FabSwingers.com forum: Can I sleep with you tonight?

By (user no longer on site) OP
48 weeks ago

Have you ever been asked to simply sleep with someone or asked that of another person yourself? I don't mean someone you actually would normally sleep with such as your partner/child/lover. No sensual or sexual connotations. JUST sleep. For comfort. For safety. For a rough moment in life needing the smoothing feeling of the duvet, some zzzzs and a human by your side emitting some warmth - both physically and the caring kind?

I would imagine it's very rare. Am I right?

Tones

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

I honestly couldn't think of anything worse. Sharing a bed and not even getting sex? Just having to listen to their breathing and have them fidget arse about. Oh no.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
48 weeks ago

"I honestly couldn't think of anything worse. Sharing a bed and not even getting sex? Just having to listen to their breathing and have them fidget arse about. Oh no.

That morning breath at the back of your neck.. shudder..?

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"I honestly couldn't think of anything worse. Sharing a bed and not even getting sex? Just having to listen to their breathing and have them fidget arse about. Oh no.

That morning breath at the back of your neck.. shudder..?

The moment you realise they are still there...

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

A rare as rocking horse dung.

But I’d not rule it out if it was asked of me.

I might needs some friends first of course.

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By *odevilWoman
48 weeks ago

exeter

"I honestly couldn't think of anything worse. Sharing a bed and not even getting sex? Just having to listen to their breathing and have them fidget arse about. Oh no.

Thank you for articulating my sentiments exactly

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By (user no longer on site) OP
48 weeks ago

"I honestly couldn't think of anything worse. Sharing a bed and not even getting sex? Just having to listen to their breathing and have them fidget arse about. Oh no.

That morning breath at the back of your neck.. shudder..?

The moment you realise they are still there...

Or the moment you remember they were there in the first place ?

I hope you don't have nightmares tonight.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
48 weeks ago

"A rare as rocking horse dung.

But I’d not rule it out if it was asked of me.

I might needs some friends first of course."

I do wonder if it has the same potential as cuddles for sale?

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

I’ve been asked by one person and regrettably I couldn’t be there for her.

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By *agneto.Man
48 weeks ago

Bham

Only if they really like Dutch ovens.

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By *entleman JayMan
48 weeks ago

Wakefield

I have a friend who I’ve shared a bed with on occasions. On some of those occasions we’ve had a spoon.

A cuddle is the only thing I miss about a normal relationship.

I have to say she’s the best big spoon ever. No funny business either.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
48 weeks ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Anyone who has heard me snore will know never to make the mistake of asking me….

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By (user no longer on site) OP
48 weeks ago

"I honestly couldn't think of anything worse. Sharing a bed and not even getting sex? Just having to listen to their breathing and have them fidget arse about. Oh no.

Thank you for articulating my sentiments exactly

Spoil sports. Two of you.

I reckon it could be quite therapeutic. It was asked of me once. I was actually fine with it. But then it became uncomfortable as the night went on. I've been happy to offer something innocent but someone had been in a bad place that time and had trouble maintaining boundaries. Something what had potential to be a great human-to-human moment in this off-track situation, got tripped sadly. Steve's post reminded me of it. The sleeping one

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"Anyone who has heard me snore will know never to make the mistake of asking me….

Takes SL off hotlist

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By (user no longer on site) OP
48 weeks ago

"I’ve been asked by one person and regrettably I couldn’t be there for her.

Ah.. we cannot be everything for everyone.

You wanted to. Matters.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
48 weeks ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

"Anyone who has heard me snore will know never to make the mistake of asking me….

Takes SL off hotlist"

(I’d best not make mention of my sleep dribbling to)

….whoops!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
48 weeks ago

"I have a friend who I’ve shared a bed with on occasions. On some of those occasions we’ve had a spoon.

A cuddle is the only thing I miss about a normal relationship.

I have to say she’s the best big spoon ever. No funny business either. "

That's something beautiful you've got

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By *imi_RougeWoman
48 weeks ago

Portsmouth

"I honestly couldn't think of anything worse. Sharing a bed and not even getting sex? Just having to listen to their breathing and have them fidget arse about. Oh no.

