FabSwingers.com forum: Enthusiasm

By *ea monkey OP Man
48 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

Is that important to you? Do you feel as though it’s important that a partner is enthusiastic about meeting or sexy times?

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By *iddlesticksMan
48 weeks ago

My nan’s spare room.

Essential I would say.

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By *midnight-Woman
48 weeks ago

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Why would you want to meet them if they weren't enthusiastic.. Hmmm

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
48 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania

Oh I'll take enthusiasm over a toned body and a big cock any day! Sex is always better when your partner is really keen

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By *icecouple561Couple
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48 weeks ago

East Sussex

Enthusiastic like Sam on I'm a Celebrity ?

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By *ea monkey OP Man
48 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Enthusiastic like Sam on I'm a Celebrity ?"

I have no clue who you’re talking about (thankfully)

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By *ea monkey OP Man
48 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Why would you want to meet them if they weren't enthusiastic.. Hmmm"

A valid question

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By *aitonelMan
48 weeks ago

Liverpool

It's been a long day... It took me. 3 attempts to realise you said enthusiasm...

First euthanasia... Then euphemism. Then I focused and paid attention. Got there in the end... Not for lack of enthusiasm!

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By *midnight-Woman
48 weeks ago

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"Why would you want to meet them if they weren't enthusiastic.. Hmmm

A valid question"

I'd worry drama was on it's way, or they were bored, or I was 2nd choice..

... In fact my head would explode with overthinking.... Just tell me you can't wait to fuck me every which way and promise me I'll leave on my knees

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By *ea monkey OP Man
48 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Why would you want to meet them if they weren't enthusiastic.. Hmmm

A valid question

I'd worry drama was on it's way, or they were bored, or I was 2nd choice..

... In fact my head would explode with overthinking.... Just tell me you can't wait to fuck me every which way and promise me I'll leave on my knees

But then there’s over promising…

I’d rather have a mutual enthusiasm for the five minutes of average foreplay and bumpy intercourse that I promise

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By *icecouple561Couple
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48 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Enthusiastic like Sam on I'm a Celebrity ?

I have no clue who you’re talking about (thankfully) "

I see.

Well he's a man who is extremely enthusiastic and expresses it in a way that us Brits aren't used to.

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By *midnight-Woman
48 weeks ago

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"Why would you want to meet them if they weren't enthusiastic.. Hmmm

A valid question

I'd worry drama was on it's way, or they were bored, or I was 2nd choice..

... In fact my head would explode with overthinking.... Just tell me you can't wait to fuck me every which way and promise me I'll leave on my knees

But then there’s over promising…

I’d rather have a mutual enthusiasm for the five minutes of average foreplay and bumpy intercourse that I promise"

Maybe you need to add snaxs

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Depends on the setting and what it in talls

I mean yes normally it would be very important as if they don’t seem enthusiastic about meeting or such why would I want to meet them

On the flip side

If it’s a gangbang and your at the end off the line I going to be less enthusiastic / a bag off spuds by that point all I can do is apologise but I was pretty worn out by that point

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By *odevilWoman
48 weeks ago

exeter

"It's been a long day... It took me. 3 attempts to realise you said enthusiasm...

First euthanasia... Then euphemism. Then I focused and paid attention. Got there in the end... Not for lack of enthusiasm!

Ok but now I want to know if euthanasia is important to you when you're thinking about meeting someone

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By *aitonelMan
48 weeks ago

Liverpool

"It's been a long day... It took me. 3 attempts to realise you said enthusiasm...

First euthanasia... Then euphemism. Then I focused and paid attention. Got there in the end... Not for lack of enthusiasm!

Ok but now I want to know if euthanasia is important to you when you're thinking about meeting someone

Depends how boring and lacking in enthusiasm they were

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
48 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"Ok but now I want to know if euthanasia is important to you when you're thinking about meeting someone

No, no. Euthanasia was the euphemism. Little deaths and all that.

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By *eroLondonMan
48 weeks ago

Mayfair

I'm not into half-hearted encounters, socials or dates. If I sense anything resembling indifference, reluctance or lack of enthusiasm — especially 24 hours before a meet when I haven't heard from them — they will be cast into the void.

Breadcrumbing manifests itself in many guises.

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By *host63Man
48 weeks ago

Bedfont Feltham

Well ye. What is the point otherwise?

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By *ea monkey OP Man
48 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Why would you want to meet them if they weren't enthusiastic.. Hmmm

A valid question

I'd worry drama was on it's way, or they were bored, or I was 2nd choice..

