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"There are women on here borrowing back 5-10 years on their age...and showing pictures that were taken years ago. If you're chatting to someone that's doing that but still interested in having sex with them, what would you do? Mention that you know, wait to see if they say, or keep shtum. I think the same probably applies to men. So ladies, what would you do too?" Not sure about others but I only have up to date pictures, feels like a waste of time if your going to meet them anyway | |||
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"I look the same as I did 10 years ago... "Haha you’re laughing then perfect | |||
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Also used to get many guys who were at least 15 years older than their stated age, most of whom admitted it when asked  | |||
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"I suppose you can get away with it when all images on here once uploaded look like they were taken with a flip phone from 2008." Only if your not a site supporter If you have site support you can turn on HD photos witch gives the photo its proper res | |||
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"Mine are all up to date I hate to think someone was been miss sold something, imagining turning up to a meet and getting rejected because you look nothing like you profile. "Uh oh... | |||
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"There are women on here borrowing back 5-10 years on their age...and showing pictures that were taken years ago. If you're chatting to someone that's doing that but still interested in having sex with them, what would you do? Mention that you know, wait to see if they say, or keep shtum. I think the same probably applies to men. So ladies, what would you do too?" I am old, fat and pictorially up-to-date | |||
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"The women I know are honest about their age...there's no point lying to be confronted with a shocked face in person hah but the men over 45/50 ish seem to want to risk this, I don't get why. I've turned a few down, hopefully I've disguised my surprised face "Shaving ten years is pointless - jowls and crows feet don't lie. A convo I once had: Guy: thank god you look like your pics. Me: but how old are you really? Guy adds five years to profile age. Me: add another five would be closer Turns out I was spot on | |||
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" Try also dealing with filters, edits, photoshop and flattering angles and cloths designed to enhance. All very common with online stuff " I love all this stuff! How else am I meant to pull the hot guys!? | |||
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"no point telling porkies or uploading old pics making out they are new if you want genuine meets as far as we are concerned." Agreed. There’s no point because it’s usually pretty obvious when people do this. Unless they have a Dorian Gray style picture in the attic keeping them forever young. | |||
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"If it's obvious I don't get interested in the first place. I'm 67, if someone claims to be a similar age to me but quite obviously is older by ten years (which is the usual number) or claims to be younger but seems to be the same age I just Zimmer frame on by. If it got to the stage of meeting for a coffee we'd drink up and take our leave but wouldn't mention it, that would embarrass us and them. " Do you not think they deserve to be embarrassed for lying? It might make them realise lying is futile. Obviously you don't deserve the embarrassment. | |||
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"If it's obvious I don't get interested in the first place. I'm 67, if someone claims to be a similar age to me but quite obviously is older by ten years (which is the usual number) or claims to be younger but seems to be the same age I just Zimmer frame on by. If it got to the stage of meeting for a coffee we'd drink up and take our leave but wouldn't mention it, that would embarrass us and them. Do you not think they deserve to be embarrassed for lying? It might make them realise lying is futile. Obviously you don't deserve the embarrassment." In an ideal world I'd like to have a subtle yet cutting remark ready that they would only realise the real meaning of when laying in bed regretting their poor life decisions  . In truth though I can kind of understand why they do it, vanity and hope mostly I think | |||
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"I thought I'd be different and added 10 years to my age." Just gonna fix that because I don't wanna block you, pal. | |||
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"I thought I'd be different and added 10 years to my age. Just gonna fix that because I don't wanna block you, pal. "I've been a heavy smoker since I was 5, it's added years to me okay! | |||
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"If it's obvious I don't get interested in the first place. I'm 67, if someone claims to be a similar age to me but quite obviously is older by ten years (which is the usual number) or claims to be younger but seems to be the same age I just Zimmer frame on by. If it got to the stage of meeting for a coffee we'd drink up and take our leave but wouldn't mention it, that would embarrass us and them. Do you not think they deserve to be embarrassed for lying? It might make them realise lying is futile. Obviously you don't deserve the embarrassment. In an ideal world I'd like to have a subtle yet cutting remark ready that they would only realise the real meaning of when laying in bed regretting their poor life decisions . In truth though I can kind of understand why they do it, vanity and hope mostly I think"I totally get trying to get around site filters but still maintaining the lie up to and including time of meet is *bleeeeeeep*. For me I'd rather look okay for my actual age than look horrendously bad for my fictitious age. I guess to ensure they lie in bed mulling over poor life decisions, you could message that lying about age was the reason why nothing happened. I realise honesty can be blunt que sera Sera | |||
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"Ttbh I'd just give them a wide berth if I recognised the profile and knew they were uploading 9ld pics. There was a bloke in my updates up until last year who rejoined several times and used the same pic he'd had since about 2014.it was a face pic and he's obviously going to have changed in 8 years, we all do. Many also get younger when they rejoin men and women. It is deceptive and would make me question everything else they say. Another profile near me is 55 but he puts 49 due to being filtered out, I know that because he told me. " It's funny when people's profiles start off older than you and get younger as time goes by. I didn't know Benjamin Button was real  | |||
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"I thought I'd be different and added 10 years to my age. Just gonna fix that because I don't wanna block you, pal.
