FabSwingers.com forum: Instant delete

By *ilf and old fart OP Couple
48 weeks ago

Between Ely and Mildenhall

Some messages are only fit for instant deleting.

Among the, "hey" "Available now" "Now?" "Need to unload" messages this week, We received one that at last showed some effort, "can I fuck her now"

Needless to say that they didn't get a reply lol.

When will single guys realise that to get anywhere with the majority of couples and women on here, they need to put some effort into their messages. Otherwise its just an instant delete

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By *amierebelMan
48 weeks ago

nae danger.

I feel like I read this exact same forum post every day

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
48 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Um, usually they realise a while after they start getting all vitriolic in their followup messages / statuses / forum posts. Stay venomous for a while. Then either fuck off or actually learn and try to be real people

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By *ealitybitesMan
48 weeks ago

Belfast

I apply the same principle to many messages from women and couples

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"Some messages are only fit for instant deleting.

Among the, "hey" "Available now" "Now?" "Need to unload" messages this week, We received one that at last showed some effort, "can I fuck her now"

Needless to say that they didn't get a reply lol.

When will single guys realise that to get anywhere with the majority of couples and women on here, they need to put some effort into their messages. Otherwise its just an instant delete

Sometimes the man is entirely at fault for the "can I fuck you now" messages.

Other times, not so much.

You get back what you put out.

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By *arryandhedgehogCouple
48 weeks ago

Thurrock

Got one today that just said “wanking over your pics”

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By *obilebottomMan
48 weeks ago

All over

"Got one today that just said “wanking over your pics” "

Me too

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

I’m sure the messages you send are full of effort

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By *elshbi2Couple
48 weeks ago

Swansea

We do wonder sometimes if people even bother reading what’s on our profile. We clearly state what we want and what our response will be to messages that are rude blunt etc.

Maybe they just message with the hope that someone will reply with what they want to hear.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
48 weeks ago

Portsmouth

I've seen some horrific ones this week... Like truly awful, makes you wonder how these people function in society.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

They’re unlikely to see this either. Chances are they don’t even read the forum.

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By *issmorganWoman
48 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Couples can be as bad tbh

On my joint profile we've had one couple ask me to go wake my partner up as they were horny and he was in bed, block.

Some of the messages they send are really unimaginative and show they've not read our profile too.

I'm sure some women are the same, but i/we're not interested in meeting ladies.

I don't think lack of effort and assuming you're free cos they're horny is justa thing men do.

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By *naswingdressWoman
48 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think a lot of people aren't very good at communicating, and they haven't quite worked out that you need to imitate (but adapt) some of the norms of communicating in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"I feel like I read this exact same forum post every day "

Gotta announce that you get messages on a place like this

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By *enelope2UWoman
48 weeks ago

Fife

They won't they are just fishing for lower standards to take the bait..

I just block and repeat

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"Got one today that just said “wanking over your pics” "

Nowt wrong with him letting you know.

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By *rivervaderMan
48 weeks ago

bolton

Even when you try you don’t always get a reply

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

can i be blocked instead if i send a message like that?

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
48 weeks ago

Maidstone

"I think a lot of people aren't very good at communicating, and they haven't quite worked out that you need to imitate (but adapt) some of the norms of communicating in person."

For sure communication is important, in both reading and then using what they've read to modulated an empathic response.

However, it beggars belief on some people's lack of self awareness or how to market themselves... They think a picture of a shoulder with text that only says "fill in later" is somehow, appealing?

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By *entle_lover_xMan
48 weeks ago

Great Dunmow

Another man bashing thread. I had one closed down by moderators a few weeks ago as they said too many man bashing threads but there seems to be more than ever.

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By *amierebelMan
48 weeks ago

nae danger.

"I feel like I read this exact same forum post every day

Gotta announce that you get messages on a place like this

Public high five

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

I’ve become immune to them at this stage.

Will say though that it’s not only single guys. Women, couples, TV’s all guilty as well.

