FabSwingers.com forum: Are beards a turn off or is it my hair?

By *rCalaMatty OP Man
41 weeks ago

Wakefield

So, I’ve got a rather well groomed beard.

I know everyone is different, but do you reckon beards are off putting? I’ve noticed quite a few people say on their profiles’ they do not wish to meet bearded men. - I’m more than happy to sacrifice my beard if needs be… it’ll grow back!

Whilst we’re at it, do you reckon my colourful hair is a turn off? Just curious, nobody has said anything as such but one has had a lot of time to ponder of late, and here we are haha.

Also I’m 110% straight but seem to get LOADS of guys liking my pics, despite making it as obvious as can be that I’m straight

Be honest, tell me your thoughts. I’m a Yorkshireman, I’ll survive honest

Thank you all knowledge ones

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

You’re cute

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

Like you said, everyone is different.

I would absolutely not sacrifice anything I liked about myself just for sex with someone. If they don’t like beards, there’s plenty that do.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
41 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Some people like beards. Some people don't. Some people like dyed hair. Some people like natural.

Don't try and fit yourself to what you think other people want. Be you. The people that are into that are the ones that are most likely to actually be compatible.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

Oh sorry, we’re being sensible. If you like your beard and colourful hair then keep them. Don’t get rid coz you think it’ll get you laid

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By *aitonelMan
41 weeks ago

Liverpool

"You’re cute

Ffs woman. Have a cold shower!

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By *imi_RougeWoman
41 weeks ago

Portsmouth

Personally, I can't stand beards. They really irk me, for a number of reasons... Mostly the double standards of *some* men who think women should be hairless down there, claiming they don't want a mouth full of hair... Yet having more hair on their face.

The hair colour isn't really my thing... But I guess you might attract a certain type from it. Obviously there will be women who absolutely love it, and you should be able to express yourself in any way you see fit.

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By *aitonelMan
41 weeks ago

Liverpool

What they all said above.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
41 weeks ago

King's Crustacean

The thing is O.P. I know I am a sex kitten and that every man - and woman come to that - on fab wants a piece of me ...... but my beard- ya know .....my beard.

They just don't like my beard. I'm still a sex goddess though ...

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
41 weeks ago

little house on the praire

Beards are a turn odd for me

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By *rCalaMatty OP Man
41 weeks ago

Wakefield

Thank you very much, compliments are always well received

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By *rCalaMatty OP Man
41 weeks ago

Wakefield

By heck that’s some confidence you have there! Where does one acquire such confidence & self esteem, asking for a friend of course…

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

Don't change for anyone, if they don't like you for who you are fuck em

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By *oxy jWoman
41 weeks ago

somerset

beards for me are a total turnoff ..

but there are plenty who like them but you have to remember its not the beard that gets them interested its sexual attraction / and other stuff beard hair face body its the whole package and thats only the beginning cause after attraction its done to how you present yourself and this is where most men fail its one thing to be hot quite another thing to be a great package...

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By *oxy jWoman
41 weeks ago

somerset

"Don't change for anyone, if they don't like you for who you are fuck em "

so true

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
41 weeks ago

King's Crustacean

"By heck that’s some confidence you have there! Where does one acquire such confidence & self esteem, asking for a friend of course… "

You talking to me - the most desirable woman on fab since the dawn of fabdom ?

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By *ittlebirdWoman
41 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

You’re cute OP and you have wood

What more could you want?

Ps. If you like it… stick with it. Don’t change yourself for someone else. Ever

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By *rCalaMatty OP Man
41 weeks ago

Wakefield

Thank you

I totally agree with you on the double standards around mouthfuls of hair upstairs and downstairs. I suppose it’s all down to personal preference really, I for one have no bearing on how a lady fashions her floof

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By *ojo2joWoman
41 weeks ago

Penclawdd

It’s your body so you should do what you like but personally beards are a turn off to me. It’s like a roulette where some are soft and others are prickly and like kissing a wire brush so I just avoid where possible.

Makes the whole dating scene difficult though as I’d say 70% of guys are sporting beards.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
41 weeks ago

King's Crustacean

floof

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By *oo..Woman
41 weeks ago

Boo's World

Never change who you are in the hopes of getting your dick wet!

