FabSwingers.com forum: Self esteem

By *endalshaggers OP Couple
48 weeks ago

Kendal

Hey guys and gals

My wife and I are very new here and wet behind the ears but thought we'd give this a go.

Just wondering does it help boost self esteem when you have "strangers on the internet" per se fabbing your photos/videos and sending you nice comments?

Unfortunately my wife suffers from anxiety and depression a little bit and doesn't see herself as sexy. I'm hoping that the reaction to some of our photos gives her a nice little boost that it's just not me who finds her hot!

Any tips for newbies would be appreciated as well

Thanks xx

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
48 weeks ago

Den of Iniquity

She has a lovely body in my opinion..

As for my tip .. Don't take anything too seriously here , especially in the forums

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By *endalshaggers OP Couple
48 weeks ago

Kendal

Thanks ?? x

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By *ris GrayMan
48 weeks ago

Dorchester

"Hey guys and gals

My wife and I are very new here and wet behind the ears but thought we'd give this a go.

Just wondering does it help boost self esteem when you have "strangers on the internet" per se fabbing your photos/videos and sending you nice comments?

Any tips for newbies would be appreciated as well

Thanks xx

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Yes agree with previous poster don't get hung up on some of the negative replies in forums, your wife looks lovely just build your confidence as you go

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By *offiaCoolWoman
48 weeks ago

Kidsgrove

Fabbing can often be just a way to gain favour. Before I realized you could turn the photo fabbing option off, I noticed that men who had fabbed my photo, withdrew the fab if I declined to meet them.

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By *obilebottomMan
48 weeks ago

All over

"Fabbing can often be just a way to gain favour. Before I realized you could turn the photo fabbing option off, I noticed that men who had fabbed my photo, withdrew the fab if I declined to meet them."

Blooming rascals

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By *tanley FunseekerMan
48 weeks ago

stanley

I think whenever you are complimented by someone for whatever reason it’s a positive and will give self esteem a boost. You look a nice couple, your pictures are very nice too.

Only bit of advice I would offer is not to get disheartened if some feedback or comments are a bit negative. Important to remember that what people find sexually attractive is very personal and the reality for all of us is that we’re not going to be everyone’s cup of tea. Stay true to yourselves and the reason you joined Fab. Good luck

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By *offiaCoolWoman
48 weeks ago

Kidsgrove

Blooming rascals

I didn't mind, it just made me smile at the shallowness

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By *oodmessMan
48 weeks ago

yumsville

"Hey guys and gals

My wife and I are very new here and wet behind the ears but thought we'd give this a go.

Just wondering does it help boost self esteem when you have "strangers on the internet" per se fabbing your photos/videos and sending you nice comments?

Any tips for newbies would be appreciated as well

Thanks xx

You're going to be some peoples taste and not others. You'll have to take the rough with the smooth but don't come with the hope issues will be resolved by fab. There is a lot of toxicity in the mails from guys so it's probably best blocking them and finding someone you like the look of but be ready for disappointment if they don't like you, that is if you jump into the land of fuckery.

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
48 weeks ago

North West

Suggest your happiness and security as Individuals & as a Couple is much more important than anything else and comes from you both.

External validation is outside of your control and whilst flattering does have a flip side.

Relax and have fun here and if it's not feeling good for you both back off and try something else.

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By *obilebottomMan
48 weeks ago

All over

Blooming rascals

I didn't mind, it just made me smile at the shallowness

I had a fab withdrawn from someone the other day. They probably thought I was after yhem when all I did is send a 'thank you for the fab' to one of the xmas pic. I also had a guy blovk me because I fabbed one of his xmas pics. Each to their own I suppose

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By *midnight-Woman
48 weeks ago

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"Suggest your happiness and security as Individuals & as a Couple is much more important than anything else and comes from you both.

External validation is outside of your control and whilst flattering does have a flip side.

Relax and have fun here and if it's not feeling good for you both back off and try something else. "

Good advice

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Get ready to ignore any abuse you get when you say no thanks

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By *offiaCoolWoman
48 weeks ago

Kidsgrove

Blooming rascals

I didn't mind, it just made me smile at the shallowness

I just turned the function off. I stopped fabbing others photos as it was often misconstrued as interested in meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"Hey guys and gals

My wife and I are very new here and wet behind the ears but thought we'd give this a go.

Just wondering does it help boost self esteem when you have "strangers on the internet" per se fabbing your photos/videos and sending you nice comments?

