FabSwingers.com forum: What would you do if…

By *aith Skynbyrd OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

You liked someone here on fab but were afraid to talk to them?

Would you find a way to overcome your shyness?

Would you admire that person from afar?

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Why can't you talk to them faith are they out of your league?

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I would get over my shyness and drop them a message to say hi.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Type in sign language

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

Everyone that would fall under that category for me is hundreds of miles away. I’d feel like a pest to message most of them so I don’t

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By *outhDublinMan86Man
over a year ago

shankill

Would send them a message and wait for the inevitable “left unread”, delete or bloxk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mostly just admire from afar but have on occasion dropped them a message to compliment them and had some pretty nice responses too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm pretty good at being able to express my interest in people if I like them enough. I would reach out and talk to them.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen

"You liked someone here on fab but were afraid to talk to them?

Would you find a way to overcome your shyness?

Would you admire that person from afar?

There are a few on here I like. But it's not fear of engaging. It's practicality. Geographically there isn't much chance of probability of me travelling further than 50 miles for a meet. So I probably wouldn't start messaging. I have done to Inverness, Glasgow and Edinburgh for when I am in the area, but that isn't too often.

If I lived in West Midlands I would be laughing as the amount of couples that contact me from there is disproportionately large for some bizarre reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always try to talk to anyone I’ve liked enough to reach out.

But a better question is, how many are in your inbox that don’t stand a chance?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re on my hotlist OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being the internet and it being somewhat anonymous until you start getting to know someone by chatting in more depth…..I’m in the just message them and let them know camp. But I’m not overly bothered by rejection, which probably makes it easier for me to do so.

Doing this has connected me with a couple of people that I wouldn’t have done had I not have hit that send button.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously though I’m not telling anyone on fab I like them anymore they start acting weird.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You liked someone here on fab but were afraid to talk to them?

Would you find a way to overcome your shyness?

Would you admire that person from afar?

I appreciate your shyness Faith, but reassured it's ok to feel that way. I'm quite approachable.

Though I hate to burst your bubble, but I'm not ripped and can't do a pushup to save your life.

*Clearly this is about me*

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
over a year ago

London (She/Her)

I’m very much an admire from afar kind of person !

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"Why can't you talk to them faith are they out of your league?

OMG Fred! My gambit worked!

You’re not out of my league x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seriously though I’m not telling anyone on fab I like them anymore they start acting weird. "

Sorry Steve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always try to talk to anyone I’ve liked enough to reach out.

But a better question is, how many are in your inbox that don’t stand a chance? "

Inbox = notinbox

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"You liked someone here on fab but were afraid to talk to them?

Would you find a way to overcome your shyness?

Would you admire that person from afar?

I appreciate your shyness Faith, but reassured it's ok to feel that way. I'm quite approachable.

Though I hate to burst your bubble, but I'm not ripped and can't do a pushup to save your life.

*Clearly this is about me*"

Carly Simon wrote a song you’d enjoy

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By *hrek101Man
over a year ago

Herts

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"Seriously though I’m not telling anyone on fab I like them anymore they start acting weird. "

What constitutes “weird” on fab?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wink, and see if they wink back. If they don't then I don't message.

It happens fairly often, but I can also be too scared to message people for other reasons. Like who they are friends with for example.

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"Type in sign language "

*falls out of my chair laughing*

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By *hrek101Man
over a year ago

Herts

"You liked someone here on fab but were afraid to talk to them?

Would you find a way to overcome your shyness?

Would you admire that person from afar?

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admire from afar, always admire from afar.

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

"You liked someone here on fab but were afraid to talk to them?

Would you find a way to overcome your shyness?

Would you admire that person from afar?

I’ve actually managed to chat with people who may not have noticed me by interacting in the forum particularly the silly I fancy you threads and the like.

Oh, Hello Faith

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always try to talk to anyone I’ve liked enough to reach out.

But a better question is, how many are in your inbox that don’t stand a chance?

Inbox = notinbox "

There’s that too, I suppose it’s a bit of a paradox.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I’d send them a compliment and see how it was received - if it was just a thanks then I’d leave it and admire from afar.

If they came back with something else then that would be the conversation starter.

I’d never not message and admire from afar - rather move people off our hotlist and hopefully add to friends list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seriously though I’m not telling anyone on fab I like them anymore they start acting weird.

