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By *orkshireman downunder OP   Man
51 weeks ago

Hull and Brisbane

Hi all.

I'm looking for some advice on my profile. I'm really struggling to get any traction on here at all.

I see myself as a decent guy who is not ugly.

I'm very picky around who I message and thunk about the message before I send it.

I'm not even getting my messages read. Any suggestions on what I'm doing wrong ???

Thanks in advance

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By *issmorganWoman
51 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Hi op

I'd say your profile text isn't very inspiring, it doesn't give me the sense of what you offer or like. So it wouldn't make me want to reply to a message.

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By *orkshireman downunder OP   Man
51 weeks ago

Hull and Brisbane

Thanks for the reply any suggestions on how to make the profile a little more appealing ?

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
51 weeks ago

Merseyside

Pics are fine - details for meets is ok but lacks level of detail about you or what you like in content. That’s always helps. Also chat on forums so people can see you as you are

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By *orkshireman downunder OP   Man
51 weeks ago

Hull and Brisbane

Thanks will have a thunk on how to flesh it out a little more

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By (user no longer on site)
51 weeks ago

Take a look at the threads and the male profiles that are regulars

Don't copy, but just see that they have length not just a few brief words, they have content, interesting, funny or a glimpse of humour is a winner

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By *orkshireman downunder OP   Man
51 weeks ago

Hull and Brisbane

Made a few changes let me know what you think

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By (user no longer on site)
51 weeks ago


"Hi all.

I'm looking for some advice on my profile. I'm really struggling to get any traction on here at all.

I see myself as a decent guy who is not ugly.

I'm very picky around who I message and thunk about the message before I send it.

I'm not even getting my messages read. Any suggestions on what I'm doing wrong ???

Thanks in advance "

All that stands out are your shades and the travels and you say nothing else. Oh par you say you are bees knees. Beauty is always in the beholder. What is a decent guy?

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By (user no longer on site)
51 weeks ago

Don't change you or your profile to appeal to a few on here.

You just need to be yourself, if someone doesn't find you attractive then you aren't for them, no matter what you write on your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
51 weeks ago

Mate, to have to remember one thing- no matter how good your profile is, if you are a single male- you will be here for the long haul, there are so many of us here compared to single women that they are spoiled for choice, so just jettison and noticed is your main issues here- so all I can offer is be vocal on the forums, go into the web cams and hope a few people notice you and you might get some luck this way

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By *ootyfruityCouple
51 weeks ago

andover

Maby a few more photos? We don’t tend to go for profiles of single guys with dick pics though.

But your profile looks good to us, maby look into a social event or club? Get yourself some verifications, that will help ALOT

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By (user no longer on site)
51 weeks ago

You visit every 4 to 6 months which I would take as you just want a quick shag while you're around. You describe socials as good but adult fun as great so sounds like socials don't interest you as much and it's all about the sex.

Yes it's a sex/swinger site. But that would put me off personally but that's because I'm not into one night stands, others are. And you could have a wife and kids in Australia and be cheating and she'd be unlikely to catch you. I'd not entertain you myself.

Others might.

Besides that all your profile really says is your male and want sex. And there's thousands of profiles saying exactly that. Even lots of fancy words can just amount to that on a man's profile. What do you bring to the table that a woman would pick YOU out of those thousands for? I'm male and want sex with woman and couples is very 'samey' in a woman's inbox.

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By *ickyKlungespeareMan
51 weeks ago

St Leonards


"Take a look at the threads and the male profiles that are regulars

Don't copy, but just see that they have length not just a few brief words, they have content, interesting, funny or a glimpse of humour is a winner"

You meant me right?

Definitely me .

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By *orkshireman downunder OP   Man
51 weeks ago

Hull and Brisbane

Thanks for all the advice and feedback. I will keep an open mind to updating my bio a little more.

Great community spirit

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
51 weeks ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

You profile is OK OP but maybe that is the issue. Its OK.

Inject some personality in there as I'm sure living in Aus for 6 months of the year you have some stories to tell.

Personally I think your username is a little off putting as it's a bit of a Lads joke that won't always appeal to grown ups.

And as mentioned a few more photos as 2 says to me your aren't fully invested. Look at the more 'successful' profiles and they have plenty more. Photos can reinforce your personality. They don't have to full or partially naked. Just well thought out.

Marc

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By *orkshireman downunder OP   Man
51 weeks ago

Hull and Brisbane

Thanks Marc

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By *arla SwingerWoman
51 weeks ago

Somewhere

Nice profile, could flesh it out some more. I mean my own is pretty sparse but you did ask...

Not a clue how long you're back in the UK for? When that tends to be? Unless I was specifically seeking a one off encounter I'd ignore it on the above.

As others have suggested maybe look for events/socials you can attend that tie in with when you're back.

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By *orkshireman downunder OP   Man
51 weeks ago

Hull and Brisbane

Thanks lady.

Usually back for 3 weeks at a time.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
51 weeks ago

Cheshire

Best bloke profile I saw was a guy showing his holiday pictures stood next to signs with rude or suggestive names. Butt Lane or stood in front to Tithe Lane and just showing the tit bit, with some witty comments underneath the picture.

No need to go into a long text saying how funny or a great personality he has, his pictures were perfect examples of his personality and humour.

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By *eroLondonMan
51 weeks ago

Covent Garden


"Best bloke profile I saw was a guy showing his holiday pictures stood next to signs with rude or suggestive names. Butt Lane or stood in front to Tithe Lane and just showing the tit bit, with some witty comments underneath the picture.

