FabSwingers.com forum: What's your midlife crisis?

By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

What do you think will represent your midlife crisis/what did represent it?

And what do/did you WANT to represent it?

Getting a car, cats, not giving a fuck, telling that family member they are a dick, fucking people 10 years younger, shopping at M&S, quitting your job?

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By *eordieJeansCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I think at 36 I’ve already had mine. I started going to raves as if I was in my twenties again. It was short lived but I had fun.

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By *hampagnesteveMan
over a year ago

Wimbledon

Have resigned from my great job. Oops

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

In my 40s think I am eyeing up a boat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ehh probably swinging and kink!

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By *zeroMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Hopefully not giving a fuck any more.

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat

I am a walking cliche of a mid life crisis. Kids leave home, left hubby, started fucking hot young guys, quit job, went travelling. But it was all planned for years (apart from the hot young guys which was just an added bonus!) so is it a midife crisis? Who cares... I'm happier now than I have ever been.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

"I am a walking cliche of a mid life crisis. Kids leave home, left hubby, started fucking hot young guys, quit job, went travelling. But it was all planned for years (apart from the hot young guys which was just an added bonus!) so is it a midife crisis? Who cares... I'm happier now than I have ever been. "

Live the dream

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I done the dishes last week.

It was then that I KNEW something was wrong.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

I think I did all the things expected of a clichéd mid-life crisis long before I reached mid-life age. Maybe that’s why I’ve been so relaxed about getting older?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well that's quite the question.

Maybe ending a ten year relationship after opening it and it failed, joining fab and settling for less than I wanted in terms of relationships, the kink, the men and women.

Or maybe I haven't had it yet?

How would I want it to be?

As least damaging to others is my answer.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

A helix piercing and fab

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By *JandCMCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

Mine (male half) was when kids left home bought myself a motorbike, first one I had in over 30 years.

Traded in the car for a BMW, then talked the wife in to meeting guys on here for MFM meets, so she would also get something aswell out of my mid-life crisis

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm not sure if mine is/ was an early mid life crisis or a late quarter life crisis.

I decided I was good enough and deserved better. Left a relationship that was crushing me, and have launched an enterprise based on my most deeply held values.

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over a year ago

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Definitely fucking people much younger than me... Fully embracing that since joining Fab!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fantastic Awesome .Just keeping going ,Wish you a Merry Christmas from BELFAST XXXX

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By *ddie1966Man
over a year ago

Paper Town Central, Essex.

Ooooooh...

You can't say mid life crisis nowadays.

It's just not PC....

You have to say bucket list...

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Ooooooh...

You can't say mid life crisis nowadays.

It's just not PC....

You have to say bucket list...

A bucket list and a mid-life crisis aren't the same thing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mine (male half) was when kids left home bought myself a motorbike, first one I had in over 30 years.

Traded in the car for a BMW, then talked the wife in to meeting guys on here for MFM meets, so she would also get something aswell out of my mid-life crisis "

Well said matey wife must be pleased with you Merry Christmas from BELFAST

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure what my mud-life crisis would be. To an extent, I think I'm definitely trying to do more now in terms of going on nights out with friends and having plans for travelling way more than I did in my early twenties when I was far more single-minded and career focused along with wanting the usual idea of getting married, having kids, live happily ever after etc.

I think once I realised the latter isn't happening immediately along with living in lockdown, I've started to enjoy life a bit more and be more outgoing

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By *oomerangbobMan
over a year ago

stanhope

Fairly sure I have been in a midlife crisis since I was about seven, fairly sure they are not meant to last this long… no Harley yet though

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

When did shopping at M&S become a mid life crisis? Food is excellent, and mens suits are very reasonable.

My ex had a mid life crisis that involved her leaving, having an affair, having plastic surgery, buying an enormous 4x4, making herself homeless, getting made bankrupt and ripping the kids out of our life together. Yeah, it was a laugh a minute time.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

I’ve got my sights set on marrying someone famous on death row.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"When did shopping at M&S become a mid life crisis? Food is excellent, and mens suits are very reasonable.