Sorry Steve

It was when you started messaging me first I got all discombobulated

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I might Fab a pic or 3... And reply in the forum, in the hope they get the idea!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seriously though I’m not telling anyone on fab I like them anymore they start acting weird.

What constitutes “weird” on fab?

Fair point. This place is weird

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And some you have to admire from afar. …

*looks to the side camera

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"Seriously though I’m not telling anyone on fab I like them anymore they start acting weird.

Sorry Steve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seriously though I’m not telling anyone on fab I like them anymore they start acting weird.

What constitutes “weird” on fab?

Fair point. This place is weird

I’ll send you instructions. I mastered the art a long time ago.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I wouldn't be afraid to talk to them because I tend to approach it as talking to someone with the potential of being friends. There are people I wouldn't message even if I thought they seemed interesting because... well. Reasons.

I wouldn't believe any flirting to be more than some casual (forgive me for what I'm about to type) banter. That's happened a few times and it's a delightful surprise when I find out No Meli, they do actually fancy you.

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

It doesnt do to be Shy, as a man in the swinging/kink scene.

Unless you are a subby/bottom.

I am fortunate enough to have gotten over any issues like that in my early 20s.

But OP there is no need for you to be shy, i personally think you are gorgeous.

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"I’d send them a compliment and see how it was received - if it was just a thanks then I’d leave it and admire from afar.

If they came back with something else then that would be the conversation starter.

I’d never not message and admire from afar - rather move people off our hotlist and hopefully add to friends list.

I like this approach

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

More often than not I 'admire' them from afar, simply because more often than not they are usually quite far away and that doesn't help my reticence, let alone my shyness.

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

I would just view them from afar.

I'm too shy to tell people and feel often that I wouldn't be good enough

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"I always try to talk to anyone I’ve liked enough to reach out.

But a better question is, how many are in your inbox that don’t stand a chance? "

Just you, Wuddy

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By *a1970Man
over a year ago

East cork

When your climbing a hill, reach out your hand, someone will take it to climb higher or help to bring you higher.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the peeps who just view people from afar, do you think they are just really really small?

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

"I might Fab a pic or 3... And reply in the forum, in the hope they get the idea!"

You had me at the dungarees pic.

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"All the peeps who just view people from afar, do you think they are just really really small? "

*spits tea on screen*

You’re 2 for 2 today - cracking me up - can we be friends?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always try to talk to anyone I’ve liked enough to reach out.

But a better question is, how many are in your inbox that don’t stand a chance?

Just you, Wuddy

I really shouldn’t laugh, because that cuts deep.

I’m 47, and life is short. Missed opportunities to enjoy life are fleeting by.

I remember a girl when I was younger, I fancied her so much. And a few years later her name came up in conversation and another woman told me how much she fancied me.

if one of us had said something,… you know?

We are all literally here for similar things with other people, and nobody is speaking up??

What’s wrong with people? Just go for it!

Just my opinion.

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By *uggy55TV/TS
over a year ago

Fife

It’s a tough one isn’t it. On one hand, you want to speak to them, get to know them etc. But on the other, the fear of rejection and possible block. Especially if you have been enjoying their profile and fabbing pics.

I suppose the reality is just to go for it and try speak to them. If they do go with the latter (above), then at least you would know and could move on to other wonderful people…..

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I’ll always reach out as a friend because that’s usually what has drawn me to them. But I’ll always say hello. Nothing to lose

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By *elshcouple18Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

We don't generally shy away from folk we think are 'out of our league'.. don't ask you don't get is our philosophy. A little cheeky opening message has worked for us in the past.

Go for it!! It's the season of goodwill to all..

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By *ancelotLovejoyMan
over a year ago

Penryn

Man or woman who you are admiring? I can be pretty confident on here if it’s a guy you will get a positive response. A lot of women on the other hand, not all, get inflated egos on here because they’re outnumbered. Just an observation

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Pluck up the courage to send a message - never know where it may lead!

Took me 6 months from an initial coffee meet to reconnect with my current partner due to one thing or another, sent a simple message asking ‘has our ship sailed or fancy meeting again?’

Almost 2 years down the line we’re still going strong

Bite the bullet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always try to talk to anyone I’ve liked enough to reach out.