No need to go into a long text saying how funny or a great personality he has, his pictures were perfect examples of his personality and humour. "

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Hmmm, it's an abstract way of looking at things but if that approach worked for him then it's all good. He's clearly attracting his target audience.

The women with whom I engage on Fab (Fab as a whole and not just the Forå) would probably give me a wide berth if I photographs of Anal Alley, Penis Passage, Cunt Conduit, Randy Road, Semen Street, et al...

So it's horses for courses.

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By *aitonelMan
51 weeks ago

Travelling

Best advice is, it's not worth the struggle, effort, and pressure we put on ourselves to make fab "happen".

Just make the profile you want to see, don't do what you think others want to see. As by doing one thing you just end up turning away others.

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By *orkshireman downunder OP   Man
51 weeks ago

Hull and Brisbane

Great advice thanks

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By *imi_RougeWoman
51 weeks ago

Portsmouth

Profile looks fine to me, so it would be about how you message.

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By (user no longer on site)
51 weeks ago


"Best bloke profile I saw was a guy showing his holiday pictures stood next to signs with rude or suggestive names. Butt Lane or stood in front to Tithe Lane and just showing the tit bit, with some witty comments underneath the picture.

No need to go into a long text saying how funny or a great personality he has, his pictures were perfect examples of his personality and humour.

•

Hmmm, it's an abstract way of looking at things but if that approach worked for him then it's all good. He's clearly attracting his target audience.

The women with whom I engage on Fab (Fab as a whole and not just the Forå) would probably give me a wide berth if I photographs of Anal Alley, Penis Passage, Cunt Conduit, Randy Road, Semen Street, et al...

So it's horses for courses. "

Out of interest, in which town can I find Cunt Conduit?

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By (user no longer on site)
51 weeks ago


"Nice profile, could flesh it out some more. I mean my own is pretty sparse but you did ask...

Not a clue how long you're back in the UK for? When that tends to be? Unless I was specifically seeking a one off encounter I'd ignore it on the above.

As others have suggested maybe look for events/socials you can attend that tie in with when you're back. "

This is what I was going to say. It's not clear what you want and when you're here.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
51 weeks ago

ashford

Looks fine to me x

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By *eroLondonMan
51 weeks ago

Covent Garden


"Best bloke profile I saw was a guy showing his holiday pictures stood next to signs with rude or suggestive names. Butt Lane or stood in front to Tithe Lane and just showing the tit bit, with some witty comments underneath the picture.

No need to go into a long text saying how funny or a great personality he has, his pictures were perfect examples of his personality and humour.

•

Hmmm, it's an abstract way of looking at things but if that approach worked for him then it's all good. He's clearly attracting his target audience.

The women with whom I engage on Fab (Fab as a whole and not just the Forå) would probably give me a wide berth if I photographs of Anal Alley, Penis Passage, Cunt Conduit, Randy Road, Semen Street, et al...

So it's horses for courses.

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Out of interest, in which town can I find Cunt Conduit? "

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In the East-End of London, just off Bodily-Function Alley.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
51 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

Anyone putting discreet in their profile always makes me think they are married or with partner! Always!

Do the people who don’t put discreet in their profile have flashing signs showing they are swingers

I’ve never met an indiscreet swinger yet…

You also didn’t reply when asked if you were with a partner - if you are with a partner then just be honest as then people can decide whether to invest time in you rather than waste time finding out down the line.

Your profile reads ok - but wouldn’t grab us at all.

The discrete bit and the lack of explanation of what brings you over - is is long and how regular?, would put us off.

K

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By (user no longer on site)
51 weeks ago

I don't normally reply to a woe is me fab is shit for single guys type thing but here is some advice from a guy that does alright... If it's not working read your profile and ask yourself do I stand out. Also it's about making an effort getting yourself known, go to a club or a social show people that your a nice guy and the rest will follow.

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By *ornucopiaMan
51 weeks ago

Bexley


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Out of interest, in which town can I find Cunt Conduit? "

Well, there are signs for' Cunty Car Parks' in Swanley near where I live but the silly sods can't spell and have put an 'o' where it really isn't needed.

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By (user no longer on site)
51 weeks ago


"Best bloke profile I saw was a guy showing his holiday pictures stood next to signs with rude or suggestive names. Butt Lane or stood in front to Tithe Lane and just showing the tit bit, with some witty comments underneath the picture.

No need to go into a long text saying how funny or a great personality he has, his pictures were perfect examples of his personality and humour.

•

Hmmm, it's an abstract way of looking at things but if that approach worked for him then it's all good. He's clearly attracting his target audience.

The women with whom I engage on Fab (Fab as a whole and not just the Forå) would probably give me a wide berth if I photographs of Anal Alley, Penis Passage, Cunt Conduit, Randy Road, Semen Street, et al...

So it's horses for courses.

·

Out of interest, in which town can I find Cunt Conduit?

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In the East-End of London, just off Bodily-Function Alley."

Oh my, that just drips...sorry, trips...off the tongue doesn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
51 weeks ago


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Out of interest, in which town can I find Cunt Conduit?

Well, there are signs for' Cunty Car Parks' in Swanley near where I live but the silly sods can't spell and have put an 'o' where it really isn't needed."

I'd never say an O is unnecessary

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By *illy IdolMan
51 weeks ago

Midlands

If you want my two pennies, I'd get rid of all the clichés. Genuine, respectful, discreet. Stuff like that. That's expected and just dull to read. Add a few more pics and get yourself out there.

From my experience getting involved in the forums have certainly helped and have had a few message me from them.

Enjoy OP

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