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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What's the problems you have with single males?

* Sending multiple messages when not interested?

* Not reading profiles

* Being clingy "why won't you reply" type messages?

* Endless cock pics?

Asking for a friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My main issue is when they don't read my profile then get arsey when I say I'm not interested in meeting them.

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

Manchester(ish).

All of the above.

And you can add a crashing sense of entitlement too.

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By *eordieJeansCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We have no problem with single males. Women and couples are just as bad, there’s just a lot less of them so it happens less often.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooo yay.

Another round of let’s bash the man.

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By *eordieJeansCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"Ooo yay.

Another round of let’s bash the man.

I would go as far to say the entitlement in messages from women and couples is a lot worse but people aren’t ready for that conversation.

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

"Ooo yay.

Another round of let’s bash the man.

I would go as far to say the entitlement in messages from women and couples is a lot worse but people aren’t ready for that conversation."

If we could think of usernames that good, it'd be better.

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

Manchester(ish).

"Ooo yay.

Another round of let’s bash the man.

We could have a round of bash the Bishop later ?

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By *ouple4voyeurCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Not reading profiles

But that isn't just males as get get the same off couples.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Entitlement and unwillingness to have a proper conversation

Not all men, and not just men.

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I/we don't have an issue.

It isn't just men, people in general can be rude/entitled etc so personally I don't think its all men to blame

MrsAbz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not putting their message filters on and just messaging profiles they like the look of because the false sense is desirability you get from seeing 100s of unopened messages is worth more than anything else

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By *eordieJeansCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"Ooo yay.

Another round of let’s bash the man.

I would go as far to say the entitlement in messages from women and couples is a lot worse but people aren’t ready for that conversation.

If we could think of usernames that good, it'd be better.

I can’t take credit for it unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ooo yay.

Another round of let’s bash the man.

We could have a round of bash the Bishop later ? "

You mean another round.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We don't have any problems with single men.

For the most part they're fine with us

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

No problems at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's the problems you have with single males?

* Sending multiple messages when not interested?

* Not reading profiles

* Being clingy "why won't you reply" type messages?

* Endless cock pics?

Asking for a friend

All of the above

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like these threads as they are informative.

Unfortunately I feel the gents, couples and women who are guilty of all those things wrong read or take on board the above that's being shared.

It took very little time to understand that we (men) get a bad rep and it takes patience and time to meet the good ones.

Everyone should have standards and stock buy them. How difficult is it to be polite and respectful. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like these threads as they are informative.

Unfortunately I feel the gents, couples and women who are guilty of all those things wrong read or take on board the above that's being shared.

It took very little time to understand that we (men) get a bad rep and it takes patience and time to meet the good ones.

Everyone should have standards and stock buy them. How difficult is it to be polite and respectful. X"

Exactly. I think a respectful message, decent profile and let the recipient decide to reply.. or not.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

They don't want me

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

I’d say I have no problems at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could put that about all the groups of people on here…minus the cock pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not finding I enough I fancy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not putting their message filters on and just messaging profiles they like the look of because the false sense is desirability you get from seeing 100s of unopened messages is worth more than anything else "

I love the attention.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

They’re all far too shy.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"They’re all far too shy."

ALL. MEN.

Because we only speak in absolutes.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

We have no problem with single guys. No doubt a large percentage aren't actually single, so maybe it should say "guys".

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Not reading the "Profile" or even worse implying they have and way to many assume way to much and of course the infamous " Cock" picture and we as a long term couple take it as a given the male will indeed be in possesion of a "Cock" and we've also thought do they bring along the remote/cans etc etc to meets with them though ??? and seeing a fair few do only have "Cock" pics do they then sit where anyone has arranged to meet them with a handy picture of said " Cock" held above their head ?? like they do at airports but with names ?? asking for friends as despite numerous drinks and ponderings we can't work out if they would ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everything you’ve said, plus;

Not reading my profile.

Starting off with sexual comments before even introducing themselves.

Getting nasty because I’ve deleted their message (I do state on my profile that a delete is a polite no thank you).

I have upped my filters to block those not within my age range and newbies, it’s helped a little bit but you’ll still get the dross sometimes.

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

"They’re all far too shy.

ALL. MEN.

Because we only speak in absolutes."

It's true, I've never had less than 3 layers of clothes on in my life!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That so many of them are not actually single or ethical in their non-monogamy.

Having many friends in the kinky/poly/swinger/queer scene this aspect of the site was the biggest disappointment. I see so much beautiful sexual openness in real life, and so much cheating on here. It's very sad to be brought out of my bubble to face that reality. Monogamy truly sucks.

I don't think any other "problems" are exclusive to men. People of all genders can behave like dicks, be disrespectful, ignorant or lazy.

Finding the right persons for you will always require some effort and a lot of filtering because most people are NOT right for you. No matter how good a match they seem on paper.

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over a year ago

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

"All of the above.

And you can add a crashing sense of entitlement too. "

Entitlement goes both ways.