But a better question is, how many are in your inbox that don’t stand a chance?

Just you, Wuddy

I really shouldn’t laugh, because that cuts deep.

I’m 47, and life is short. Missed opportunities to enjoy life are fleeting by.

I remember a girl when I was younger, I fancied her so much. And a few years later her name came up in conversation and another woman told me how much she fancied me.

if one of us had said something,… you know?

We are all literally here for similar things with other people, and nobody is speaking up??

What’s wrong with people? Just go for it!

Just my opinion. "

* Glow is 50. Starts frantically messaging people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I admire from afar.

My profile is honest and I’m sure puts people off

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Why can't you talk to them faith are they out of your league?

OMG Fred! My gambit worked!

You’re not out of my league x"
lol

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Seriously though I’m not telling anyone on fab I like them anymore they start acting weird.

What constitutes “weird” on fab?

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In the words of the Walrus "you then me then everything"

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"Mostly just admire from afar but have on occasion dropped them a message to compliment them and had some pretty nice responses too

I like this approach. Compliments cost nothing, do they.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stay quiet and perve when I could

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"I wink, and see if they wink back. If they don't then I don't message.

It happens fairly often, but I can also be too scared to message people for other reasons. Like who they are friends with for example."

Ha… yeah. Known by the company we keep. Makes sense to me.

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"You liked someone here on fab but were afraid to talk to them?

Would you find a way to overcome your shyness?

Would you admire that person from afar?

I’ve actually managed to chat with people who may not have noticed me by interacting in the forum particularly the silly I fancy you threads and the like.

Oh, Hello Faith

Hi yourself

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"I might Fab a pic or 3... And reply in the forum, in the hope they get the idea!"

Forum flirting… this could work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You liked someone here on fab but were afraid to talk to them?

Would you find a way to overcome your shyness?

Would you admire that person from afar?

Just message me, I'll always reply

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Transsexual Transylvania

S.O.P. - hide behind facetious comments until summoning up the courage to invite them to tongue punch my fart box (to coin a phrase).

* haven't actually got as far as the last bit - results may vary.

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"I would just view them from afar.

I'm too shy to tell people and feel often that I wouldn't be good enough

*offers you a booby hug*

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"S.O.P. - hide behind facetious comments until summoning up the courage to invite them to tongue punch my fart box (to coin a phrase).

* haven't actually got as far as the last bit - results may vary."

Omg! And what a phrase it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pluck up the courage to send a message - never know where it may lead!

Took me 6 months from an initial coffee meet to reconnect with my current partner due to one thing or another, sent a simple message asking ‘has our ship sailed or fancy meeting again?’

Almost 2 years down the line we’re still going strong

Bite the bullet

xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Watch and message when a good opportunity strikes. A thing to bring you closer, whether it's reaching out in sadness or appreciating something, anything really what's common ground. That's when the bond might spark or fade for good. You can sit here wondering what if or you can have a real go and real answers.

So be shy/scared/whatever else but still do it, never mind trembling hands and burning cheeks;) quick. Before you change your mind.

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"Pluck up the courage to send a message - never know where it may lead!

Took me 6 months from an initial coffee meet to reconnect with my current partner due to one thing or another, sent a simple message asking ‘has our ship sailed or fancy meeting again?’

Almost 2 years down the line we’re still going strong

Bite the bullet

xx"

Oh wow, that’s inspiring. Congratulations to you both.

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"Watch and message when a good opportunity strikes. A thing to bring you closer, whether it's reaching out in sadness or appreciating something, anything really what's common ground. That's when the bond might spark or fade for good. You can sit here wondering what if or you can have a real go and real answers.

So be shy/scared/whatever else but still do it, never mind trembling hands and burning cheeks;) quick. Before you change your mind.

Reaching out in sadness?

Well, I DO have dacryphilia… this is an option! Thank you!!

(dacryphilia = crying turns me on)

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"I’ll always reach out as a friend because that’s usually what has drawn me to them. But I’ll always say hello. Nothing to lose

This is also a point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi OP I shot my shot like I’m Devin Booker so can I bag you?

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

Devin who?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So be shy/scared/whatever else but still do it, never mind trembling hands and burning cheeks;) quick. Before you change your mind.