I block, delete and don’t give them another thought.

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By *oxy jWoman
48 weeks ago

somerset

i find it a great filter any messages like that are a instant block ..so please please carry on guys dont hide it at least then its easy to work out who the numpties are ... and if guys a fed up of seeing these post then tough really we have to put up with this crap daily ... 95% of my messages on this my single and our couples account are pure rubbish...

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

I need more cock, who's next.

Man - "can I fuck you".

Woman - how dare he!

Bloody men eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

I keep getting a repeat dm "Horny Now? "....no other words just "Horny Now?" From a so called couple....like WTF

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By *ucka39Man
48 weeks ago

Newcastle

It's not all single men but more than some so for now some

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By *axo25Man
48 weeks ago

lightwater

Well your username checks out OP!

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

I have often wondered if this approach ever works for the guys. Because despite all the threads about it, it doesn't stop them. So am sure some people respond positively to them.

I had one where the guy said why blur your face. If he had read my profile he would know why.

When I replied at least I have public photos ( he had none, no friends only ). He replied that he was shy..pml..

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By *ucka39Man
48 weeks ago

Newcastle

"I keep getting a repeat dm "Horny Now? "....no other words just "Horny Now?" From a so called couple....like WTF

I see few statuses like that I'm sure if they both started to have sex with each other it would help

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By *axo25Man
48 weeks ago

lightwater

"I’ve become immune to them at this stage.

Will say though that it’s not only single guys. Women, couples, TV’s all guilty as well.

I block, delete and don’t give them another thought."

On a completely separate note I would come at you like a parched spaniel Red!

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"Couples can be as bad tbh

On my joint profile we've had one couple ask me to go wake my partner up as they were horny and he was in bed, block.

Some of the messages they send are really unimaginative and show they've not read our profile too.

I'm sure some women are the same, but i/we're not interested in meeting ladies.

I don't think lack of effort and assuming you're free cos they're horny is justa thing men do. "

They even do it to other men which is why I have stopped meeting them.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

I imagine this is the same people who rush to the bar to drink as much as possible in case it gets busy later, or need the approval of 7 mates before buying a t shirt.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Has anyone replied to a "fuck now?" Message with "ok then" and see what the reply is?

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By *rouble81Couple
48 weeks ago

Bolton

Anything along the lines of ‘nice guys’ or ‘you’ve got big toys’.

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By *aomilatteCouple
48 weeks ago

Midlands

"Some messages are only fit for instant deleting.

Among the, "hey" "Available now" "Now?" "Need to unload" messages this week, We received one that at last showed some effort, "can I fuck her now"

Needless to say that they didn't get a reply lol.

When will single guys realise that to get anywhere with the majority of couples and women on here, they need to put some effort into their messages. Otherwise its just an instant delete

We get the same from couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"I keep getting a repeat dm "Horny Now? "....no other words just "Horny Now?" From a so called couple....like WTF

I see few statuses like that I'm sure if they both started to have sex with each other it would help

Maybe next time I'll just reply...."Horny Horny Horny"....!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Can it be changed to when will SOME single guys realise, because in the defence of some single guys its not all single guys.

Some make an effort in the approach.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"I need more cock, who's next.

Man - "can I fuck you".

Woman - how dare he!

Bloody men eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

'Gilf'

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
48 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

When will #some single guys! realise that to get anywhere with the majority of couples and women on here, they need to put some effort into their messages. Otherwise its just an instant delete

FIFY, just to be fair to those single guys who actually do make an effort, but yet get bundled into the majority, and get the pleasure of carrying others behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"Some messages are only fit for instant deleting.

Among the, "hey" "Available now" "Now?" "Need to unload" messages this week, We received one that at last showed some effort, "can I fuck her now"

Needless to say that they didn't get a reply lol.

When will single guys realise that to get anywhere with the majority of couples and women on here, they need to put some effort into their messages. Otherwise its just an instant delete

You aren't conversing with the right guys .. I've never sent any such messages to anybody and I get almost zero hellos or replies..

