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Giving people time to process

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By *ad Nanna OP   Woman
48 weeks ago

East London

How patient are you with people when you give them a choice, or ask them to do something out of their comfort zone?

I'm bad for asking people to give me time to process what they're saying or asking; which sometimes causes me to make rash decisions.

Some people have been impatient and put pressure on me to make a decision, and I go with the safest one.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

If they push I'll generally not answer them

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By *ad Nanna OP   Woman
48 weeks ago

East London


"If they push I'll generally not answer them"

I've done that too or just said no, or I don't know.

I hate feeling pressured over things I'm not comfortable with.

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By *mf123Man
48 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

Depends

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By *ellinever70Woman
48 weeks ago

Ayrshire

I'm unlikely to ask anyone to do something that's really out of their comfort zone.

I appreciate when people can be decisive

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
48 weeks ago

little house on the praire

I wouldn't let anyone put pressure on me. I would process in my own good time.

Anyone putting pressure is just being selfish

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By *ad Nanna OP   Woman
48 weeks ago

East London

I really hate it when someone messages with ??? or well? after I've not responded quick enough.

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By *avexxMan
48 weeks ago

cheshire

nobody should put pressure on anybody,,

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
48 weeks ago

little house on the praire


"I really hate it when someone messages with ??? or well? after I've not responded quick enough.

"
I think the ???Is a phone emoji and doesn't work on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago


"I really hate it when someone messages with ??? or well? after I've not responded quick enough.

"

That's pushy in my book and I'd take an instant dislike to them.

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By *mf123Man
48 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

Id say depends if im afraid

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By *ad Nanna OP   Woman
48 weeks ago

East London


"I really hate it when someone messages with ??? or well? after I've not responded quick enough.

That's pushy in my book and I'd take an instant dislike to them."

My long term partner uses the? and well? He's impatient and doesn't like waiting.

I'm a forgive easily forget quickly person where he's concerned but it does stress me sometimes.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
48 weeks ago

little house on the praire


"I really hate it when someone messages with ??? or well? after I've not responded quick enough.

That's pushy in my book and I'd take an instant dislike to them.

My long term partner uses the? and well? He's impatient and doesn't like waiting.

I'm a forgive easily forget quickly person where he's concerned but it does stress me sometimes.

"
Just tell him not to do it then

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By *midnight-Woman
48 weeks ago

...

I think a lot depends on whether you are a 'fast' or 'slow' thinker

Get a mismatch of the two and it can result in burning down the house!

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

No your not bad if you need time to process things and stuff

People should be understanding and go at your speed if not then they are being pushy

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By *oodmessMan
48 weeks ago

yumsville

Just recently a family situation meant absolute reserve. I don't know how one member was able to sit on knives drawn and instead put it to those after after a few days instead of ringing necks there and then. If they'd have gone with my initial call of sort it out, details would have been missed and graves wouldn't have been dug. Patience is a virtue, though so too is scope.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago


"I really hate it when someone messages with ??? or well? after I've not responded quick enough.

That's pushy in my book and I'd take an instant dislike to them.

My long term partner uses the? and well? He's impatient and doesn't like waiting.

I'm a forgive easily forget quickly person where he's concerned but it does stress me sometimes.

"

He sounds selfish. Not worth the stress.

Maybe tell him you need to decide/ sort things.

Depends on what the question is.

If he's asking if he can come round for a fuck I just wouldn't reply.

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By *parkle1974Woman
48 weeks ago

Leeds

I give them time, I'd hate someone to rush me (that only makes me take longer to respond) x

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By *oodmessMan
48 weeks ago

yumsville


"I really hate it when someone messages with ??? or well? after I've not responded quick enough.

That's pushy in my book and I'd take an instant dislike to them.

My long term partner uses the? and well? He's impatient and doesn't like waiting.

I'm a forgive easily forget quickly person where he's concerned but it does stress me sometimes.

"

Ahh didn't read the thread

tell him you'll reply when you're ready.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
48 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I need my processing time.

I'm quite good at letting the people I care about know that I'm going to need time, and usually give a rough qestomatw of when I think I'll have an answer by.

Strangers getting pushy for an instant response just cause me to shut them down. I know what happens if I let the impulsive side take over, and I don't like those results. If I'm going to fuck up I'd rather do it with the knowledge that I weighed up the options and consequences beforehand and made as informed a decision as I could. Whether it was right or wrong in the end at least I can know it was my own choices that brought me there

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
48 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


" rough qestomatw "

Wow. I really butchered the word estimate in half asleep glory there.

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By *eroLondonMan
48 weeks ago

Mayfair


" rough qestomatw

Wow. I really butchered the word estimate in half asleep glory there."

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Some grammatical faux pas' are quite endearing. x²

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
48 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


" rough qestomatw

Wow. I really butchered the word estimate in half asleep glory there.

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Some grammatical faux pas' are quite endearing. x²"

Néro if you could see how absurdly adorable I look in my raccoon oodie there would be zero question of how endearing I can be

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By *eroLondonMan
48 weeks ago

Mayfair


" rough qestomatw

Wow. I really butchered the word estimate in half asleep glory there.

•

Some grammatical faux pas' are quite endearing. x²

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Néro if you could see how absurdly adorable I look in my raccoon oodie there would be zero question of how endearing I can be "

•

Well, I've seen it: and yes I can wholeheartedly concur that you look unabsurdly (sic) adorable, and somewhat sultry in your fleece caprice! It's almost like seeing you in civvies!

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By *ad Nanna OP   Woman
48 weeks ago

East London


"I really hate it when someone messages with ??? or well? after I've not responded quick enough.

That's pushy in my book and I'd take an instant dislike to them.

My long term partner uses the? and well? He's impatient and doesn't like waiting.

I'm a forgive easily forget quickly person where he's concerned but it does stress me sometimes.

He sounds selfish. Not worth the stress.

Maybe tell him you need to decide/ sort things.

Depends on what the question is.

If he's asking if he can come round for a fuck I just wouldn't reply. "

No, it's not that. He's not selfish where sex is concerned.

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
48 weeks ago

About 3 feet away from the fence


"I really hate it when someone messages with ??? or well? after I've not responded quick enough.

"

This is a personal pet hate of mine & is enough to end a conversation on my end.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
48 weeks ago

Wirral.

Depends on the situation - pushy over sex equates to a resounding rejection.

However, folk taking an hour to decide what they want from the menu or 3 days to decide if they're up for going out at the weekend need a good slap!

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By *rHotNottsMan
48 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I’m ever in any rush and no one does anything they aren’t sure about , I wouldn’t allow them to. There’s no place for impatience and pushy ness in sex unless it’s part of agreed kink.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
48 weeks ago

Leeds

Yes or no. Come on, chop chop, make a decision.

Is basically what goes on in my head when I ask a question.

The mr

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

I could waffle here. But in short. I give them as much time as they need. And I try not to show how impatient I am.

*Woody sits and waits.

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By *rHotNottsMan
48 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

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By *rHotNottsMan
48 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Oh, maybe I misunderstood the question. The problem is with procrastinators, they deliberate when they should satisfice and consult when they should deliberate. They lack courage. This is different to slow processors , I have both in my team, slow processes are invaluable and make some of the best decisions, much better than mine, procrastinators, drive me, insane.

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
48 weeks ago

Southampton


"I really hate it when someone messages with ??? or well? after I've not responded quick enough.

"

Me too... that really annoys me

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