Reaching out in sadness?

Well, I DO have dacryphilia… this is an option! Thank you!!

(dacryphilia = crying turns me on)

The way I describe things sometimes

I meant, I've reached out in the past to someone I fancied who shared a sad experience in the public post because I was able to connect over it. Since I avoid sharing much publicly - this was a good "excuse" to write and chat without being too all over him.

Thanks for explaining - I didnt know the word

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Devin who?"

Nvm

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

"You liked someone here on fab but were afraid to talk to them?

Would you find a way to overcome your shyness?

Would you admire that person from afar?

I'm not shy of anyone!

We are all humans at the end of the day. Maybe when I was early 20s I could be a little like that but now, god no. No fear!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You liked someone here on fab but were afraid to talk to them?

Would you find a way to overcome your shyness?

Would you admire that person from afar?

Nothing ventured nothing gained

I often see folk on the forums and will wait a time before messaging not through shyness more to see if we have things in common

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I wouldn't be afraid to talk to them

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By *uggy55TV/TS
over a year ago

Fife

Engaging with people over forums is also a good opportunity to start up a conversation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of great advice on here.

Which I intend to ignore and start a thread moaning about fab.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"I might Fab a pic or 3... And reply in the forum, in the hope they get the idea!

You had me at the dungarees pic.

Surprisingly popular! Who knew?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I’d probably fab a pic

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

So be shy/scared/whatever else but still do it, never mind trembling hands and burning cheeks;) quick. Before you change your mind.

Reaching out in sadness?

Well, I DO have dacryphilia… this is an option! Thank you!!

(dacryphilia = crying turns me on)

The way I describe things sometimes

Thanks for explaining - I didnt know the word

Lol - no I knew what you meant. And thanks for sharing - it’s good advice.

But also I couldn’t resist the opportunity to broadcast to the forums about my obscure fetish which I most definitely have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But also I couldn’t resist the opportunity to broadcast to the forums about my obscure fetish which I most definitely have."

You prompted me to find out more so thank you.

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"It happens fairly often, but I can also be too scared to message people for other reasons. Like who they are friends with for example."

This is interesting.

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

"Pluck up the courage to send a message - never know where it may lead!

Took me 6 months from an initial coffee meet to reconnect with my current partner due to one thing or another, sent a simple message asking ‘has our ship sailed or fancy meeting again?’

Almost 2 years down the line we’re still going strong

Bite the bullet

Oh wow, that’s inspiring. Congratulations to you both. "

Thank you lovely x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm never afraid to talk to them, it's more preparing myself for the thanks, but no thanks...

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

I think that I would just send them a wink, to break the ice that way, to show my interest

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I admire everyone from afar mostly because they are too far.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would be very shy, I don't know what to say with sounding bland. But once I actually get to know someone and am comfortable I'm really chatty and open and can have an amazingly deep conversation. I generally admire send a wink and see if they wink back and then try strike up a chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All the peeps who just view people from afar, do you think they are just really really small? "

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Semaphore?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, I sometimes "admire people from afar".... Because sometimes I think some hot guys are out of my league going by the model type super gym fit women they have met....

I'm more comfortable just "admiring them from afar" as I feel I would feel quite inferior as I would & have compared myself to the super hot women they have met....

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By *obyn GravesTV/TS
over a year ago

1127 walnut avenue

This is a sex hook up site.. I'm not afraid to talk to anyone ..if they're looking to meet I'll drop them a message...a lot of times I'll get ignored or they'll not be interested..but that's how the game is played... sometimes I'll pick a winner..

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

Nobody is out of anybody's league, send them a message, the worst that can happen is no reply which is the same as not sending it.

Best case they reply, like to meet and you have mind-blowing sex.

Send the message.

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

"Pluck up the courage to send a message - never know where it may lead!

Took me 6 months from an initial coffee meet to reconnect with my current partner due to one thing or another, sent a simple message asking ‘has our ship sailed or fancy meeting again?’

Almost 2 years down the line we’re still going strong

Bite the bullet

xx"

Kind of forced to admire from afar, 320+ miles away

But seriously, if we were visiting the area, or you were in our area, we wouldn't hesitate to ask if you wanted to meet up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You liked someone here on fab but were afraid to talk to them?