I've been a heavy smoker since I was 5, it's added years to me okay!"Lacey 'Marlboro' Red | |||
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"I thought I'd be different and added 10 years to my age. Just gonna fix that because I don't wanna block you, pal.
I've been a heavy smoker since I was 5, it's added years to me okay!
Lacey 'Marlboro' Red
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"I got asked the other day if I was over 35... So I reckon I could get away with knocking at least 5 years off my age (I'll be 47 in a couple of weeks) I would still always send a very recent face pic, and people would never know! Apart from you lot... "Would you kindly oblige by sending me a face pic? | |||
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"I came across a mate of mine on here (not literally) who’d taken 10 years off his age! I called him out on it and he genuinely thought he’d get away with it
Also used to get many guys who were at least 15 years older than their stated age, most of whom admitted it when asked "There's a lady I know who is doing that. Think Fab age is 52 and actually 60. She is very active and does get away with it. Not sure why she does it as most wouldn't care about her actual age. | |||
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"I was in a chatgroup in 2018 with a guy claiming to be 55 in his profile but he admitted to being 58 in the group. He leaves and returns regularly and has a different age on every profile. A recent couples profile he set up had his age at 52 and on his most recent single profile he was 50. " • I would say that this situation resembles The Curious Case Of Benjamin Button. | |||
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"I think the question should be ‘Is there anyone on here who is actually their Fab age?’ I’m 50 but in fab years I’m 49… "Why’s that? | |||
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"I hate this. I had someone message me the other day admitting to shaving off a whole 17 years! It’s so deceitful and creepy. It’s up to you, tell them and see what they say but that could ruin your chances. I personally would lose all interest in someone if I found out they were lying about their age. " And what’s your view on heavily filtered pictures? | |||
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"I was in a chatgroup in 2018 with a guy claiming to be 55 in his profile but he admitted to being 58 in the group. He leaves and returns regularly and has a different age on every profile. A recent couples profile he set up had his age at 52 and on his most recent single profile he was 50. " 3 years older is nothing in your fifties! | |||
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"I suppose you can get away with it when all images on here once uploaded look like they were taken with a flip phone from 2008. Only if your not a site supporter If you have site support you can turn on HD photos witch gives the photo its proper res " I learn something new about fab every day. I didn’t know about the hi res photos. | |||
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"I was in a chatgroup in 2018 with a guy claiming to be 55 in his profile but he admitted to being 58 in the group. He leaves and returns regularly and has a different age on every profile. A recent couples profile he set up had his age at 52 and on his most recent single profile he was 50. 3 years older is nothing in your fifties!" 13 years younger is a lot when he's 63. | |||
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"If they're lying about their age or looks to get around people's filters and boundaries, I wouldn't trust them with anything else. It blurs all kinds of consent lines and is pretty stupid too. Why would you want disappointment and dishonesty to be someone's first real life impression of you when you meet? Makes no sense to me at all. Honesty is the sexiest thing of all "My age off by a couple months, not for nefarious reasons, I just didn't want to put my actual details into here really so i just went a couple of months off (younger of course  ) | |||
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"I think the question should be ‘Is there anyone on here who is actually their Fab age?’ I’m 50 but in fab years I’m 49…
Why’s that? "Well probably for the same reason you heavily filter your pics.. lol.. but thinking about it when I started this lifestyle I was a tad insecure, wanted more anonymity - years later I’m older and much more happy in my own skin.. as it is it is only one year out.. I honestly think pretty much everyone on here is a tad loose with the truth when it comes to age.. | |||
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"I hate this. I had someone message me the other day admitting to shaving off a whole 17 years! It’s so deceitful and creepy. It’s up to you, tell them and see what they say but that could ruin your chances. I personally would lose all interest in someone if I found out they were lying about their age. And what’s your view on heavily filtered pictures?" Equally as deceiving, so is photoshopping photos, using photos that aren’t yours and so on. Deceit is deceit and would get a huge no from me personally. | |||
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"I think the question should be ‘Is there anyone on here who is actually their Fab age?’ I’m 50 but in fab years I’m 49…
Why’s that?