... In fact my head would explode with overthinking.... Just tell me you can't wait to fuck me every which way and promise me I'll leave on my knees

But then there’s over promising…

I’d rather have a mutual enthusiasm for the five minutes of average foreplay and bumpy intercourse that I promise

Maybe you need to add snaxs

How else do you think I drum up interest? I send them pictures of a can of Pringles next to a sky remote

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"Enthusiastic like Sam on I'm a Celebrity ?"

Yes!!

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By *d4fun73Man
48 weeks ago

Shipley

"Is that important to you? Do you feel as though it’s important that a partner is enthusiastic about meeting or sexy times? "

What's the point otherwise!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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48 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Enthusiastic like Sam on I'm a Celebrity ?

Yes!! "

You'd be in no doubt that he was keen

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By *iss LovelyWoman
48 weeks ago

Here and There

Enthusiasm is huge for me.

I like to be excited about a meet/seeing someone and can’t feel that if the person I’m meeting isn’t showing me they’re enthusiastic. If it starts to feel out of balance, I’m out.

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By *midnight-Woman
48 weeks ago

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"Why would you want to meet them if they weren't enthusiastic.. Hmmm

A valid question

I'd worry drama was on it's way, or they were bored, or I was 2nd choice..

... In fact my head would explode with overthinking.... Just tell me you can't wait to fuck me every which way and promise me I'll leave on my knees

But then there’s over promising…

I’d rather have a mutual enthusiasm for the five minutes of average foreplay and bumpy intercourse that I promise

Maybe you need to add snaxs

How else do you think I drum up interest? I send them pictures of a can of Pringles next to a sky remote"

Fuckkkk yeah... Top night

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
48 weeks ago

Somewhere else

My kink is for being with men that can’t be arsed one way or the other that I exist.

If this criteria is not met, then I won’t be attracted to him.

So enthusiasm from a potential male partner would be an automatic turn off.

If it’s a woman, though, I want 80s Glenn Close.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Yes. I guess.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
48 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Matching energies is pretty key to me.

If I feel like I'm much more enthused than they are, I feel like they're not into me even if all the base indicators say they are.

If I feel like they're much more enthused than me, I question if I'm really into them or precisely what they want from me.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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48 weeks ago

East Sussex

I'm quite reserved in person so might not appear enthusiastic. How would people hope to see enthusiasm expressed?

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Theres enthusiasm and then there's overly keen. Overly keen gives me the ick.

I don't need someone banging on about how much they like me and crap. You just need to say it the once.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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48 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Theres enthusiasm and then there's overly keen. Overly keen gives me the ick.

I don't need someone banging on about how much they like me and crap. You just need to say it the once. "

Yeah we were chatting to a man once on another site and were discussing meeting for coffee. Out of the blue he sent a message saying he was no longer looking for meets as he'd met 'the ones'. We replied wishing him well with the couple. He responded that we were the couple!

I mean there's enthusiasm and then there's *enthusiasm*

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"Theres enthusiasm and then there's overly keen. Overly keen gives me the ick.

I don't need someone banging on about how much they like me and crap. You just need to say it the once.

I mean there's enthusiasm and then there's *enthusiasm*"

Yeah that's a run for the hills moment!

And good morning and good night messages. I just want your penis ok!

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"Matching energies is pretty key to me.

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I hold back a lot. A LOT. But if I know or get an idea they are on same page, it’s fair game, that’s when both should throw all the fuel on the fire.

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By *eliWoman
48 weeks ago

I want people to be enthusiastic in their own style. Their own way.

That doesn't mean I want someone Tiggering if that's not how they are naturally. It also means I have little time for feigned nonchalance or indifference. Even less time (as in, none) for someone who isn't interested.

There's a world of difference between someone who is interested in but not singing with glee every time I message to them to someone who doesn't give a fuck.

I like passion. I want to meet people who can evoke it, who display it in their own way. I've cut off a fair few conversations because it didn't feel like they gave a fuck bar wanting to have a hole to pump full of come. That's not for me.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
48 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"I want people to be enthusiastic in their own style. Their own way."

This too. I know someone who tiggers and literally bounces in anticipation, and someone who has a very dry and dark sense of humour about how they express desire. I'd say I'm just as enthused about one as the other, and I'd say we both have matching enthusiasm levels, though the methods used are different

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By *eliWoman
48 weeks ago

"I want people to be enthusiastic in their own style. Their own way.