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

"Ooo yay.

Another round of let’s bash the man.

Didn't you know its an international Sport these days?

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I'm half a couple and can deffo confirm couples can be as bad as single men. I don't chat to women so I can't comment on them, but not reading profiles is a big one.

Also lying about smoking or sexuality.

Not actually being single and yes this goes for couples too, who are married to others and aren't always upfront about it.

Sending another quick message when you've not replied to the first.

Men - attaching cock pics in a message or sending a massive cringey description of what they'd do to me.

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By *asques and boxersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford and dept16

Not knocking single males but all those issues are across the board. Plus distance!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it amusing women call men entitled on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I do state on my profile that a delete is a polite no thank you.

I've had a look at your profile. You shouldn't have to do that.. though how about using all capitsls and at the start date your profile..

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

"Ooo yay.

Another round of let’s bash the man.

Didn't you know its an international Sport these days?"

Ha I am just glad it makes a change from bashing the trans woman for once

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I find it amusing women call men entitled on here

Not all of em but some. I've met them in clubs and they're amusing.. despite ruining a night out for everyone

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ooo yay.

Another round of let’s bash the man.

Didn't you know its an international Sport these days?

Ha I am just glad it makes a change from bashing the trans woman for once

What I'd like to know is what single male eejot started this thread! The Muppet!

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

No real issues at all if I'm honest. Filters help a lot and ignoring cockwombles if they do get through is easy enough and it's not always men who are the cockwombles either.

I don't know why people get so annoyed over messages they get when they can take control themselves if they want and contact people they would like to meet and stop incoming mail.And to be honest it's easier to block someone than get upset over stupid messages that can happen on here. It's the internet it's not going to change no matter how much people complain about it.

But that is just my opinion and I've no doubt a lot won't agree with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I for one actually appreciate the single males (and their penis).

I don't get abuse, I get people actually reading my profile and I get decent messages. I still don't reply but still, that's not their fault I'm a bitch.

I'm winning at fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's the problems you have with single males?

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Jeez. Let me get a chair and sit down for all the answers!!!

You might as well have just handed them a stick to hit us with.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Absolutely nothing.

Individual single men on here? Sure. The odd one or two. Generally though, I don't seem to have the same experience as other Fab women. I've never been ghosted. Never had to post a status about how difficult it is to find a penis/fb/fwb/a whatever. No abuse. No inbox full of dick pics.

I'm really enjoying my Fab erm journey? Fuck me that's awful. Fab experience? Yeah, that'll do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What's the problems you have with single males?

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Jeez. Let me get a chair and sit down for all the answers!!!

You might as well have just handed them a stick to hit us with. "

Agreed! Who started this fekin thread?

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

I’ll tell you my problem with men…

They aren’t bringing me their balls to play with!

I need some balls in my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's the problems you have with single males?

* Sending multiple messages when not interested?

* Not reading profiles

* Being clingy "why won't you reply" type messages?

* Endless cock pics?

Asking for a friend

Bottom line is there’s too many. It’s a full time job responding to all, though we do try - unless you’ve just sent a one word mail.

We don’t like cock picks (or gratuitous Fanny ones either). We prefer tasteful with a bit for the imagination.

Some guys are needy but generally, in the most part, they’re ok and respectful. That goes a long way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My problem is they don't want to give up the penis easy. Always want to be wine and dined, stroked like a cat and for me to tell them they are pretty constantly before they decide if I'm worthy of their man juice.

Men are hard work, sigh.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"No real issues at all if I'm honest. Filters help a lot and ignoring cockwombles if they do get through is easy enough and it's not always men who are the cockwombles either.

But that is just my opinion and I've no doubt a lot won't agree with me.

I don't agree with you.

Well I do actually but didn't want to leave you gasping with expectation.

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
over a year ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

Not reading the profile is the main gripe.

Don't know if other t-girls get this, but also a condescending attitude from the 'straight' men who contact me.

Like they wanted prime Cristiano Ronaldo, but ended up with Scott Mctominay

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

My gripe are the ones who actually think I will meet them now. Then they get stroppy when i say “why would I want to?”

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"No real issues at all if I'm honest. Filters help a lot and ignoring cockwombles if they do get through is easy enough and it's not always men who are the cockwombles either.

But that is just my opinion and I've no doubt a lot won't agree with me.

Couldn’t agree more

. People like something to moan about though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's the problems you have with single males?

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Jeez. Let me get a chair and sit down for all the answers!!!

You might as well have just handed them a stick to hit us with.

Agreed! Who started this fekin thread?

He would be banished from the brotherhood

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My problem is they don't want to give up the penis easy. Always want to be wine and dined, stroked like a cat and for me to tell them they are pretty constantly before they decide if I'm worthy of their man juice.

Men are hard work, sigh."

Zip…..lob.

