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By (user no longer on site) OP   
48 weeks ago

Simple question - Do you prefer the other person to make the 1st move?

Bonus question - How comfortable are you when you feel you have to make the first move?

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Yes.

I don’t.

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By *aitonelMan
48 weeks ago

Liverpool

No, because if they did, fuck all would happen.

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By *parkle1974Woman
48 weeks ago

Leeds

No and very x

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
48 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

In terms of making the first move on ever doing it, I'd like to say I'm confident enough to initiate that step, but I'm a heavy overthinker, and usually by the time I've resolved it in my head they've already made the move.

In terms of making it known that I would like to do the sexy things now with someone I'm already comfortable with, I sometimes still struggle to verbalise, but I'm a lot better at giving the physical cues these days

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By *tanley FunseekerMan
48 weeks ago

stanley

Yes but I think it’s quite selfish of me to want that.

I will make the first move if there is already a good vibe/connection there but do fear making an arse of myself if I do

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
48 weeks ago


"Yes but I think it’s quite selfish of me to want that.

I will make the first move if there is already a good vibe/connection there but do fear making an arse of myself if I do "

It’s like a 50/50 thing isn’t it. I’m okay doing it, but I don’t want to!

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By *imi_RougeWoman
48 weeks ago

Portsmouth

Yes... And then once I've established the attraction of mutual I'm happy to reciprocate.

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By *obilebottomMan
48 weeks ago

All over

I wait for the wink

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
48 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

I’m used to making the first move, but I really like it when a woman goes for it before me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
48 weeks ago


"I’m used to making the first move, but I really like it when a woman goes for it before me."

How many times have you got to enjoy a woman seducing you?

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Either or works. I don't tend to think about it that much.

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
48 weeks ago

Lingfield

Yes, because I'm shy.

A bit uncomfortable because it seems a bit weird to me writing to a couple with the long term aim of having sex with the female half. I'd prefer them to make the move, at least I'd know they are interested!

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By *hrista BellendWoman
48 weeks ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I often make the first move, but I am quite confident and sensual with it

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By *odevilWoman
48 weeks ago

exeter

I prefer not to make the first move but I'm not afraid to if I want someone's attention

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
48 weeks ago

Glasgow / London


"How many times have you got to enjoy a woman seducing you? "

It does happen. And both of my marriages have come from a woman making the first move.

But I wasn’t really meaning ‘seducing’. I think on a perfect date the seduction is a two-way street. I was talking more about who pushes it over the line. Who leans in for the first kiss. Or says ‘shall we get out of here and into bed?’

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago


"How many times have you got to enjoy a woman seducing you?

It does happen. And both of my marriages have come from a woman making the first move.

But I wasn’t really meaning ‘seducing’. I think on a perfect date the seduction is a two-way street. I was talking more about who pushes it over the line. Who leans in for the first kiss. Or says ‘shall we get out of here and into bed?’"

^he's just so darn irresistible

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By *eronicaExplorerWoman
48 weeks ago

London

Every time I make the first move I fail. Men here like to be hunters.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
48 weeks ago


"How many times have you got to enjoy a woman seducing you?

It does happen. And both of my marriages have come from a woman making the first move.

But I wasn’t really meaning ‘seducing’. I think on a perfect date the seduction is a two-way street. I was talking more about who pushes it over the line. Who leans in for the first kiss. Or says ‘shall we get out of here and into bed?’"

Yes, wether it’s an action or a question, ‘are we in the same page?’ Type of thing. It’s a do or die!

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

I'm absolutely not making the first move.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago


"Simple question - Do you prefer the other person to make the 1st move?

Bonus question - How comfortable are you when you feel you have to make the first move?

"

We are talking chess now are we not?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
48 weeks ago


"Simple question - Do you prefer the other person to make the 1st move?

Bonus question - How comfortable are you when you feel you have to make the first move?

We are talking chess now are we not? "

Draughts

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By *ddie1966Man
48 weeks ago

Paper Town Central, Essex.

I like a woman who knows what she wants and isn't afraid to go and get it, but I'm also happy to make the first move if it feels right.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
48 weeks ago

little house on the praire

I don't mind either way but if I like someone not going to sit around waiting for them. I was quite confident

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
48 weeks ago

Glasgow / London


"^he's just so darn irresistible "

I’m gonna pretend that wasn’t sarcasm.

