FabSwingers.com forum: relationship advice

By (user no longer on site) OP
48 weeks ago

Open to any thing to do with relationships advice... Just share your thoughts xx maybe..

Funniest thing you tried that either worked out didn't work?

Where do you get yours from?

Are you the one that helps all your friends?

What is the most unusual advice you've been given that helped?

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Treat them mean keep them keen.

I’m sure many will disagree but I’ve seen too much evidence to support it

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
48 weeks ago

Southampton

"Treat them mean keep them keen.

I’m sure many will disagree but I’ve seen too much evidence to support it "

That old chestnut

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
48 weeks ago

Southampton

Communication Communication communication

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"Treat them mean keep them keen.

I’m sure many will disagree but I’ve seen too much evidence to support it

That old chestnut

Right on queue

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By *histle do nicelyMan
48 weeks ago

Glasgow South

When having an argument...is it more important to be right or happy?

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
48 weeks ago

Southampton

"Treat them mean keep them keen.

I’m sure many will disagree but I’ve seen too much evidence to support it

That old chestnut

Right on queue

Cue

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"Treat them mean keep them keen.

I’m sure many will disagree but I’ve seen too much evidence to support it

That old chestnut

Right on queue

Cue"

TIL

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
48 weeks ago

Southampton

"Treat them mean keep them keen.

I’m sure many will disagree but I’ve seen too much evidence to support it

That old chestnut

Right on queue

Cue

TIL "

You're welcome, if you're going to troll at least use the correct spelling

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"Treat them mean keep them keen.

I’m sure many will disagree but I’ve seen too much evidence to support it

That old chestnut

Right on queue

Cue

TIL

You're welcome, if you're going to troll at least use the correct spelling "

Troll

I think trolling also means you don’t believe what your saying

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By *a LunaWoman
48 weeks ago

South Wales

If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife ~ Jimmy Soul

Don’t assume you’re on a break and then shag someone else ~ Friends

Never take scissors to a woman’s long hair unless you’re a hairdresser ~ Tangled

When you’re arguing ALL the time but you still love each other you got to fight fight fight for this love ~ Cheryl Cole

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
48 weeks ago

Leeds

Just suck his cock often and it's all good.

Boobs in the face too.

Mrs

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By *ancer36Woman
48 weeks ago

Stirling

Listen - without judgment

Compromise - but not to the detriment of losing yourself in the quest to make someone else happy

Enjoy the little things

Laugh together - it’s ok to be silly sometimes

Make memories - spend quality time together regardless of it being a few months or several years in

Communicate - don’t be afraid to say how you feel, to express things you’d like to do or try

And lastly don’t try to force anything, to draw comparison to other relationships and don’t stay in one because you think it’s the done thing - happiness is key, if you ain’t feeling that it ain’t working.

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By *rHotNottsMan
48 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Love is a verb

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By *icecouple561Couple
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48 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Treat them mean keep them keen.

I’m sure many will disagree but I’ve seen too much evidence to support it "

Confirmation bias I reckon. I've seen evidence to support that theory too but I've seen much more evidence to the contrary.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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48 weeks ago

East Sussex

My relationship advice is don't listen to relationship advice

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Pick the battles you are willing to die on the hill for... Everything else is compromise

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By *ickie dave 69Couple
48 weeks ago

leeds

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"Treat them mean keep them keen.

I’m sure many will disagree but I’ve seen too much evidence to support it

Confirmation bias I reckon. I've seen evidence to support that theory too but I've seen much more evidence to the contrary. "

I think that’s fair, everyone can only react to their experiences

Here’s a good one - sometimes saying sorry means you value your relationship more than your ego. Don’t let ego or pride ruin a good thing

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By *ickie dave 69Couple
48 weeks ago

leeds

"Listen - without judgment

Compromise - but not to the detriment of losing yourself in the quest to make someone else happy

Enjoy the little things

Laugh together - it’s ok to be silly sometimes

Make memories - spend quality time together regardless of it being a few months or several years in

Communicate - don’t be afraid to say how you feel, to express things you’d like to do or try

Excellent could not of said it better ??

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

'Pass the conch' when you have a difficult subject to navigate, as in use a phone to type what you want to say in notes, then pass it to the other, they type their reply and pass it back and neither of you speak out loud till you're done and it's resolved.

Learn to say 'I'm processing' when something prickles you and walk away to process it before going back to speak. Saves knee jerk reactions that hurt.

Never give each other the silent treatment.

When your partner is unhappy, never resort to acting normal like it's not there or happened when things are clearly strained. That's a total bad move.

Remember that giving positives to your partner is important, if you only ever pick fault. They will leave you for definite. It's not about winning and coming out on top or keeping score.

Never stop doing doing date night ever.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"Treat them mean keep them keen.

I’m sure many will disagree but I’ve seen too much evidence to support it

Confirmation bias I reckon. I've seen evidence to support that theory too but I've seen much more evidence to the contrary.

I think that’s fair, everyone can only react to their experiences

Here’s a good one - sometimes saying sorry means you value your relationship more than your ego. Don’t let ego or pride ruin a good thing "

Love that last bit!

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By *ruceyyMan
48 weeks ago

London

Don't ever laugh when they're being serious.

Just don't do it!

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"Don't ever laugh when they're being serious.

Just don't do it!"