There you go sugar tits. Chow on that bad boy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually don’t have many problems with single men messaging, most have always been respectful

But please make the message interesting not just

Hi how’s you, or what you doing today

Think of something better I’m definitely worth the effort

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
over a year ago

Maidstone

I don't have a problem with *single men*. There are individuals that are Dicks. I ignore them really easily so no problems here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men are hard work, sigh."

They just sound married R

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men are hard work, sigh.

Zip…..lob.

There you go sugar tits. Chow on that bad boy.

atta boy! Quivering quim all over the place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do state on my profile that a delete is a polite no thank you.

I've had a look at your profile. You shouldn't have to do that.. though how about using all capitsls and at the start date your profile..

I did that when I first ever joined here and was called rude, so I decided instead of put it at the end! Either way someone will be unhappy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No real issues at all if I'm honest. Filters help a lot and ignoring cockwombles if they do get through is easy enough and it's not always men who are the cockwombles either.

But that is just my opinion and I've no doubt a lot won't agree with me.

Unless you stop all mail, someone will always get through at some point.

I have filters, I welcome messages and I message those I’m interested in, that doesn’t mean I’m not entitled to express that some things annoy me from those that do message.

It’s not that big of a deal that I need to hide my profile or turn off all messaging for example.

I’m sure there are things that piss men off about women on here too, but it’s not going to stop them from messaging women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't fancy most of them. Thats couples and women too.

Actually I fancy women the most.

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By *aggy dollsCouple
over a year ago

bradford

"What's the problems you have with single males?

* Sending multiple messages when not interested?

* Not reading profiles

* Being clingy "why won't you reply" type messages?

* Endless cock pics?

Asking for a friend

All of the above.

Mr H

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"I don't fancy most of them. Thats couples and women too.

Actually I fancy women the most."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The one that always happens, They pop up with no photos or info about themselves. Then get annoyed and spam lol

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By *on jamesMan
over a year ago

wells

I keep hearing from various ladies that there really are some “ strange” guys on here ! It’s such a shame as it reflects on us genuine guys ! I am not persistent or rude ! But I feel I get tarred by the same brush !! If I am told no ! Fair enough ! I wish the lady well and go on my way ! Always polite and friendly . Such a shame .

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By *otlips322020Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Defo they send cock pictures especially after you messaging asking for recent face pics

X x x

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By *amieLDN22Man
over a year ago

London

Couples can be way more problematic imho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only ever send raunchy photos of the person asks for it otherwise it to me says they don't want one

always happy to receive though personally

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By *OM23RAVEN23Couple
over a year ago

Derby

I recently moved to a couples pf from a single guy pf. I used to get really frustrated when I was a single guy as I always played by the rules, very respectful non pushy, never multiple mails but used to get nowhere. Since my gorgeous sexy horny gf, Raven joined me and we started a couples pf, I can see why single guys get bad press. In just a couple of weeks the number of messages we got from single blokes who believe they are god's gift to women and men for that matter was mind blowing. Then the pushy ones who carpet bomb you to get a reply and finally those who think you on here because you are desperate especially because we are a BBW couple. Unbelievable. I would say please don't tar all single guys with the same brush, but I can see why it's difficult not to. And the fascination some have with sending countless dick pics is disturbing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men are hard work, sigh.

They just sound married R "

It must be the fact we think we want more sex than we are getting…….

*runs

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

We don't meet men because I (Mrs) have zero interest in another man joining us.

Since fab my instincts were right after a million cock pics tons of abuse in the inbox (even though they messaged someone who doesn't meet men) the repeated copy and pastes and the huge level of self entitlement some blokes have is unreal according to some because your on here they have some kind of right to fuck you, it's just unreal.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Defo they send cock pictures especially after you messaging asking for recent face pics

X x x"

Yeah this is really annoying. It's grubby flasher mac stuff. A face is a face. Not a cock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's the problems you have with single males?

* Sending multiple messages when not interested?

* Not reading profiles

* Being clingy "why won't you reply" type messages?

* Endless cock pics?

Asking for a friend

Some men on here are really nice. Decent to talk to, genuine and kind.

My problem with them is that those types are always too far away or I'm not their type.

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"No real issues at all if I'm honest. Filters help a lot and ignoring cockwombles if they do get through is easy enough and it's not always men who are the cockwombles either.

But that is just my opinion and I've no doubt a lot won't agree with me.

You're probably a creative. Creatives take a problem and solve it, the rest prefer to change nothing and continue to whine about it

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By *s-two-75Couple
over a year ago

In general nothing wrong with most single men mainly other than the odd one or two..

Biggest things have been

1. Clearly not read we are not looking for single straight men

2.some think that just because your on a sex site we are desperate and will fuck with anyone

For example one guy pestered us for ages as we said we were not interested by his pictures and profile. When asked why we said just not our type and tried to be polite but carried out asking so had to be blunt and state that as most pics on his profile were bareback cum pics with both men and women and his body type was a larger chubby type which was not for us..

Got really shitty about that answer with what do you expect Brad Pitt! No just someone who is safe and we actually like..

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