Well probably for the same reason you heavily filter your pics.. lol.. but thinking about it when I started this lifestyle I was a tad insecure, wanted more anonymity - years later I’m older and much more happy in my own skin.. as it is it is only one year out..
I honestly think pretty much everyone on here is a tad loose with the truth when it comes to age.. "My pictures aren’t heavily filtered lol… straight from the camera roll and the only difference would be tweaking brightness and contrast to make them warmer or cooler. I’m more than happy to screenshot the iPhone “properties” to prove it. Sorry my question hit a nerve. | |||
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"I think the question should be ‘Is there anyone on here who is actually their Fab age?’ I’m 50 but in fab years I’m 49…
Why’s that?
Well probably for the same reason you heavily filter your pics.. lol.. but thinking about it when I started this lifestyle I was a tad insecure, wanted more anonymity - years later I’m older and much more happy in my own skin.. as it is it is only one year out..
I honestly think pretty much everyone on here is a tad loose with the truth when it comes to age.. "Call me naive but think most people are pretty honest on age, based on years here meeting people. Hard to put a number on it but would think less than 10% of people are lying about age. | |||
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"I think the question should be ‘Is there anyone on here who is actually their Fab age?’ I’m 50 but in fab years I’m 49…
Why’s that?
Well probably for the same reason you heavily filter your pics.. lol.. but thinking about it when I started this lifestyle I was a tad insecure, wanted more anonymity - years later I’m older and much more happy in my own skin.. as it is it is only one year out..
I honestly think pretty much everyone on here is a tad loose with the truth when it comes to age..
Call me naive but think most people are pretty honest on age, based on years here meeting people. Hard to put a number on it but would think less than 10% of people are lying about age. "Not naive at all, I think most decent people are honest and don’t need to lie about it. I find the ones who do lie about it are usually unsuccessful on here and that’s probably why they do it. | |||
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"Don't do what I did though if you do meet one Op. When guessing their real age, don't go older than they actually are. "I just keep shtum and smile  Saying "you seem older than your picture / profile age" never seems like a good place to go | |||
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"I’ve got a Simply Red earworm now…" If you don’t know me by now? | |||
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"I think the question should be ‘Is there anyone on here who is actually their Fab age?’ I’m 50 but in fab years I’m 49…
Why’s that?
Well probably for the same reason you heavily filter your pics.. lol.. but thinking about it when I started this lifestyle I was a tad insecure, wanted more anonymity - years later I’m older and much more happy in my own skin.. as it is it is only one year out..
I honestly think pretty much everyone on here is a tad loose with the truth when it comes to age.. "I'm not loose with it at all because I'm proud of how I look at my age and happy to fly the flag. | |||
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"I’ve got a Simply Red earworm now… If you don’t know me by now? "Holding back the years | |||
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"I’ve got a Simply Red earworm now… If you don’t know me by now?
Holding back the years "Haha. I know.  | |||
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"I’ve got a Simply Red earworm now… If you don’t know me by now?
Holding back the years "Surely, on here, it should be 'Hold him by the ears'? | |||
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"I’ve got a Simply Red earworm now… If you don’t know me by now?
Holding back the years
Surely, on here, it should be 'Hold him by the ears'?"It’s in the B side of ‘If you don’t knob me by now’ | |||
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"I think the question should be ‘Is there anyone on here who is actually their Fab age?’ I’m 50 but in fab years I’m 49…
Why’s that?
Well probably for the same reason you heavily filter your pics.. lol.. but thinking about it when I started this lifestyle I was a tad insecure, wanted more anonymity - years later I’m older and much more happy in my own skin.. as it is it is only one year out..