Never works!

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

"By heck that’s some confidence you have there! Where does one acquire such confidence & self esteem, asking for a friend of course…

You talking to me - the most desirable woman on fab since the dawn of fabdom ?"

Obviously he was

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By *ros40Man
41 weeks ago

Bedford

Different strokes for different folks

I'm sure there's people that wouldn't want fun unless you had a beard

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
41 weeks ago

King's Crustacean

"By heck that’s some confidence you have there! Where does one acquire such confidence & self esteem, asking for a friend of course…

You talking to me - the most desirable woman on fab since the dawn of fabdom ?

Obviously he was"

I thought he must be.

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By *ros40Man
41 weeks ago

Bedford

"Never change who you are in the hopes of getting your dick wet!

Never works! "

This

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
41 weeks ago

King's Crustacean

WanderingWonder....

Press replyandquote when you reply to someone in the forum and then they know you are responding to their text.

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By *edDrMan
41 weeks ago

Cambridge

I think you are in young man’s beard territory. I’m sure in 5 years time or so your beard will look hot as fuck. Right now at your age i would keep it slightly shorter.

Having said that you are very handsome and sexy and your beard suits you.

Don’t overthink it.

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By *rCalaMatty OP Man
41 weeks ago

Wakefield

"Like you said, everyone is different.

I would absolutely not sacrifice anything I liked about myself just for sex with someone. If they don’t like beards, there’s plenty that do. "

Another fair point. Although thinking about it, I got fed up with it and chopped it off in Summer. It’s back again, bit of a love hate relationship with my beard haha. But aye, I hear you. There’s somebody out there for all

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By *rCalaMatty OP Man
41 weeks ago

Wakefield

"I think you are in young man’s beard territory. I’m sure in 5 years time or so your beard will look hot as fuck. Right now at your age i would keep it slightly shorter.

Having said that you are very handsome and sexy and your beard suits you.

Don’t overthink it. "

Aye you’re probably quite right there. Likely so, just stick with it and carry on as I am. I’m not in any huge rush anyway, it was just starting to make me wonder.

Thank you very much, reassuring to hear!

To be fair, I was half expecting some ruthless comments telling me brutal things so this is quite nice to read.

Must learn to have more confidence in my appearance, I shall add it to my list of self developments. Thank you

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By *rCalaMatty OP Man
41 weeks ago

Wakefield

"By heck that’s some confidence you have there! Where does one acquire such confidence & self esteem, asking for a friend of course…

You talking to me - the most desirable woman on fab since the dawn of fabdom ?

Obviously he was

I thought he must be.

I’m a novice when it comes to forums. Only just realised what the quote button did

Aye certainly talking to yourself Granny Crumpet

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By *rCalaMatty OP Man
41 weeks ago

Wakefield

"Different strokes for different folks

I'm sure there's people that wouldn't want fun unless you had a beard

At first that sounds a little odd, but actually it’s just the same as the other way around.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
41 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

I don’t like them. But I think I’m in the minority

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By *rCalaMatty OP Man
41 weeks ago

Wakefield

"WanderingWonder....

Press replyandquote when you reply to someone in the forum and then they know you are responding to their text.

I’m learning, I’m learning hahaha. I managed to make a spreadsheet at work last week, anyone would think I’d won the lottery I was that impressed with myself!

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
41 weeks ago

Bristol

Personally I don't like beards

But I wouldn't worry what I think

I doubt I'm your target audience

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
41 weeks ago

King's Crustacean

"WanderingWonder....

Press replyandquote when you reply to someone in the forum and then they know you are responding to their text.

I’m learning, I’m learning hahaha. I managed to make a spreadsheet at work last week, anyone would think I’d won the lottery I was that impressed with myself! "

You are very likeable ...

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By *imi_RougeWoman
41 weeks ago

Portsmouth

"Thank you

Hit reply and quote, so people know who you're talking to

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By *rCalaMatty OP Man
41 weeks ago

Wakefield

"You’re cute OP and you have wood

What more could you want?

Ps. If you like it… stick with it. Don’t change yourself for someone else. Ever

Haha indeed I do

I’ve had a little brainwave, maybe a bit strange but…. What about half and half. Have clean shaven, half beard

Perhaps not actually

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By *issmorganWoman
41 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I'm one of those who is not a fan of beards op, but I absolutely wouldn't want someone to change/shave it for a meet.