Any tips for newbies would be appreciated as well

Thanks xx

I've got the fab thing off photos and also have everything friends only now. It doesn't do anything for my self esteem having strangers online fabbing or giving nice comments though. I do take the occasional photo when I am feeling sexy. I'm guessing you take photos when she is feeling sexy? You don't always have to share these. Though they could be good for you to both look back on together. Do whatever works for you both.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Your doing great job as a hubby .and if any negative feed back comes along 99% they will be ENVIOUSLY OF YOU .AM 65 yep I would best wishes Merry Christmas xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

She is a beautiful lady and very sexy, just seat back and enjoy, ignore the bad people, u get them everywhere

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By *naswingdressWoman
48 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Suggest your happiness and security as Individuals & as a Couple is much more important than anything else and comes from you both.

External validation is outside of your control and whilst flattering does have a flip side.

Relax and have fun here and if it's not feeling good for you both back off and try something else. "

Agreed. If you're feeling fragile, the validation here can be very fickle and turn into abuse if people don't get what they want from you.

Self-esteem ultimately comes from being comfortable in your own skin.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"Hey guys and gals

My wife and I are very new here and wet behind the ears but thought we'd give this a go.

Just wondering does it help boost self esteem when you have "strangers on the internet" per se fabbing your photos/videos and sending you nice comments?

Any tips for newbies would be appreciated as well

Thanks xx

She looks lovely. As the fem of a couple I do enjoy people fabbing our pics, as a 50 plus menopausal woman, doubting her sexual attractiveness of course it really boosts the self confidence if your pics are fabbed.

She’s got a body to be proud of

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By *ixiekissesWoman
48 weeks ago

Happy place

I would say that getting complementary comments from those who would tell a potatoe it is sexy if they thought it gives them a chance really is not the way to build self esteem.

Your wife looks better than a lot I see on here.

Given you are both open to socials with couples, perhaps working on that and making nice friends on the scene might help with perspective.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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48 weeks ago

East Sussex

Welcome to fab

What does her low self esteem stem from? Will it be boosted by strangers saying she's attractive, has she said that will help? If she receives one hundred compliments and one insult, which is she more likely to believe?

I think these are the questions you need to ask yourselves.

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By *lam granWoman
48 weeks ago

falkirk

It's a double edged sword. It can be nice when someone who genuinely seems to "get you" fabs them and you chat with them. Can feel shite when you realise they'd fab anything to get within a 100 miles of getting their hole.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Id never rely on horny strangers to help with my self esteem. Men will compliment anyone on here to get a chance of sex.

Confidence comes from yourself.

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By *inkylipsWoman
48 weeks ago

Debauchery

I was like this when I first joined, I wouldn’t dare get my body out on here. As time goes by you will see the love people have for all different shapes and sizes and it does help your confidence grow.

Please do ignore some though who get personal when they are having a bad day or you don’t reply it’s just something that happens and you could be a super model and still get it.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
48 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

No but I can see how it could help if someone has low self esteem. Just be careful and try and take most of it with a huge sack of salt x

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
48 weeks ago

Leeds

"Hey guys and gals

My wife and I are very new here and wet behind the ears but thought we'd give this a go.

Just wondering does it help boost self esteem when you have "strangers on the internet" per se fabbing your photos/videos and sending you nice comments?

Any tips for newbies would be appreciated as well

Thanks xx

Your wife looks amazing, I have a similar issue and to be honest I don't really find fab a confidence boost, I do love that people enjoy our pics but that's it they like the pics, they don't know me really they don't like me they like the idea of me from photos in lingere & being me and not overly confident it leaves me with that worry that in real life I'd be nothing more than a disappointment.

Now it's not that case for everyone some women do find it a great confidence boost and that's amazing.

I just wanted to give an honest opinion & not to expect too much, confidence building and self esteem takes time to fix.

Mrs

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By *hrista BellendWoman
48 weeks ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

When I first started on here sure it was a great having loads of attention. But when I've settled it's all rather tainted, with the thought of unknown guys wanking over my pics, I'd rather stay low key and have the guys I care about spunk over my pixels

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"Hey guys and gals

My wife and I are very new here and wet behind the ears but thought we'd give this a go.

Just wondering does it help boost self esteem when you have "strangers on the internet" per se fabbing your photos/videos and sending you nice comments?

Any tips for newbies would be appreciated as well

Thanks xx

Is she aware that her photos are on the site?

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

It is possible that if someone suffers from depression or anxiety you can receive 1000 positive comments but it’s the 1 negative one that you’ll acknowledge

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By *hrisukbishareCouple
48 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Go carefully on this journey together. It can become a bit of an obsession for one party and that can turn the other off. Be polite but firm with Blocks as needed. Ps you both look fab Chris

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