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By *ust want fun 888Man
48 weeks ago

nearby

I’ve never been any good at chatting up, would prefer them to make the first move

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
48 weeks ago


"^he's just so darn irresistible

I’m gonna pretend that wasn’t sarcasm. "

Maybe she’s making the 1st move.

Take a hint.

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By *ornycougaWoman
48 weeks ago

MOROCCO Wherever I lay my hat

I am not really a cougar but more like a lion laying there waiting to have meat delivered to me. I like to feel desired and chased. I will absolutely make the first move and be calculated in getting what I want, but I need a sign that there is interest first. I would never ever go in cold.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
48 weeks ago

Glasgow / London


"Maybe she’s making the 1st move.

Take a hint. "

One of us is gonna have to move about 200 miles. I have a feeling that’s going to be me.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
48 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

I quite like making the first move. It's generally well received.

Although I can think of one recent occasion where I was stopped in my tracks by the way someone looked at me. And I knew my role was to wait for them to make their move on me.

Excuse me a hot minute

Mrs TMN x

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By *eductiveEncountersWoman
48 weeks ago

South West

If the other person is on the same wavelength I have made the first move.....

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
48 weeks ago

Southampton

I won't make the first move incase I make an idiot of myself... did that once before.. never again...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
48 weeks ago


"I quite like making the first move. It's generally well received.

Although I can think of one recent occasion where I was stopped in my tracks by the way someone looked at me. And I knew my role was to wait for them to make their move on me.

Excuse me a hot minute

Mrs TMN x"

Did you have to wait for them to put their glasses on?

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By *oo..Woman
48 weeks ago

Boo's World

Not always

Doesn't bother me to make the first move.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
48 weeks ago


"I won't make the first move incase I make an idiot of myself... did that once before.. never again... "

Ohhh. We’ve all been there I’m sure.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
48 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"I quite like making the first move. It's generally well received.

Although I can think of one recent occasion where I was stopped in my tracks by the way someone looked at me. And I knew my role was to wait for them to make their move on me.

Excuse me a hot minute

Mrs TMN x

Did you have to wait for them to put their glasses on? "

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
48 weeks ago

Southampton


"I won't make the first move incase I make an idiot of myself... did that once before.. never again...

Ohhh. We’ve all been there I’m sure. "

Probably, doesn't mean I'm going to risk it again

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By *oeBeansMan
48 weeks ago

Derby

I'd much prefer the other person made the first move as it's the only way I'm sure they're actually attracted me. I overthink so I know if I made the first move and read it wrong, I'd be thinking about it in bed at 1am 10 years later

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By *ruceyyMan
48 weeks ago

London

I usually always make the first move.

On account of being horny and liking a pucker up!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
48 weeks ago


"I'd much prefer the other person made the first move as it's the only way I'm sure they're actually attracted me. I overthink so I know if I made the first move and read it wrong, I'd be thinking about it in bed at 1am 10 years later "

Don’t worry, by 2am you’ll nod off again.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

We prefer others to make the first move. I prefer confident men or women so it's definitely going to be a plus knowing they are confident to make the first move

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By *ora the explorerWoman
48 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts


"I'd much prefer the other person made the first move as it's the only way I'm sure they're actually attracted me. I overthink so I know if I made the first move and read it wrong, I'd be thinking about it in bed at 1am 10 years later "

Haha. This is me too. Once I know they are into me though there’s no stopping me

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By *aitonelMan
48 weeks ago

Liverpool

It's nice for the other person to make a move, clear indication they are in to you as Joe and Nora say.

But honestly, grow a pair (doesn't have to be balls, but a pair of something). Missing out on so much potential things that could happen because neither of you soft cunts can muster up the courage to say "you know what, I like you". That's a universal cunts, not Joe and Nora specifically.

Rejection is only bad if things change, and you risk the loss of something. If somebody rejects your interest in them, then nothing changes, because nothing was happening regardless of you making it known or not.

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By *ruceyyMan
48 weeks ago

London


"It's nice for the other person to make a move, clear indication they are in to you as Joe and Nora say.