Would you find a way to overcome your shyness?

Would you admire that person from afar?

Fab is faceless digitally. Make a move, worst that will happen is they irnore or say no. They don’t know who you are. Go for it. If you like someone give them a wee wink to start with. R

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

I'd probably admire from afar.

I very rarely message anyone on here now. Women and couples get bombarded with messages so I just leave them be and sit tight. The ones who are confident enough will either send a wink or message me. At least this way I know they're attracted to me in some shape or form.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Everyone that would fall under that category for me is hundreds of miles away. I’d feel like a pest to message most of them so I don’t

Do it anyway, I do. And it has great results for the most part.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one is that good looking on here.

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Pluck up the courage to send a message - never know where it may lead!

Took me 6 months from an initial coffee meet to reconnect with my current partner due to one thing or another, sent a simple message asking ‘has our ship sailed or fancy meeting again?’

Almost 2 years down the line we’re still going strong

Bite the bullet

Oh wow, that’s inspiring. Congratulations to you both. "

Patience and good timing is always helpful. If we’d got together at the initial meet I suspect the dynamic would have been different. And less that what we ended up with. Fortune favours the bold and patient.

And yes, I was shooting above (in my mind).

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"Pluck up the courage to send a message - never know where it may lead!

Took me 6 months from an initial coffee meet to reconnect with my current partner due to one thing or another, sent a simple message asking ‘has our ship sailed or fancy meeting again?’

Almost 2 years down the line we’re still going strong

Bite the bullet

Oh wow, that’s inspiring. Congratulations to you both.

And yes, I was shooting above (in my mind). "

So sweet… glad it worked out for you two.

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"No one is that good looking on here. "

It’s not just about looks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You liked someone here on fab but were afraid to talk to them?

Would you find a way to overcome your shyness?

Would you admire that person from afar?

I don't have that problem after some training.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send a wink and hope for the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No one is that good looking on here.

It’s not just about looks

Yeah, I'm only interested in the good looking ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP, I sometimes "admire people from afar".... Because sometimes I think some hot guys are out of my league going by the model type super gym fit women they have met....

I'm more comfortable just "admiring them from afar" as I feel I would feel quite inferior as I would & have compared myself to the super hot women they have met...."

I once thought that way, and probably still do.

And I know this will blow smoke yo someone’s ass

*takes a deep breath

But, there’s one or two here that I thought would never look twice at me, and for some unknown reason, I got a kiss….

Maybe they were desperate or it was a bet, I dunno, but my point is, you really don’t know how people find people attractive.

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By *eronicaExplorerWoman
over a year ago

London

I would Fab a photo without any luck ( I did it a time ago)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No one is that good looking on here.

It’s not just about looks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would Fab a photo without any luck ( I did it a time ago) "

You could be the 1st to fab my Xmas pic!! Go on, I dare you.

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By *ngels and DevilsCouple
over a year ago

The South West

A nice message and hope it’s seen?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No one is that good looking on here.

It’s not just about looks

Yeah, I'm only interested in the good looking ones."

That’s me out. All I have is my boyish good looks.

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By *BWLOVER1965Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

"You liked someone here on fab but were afraid to talk to them?

Would you find a way to overcome your shyness?

Would you admire that person from afar?

I don’t message random women always stick to my age or older

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By *atinbootsTV/TS
over a year ago

Market Rasen

Seems it might be better to just be up front and make contact and accept whatever will be will be. If it’s meant to be, it’ll find a way. If it’s not, at least you know. Don’t waste years wondering or being scared to find out.

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By *drian52Man
over a year ago

Derby

Hmmmmm!? Add to my hotlist, maybe wink, look for a connection in their profile, I do read them

but am not thirsty and if no reply respect that. As a single man I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea

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By *eronicaExplorerWoman
over a year ago

London

"I would Fab a photo without any luck ( I did it a time ago)

You could be the 1st to fab my Xmas pic!! Go on, I dare you.

Done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i had intention of meeting i would message.. If i didn't intend to meet, i would leave them be

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By *ags73Man
over a year ago

glasgow-ish

"I would just view them from afar.

I'm too shy to tell people and feel often that I wouldn't be good enough

That would be my answer. Sometimes that’s all I can do.

In real life, I’ve did that too, think someone is amazing but not have ability to say.