You have a decent profile, but none of us will appeal to everyone, so keep being you.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

"You’re cute

Ffs woman. Have a cold shower! "

I’ve got a banging headache, blame that!

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By *ittlebirdWoman
41 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"You’re cute OP and you have wood

What more could you want?

Ps. If you like it… stick with it. Don’t change yourself for someone else. Ever

Haha indeed I do

I’ve had a little brainwave, maybe a bit strange but…. What about half and half. Have clean shaven, half beard

Perhaps not actually

Do it! Then take a new profile pic before you shave it all off

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

I’m turned off.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
41 weeks ago

King's Crustacean

^ she said banging'

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
41 weeks ago

King's Crustacean

Not Woody - Fluffy Turkey

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By *rCalaMatty OP Man
41 weeks ago

Wakefield

"WanderingWonder....

Press replyandquote when you reply to someone in the forum and then they know you are responding to their text.

I’m learning, I’m learning hahaha. I managed to make a spreadsheet at work last week, anyone would think I’d won the lottery I was that impressed with myself!

You are very likeable ... "

I suppose the key to that is just to be your complete authentic self. For example here, probably driving some of you up the wall replying but unknowingly not directing the reply to anyone… But I’m happy to laugh at my inability & also laugh at my little wins, that most folk wouldn’t bat an eyelid to. Just gotta be real I think, especially in this day and age where it’s almost as if it’s fashionable to be faux…

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By *rCalaMatty OP Man
41 weeks ago

Wakefield

"I’m turned off.

Praise the lord

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By *rCalaMatty OP Man
41 weeks ago

Wakefield

"You’re cute

Ffs woman. Have a cold shower!

I’ve got a banging headache, blame that!"

Stop banging your head then it won’t ache…

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By *rCalaMatty OP Man
41 weeks ago

Wakefield

"You’re cute OP and you have wood

What more could you want?

Ps. If you like it… stick with it. Don’t change yourself for someone else. Ever

Haha indeed I do

I’ve had a little brainwave, maybe a bit strange but…. What about half and half. Have clean shaven, half beard

Perhaps not actually

Do it! Then take a new profile pic before you shave it all off

Now there’s an idea! You’re on! Deal, signed and sealed.

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
41 weeks ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

I think your particular beard is fine, but I bet the hair colour is the primary reason for why you're getting attention from men, along with what some would consider to be borderline zesty facial expressions

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By *rCalaMatty OP Man
41 weeks ago

Wakefield

"I'm one of those who is not a fan of beards op, but I absolutely wouldn't want someone to change/shave it for a meet.

You have a decent profile, but none of us will appeal to everyone, so keep being you. "

Aye, I think you’re right. Just stick as I am and the right person will like me for who I am now or then. I’ve had a really rubbish week, probably been thinking a little too deeply and let it sway my thoughts. Thanks for your opinion, makes plenty of sense to me. Also thanks for commenting on my profile, wasn’t sure if it was boring or not. But again, it’s about being authentic….. Wait that’s not to mean I’m authentically boring haha!

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By *rCalaMatty OP Man
41 weeks ago

Wakefield

"I think your particular beard is fine, but I bet the hair colour is the primary reason for why you're getting attention from men, along with what some would consider to be borderline zesty facial expressions

How the froob do I take a selfie without looking zesty? If I smile I look creepy haha. I’ve never been a selfie extraordinaire. Back to the drawing board.

Actually, thinking about it I’ve had a few guys approach me in the past when I’ve been out - don’t go out so much any more so hasn’t happened for a while, but back then I was just rocking my plain Jane natural brown hair. I mean I’ll take it as a compliment but it’s not the attention I’m looking for you know? Not complaining as such.

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By *lueDressWoman
41 weeks ago

Bath

Some beards just make My knees turn to jelly..

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By *rCalaMatty OP Man
41 weeks ago

Wakefield

"Personally I don't like beards

But I wouldn't worry what I think

I doubt I'm your target audience

No, but I’ll still take onboard everyone’s opinion, no discrimination in my place

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By *rCalaMatty OP Man
41 weeks ago

Wakefield

"Some beards just make My knees turn to jelly.."