Yes. To me a mid life crisis involves outlandish and potentially irresponsible/ selfish/ destructive behaviour.

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By *obyn GravesTV/TS
over a year ago

1127 walnut avenue

Dressing up in women's clothes

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"I’ve got my sights set on marrying someone famous on death row. "
prenup?

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By *handlerMonicaCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

Had mine, stopped being a lazy slob and took up running to try and get a bit healthier. 10+ years on, and multiple ultra marathons later, I think it worked!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got my motorbike licence at 50

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I’ll let you know when I get there

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Probably this

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

New socks

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By *a1970Man
over a year ago

East cork

I want to explore sexualy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well that's quite the question.

Maybe ending a ten year relationship after opening it and it failed, joining fab and settling for less than I wanted in terms of relationships, the kink, the men and women.

Or maybe I haven't had it yet?

How would I want it to be?

As least damaging to others is my answer.

Apologies for my crap wording.

The settling for less does not apply to anything past the word relationships.

I did think the comma helped point this out.

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

I hope I don't get a bigger crisis than my gender dysphoria rearing up and forcing a life changing decision.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"What do you think will represent your midlife crisis/what did represent it?

And what do/did you WANT to represent it?

Getting a car, cats, not giving a fuck, telling that family member they are a dick, fucking people 10 years younger, shopping at M&S, quitting your job?

Mine will be crushing my body doing wheelchair sports like wheelchair rugby league and chucking myself down half-pipes etc.

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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

Ohhhhh some really varied comments!

I think mine is not giving a fuck.

In reality what I really mean is realising that caring about myself as much or more than others is preferable, not trying to please others at the sacrifice to my own happiness, being far less affected by others opinions, reinstating the sexual exploration that stalled many years before, enjoying my body and other people's bodies, not questioning other people's attraction to me, letting some relationshis and friendships drift away and accepting new ones in.

Oh and lingerie. An awful lot of lingerie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love this! Not sure if its a mid life crisis or just getting to an age where you are happier and just do things that you want to do!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve started to wank with my left hand after 40 odd years of exclusivity with my right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs approaching 40 expressed a need to be desired by other men, hence on here.

We indulged get desires but unfortunately she wasn’t satisfied and had an affair 18 months ago and now the trust has gone.

I want to carry on in the lifestyle and feel the dynamic of being lusted after but she doesn’t as she is not happy me playing with another woman even though she strayed.

So now just observing from afar, hence no pictures on our account.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"I’ve got my sights set on marrying someone famous on death row. prenup?

Nah. Go hard or go home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wearing dresses! I haven't worn dresses for over a decade. Once I started I have not stopped. I guess in a light hearted way this was my midlife crisis. Or midlife... opening of the chrysalis! I've emerged.

Tones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Took up golf. …. Again!!!!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I didn't really have one. Had my nose and tongue pierced but haven't given a fuck for many years

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I do have that urge to dye my hair crazy colours and add some more tattoos and maybe a couple of piercings but instead I buy books....

Maybe in a year or two the urges will take over and I'll have a new look

Mrs

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By *orny-DJMan
over a year ago

Leigh-on-Sea

I was too busy battling through family court to worry about a mid-life crisis

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

This is our mid-life crisis although crisis isn’t the right word.

Mid-life ‘fuck-it, let’s have some fun’ is more akin to us now.

We go to raves, dance weekenders and pretty much living our best life.

I suspect we’ll doing that until we can’t so it’s really a mid-life thing

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By *addy bareMan
over a year ago

lakeside

Had tattoos on my neck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is our mid-life crisis although crisis isn’t the right word.

Mid-life ‘fuck-it, let’s have some fun’ is more akin to us now.

We go to raves, dance weekenders and pretty much living our best life.

I suspect we’ll doing that until we can’t so it’s really a mid-life thing

I like this mid life fuck it let's have fun!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I'm not sure Amber, I'm really not sure. Hmmm.