Yep, if I'm in bed with a man, I'd definitely be wanting more than just his body heat.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
48 weeks ago

little house on the praire

Yes I have many years ago.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
48 weeks ago

"I honestly couldn't think of anything worse. Sharing a bed and not even getting sex? Just having to listen to their breathing and have them fidget arse about. Oh no.

Yep, if I'm in bed with a man, I'd definitely be wanting more than just his body heat."

Who said it was a man?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
48 weeks ago

"Yes I have many years ago."

Would you again?

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"A rare as rocking horse dung.

But I’d not rule it out if it was asked of me.

I might needs some friends first of course.

I do wonder if it has the same potential as cuddles for sale?

Who buys cuddles? Is that a thing?

I’ve got the greatest cuddles to give, and they’re free.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
48 weeks ago

"A rare as rocking horse dung.

But I’d not rule it out if it was asked of me.

I might needs some friends first of course.

I do wonder if it has the same potential as cuddles for sale?

Who buys cuddles? Is that a thing?

I’ve got the greatest cuddles to give, and they’re free."

I really don't want to Google it but yes I do remember seeing snippets of documentary about places where people buy cuddle sessions. Just wondering! In the cyber world what will remain of human touch?

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
48 weeks ago

Essex

I bet that’s really sweet & comforting…

But fuck no!!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
48 weeks ago

little house on the praire

"Yes I have many years ago.

Would you again?"
Not now but that's because I don't want close contact. But it was good I don't have any regrets

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By (user no longer on site) OP
48 weeks ago

"I bet that’s really sweet & comforting…

But fuck no!!

You fooled me with that sweet and comforting intro

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By (user no longer on site) OP
48 weeks ago

"Yes I have many years ago.

Would you again?Not now but that's because I don't want close contact. But it was good I don't have any regrets"

Thanks for sharing.

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By *ust want fun 888Man
48 weeks ago

nearby

I have done in the past, a couple of friends who were girls and just stayed over, nothing happened

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
48 weeks ago

little house on the praire

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By *iss.ddWoman
48 weeks ago

Leeds + Newcastle

The day my Dad passed, Mam and I just flopped in to her bed when we got home and fell straight asleep. No talking or anything.

Wasn't until the morning we realised we'd done it subconsciously instead of me going to my own home or even in to my childhood bedroom

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
48 weeks ago

Central

A guy in a hotel I was at, invited me to watch a movie and sleep over, in his room together, without sex. It was cozy and affectionate.

Not had it on Fab yet

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
48 weeks ago

Central

"A guy in a hotel I was at, invited me to watch a movie and sleep over, in his room together, without sex. It was cozy and affectionate.

Not had it on Fab yet "

I did it in the same hotel together, with another man I knew, as a friend.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
48 weeks ago

"The day my Dad passed, Mam and I just flopped in to her bed when we got home and fell straight asleep. No talking or anything.

Wasn't until the morning we realised we'd done it subconsciously instead of me going to my own home or even in to my childhood bedroom "

I've been in a similar position too.

It helps. No words needed.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
48 weeks ago

little house on the praire

I know a guy who was in his 60s and slept in the same bed as his elderly mother. There was nothing sinister going on he just wanted to be close to her as she was ill. It was all very sad

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By *hrista BellendWoman
48 weeks ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Ahhhh mate, in theory that sounds lovely, but I'm such a fidget, they would so have a shite nights sleep, so I'd opt for conscious cuddles x

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
48 weeks ago

Essex

"I bet that’s really sweet & comforting…

But fuck no!!

You fooled me with that sweet and comforting intro

I fool many with my sweet and comforting intro

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By *ruceyyMan
48 weeks ago

London

To be fair if she smelt nice and had nice tits I'll hit you up if I ever miss the last bus home

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By *emorefridaCouple
48 weeks ago

La la land

I've slept in a bed with 2 of my mates. My friends father had passed away, she had already lost her mum. And the 3 of us slept together with her in the middle. Think she wasn't ready to be alone and we didn't know what to say, and this was our way of saying we were there for her.