To be fair, some beards do mine. I’m not jealous at all, honest

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By *obilebottomMan
41 weeks ago

All over

Beards are popular with lots of people. It suits you

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By *rCalaMatty OP Man
41 weeks ago

Wakefield

"Oh sorry, we’re being sensible. If you like your beard and colourful hair then keep them. Don’t get rid coz you think it’ll get you laid

Eyup hold thi horses, I may be a young.. youngerrr lad but I’m not allllll about hanky panky. This also applies in general for meeting people. But I’ve been reassured that the right people will like the right people for the right reason

Sensible, nehh we don’t need sensible

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By *rCalaMatty OP Man
41 weeks ago

Wakefield

"Beards are popular with lots of people. It suits you

Thanks dude, much appreciated

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By *rCalaMatty OP Man
41 weeks ago

Wakefield

"floof

Good word that one

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By *rCalaMatty OP Man
41 weeks ago

Wakefield

"It’s your body so you should do what you like but personally beards are a turn off to me. It’s like a roulette where some are soft and others are prickly and like kissing a wire brush so I just avoid where possible.

Makes the whole dating scene difficult though as I’d say 70% of guys are sporting beards."

100% get this, I’ve often wondered about the prickly feeling. Some like it, some hate it.

It’s all down to personal preference which quashes my query in the first place actually

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By *rCalaMatty OP Man
41 weeks ago

Wakefield

"Never change who you are in the hopes of getting your dick wet!

Never works! "

That’s not my entire aim but yes that’s another good point. Although that phrase ‘get your dick wet’ goes through me like nails down a blackboard

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

"Not Woody - Fluffy Turkey"

Squawk

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By *ittlebirdWoman
41 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"Never change who you are in the hopes of getting your dick wet!

Never works!

That’s not my entire aim but yes that’s another good point. Although that phrase ‘get your dick wet’ goes through me like nails down a blackboard

You might want to get used to it if you hang out on the forums enough OP

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By *rCalaMatty OP Man
41 weeks ago

Wakefield

"Oh sorry, we’re being sensible. If you like your beard and colourful hair then keep them. Don’t get rid coz you think it’ll get you laid

Beard is optional, my super duper coloured hair though? Pa! Not a chance, this stays for definite! I’d look wrong without it now ha. I just wondered what people thought of it. And now I know

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By *rCalaMatty OP Man
41 weeks ago

Wakefield

"Never change who you are in the hopes of getting your dick wet!

Never works!

That’s not my entire aim but yes that’s another good point. Although that phrase ‘get your dick wet’ goes through me like nails down a blackboard

You might want to get used to it if you hang out on the forums enough OP

I’ll have to be selective with what I read

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By *rCalaMatty OP Man
41 weeks ago

Wakefield

"Not Woody - Fluffy Turkey

Squawk "

Cuckorrr cuckorrr

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By *DW1983Man
41 weeks ago

Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield

I'd agree with the view not to change who you are. For every women who doesn't like the beard or hair, there'll be one who does.

Looking at it from a different perspective, in a club scenario the hair could help you stand out from the crowd, it could be a conversation starter... you never know.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
41 weeks ago

King's Crustacean

"Not Woody - Fluffy Turkey

Squawk

Cuckorrr cuckorrr "

It's Gobble Gobble !

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

Beards give me a rash.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

"Personally, I can't stand beards. They really irk me, for a number of reasons... Mostly the double standards of *some* men who think women should be hairless down there, claiming they don't want a mouth full of hair... Yet having more hair on their face.

I agree with this too op

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By *oofy321Man
41 weeks ago

moon base zero

You have a nice beard that suits your face

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By *rucey_BigBallsMan
41 weeks ago

London

"You’re cute

Uh oh she's hungry!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
41 weeks ago

King's Crustacean

"You have a nice beard that suits your face "

Sweet talker !

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By *rucey_BigBallsMan
41 weeks ago

London

But yeah as all those fine specimen of women have said, don't change yourself for someone!

I can't really grow a beard for shit and just have stubble around the lips but I would love the choice! And fuck people who have problems with your hair! It's your identity and if it makes you strut around the house like Hugh Grant, keep it!

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