You actually get more responses if you are cheeky and rude ..

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By *naswingdressWoman
48 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I feel like I read this exact same forum post every day

Gotta announce that you get messages on a place like this

I don't get messages

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By *naswingdressWoman
48 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I think a lot of people aren't very good at communicating, and they haven't quite worked out that you need to imitate (but adapt) some of the norms of communicating in person.

For sure communication is important, in both reading and then using what they've read to modulated an empathic response.

However, it beggars belief on some people's lack of self awareness or how to market themselves... They think a picture of a shoulder with text that only says "fill in later" is somehow, appealing?"

Agreed.

And I'll note that I said "people", not "men".

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By *ustBoWoman
48 weeks ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

When will people realise they are not entitled to anything on here and that includes dictating what others write.

It's very easy to just delete messages that are of no interest to you. Yes there can be some ridiculous ones,but in saying that I wonder how many people who slag off messages they get have actually ever written a first message themselves it's not actually that easy to write one to a complete stranger.

And if messages do annoy people so much there's a funny thing called filters that can be used and people could actually send first ones themselves.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
48 weeks ago

Reading

"Got one today that just said “wanking over your pics” "

Sorry thought you'd want to know.

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By *affeine DuskMan
48 weeks ago

Caerphilly

"Got one today that just said “wanking over your pics”

Sorry thought you'd want to know.

I didn't know I wanted to know until you let me know and then I wanted to know, you know?

IYKYK.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"Got one today that just said “wanking over your pics” "

I had one like that too.

I blocked him so he couldn't see my pics anymore.

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By *herry delightWoman
48 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

The first line on my profile it says don't use a certain word.

It's amazing how many men use that word, instant delete. X

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Anything that has "hey mrs" or some permutation of it - grinds my gears no end. Anything where they go "hope that's okay" cos that also deeply irritates me.

Boring 'heys' with nothing else.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"When will people realise they are not entitled to anything on here and that includes dictating what others write.

And if messages do annoy people so much there's a funny thing called filters that can be used and people could actually send first ones themselves."

I messaged a person..(note I said person not a woman)

Who replied with a snotty message saying I was too old.

I replied "we'll set your age range preference"

Another stupid reply so just blocked

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
48 weeks ago

Somewhere else

The ones that lead with some form of “I want”

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By *eroLondonMan
48 weeks ago

Mayfair

"...When will single guys realise that to get anywhere with the majority of couples and women on here, they need to put some effort into their messages. Otherwise its just an instant delete.

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I've adopted the same approach when I've received messages from women. They can be equally vacuous.

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By *agneto.Man
48 weeks ago

Bham

Nah not true, I have a 90% success rate with 'wuu2'.

I don't even bother to put a question mark at the end.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

They may well have scripted a most articulate message and realised that shock horror it didn't instantly result in the invite they desired, so they went back to "hey bbe"

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

The ist msgs with "I'm in your area, are you available" or something to that effect....& Theres lots of them. Got one a few minutes ago "I'm on my holidays are you free"....

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By *agneto.Man
48 weeks ago

Bham

"The ist msgs with "I'm in your area, are you available" or something to that effect....& Theres lots of them. Got one a few minutes ago "I'm on my holidays are you free"....

Meet you on the ha'penny bridge.

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By *inkywife1981Couple
48 weeks ago

A town near you

We try to reply to all respectful messages from people with original profiles.

But yes the silhouettes with the how you find fab one liners get deleted etc get an instant delete.

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By *ovfuncoupleCouple
48 weeks ago

Coventry cv6

We are instant deleting every day! The ones that do get through to us well done! The ones that get through and get to meet even better!

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By *oopy Lou 666Woman
48 weeks ago

Heaven.....………. I came down from Heaven

"Got one today that just said “wanking over your pics” "

Ha ha and I say wank away ............wanker

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