I think I'll possibly go down the route of fucking a few younger people. Oh, I know. I'll go travelling. New Orleans finally. Do some reckless crap there and then get over myself.

I'm going to try and avoid buying a new car but that's a contender.

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By *ddie1966Man
over a year ago

Paper Town Central, Essex.

"I’ve got my sights set on marrying someone famous on death row. "

Faith, you're.... Well you....

Throwing someone a lifeline of hope then cruelly snatching it away..

Love your style

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I am going to find my self a rich women (or five), be a kept man and just used as a sex toy.

#simplePleasuresInLife

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Living life as the real me, fully embracing my sexuality.

Ruby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think mine was joining fab

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Mid-life ?

I’ve been having a crisis since I was spat out of my mum.

The mr

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Transsexual Transylvania

Apparently mine is mincing around in 3" heels, holdups and a basque.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think mine was joining fab

Do you want to completely go off the rails and say yes to a coffee one day?

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"I think mine was joining fab

Do you want to completely go off the rails and say yes to a coffee one day?

We are in the 3 year queue - reckon another couple of years might do it

You might get a fast pass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think mine was joining fab

Do you want to completely go off the rails and say yes to a coffee one day?

We are in the 3 year queue - reckon another couple of years might do it

You might get a fast pass

Haha oiiiii.. omg you guys sooooooo cheeky

It was suggested to me that i should organise a fab bongo bingo... I'm gonna take Bella, she'll love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think mine was joining fab

Do you want to completely go off the rails and say yes to a coffee one day?

Steady now

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"I think mine was joining fab

Do you want to completely go off the rails and say yes to a coffee one day?

We are in the 3 year queue - reckon another couple of years might do it

You might get a fast pass

Haha oiiiii.. omg you guys sooooooo cheeky

It was suggested to me that i should organise a fab bongo bingo... I'm gonna take Bella, she'll love it

Can I join. No funny business though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think mine was joining fab

Do you want to completely go off the rails and say yes to a coffee one day?

We are in the 3 year queue - reckon another couple of years might do it

You might get a fast pass

Haha oiiiii.. omg you guys sooooooo cheeky

It was suggested to me that i should organise a fab bongo bingo... I'm gonna take Bella, she'll love it

Can I join. No funny business though"

I'm SO tempted

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

Think mine started at 40, joined fab, changed how I dressed. Recently just before I turned 45 completely changed my hair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think mine was joining fab

Do you want to completely go off the rails and say yes to a coffee one day?

We are in the 3 year queue - reckon another couple of years might do it

You might get a fast pass

Haha. *takes a ticket and number.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think mine was joining fab

Do you want to completely go off the rails and say yes to a coffee one day?

Steady now

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"I think mine was joining fab

Do you want to completely go off the rails and say yes to a coffee one day?

We are in the 3 year queue - reckon another couple of years might do it

You might get a fast pass

Haha oiiiii.. omg you guys sooooooo cheeky

It was suggested to me that i should organise a fab bongo bingo... I'm gonna take Bella, she'll love it

Count us in - we love Bongo’s bingo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I learned to Skydive. I was bought a tandem jump for my 40th and I went on to get my A and B licences

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"I think mine was joining fab

Do you want to completely go off the rails and say yes to a coffee one day?

We are in the 3 year queue - reckon another couple of years might do it

You might get a fast pass

Haha oiiiii.. omg you guys sooooooo cheeky

It was suggested to me that i should organise a fab bongo bingo... I'm gonna take Bella, she'll love it

Can I join. No funny business though

I'm SO tempted

Hands off! We're there to play bingo and dance on benches

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exploring my bi side was my midlife crisis.

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By *BWLOVER1965Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

Thinking of lines of ford Mustang import !

Then I just bought a scaletrix

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think mine was joining fab

Do you want to completely go off the rails and say yes to a coffee one day?