But honestly, grow a pair (doesn't have to be balls, but a pair of something). Missing out on so much potential things that could happen because neither of you soft cunts can muster up the courage to say "you know what, I like you". That's a universal cunts, not Joe and Nora specifically.

Rejection is only bad if things change, and you risk the loss of something. If somebody rejects your interest in them, then nothing changes, because nothing was happening regardless of you making it known or not."

I've been rejected by people I swore were into me and snogged the face off people I was taking a real wild card shot with.

You never know people...you never know

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
48 weeks ago

Southampton


"I'd much prefer the other person made the first move as it's the only way I'm sure they're actually attracted me. I overthink so I know if I made the first move and read it wrong, I'd be thinking about it in bed at 1am 10 years later "

Snap !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
48 weeks ago


"It's nice for the other person to make a move, clear indication they are in to you as Joe and Nora say.

But honestly, grow a pair (doesn't have to be balls, but a pair of something). Missing out on so much potential things that could happen because neither of you soft cunts can muster up the courage to say "you know what, I like you". That's a universal cunts, not Joe and Nora specifically.

Rejection is only bad if things change, and you risk the loss of something. If somebody rejects your interest in them, then nothing changes, because nothing was happening regardless of you making it known or not."

…. These are wise words.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago


"Every time I make the first move I fail. Men here like to be hunters. "

Not always

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

I’m happy to make the first move in person …. As it shows my desire for them. If it’s not reciprocated then we know where we stand.

If it’s with regards to messaging… then I can probably count on one hand the number of times someone else has messaged me first.

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
48 weeks ago

Southampton


"It's nice for the other person to make a move, clear indication they are in to you as Joe and Nora say.

But honestly, grow a pair (doesn't have to be balls, but a pair of something). Missing out on so much potential things that could happen because neither of you soft cunts can muster up the courage to say "you know what, I like you". That's a universal cunts, not Joe and Nora specifically.

Rejection is only bad if things change, and you risk the loss of something. If somebody rejects your interest in them, then nothing changes, because nothing was happening regardless of you making it known or not."

That's exactly what happened in my case , besides I'm 99% certain the people I'm interested in are not interested in me so yeah I think I'll stick with being a " soft cunt "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
48 weeks ago


"Every time I make the first move I fail. Men here like to be hunters.

Not always "

Who said that??

Men also like to be surprised. Do you know what the biggest surprise would be?……

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

As a woman I prefer a man to make a first, second, third move and be active, brave, enthusiastic. If the man doesn't do this way, according to my understanding he doesn't like me or have no balls and self confidence.

My Mr.always make first, second, third move if he likes a woman and he is not afraid to be rejected.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
48 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"As a woman I prefer a man to make a first, second, third move and be active, brave, enthusiastic. If the man doesn't do this way, according to my understanding he doesn't like me or have no balls and self confidence.

My Mr.always make first, second, third move if he likes a woman and he is not afraid to be rejected. "

What do you mean by first, second and third move?

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By *oeBeansMan
48 weeks ago

Derby


"As a woman I prefer a man to make a first, second, third move and be active, brave, enthusiastic. If the man doesn't do this way, according to my understanding he doesn't like me or have no balls and self confidence.

My Mr.always make first, second, third move if he likes a woman and he is not afraid to be rejected.

What do you mean by first, second and third move? "

Keep chasing! But don't be a pest! But keep trying! But don't be too persistent because it's creepy! But give it another go! Basically, it's all bullshit

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By *illy IdolMan
48 weeks ago

Midlands


"As a woman I prefer a man to make a first, second, third move and be active, brave, enthusiastic. If the man doesn't do this way, according to my understanding he doesn't like me or have no balls and self confidence.

My Mr.always make first, second, third move if he likes a woman and he is not afraid to be rejected.

What do you mean by first, second and third move?

Keep chasing! But don't be a pest! But keep trying! But don't be too persistent because it's creepy! But give it another go! Basically, it's all bullshit"

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

* exhausted by reading all this, Glow is smothered in gorilla glue and runs into the crowd, confident in the brilliance of this plan.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
48 weeks ago


"As a woman I prefer a man to make a first, second, third move and be active, brave, enthusiastic. If the man doesn't do this way, according to my understanding he doesn't like me or have no balls and self confidence.