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
48 weeks ago

Aberdeen

"The day my Dad passed, Mam and I just flopped in to her bed when we got home and fell straight asleep. No talking or anything.

Wasn't until the morning we realised we'd done it subconsciously instead of me going to my own home or even in to my childhood bedroom "

I did the same with my mum. Although, had her taken to my house. Put her to my bed and just hugged her there.

I slept several nights in a friends bed when her fiance cheated on her and she was broken. She just needed someone to make her feel safe and hold her.

I think its quite a normal thing to do really.

MrsAbz

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Will they make me breakfast in the morning?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
48 weeks ago

"I've slept in a bed with 2 of my mates. My friends father had passed away, she had already lost her mum. And the 3 of us slept together with her in the middle. Think she wasn't ready to be alone and we didn't know what to say, and this was our way of saying we were there for her. "

It seems you aren't alone in this experience. Quiet touch or being someone's space keeper takes over thousand words sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
48 weeks ago

"Will they make me breakfast in the morning?

Only if you...

... don't do the *run

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

It’s amazing how many people think it’s all about sex, giving or receiving.

I shared a bed once, both fully clothed, with someone who lost their father in an accident.

Nothing sexual. Spent hours with them when it happened and both just went to sleep.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
48 weeks ago

"It’s amazing how many people think it’s all about sex, giving or receiving.

I shared a bed once, both fully clothed, with someone who lost their father in an accident.

Nothing sexual. Spent hours with them when it happened and both just went to sleep.

This seems to be not so rare after all. Coming close in grief. I find it too difficult to type out my experience of it but I appreciate the stories.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
48 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Oh no that wouldn’t be for me. Parents, my kids/siblings/close friends yeah but someone I didn’t know really really well, no! That sounds like a nightmare for me. Besides there’s people better than me at the sympathy thing. I’m not the best. Giving or receiving. I’ll do the practical bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"Will they make me breakfast in the morning?

Only if you...

... don't do the *run

What is the *run?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
48 weeks ago

"Oh no that wouldn’t be for me. Parents, my kids/siblings/close friends yeah but someone I didn’t know really really well, no! That sounds like a nightmare for me. Besides there’s people better than me at the sympathy thing. I’m not the best. Giving or receiving. I’ll do the practical bit. "

I didnt think of strangers. That would be quite unsafe. But yes friends, parents, that sort of thing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
48 weeks ago

"Will they make me breakfast in the morning?

Only if you...

... don't do the *run

What is the *run?

The thing you write after comments sometimes ?

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
48 weeks ago

Norwich

Never.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
48 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

I didnt think of strangers. That would be quite unsafe. But yes friends, parents, that sort of thing.

Would have to be very close. And as for that cuddle thing, I remember someone saying about that before. Just meeting people on line for cuddles. I couldn’t think of anything worse

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"Will they make me breakfast in the morning?

Only if you...

... don't do the *run

What is the *run?

The thing you write after comments sometimes ?

Oh. Hahaha. I get you now!!

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By *xfordjohnMan
48 weeks ago

Oxford

Well, I would really like that now. Sometimes affection is better than sex; especially if you've lost your regular dose of it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
48 weeks ago

"Well, I would really like that now. Sometimes affection is better than sex; especially if you've lost your regular dose of it."

Yes. Oxytocin inducing squishy hug can be quite healing. More so than sex!

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By *imi_RougeWoman
48 weeks ago

Portsmouth

"I honestly couldn't think of anything worse. Sharing a bed and not even getting sex? Just having to listen to their breathing and have them fidget arse about. Oh no.

Yep, if I'm in bed with a man, I'd definitely be wanting more than just his body heat.

Who said it was a man?

Well it said sensual/sexual , and I only feel that way about men. So yeah.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"Anyone who has heard me snore will know never to make the mistake of asking me….

Takes SL off hotlist

(I’d best not make mention of my sleep dribbling to)

….whoops!

What happens if put a ballgag in?

