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By *ady4lady OP   Woman
over a year ago

liverpool

to vanilla after being involved in the swing lifestyle.

If you met and fell for someone completely vanilla that you knew would never ever agree to swinging as a couple, and that you could not tell of your experiences on here, would you be able to settle down for life with them?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

No. Which is why I am staying single for the time being.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to sound dumb, but what is Vanilla? Seen it being used so many times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"to vanilla after being involved in the swing lifestyle.

If you met and fell for someone completely vanilla that you knew would never ever agree to swinging as a couple, and that you could not tell of your experiences on here, would you be able to settle down for life with them?"

yes to some of it - but would have to be able to talk about this lifestyle

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Sorry to sound dumb, but what is Vanilla? Seen it being used so many times. "

non swinger...

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By *ady4lady OP   Woman
over a year ago

liverpool


"Sorry to sound dumb, but what is Vanilla? Seen it being used so many times. "

Conventional relationship, or conventional sexual behaviour, eg, one man one woman, no variations etc.

Not dumb at all x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I could, maybe one day who knows

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By *ady4lady OP   Woman
over a year ago

liverpool


"Sorry to sound dumb, but what is Vanilla? Seen it being used so many times.

non swinger... "

Why can you say what I say in so few words and be sooooo right lol

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

No I don't think so... As much as I am not looking for love I would have to say it is going to prob end up being a site like this that I meet someone if that is meant to be..

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Sorry to sound dumb, but what is Vanilla? Seen it being used so many times. "

Monogamy

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village


"to vanilla after being involved in the swing lifestyle.

If you met and fell for someone completely vanilla that you knew would never ever agree to swinging as a couple, and that you could not tell of your experiences on here, would you be able to settle down for life with them?"

Surely this is going to depend on you as a person and your commitment to being faithful to someone. If I met & fell for someone who was Vanilla and would never swing then I would leave swinging for them.

I wouldn't break the ties I had to swinging and the friendships I have made but I would expect my friends to respect the fact that I no longer am actively on the scene

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don't think I could, my ideal would be to meet a fellow swinger. Never gonna happen though.

Vanilla is "normal" relationship/sex. Like ice cream vanilla is the plain & simple one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now that I know what Vanilla is ....If he didn't want to swing as a couple, he'd have to agree to me swinging on my own (I'd be fine with that). If he can't accept that, tough. Wouldn't work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, as I believe variety is the spice of life, and one person cannot tick all the boxes for me.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

I've tried vanilla and I'm missing the monogamy gene I reckon - that's why I've no desire to have a relationship in normal life - plus I actually like my own company so see no need to change my lifestyle - it's took me a while to get here so I'm gonna keep on enjoying it

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place


"Sorry to sound dumb, but what is Vanilla? Seen it being used so many times.

Monogamy "

you make it sound so dirty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

whilst not completely vanilla, i have adjusted how i play.

I no longer meet single men or go to clubs on my own but thats my choice, i dont want anyone else

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By *ady4lady OP   Woman
over a year ago

liverpool

Guess Im just gonna have to pass up George Clooney then, he said he wouldnt share me with anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, absolutely.

Being in love and sharing your life with someone beats the swinging lifestyle hands down.

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By *ady4lady OP   Woman
over a year ago

liverpool


"Yes, absolutely.

Being in love and sharing your life with someone beats the swinging lifestyle hands down. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, absolutely.

Being in love and sharing your life with someone beats the swinging lifestyle hands down. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"whilst not completely vanilla, i have adjusted how i play.

I no longer meet single men or go to clubs on my own but thats my choice, i dont want anyone else "

I am the same except I don't meet single men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"to vanilla after being involved in the swing lifestyle.

If you met and fell for someone completely vanilla that you knew would never ever agree to swinging as a couple, and that you could not tell of your experiences on here, would you be able to settle down for life with them?"

Honestly not sure, but I guess if I loved them I'd want them to be happy so would at the very least try. I couldn't hide my experiences from them though as they've been a big part of my life, and to me hiding it would be dishonest and no way to start a relationship even if swinging weren't to be a part of it in the future. Ideally though if I were to meet someone he'd be someone I could continue to share these experiences with x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if i met someone and was totally in love etc, i would stop swinging but i would miss everyone and the banter too xx

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By *eal_Dick_TurpinMan
over a year ago

Exeter

cart before horse...

nobody vanilla would want someone who has lived the lifestyle.