I honestly think pretty much everyone on here is a tad loose with the truth when it comes to age.. "I think you are wrong. Most are honest with their age. It’s sad that people are not comfortable in their own skin. | |||
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"I think the question should be ‘Is there anyone on here who is actually their Fab age?’ I’m 50 but in fab years I’m 49…
Why’s that?
Well probably for the same reason you heavily filter your pics.. lol.. but thinking about it when I started this lifestyle I was a tad insecure, wanted more anonymity - years later I’m older and much more happy in my own skin.. as it is it is only one year out..
I honestly think pretty much everyone on here is a tad loose with the truth when it comes to age..
I think you are wrong. Most are honest with their age. It’s sad that people are not comfortable in their own skin. "I think you are wrong too I don't deny my age and comfortable with my own skin and wobbly bits lol | |||
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"I chat to two guys on here. One was in my class at junior school and one is my ex husband but somehow they are ten years younger than me "Time travel lol | |||
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"I think the question should be ‘Is there anyone on here who is actually their Fab age?’ I’m 50 but in fab years I’m 49…
Why’s that?
Well probably for the same reason you heavily filter your pics.. lol.. but thinking about it when I started this lifestyle I was a tad insecure, wanted more anonymity - years later I’m older and much more happy in my own skin.. as it is it is only one year out..
I honestly think pretty much everyone on here is a tad loose with the truth when it comes to age..
My pictures aren’t heavily filtered lol… straight from the camera roll and the only difference would be tweaking brightness and contrast to make them warmer or cooler.
I’m more than happy to screenshot the iPhone “properties” to prove it.
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"If they're lying about their age or looks to get around people's filters and boundaries, I wouldn't trust them with anything else. It blurs all kinds of consent lines and is pretty stupid too. Why would you want disappointment and dishonesty to be someone's first real life impression of you when you meet? Makes no sense to me at all. Honesty is the sexiest thing of all "I agree. If you are prepared to lie to me in a message, how will I be able to trust you in the bedroom, specifically when kink is involved? Swinging is all about consent to me. I always share very recent pics, send a photo of me on the day when going on a date / meet before I leave. I’ve met people who look absolutely nothing like their pics and it just wastes everyone’s time. | |||
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"I think the question should be ‘Is there anyone on here who is actually their Fab age?’ I’m 50 but in fab years I’m 49…
Why’s that?
Well probably for the same reason you heavily filter your pics.. lol.. but thinking about it when I started this lifestyle I was a tad insecure, wanted more anonymity - years later I’m older and much more happy in my own skin.. as it is it is only one year out..
I honestly think pretty much everyone on here is a tad loose with the truth when it comes to age..
My pictures aren’t heavily filtered lol… straight from the camera roll and the only difference would be tweaking brightness and contrast to make them warmer or cooler.
I’m more than happy to screenshot the iPhone “properties” to prove it.
Sorry my question hit a nerve.
So they are filtered?"Adjusting the lighting to make the photo clearer could be considered “filtered” but not in the way some use the term these days, this would mean anyone who changed their photo to black and white is “filtered”. I don’t have bunny ears, or a crown nor have I used an instagram or snapchat filter that doesn’t look like me, so there’s a difference. | |||
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"I agree. If you are prepared to lie to me in a message, how will I be able to trust you in the bedroom, specifically when kink is involved? Swinging is all about consent to me. I always share very recent pics, send a photo of me on the day when going on a date / meet before I leave. I’ve met people who look absolutely nothing like their pics and it just wastes everyone’s time. " This. If someone is prepared to lie about their age it makes me wonder what else they can lie about. I like to do a FaceTime if the other person has an iPhone or WhatsApp video call, really breaks the ice and both can see each other fully. KIK used to be good for “live” photos, I don’t use it anymore so not sure if they still have that. | |||
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"I agree. If you are prepared to lie to me in a message, how will I be able to trust you in the bedroom, specifically when kink is involved? Swinging is all about consent to me. I always share very recent pics, send a photo of me on the day when going on a date / meet before I leave. I’ve met people who look absolutely nothing like their pics and it just wastes everyone’s time. This. If someone is prepared to lie about their age it makes me wonder what else they can lie about. I like to do a FaceTime if the other person has an iPhone or WhatsApp video call, really breaks the ice and both can see each other fully. KIK used to be good for “live” photos, I don’t use it anymore so not sure if they still have that. " This i video call to see what they look like. Personally I couldn’t care if they change their age from real age just as long as they look sexy to me still. Video call clarification is key for me  | |||
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