significant number. Bit daft. Or is it more that we have baggy vaginas? Baggy vag They never shrink back. WHAT?! I promise you do your pelvic floors and you'll be fine!!!! I do them, I do them!! " Never stop! I started when I was pregnant with my eldest, three births down and I've been told you'd never know never peed myself either | |||
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" That could also apply to some married couples! Exactly and some fabbers will be in with the kids whilst their other half gets frisky and viceversa " No. Married couples where one person does the parenting all the time. | |||
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"If someone shares the care are they a single parent ? No, that's co parenting. Yep. There’s a difference if you can pass kids back to your former partner I don't agree. I think anyone who parents on their own some of the time is a single parent. For many women that's all but every other weekend when their partner has them. A lone parent is someone who does all the parenting all the time. Big difference between co parenting and being the only parent. No idea what ‘some of the time’ might be and I don’t think I’d want to know " Yes I know there's a big difference. That's why the term "lone parent" is accurate. But the most common "co-parenting" setup is when the dad has the kids every other weekend. | |||
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