Yes! That's exactly it. Don't get me wrong, I do adore people who express their enthusiasm in a similar style to mine as it's easy for me to understand. I also like those who are more reserved about their enthusiasm. You can tell can't you? If someone does want to meet you, fuck you.

If I start questioning it, it's not because of how they're displaying it. It's because whatever way it is, it doesn't feel like it's really there.

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By *emorefridaCouple
48 weeks ago

La la land

Enthusiasm is a strange thing with regards to sex. And I don't think it's important as such, I think enthusiasm for spending time with that person is far more important. Think it can be hard to differentiate between enthusiasm and lust. But I think they're two very different things.

I may not be the most enthusiastic at initiation of sexy time. But if someone sparks that thought in me I'll be all over them like a rash (sexy as I know). But I will initiate holding hands or cwtshing into them. But I guess that is what makes people work together they have different strengths.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
48 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"And good morning and good night messages. I just want your penis ok!"

I love it when you say what I’m thinking. Saves me posting it and getting lynched.

(Substitute sex in general for ‘penis’, obvs.)

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

I've been told I play it cool and don't give much away until I'm used to them and in whatever dynamic we evolve into. But isn't it just that, an evolving thing if you both learning each other even in the most casual of 'relationships'.

That said I tend to hold back as I fear coming across too keen, needy, clingy, and I don't want the other person to get ideas either and think it's more either. But when I'm used to someone Ill show the level of lust etc easily.

I don't like the word enthusiasm in this context, it doesn't quite fit for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

I'm not a very enthusiastic person in general so let's just go with our feelings and energies match towards each other.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
48 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Definitely!

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
48 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Yes.

Easy question!

Mrs TMN x

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
48 weeks ago

Cambs

Absolutely. If it's not an enthusiastic yes I take it as a no. Xx

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
48 weeks ago

Maidstone

For some of us it is hard to show enthusiasm. I really struggle with this and often think I come across as indifferent as a result. It would be my worst nightmare to come across like Sam though.

As long as they seem interested enough then that's fine for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

We can't both lay there like a sack of potatoes.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"Why would you want to meet them if they weren't enthusiastic.. Hmmm"

The answer no matter how hot she is with out ENTHUSIASM. / CHEMISTRY from both no good ,am old man now LOL

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By *entlemanrogueMan
48 weeks ago

Motherwell

"Is that important to you? Do you feel as though it’s important that a partner is enthusiastic about meeting or sexy times? "

yes they have to be enthusiastic or else it wouldnt feel right at all

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By *midnight-Woman
48 weeks ago

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"We can't both lay there like a sack of potatoes. "

What about a prone bone

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By *undayGirl 69Woman
48 weeks ago

Coalville

"I'm not into half-hearted encounters, socials or dates. If I sense anything resembling indifference, reluctance or lack of enthusiasm — especially 24 hours before a meet when I haven't heard from them — they will be cast into the void.

Breadcrumbing manifests itself in many guises."

This!!!

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By *aitonelMan
48 weeks ago

Liverpool

Can do I guess

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By *edeWoman
48 weeks ago

the abyss

I'm not sure I know what enthusiasm is

Actually arranging and arriving would be good for me

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
48 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"Actually arranging and arriving would be good for me

Well I didn’t want to say, but …

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"We can't both lay there like a sack of potatoes.

What about a prone bone

Oo-er!

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By *d4fun73Man
48 weeks ago

Shipley

"I'm not sure I know what enthusiasm is

Actually arranging and arriving would be good for me

I never have a problem arriving!

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By *otSoPoshWoman
48 weeks ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I like to know that he is looking forward to seeing me, and that he wants to spend the time with me.

I don't need over enthusiastic enthusiasm, but I do like to know that I'm wanted and my company is enjoyable to him.

I like when I get a random message out of the blue to show I've crossed his mind in between the times we see each other.

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By *lam granWoman
48 weeks ago

falkirk

I would expect someone to always appear enthusiastic during sex. Otherwise, what is the point.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
48 weeks ago

Here and There

Breadcrumbing manifests itself in many guises."

Yes this

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By *rouble81Couple
48 weeks ago

Bolton

"Enthusiastic like Sam on I'm a Celebrity ?

I have no clue who you’re talking about (thankfully)

I see.

Well he's a man who is extremely enthusiastic and expresses it in a way that us Brits aren't used to. "

I have ADHD so I’m on a similar level to him lol

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