We are in the 3 year queue - reckon another couple of years might do it

You might get a fast pass

Haha oiiiii.. omg you guys sooooooo cheeky

It was suggested to me that i should organise a fab bongo bingo... I'm gonna take Bella, she'll love it

Can I join. No funny business though

I'm SO tempted

Hands off! We're there to play bingo and dance on benches "

Is it a full house or room for one more?

*grabs coat.

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By *apidaryMan
over a year ago

Chipping Norton

I'm unconvinced a mid-life crisis is much more than an American cultural cliché. Happiness & unhappiness, life events, sudden insights or flashes of courage, the slow build up of interest or enthusiasm, all plunge us from time to time into new things .. as for many, encountering Fab (and the cheerful acceptance of all it implies) gave me something I didn't have at the beginning of my adult life. If I could pick an experience to plunge into that fitted the banner of mid-life crisis, I'd give everything up and head off to France or Italy to train as a chef & live like a native.

Learning to care less what other people think (except those you care about), and caring more about what your own interests are: that's been an ongoing & ever increasing pleasure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t think I had one I am pritty grounded and level headed

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

Fucking hot younger guys I suppose. And travelling to every corner of the world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My quarter life crisis was hilarious. I think my midlife crisis will probably unalive me though

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"I do have that urge to dye my hair crazy colours and add some more tattoos and maybe a couple of piercings but instead I buy books....

Maybe in a year or two the urges will take over and I'll have a new look

Mrs "

I've never dyed my hair until the last year. I've just added purple and pink to my head. I really don't give a fuck if anyone likes it or not

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By *ileen doverWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

Fucking younger guys

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Had mine about 15 years ago , i'm over it now ..just a boring old fart that knits now .

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

I think I’m on my seventh impractical sports car now. This one’s a real doozy though.

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

Oh I forgot to add getting my boobs out more often

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"I think mine was joining fab

Do you want to completely go off the rails and say yes to a coffee one day?

We are in the 3 year queue - reckon another couple of years might do it

You might get a fast pass

Haha oiiiii.. omg you guys sooooooo cheeky

It was suggested to me that i should organise a fab bongo bingo... I'm gonna take Bella, she'll love it

Can I join. No funny business though

I'm SO tempted

Hands off! We're there to play bingo and dance on benches

Is it a full house or room for one more?

*grabs coat. "

Always room for you Woody

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"Oh I forgot to add getting my boobs out more often

I approve of this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Piercings and tattoo.

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By *warf with a mulletMan
over a year ago

barry

Spending all my spare money on my fave hobby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Piercings and tattoo. "

And promiscuity

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"Piercings and tattoo. "

You hide them both well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Piercings and tattoo.

You hide them both well"

It's only a small tattoo. Next one won't be though.

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"Piercings and tattoo.

You hide them both well

It's only a small tattoo. Next one won't be though."

Ooooo

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

Dying my hair and sex with people I'm not married to. I went all in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Piercings and tattoo.

You hide them both well

It's only a small tattoo. Next one won't be though.

Ooooo"

Ahhhh

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat

Love this! Not sure if its a mid life crisis or just getting to an age where you are happier and just do things that you want to do! "

That is very true. I have friends who have confessed to me that they thought I was having an actual mid life crisis but they now think "Damn, she actually got her shit together and is doing what she has always wanted to do".

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"Piercings and tattoo.

And promiscuity "

I approve of this too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think mine is freeing myself of possessions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Finding a job I love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On that note I think those in crisis are the ones that midlife means you sit back and take it easy and fading away. My idea of crisis is not challenging myself not pushing myself and not expecting more from myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone asked me last night in a nightclub what my drag name is. I haven’t done drag for 10 years. Maybe I am a mid life crisis and need to just hettie up a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did the fancy car years ago, so that’s not applicable now.

I’m going to the gym regularly, so possibly fighting the fast-approaching onset of my 50s there….?

Keeping my fingers crossed that my proper MLC will involve ridiculous amounts of sex, but that’s looking it will need a miracle…..

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Think iv already had it

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