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By *utecontradictionMan
over a year ago

Malvern

I think its Pandora's box.....we have all opened it and would find it hard to shut.....though I think a small part of us also likes to think we could close it one day....and maybe some of us can, just not sure I could.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

no never

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By *ady4lady OP   Woman
over a year ago

liverpool


"cart before horse...

nobody vanilla would want someone who has lived the lifestyle."

that depends if you told them your past !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging isn't the be all and end all to my life, its not the nicotine in sex but saying that I am not a couple and so its slightly different.

for a single person you could retitle it "if you met someone you fell for totally could you stay faithful" as its a similar question for a single to answer.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Swinging isn't the be all and end all to my life, its not the nicotine in sex but saying that I am not a couple and so its slightly different.

for a single person you could retitle it "if you met someone you fell for totally could you stay faithful" as its a similar question for a single to answer. "

That's useful. I kept thinking 'back to what?' I could be monogamous in a mutally monogamous relationship.

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By *ady4lady OP   Woman
over a year ago

liverpool


"Swinging isn't the be all and end all to my life, its not the nicotine in sex but saying that I am not a couple and so its slightly different.

for a single person you could retitle it "if you met someone you fell for totally could you stay faithful" as its a similar question for a single to answer.

That's useful. I kept thinking 'back to what?' I could be monogamous in a mutally monogamous relationship."

Thats very true, I was thinking from the point of someone who had been in a monogomous relationship previously.

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By *eal_Dick_TurpinMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"cart before horse...

nobody vanilla would want someone who has lived the lifestyle.

that depends if you told them your past !!!!"

quelle surprise, a relationshit built upon an obscene deception, what could possibly go wrong...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder how many people on this site are here because they are lonely and hope to find relief for a few hours through intimate human contact?

Its not always about just a purely physcial act.

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By *andKxxxCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

We have the best of both worlds... When we aren't swinging we have the most perfect "vanilla" relationship

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By *ady4lady OP   Woman
over a year ago

liverpool


"cart before horse...

nobody vanilla would want someone who has lived the lifestyle.

that depends if you told them your past !!!!

quelle surprise, a relationshit built upon an obscene deception, what could possibly go wrong..."

Maybe not intentional deception, a relationship that starts as casual ( you would not necessarily tell the other person your full past at this point). and then moves on to a solid and deep love (by which time you dont want to tell them for fear of losing them).

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I wonder how many people on this site are here because they are lonely and hope to find relief for a few hours through intimate human contact?

Its not always about just a purely physcial act.

"

When I started out on t'internet I met someone who really only wanted to cuddle. I was a little frustrated at first until I realised that he got so much pleasure just from the chance to be intimate and chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder how many people on this site are here because they are lonely and hope to find relief for a few hours through intimate human contact?

Its not always about just a purely physcial act.

When I started out on t'internet I met someone who really only wanted to cuddle. I was a little frustrated at first until I realised that he got so much pleasure just from the chance to be intimate and chat."

Sometimes, the greatest need is the need to feel wanted.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Biggest thing I miss being single is the feeling of being wanted....

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By *ady4lady OP   Woman
over a year ago

liverpool


"Biggest thing I miss being single is the feeling of being wanted.... "

What makes you think you are not 'wanted' ?, just cos you are single doesnt mean you are not wanted. There will be someone out there with a massive 'hots' for you, you just need to wait til he plucks up the courage to come forward

In the mean time, enjoy yourself on here xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Biggest thing I miss being single is the feeling of being wanted.... "

I presume that's not just the feeling of being wanted as in desired, sexually. But rather the wanted that comes from someone who wants you, the whole package, who desires all of you - mind body and soul?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Biggest thing I miss being single is the feeling of being wanted.... "

You just ain't found him yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I miss the romance, the flowers the little love notes, just doing something silly to make her smile

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Biggest thing I miss being single is the feeling of being wanted....

I presume that's not just the feeling of being wanted as in desired, sexually. But rather the wanted that comes from someone who wants you, the whole package, who desires all of you - mind body and soul?"

Yes sexually there are a few that want me...I mean in the whole package sense...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Biggest thing I miss being single is the feeling of being wanted....

I presume that's not just the feeling of being wanted as in desired, sexually. But rather the wanted that comes from someone who wants you, the whole package, who desires all of you - mind body and soul?

Yes sexually there are a few that want me...I mean in the whole package sense..."

I grok that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging isn't the be all and end all to my life, its not the nicotine in sex but saying that I am not a couple and so its slightly different.

for a single person you could retitle it "if you met someone you fell for totally could you stay faithful" as its a similar question for a single to answer.

That's useful. I kept thinking 'back to what?' I could be monogamous in a mutally monogamous relationship."

I would like to think if the feelings were there for another person, they wanted a monogamous relationship then a lot would. I guess its weighing up the sexual variation against a contented fully emotional relationship if it has to be a straight choice and making it. For me I like to think it wouldn't be that hard but that's me I am a decisive person.