Would that stop the snoring?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
48 weeks ago

"I honestly couldn't think of anything worse. Sharing a bed and not even getting sex? Just having to listen to their breathing and have them fidget arse about. Oh no.

Yep, if I'm in bed with a man, I'd definitely be wanting more than just his body heat.

Who said it was a man?

Well it said sensual/sexual , and I only feel that way about men. So yeah."

I didnt take on your perspective, sorry !

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"I honestly couldn't think of anything worse. Sharing a bed and not even getting sex? Just having to listen to their breathing and have them fidget arse about. Oh no.

Yep, if I'm in bed with a man, I'd definitely be wanting more than just his body heat.

Who said it was a man?

Well it said sensual/sexual , and I only feel that way about men. So yeah."

I’m a men

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By (user no longer on site) OP
48 weeks ago

"The day my Dad passed, Mam and I just flopped in to her bed when we got home and fell straight asleep. No talking or anything.

Wasn't until the morning we realised we'd done it subconsciously instead of me going to my own home or even in to my childhood bedroom

I did the same with my mum. Although, had her taken to my house. Put her to my bed and just hugged her there.

I slept several nights in a friends bed when her fiance cheated on her and she was broken. She just needed someone to make her feel safe and hold her.

I think its quite a normal thing to do really.

MrsAbz "

Thanks for sharing that. I'm glad you said "hold her". Sometimes it is just that - holding the world steady when everything else seems to be spinning around and not making sense.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
48 weeks ago

I didnt think of strangers. That would be quite unsafe. But yes friends, parents, that sort of thing.

Would have to be very close. And as for that cuddle thing, I remember someone saying about that before. Just meeting people on line for cuddles. I couldn’t think of anything worse

I'm glad I didn't imagine that !

my sanity say thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
48 weeks ago

"A guy in a hotel I was at, invited me to watch a movie and sleep over, in his room together, without sex. It was cozy and affectionate.

Not had it on Fab yet "

Did you feel safe?

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By *ensuallover1000Man
48 weeks ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

"Anyone who has heard me snore will know never to make the mistake of asking me….

Takes SL off hotlist

(I’d best not make mention of my sleep dribbling to)

….whoops!

What happens if put a ballgag in?

Would that stop the snoring?"

That should certainly do the trick

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Sounds fucking awful

I run hot as fuck and need a fan year round. Last thing I need is another lump adding to that heat

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By *use and wolfCouple
48 weeks ago

angus

Yes but not through Fab or similar sites.

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By *orphia2003Woman
48 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

Yeah, do it frequently with a good friend. We enjoy catching up and sleeping together.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
48 weeks ago

"Sounds fucking awful

I run hot as fuck and need a fan year round. Last thing I need is another lump adding to that heat "

What about the scenarios mentioned in comments ? Still no? For anyone really who said no - would those change your mind? That is if you had a chance to look at others replies.

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By *viatrixWoman
48 weeks ago

Redhill

I can only sleep with the hubbers. If he’s not around I much rather sleep on my own. I don’t even allow my kids in my bed. I did, begrudgingly when they were small, but now that they’re teens they can stay in their rooms.

Never been asked to sleep with someone and I’d say no if I were asked. I value my personal space too much.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

I have slept in all kinds of places …. But to share a bed is something a little different just for sleep. Maybe it’s just me

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

The guy in our most recent photos phoned our cabin the following night at 3am asking if he could just lay in bed with us. We were totally unprepared as we had already been sleeping so reluctantly declined.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
48 weeks ago

"The guy in our most recent photos phoned our cabin the following night at 3am asking if he could just lay in bed with us. We were totally unprepared as we had already been sleeping so reluctantly declined."

Oh gosh. Time and place eh? The other side of coin is that he felt comfortable enough to ask you. You must have made him feel safe. Or you think he was hoping for more? And he simply crossed boundaries?

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Yes it was a bit weird. We were travelling with family in another cabin, luckily a deck above, so thought the call was an emergency one from them.

He did text and apologize the next day saying he was d*unk and alone in his cabin but we didn't repeat the fun with him.

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