Weak!!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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48 weeks ago

East Sussex

Always try to live in a house with two bathrooms or at the very least a separate loo. A spare bedroom can be handy at times and try not to be right all the time.

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By *usie pTV/TS
48 weeks ago

taunton

If you get to the point that you need outside help its time to cut and run.

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By *AYENCouple
48 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

"Treat them mean keep them keen.

I’m sure many will disagree but I’ve seen too much evidence to support it

Confirmation bias I reckon. I've seen evidence to support that theory too but I've seen much more evidence to the contrary.

I think that’s fair, everyone can only react to their experiences

Here’s a good one - sometimes saying sorry means you value your relationship more than your ego. Don’t let ego or pride ruin a good thing "

I've seen mates of mine constantly saying sorry to their wives - it doesn't mean much after a while. Not doing the things that you have to apologise for is the better option.

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
48 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania

Forgive your partner their human frailties, foibles and idiosyncrasies. Enjoy the small things, and the moments together doing nothing important. Listen to them. Try to minimise doing things you'll regret. Be gentle.

They're gone all too suddenly, and the loss and pain of their absence will torture you unendingly.

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By *hrek101Man
48 weeks ago

Herts

No money, no honey

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
48 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania

"If you get to the point that you need outside help its time to cut and run."

I disagree. We went to marriage counselling for three months during a difficult time, and our relationship was all the stronger for it. Like mental health, you shouldn't be scared to seek appropriate help.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
48 weeks ago

"Communication Communication communication "

I'm realising this more and more.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
48 weeks ago

"Listen - without judgment

Compromise - but not to the detriment of losing yourself in the quest to make someone else happy

Enjoy the little things

Laugh together - it’s ok to be silly sometimes

Make memories - spend quality time together regardless of it being a few months or several years in

Communicate - don’t be afraid to say how you feel, to express things you’d like to do or try

Thank you so much for sharing. A lot of that resonates xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
48 weeks ago

"'Pass the conch' when you have a difficult subject to navigate, as in use a phone to type what you want to say in notes, then pass it to the other, they type their reply and pass it back and neither of you speak out loud till you're done and it's resolved.

Learn to say 'I'm processing' when something prickles you and walk away to process it before going back to speak. Saves knee jerk reactions that hurt.

Never give each other the silent treatment.

When your partner is unhappy, never resort to acting normal like it's not there or happened when things are clearly strained. That's a total bad move.

Remember that giving positives to your partner is important, if you only ever pick fault. They will leave you for definite. It's not about winning and coming out on top or keeping score.

Never stop doing doing date night ever.

Great thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

I’m not in a relationship, so everyone can stick their advice up their ass.

But I dispense it like I’m giving out sweets.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Right. I’ve finished reading every relationship meme I can find on instagram. I feel qualified to dispense wisdom.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"No money, no honey

No splash no gash

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
48 weeks ago

Aberdeen

When arguing/disagreeing remember it is the two of you working against a problem/issue and not against each other.

If you hurt your partner with the same thing repeatedly (even if you didn't mean it or realise it hurt them), sorry won't fix the damage. Show with words and actions that you have changed and give them time to accept you won't do it again, expect them to be a bit dubious and don't react to that.

Never use silent treatment as a punishment or weapon. It will destroy all trust in the relationship.

Always pick your partner over another person.

MrsAbz

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By *a LunaWoman
48 weeks ago

South Wales

"Right. I’ve finished reading every relationship meme I can find on instagram. I feel qualified to dispense wisdom. "

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By *icecouple561Couple
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48 weeks ago

East Sussex

Never eat the last chocolate biscuit

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By *illy IdolMan
48 weeks ago

Midlands

"Listen - without judgment

Compromise - but not to the detriment of losing yourself in the quest to make someone else happy

Enjoy the little things

Laugh together - it’s ok to be silly sometimes

Make memories - spend quality time together regardless of it being a few months or several years in

Communicate - don’t be afraid to say how you feel, to express things you’d like to do or try

I read this in the voice of Baz Luhrmann

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By *ris GrayMan
48 weeks ago

Dorchester

"Treat them mean keep them keen.

I’m sure many will disagree but I’ve seen too much evidence to support it

That old chestnut

Right on queue

Cue"
lol

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By *a LunaWoman
48 weeks ago

South Wales

Always notice the little things.

Compliment each other.

Don’t take each other for granted.

Listen to each other.

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By *ris GrayMan
48 weeks ago

Dorchester

Stand your ground until you realise its futile then capitulate

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Walk away from your partner before you cheat and if you do cheat don't hold a thing against them or play victim when you've wrecked their world and betrayed their trust beyond repair. Own your shit.

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By *naswingdressWoman
48 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Love yourself too.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"Always notice the little things.

Compliment each other.

Don’t take each other for granted.

Listen to each other.

So many wise thoughts in such a pretty head

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
48 weeks ago

Leeds

In seriousness - appreciate the little things.

Communicate & communicate some more.

Never take them for granted.

Make time for each other uninterpreted.

Never go to sleep on an argument.

If your feelings start to dwindle and you need the excitement don't cheat do the decent thing & leave.

Even if you dont always agree both opinions are valid.

A relationship is a partnership & it'll never work one sided.

Staying together for the kids is the most stupid reason ever! (I was that kid I still have the trauma) 2 happy single parents are better than a couple of toxic ones.

Mrs

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