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By *ady4lady OP   Woman
over a year ago

liverpool


"I miss the romance, the flowers the little love notes, just doing something silly to make her smile "

Feel free to send flowers with a note and cartwheel naked down my road anytime, lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Biggest thing I miss being single is the feeling of being wanted.... "

with you on that...its lovely having the freedom I have right now but do miss having someone in my life that cares and is interested in me as a person not just as shag and to do normal things with eg having someone to go to the cinema with and cuddle and stuff. I'd love to have a friend like that whilst still maintaining my freedom...best of both worlds!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I miss the romance, the flowers the little love notes, just doing something silly to make her smile

Feel free to send flowers with a note and cartwheel naked down my road anytime, lol x "

On my way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, absolutely.

Being in love and sharing your life with someone beats the swinging lifestyle hands down. "

Except perhaps being in love, sharing your life with someone, and.... swinging together?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, absolutely.

Being in love and sharing your life with someone beats the swinging lifestyle hands down.

Except perhaps being in love, sharing your life with someone, and.... swinging together?"

Cant disagree with that scenario either - though its not strictly in line with the OPs original concept of going back to 'vanilla'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, absolutely.

Being in love and sharing your life with someone beats the swinging lifestyle hands down.

Except perhaps being in love, sharing your life with someone, and.... swinging together?

Cant disagree with that scenario either - though its not strictly in line with the OPs original concept of going back to 'vanilla' "

Oh yes

erm well I don't know then, but I do like vanilla ice cream

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By *he Original TTMan
over a year ago

Brackley, Northants


"Biggest thing I miss being single is the feeling of being wanted....

I presume that's not just the feeling of being wanted as in desired, sexually. But rather the wanted that comes from someone who wants you, the whole package, who desires all of you - mind body and soul?

Yes sexually there are a few that want me...I mean in the whole package sense..."

I'd have ya!

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By *ady4lady OP   Woman
over a year ago

liverpool


"I miss the romance, the flowers the little love notes, just doing something silly to make her smile

Feel free to send flowers with a note and cartwheel naked down my road anytime, lol x

On my way "

wow, take note everyone, the old un has pulled lol.....

Thanks for the ego boost lovely man, (had the back door open for 10 mins now where the feck are you????) oh, excuse the pun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That naughty neighbour of yours ambushed me and has me tied to her bed

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By *ady4lady OP   Woman
over a year ago

liverpool


"That naughty neighbour of yours ambushed me and has me tied to her bed "

Erm i live next door to a 85 year old man, I wish you luck and bid you farewell, you are doomed. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That naughty neighbour of yours ambushed me and has me tied to her bed

Erm i live next door to a 85 year old man, I wish you luck and bid you farewell, you are doomed. x"

Nothing wrong with a nice 'gum-job' and a Werthers Original.

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By *ady4lady OP   Woman
over a year ago

liverpool


"That naughty neighbour of yours ambushed me and has me tied to her bed

Erm i live next door to a 85 year old man, I wish you luck and bid you farewell, you are doomed. x

Nothing wrong with a nice 'gum-job' and a Werthers Original."

Hey, gums are clean and I dont give my Worthers away willy nilly x

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By *drenaline rushMan
over a year ago

Burnley


"No I don't think I could, my ideal would be to meet a fellow swinger. Never gonna happen though.

Vanilla is "normal" relationship/sex. Like ice cream vanilla is the plain & simple one."

What makes you think you couldt meet someone on here x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ouch stop it get off, ahhhhhh not in there arrrrrrrrrrrrrr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No I don't think I could, my ideal would be to meet a fellow swinger. Never gonna happen though.

Vanilla is "normal" relationship/sex. Like ice cream vanilla is the plain & simple one.

What makes you think you couldt meet someone on here x "

What makes anyone think that they will meet anyone anywhere?

Fate, luck, karma? When it happens, it happens. Could be on a bus, in Tesco or in the group play room at Chams.

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By *ady4lady OP   Woman
over a year ago

liverpool


"No I don't think I could, my ideal would be to meet a fellow swinger. Never gonna happen though.

Vanilla is "normal" relationship/sex. Like ice cream vanilla is the plain & simple one.

What makes you think you couldt meet someone on here x "

I think for some that would be the perfect situation. x

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By *ady4lady OP   Woman
over a year ago

liverpool


"Ouch stop it get off, ahhhhhh not in there arrrrrrrrrrrrrr "

Pulling the covers over my head as I drift off to sleep, keep the noise down will you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I reckon I could, but ideally I would love a partner who enjoyed a bit of variety and spice so would encourage him..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont class myself as a swinger so for mr right id gladly be just his and leave this place

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"to vanilla after being involved in the swing lifestyle.

If you met and fell for someone completely vanilla that you knew would never ever agree to swinging as a couple, and that you could not tell of your experiences on here, would you be able to settle down for life with them?"

Yes, but only if she had money to burn.

*courtesy of the shallow department*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely. I'm just here because I am single. Dont want to have meaningless fcuks with no emotional attachment for the rest of my life. Can have fantastic sex with a life partner too x

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