FabSwingers.com forum: How many have fleeced you?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm not going to make this gender specific and I'd like it to stay that way please folks.

I keep hearing stories of people that ended up parting with cash during a relationship because the person they loved or lusted after always needed something or got themselves in a mess in one way or another. And in some cases thousands.

Have you been in this position?

How much did it take for you to put a stop to it? What was the final straw and did you get any back?

How would you react now to that kind of thing?

And I'm not referring to fab specifically here

PS can you loan me a few thousand for this thing I really need?

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"I'm not going to make this gender specific and I'd like it to stay that way please folks.

Have you been in this position?

How much did it take for you to put a stop to it? What was the final straw and did you get any back?

How would you react now to that kind of thing?

And I'm not referring to fab specifically here

PS can you loan me a few thousand for this thing I really need?

Send me your bank details, will ping it over to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone made me buy them a Freddo once. Heathen.

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By *ohntall123Man
over a year ago

Biggleswade

"I'm not going to make this gender specific and I'd like it to stay that way please folks.

Have you been in this position?

How much did it take for you to put a stop to it? What was the final straw and did you get any back?

How would you react now to that kind of thing?

And I'm not referring to fab specifically here

PS can you loan me a few thousand for this thing I really need?

Never been fleeced , and can I pay it over monthly lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Someone made me buy them a Freddo once. Heathen."

Christ

I bought someone dinner a few times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone made me buy them a Freddo once. Heathen.

Christ

I bought someone dinner a few times."

you fool!!!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

No I have never been fleeced but it does amaze me the stories that you here where people give 1000's to people. I think some people are very vulnerable especially when lonely

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Someone made me buy them a Freddo once. Heathen."

Didn't buy me one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a lovely collection of hoodies from guys I've met.

They fleece me for sex in return but some are really nice. The hoodies I mean.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone made me buy them a Freddo once. Heathen.

Didn't buy me one"

I'm still saving up!! Have you seen the price!?!

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I know that Aeëtes, in Greek mythology, was fleeced of his fleece but Jason and the Argonauts.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have a lovely collection of hoodies from guys I've met.

They fleece me for sex in return but some are really nice. The hoodies I mean.

I can't decide if that's cute keepsakes or serial killer style momentos.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I bought something for someone on a credit card once, and also had a phone contract for him in my name.

I think the item was like 5/700 quid, pretty sure he never paid me back!

Never again. Maybe like 20 quid, but I'm far too poor to be lending anyone money.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only one person because I was stupid enough to let it happen

And it wasn’t because they need cash or anything

I just thought there would be a chance to fix things and didn’t want to up root the house to re root everything back in to the house so stupid me left everything in the house to them thinking that we sort things out before the lease was up we still had 3 months left but nope they took everything sold it all pocket all the money

Maybe the warring sings should have been on the wall when there wages never went in to the joint bank account and then lifted mines out off the bank also

Let that one go and still tryed to fix it

Left me with all the bills nothing to show for the last 7 years no home no family nothing

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"I have a lovely collection of hoodies from guys I've met.

They fleece me for sex in return but some are really nice. The hoodies I mean.

Fair exchange

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a lovely collection of hoodies from guys I've met.

They fleece me for sex in return but some are really nice. The hoodies I mean.

I can't decide if that's cute keepsakes or serial killer style momentos."

Well let's just so they are never seen on fab again...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No I have never been fleeced but it does amaze me the stories that you here where people give 1000's to people. I think some people are very vulnerable especially when lonely"

This. I've been told some shocking things.

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

I spent thousands on helping someone out of debt. Probably 8-9k. The person knew this was a loan and just opted to not bother in any attempts to pay me back.

I cut my losses and moved on, I was never going to get it back.

I'd hoped the person would use it as a moment to reevaluate their life and do some personal growth. I recently found out said person will now eat vegetables and do their own washing instead of expecting their Mom to do it so I guess that's an improvement (genuinely no exaggeration)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My site super runs out on Monday.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did the once to the tune of about £700.

Learnt a bit of a lesson in love from that one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My site super runs out on Monday."

Have you tried the lunch?

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By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames

One of my wife’s family is shit with money, pretends she is loaded, overspends to prove she is loaded, and is constantly tapping family members up for loans to get through the latest cash shortage. We recently rumbled that she was doing a lap of the family (probably her husband’s family too), using one loan to pay off another.

Regularly turns up at the parents, with some urgent cash need like rent or school fees, and of course the parents fall for it every time.

It’s sick, seeing her fleece a retired old couple to fund her charade of affluence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My site super runs out on Monday.

Have you tried the lunch?"

Haha. How many phone mistakes is that I’ve made today?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens as I can attest. You get drawn in by the promise of love and affection. I once shelled out for a steak meal at a Berni Inn with a prawn cocktail starter and a choice of deserts with a couple of glasses of blue Nun. For what.......to be ghosted.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"My site super runs out on Monday.

Have you tried the lunch?

Haha. How many phone mistakes is that I’ve made today?

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"It happens as I can attest. You get drawn in by the promise of love and affection. I once shelled out for a steak meal at a Berni Inn with a prawn cocktail starter and a choice of deserts with a couple of glasses of blue Nun. For what.......to be ghosted."

I’ve heard horror stories like this before. One woman here told me that when she refused to have sex with him, not only do, they complain about the cost of the meal, he also moaned that it shaved his balls for nothing.