My Mr.always make first, second, third move if he likes a woman and he is not afraid to be rejected.

What do you mean by first, second and third move? "

Have options, always have options!!!

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
48 weeks ago

Somewhere else

I’m SO shy… like painfully shy… can’t you tell?

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
48 weeks ago

Somewhere else


"* exhausted by reading all this, Glow is smothered in gorilla glue and runs into the crowd, confident in the brilliance of this plan. "

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By *issMBWoman
48 weeks ago

North

I'm pretty confident making the first move, but I'm perfectly happy with the other person doing it too. I do enjoy that little intimate smoochy dance just before you both attempt to do it at the same time and it's evident you're both closely reading each other, though. That's a pretty special moment.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
48 weeks ago


"* exhausted by reading all this, Glow is smothered in gorilla glue and runs into the crowd, confident in the brilliance of this plan. "

Be careful in the loo’s.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago


"* exhausted by reading all this, Glow is smothered in gorilla glue and runs into the crowd, confident in the brilliance of this plan.

Be careful in the loo’s. "

Portaloo no problem. I’ll identify as a dalek.

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By *oxy RedWoman
48 weeks ago

Glasgow

I like a man to shoot his shot, so to speak but I will also make a move first...won't wait about.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Snake and ladders

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
48 weeks ago

Glasgow / London


"I'm pretty confident making the first move, but I'm perfectly happy with the other person doing it too. I do enjoy that little intimate smoochy dance just before you both attempt to do it at the same time and it's evident you're both closely reading each other, though. That's a pretty special moment."

*There* you are! Hello.

Now come here and kiss me.

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By *issMBWoman
48 weeks ago

North


"I'm pretty confident making the first move, but I'm perfectly happy with the other person doing it too. I do enjoy that little intimate smoochy dance just before you both attempt to do it at the same time and it's evident you're both closely reading each other, though. That's a pretty special moment.

*There* you are! Hello.

Now come here and kiss me. "

Pucker up, Treasure

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
48 weeks ago

Southampton


"I'm pretty confident making the first move, but I'm perfectly happy with the other person doing it too. I do enjoy that little intimate smoochy dance just before you both attempt to do it at the same time and it's evident you're both closely reading each other, though. That's a pretty special moment.

*There* you are! Hello.

Now come here and kiss me.

Pucker up, Treasure "

Oh get a room you two already

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
48 weeks ago


"I'm pretty confident making the first move, but I'm perfectly happy with the other person doing it too. I do enjoy that little intimate smoochy dance just before you both attempt to do it at the same time and it's evident you're both closely reading each other, though. That's a pretty special moment.

*There* you are! Hello.

Now come here and kiss me.

Pucker up, Treasure

Oh get a room you two already "

Yes. … and can I watch?

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
48 weeks ago

Southampton


"I'm pretty confident making the first move, but I'm perfectly happy with the other person doing it too. I do enjoy that little intimate smoochy dance just before you both attempt to do it at the same time and it's evident you're both closely reading each other, though. That's a pretty special moment.

*There* you are! Hello.

Now come here and kiss me.

Pucker up, Treasure

Oh get a room you two already

Yes. … and can I watch? "

Pervert lol...

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago


"I am not really a cougar but more like a lion laying there waiting to have meat delivered to me. I like to feel desired and chased. I will absolutely make the first move and be calculated in getting what I want, but I need a sign that there is interest first. I would never ever go in cold. "

I think you maybe a lioness..........but big balls nevertheless!

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By *mf123Man
48 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

I normally make forst move the other way

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By *achelTheAnalSlutTV/TS
48 weeks ago

Haywards Heath

I'm extremely unlikely to make a first move as I'm shy, introverted, not great at reading signals and drastically lacking in self-confidence

If you have to wait for me to make a first move it'll be awkward and you'll have a long wait for it!!

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By *lendermanMan
48 weeks ago

Aylesbury

Normally it's me that makes the first move, which I don't mind. I will wait until I'm pretty confident it's the right move though.

Nothing worse than whipping it out and doing your best helicopter for a woman who just wants to be friends

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By *issBehave69Man
48 weeks ago

Kilmarnock

I always make the first move - as I don’t really care about being rejected, it’s water off a ducks back.

Very comfortable doing it.

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