I feel your pain. Did you also shave your balls for nothing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone made me buy them a Freddo once. Heathen."

You offered. And a vimto too

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

sadly as in all walks of life and scenes there are vulnerable people soft wont harm a fly types wont say boo to a ghost they get walked over plain and simple ...its so painful to watch ... no matter what your sex is if you are not more of a to the point type person then swinging will spit you out in many many ways and money is one of those ways

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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago

london stratford

Many years ago, I made friends with a couple from another swing site.

They where always skint and yes, I did feel sorry for them............... AT FIRST.........

I used to pay for meals for them when we went out and I would also buy the tickets to fetish clubs! I really did not mind as I was working and making decent money at the time and she was a at home mum and he had a really badly paid job and i was happy to "help" them.

But after about 4 or 5 months, he got his "dream job" in sales and started bragging. Bragging so much that he was showing off to me, so the next time we went out, I told them I couldn't afford the meal and tickets for clubbing too this time as I had had a few days off due to sickness and being self employed meant I had not made so they needed to chip in and they both got annoyed at me!

All in all, I recon I had spend about £800 in 5 months on them (which I did not mind when they where skint, but bollox am i the wallet when they actually have money even though I was fucking his wife).

Suddenly, after that day, they never contacted me again and ghosted me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel your pain. Did you also shave your balls for nothing?"

Have you been at the Christmas sherry?

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

"I have a lovely collection of hoodies from guys I've met.

They fleece me for sex in return but some are really nice. The hoodies I mean.

I can't decide if that's cute keepsakes or serial killer style momentos."

It gets weirder when you realise she's talking about foreskin...

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a lovely collection of hoodies from guys I've met.

They fleece me for sex in return but some are really nice. The hoodies I mean.

I can't decide if that's cute keepsakes or serial killer style momentos.

It gets weirder when you realise she's talking about foreskin...

LvM"

Best post of the day..........did Larf

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I feel your pain. Did you also shave your balls for nothing?

Have you been at the Christmas sherry?"

If he has, it'll be under the table. Dubai and sherry don't often go together

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"I have a lovely collection of hoodies from guys I've met.

They fleece me for sex in return but some are really nice. The hoodies I mean.

I can't decide if that's cute keepsakes or serial killer style momentos.

It gets weirder when you realise she's talking about foreskin...

LvM"

Fluffy foreskins

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a lovely collection of hoodies from guys I've met.

They fleece me for sex in return but some are really nice. The hoodies I mean.

I can't decide if that's cute keepsakes or serial killer style momentos.

It gets weirder when you realise she's talking about foreskin...

LvM"

Or clitoral hoods?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel your pain. Did you also shave your balls for nothing?

Have you been at the Christmas sherry?

If he has, it'll be under the table. Dubai and sherry don't often go together

I think you will find it’s Dubonnet and sherry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had to suffer watching my step daughter fleecing my wife, loans paid, decorating and furniture, car Loan paid, free family holidays for her family cash, cash, cash for them all!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

My ex was a gambling addict. I'll leave you to work it out.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It was a combination of things that put a stop to it and I didn't get anything back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My ex was a gambling addict. I'll leave you to work it out. "

You have my sympathies. Been involved with one who is afflicted and the damage it’s caused.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My ex was a gambling addict. I'll leave you to work it out. "

This. How did you deal with it?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"My ex was a gambling addict. I'll leave you to work it out.

You have my sympathies. Been involved with one who is afflicted and the damage it’s caused."

It was many years ago and I was young, stupid and didn't know how to deal with it. Back then it wasn't really recognised in the way it is now

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"My ex was a gambling addict. I'll leave you to work it out.

This. How did you deal with it?"

I walked away, this was many, many years ago. The lies involved are as bad as the money side of it. There's support available now that wasn't around then but if he'd had access to on line gambling I dread to think of the consequences

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
over a year ago

West Suffolk/Essex

"I'm not going to make this gender specific and I'd like it to stay that way please folks.

Have you been in this position?

How much did it take for you to put a stop to it? What was the final straw and did you get any back?

How would you react now to that kind of thing?

And I'm not referring to fab specifically here

PS can you loan me a few thousand for this thing I really need?"

Never happened to me but happened to a female friend of mine.

And if you send me your credit card details along with the last 3 digits on the back of the card, I’ll send you that money

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

Never really been fleeced, but have been generous to a fault with some people, both on Fab and in family.

People get a chance and then nothing.

Sad to say that it has been an eternal wedge between my brother and I as he is terrible with money.

I’m empathetic and don’t like to see people suffering but will cut them off if being taken for a fool.

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By *rRiosMan
over a year ago

dublin

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By *reedMePrettyWoman
over a year ago

Crystal palace

I paid for an exes trip to Kenya (was ex at the time but we were the best of friends), including beach stay, Masai Mara tented camp etc for 3 weeks. It was meant to be something that was paid back but it never happened as he meet someone new and broke all ties

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

Helped out someone I thought was good friend with loan for car. Things went pear shaped, had to get courts involved, found out he sold car.

Very messy situation. Never again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a good documentary in regards to this on Netflix

" The Tinder Swindler "

Worth watching..

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Leant a friend 7,500 for a business venture, I got no return on my investment, had to take Hom to court.

Judge made him pay me back £50 a month, took 13 years to get my money back !

Hows the saying go : “Never a lender or a borrower be”

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