Sometimes we put people on a pedestal and they’re just not aware that others think that way about them. It’s a very human thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You liked someone here on fab but were afraid to talk to them?

Would you find a way to overcome your shyness?

Would you admire that person from afar?

Just ask go on be brave not rude .

Wish you all the best

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian

"You liked someone here on fab but were afraid to talk to them?

Would you find a way to overcome your shyness?

Would you admire that person from afar?

Considering 99% of men get ignored I wouldn’t risk it , reached out a few times and only one or two special ladies came through..

I admire most from afar , safer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would Fab a photo without any luck ( I did it a time ago)

You could be the 1st to fab my Xmas pic!! Go on, I dare you.

Done

I feel like I backed you into a corner.

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

"Pluck up the courage to send a message - never know where it may lead!

Took me 6 months from an initial coffee meet to reconnect with my current partner due to one thing or another, sent a simple message asking ‘has our ship sailed or fancy meeting again?’

Almost 2 years down the line we’re still going strong

Bite the bullet

Oh wow, that’s inspiring. Congratulations to you both.

And yes, I was shooting above (in my mind). "

Your aim is always on point

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By *eronicaExplorerWoman
over a year ago

London

"I would Fab a photo without any luck ( I did it a time ago)

You could be the 1st to fab my Xmas pic!! Go on, I dare you.

Done

I feel like I backed you into a corner. "

Glad you did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You liked someone here on fab but were afraid to talk to them?

Would you find a way to overcome your shyness?

Would you admire that person from afar?

I appreciate your shyness Faith, but reassured it's ok to feel that way. I'm quite approachable.

Though I hate to burst your bubble, but I'm not ripped and can't do a pushup to save your life.

*Clearly this is about me*

Carly Simon wrote a song you’d enjoy

Clearly "nobody does it better"

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By *KTim61Man
over a year ago

Tipton

"Would send them a message and wait for the inevitable “left unread”, delete or bloxk"

DITTO

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By *iBeRtInE70Man
over a year ago

around

"You liked someone here on fab but were afraid to talk to them?

Would you find a way to overcome your shyness?

Would you admire that person from afar?

I've done both previously.. I have a few know my hotlist that I've never reached out to but on the flipside I have met some great folks I got on with (albeit not on a sexual level)

I think time tends to overcome the fear of rejection (I'm no expert though)

I think every individual has their own nerves and its down to your comfort level

Happy fabbing though and enjoy the journey

Ps loved your profile keep being you

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Isn't the established tradition to fab all of their pics and to then wink at them every day?

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

If I'm too scared to talk to someone, then something else is wrong and that's my gut saying no, always listen to your gut x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I'm too scared to talk to someone, then something else is wrong and that's my gut saying no, always listen to your gut x"

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

I dont do shyness iv already embarrassed myself more the last few years to worry over telling someone id poke the tip in

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"Everyone that would fall under that category for me is hundreds of miles away. I’d feel like a pest to message most of them so I don’t

You never know if you don't try

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

"I dont do shyness iv already embarrassed myself more the last few years to worry over telling someone id poke the tip in"
also have 37 cock pics for her to admire works too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would Fab a photo without any luck ( I did it a time ago)

You could be the 1st to fab my Xmas pic!! Go on, I dare you.

Done

I feel like I backed you into a corner.

Glad you did "

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By *_elia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

I've never ever shy away from contacting someone who is interesting exciting and someone I'd like to get to know and perhaps meet.

A written email or message is one of the easiest non confrontation modern forms of intercommunication platforms.

The key is to accept that you may not receive a response or be rejected or blocked.

If can accept the rejection, you gain confidence in approach technique.

What is for you won't pass you by, but nothing comes to those to wait. So you must make the effort first.

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
over a year ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

I would/will continue to admire from afar. I might send a wink if I'm feeling brave but would never message them

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By *hrek101Man
over a year ago

Herts

"I always try to talk to anyone I’ve liked enough to reach out.

But a better question is, how many are in your inbox that don’t stand a chance?

Just you, Wuddy

I really shouldn’t laugh, because that cuts deep.

I’m 47, and life is short. Missed opportunities to enjoy life are fleeting by.

I remember a girl when I was younger, I fancied her so much. And a few years later her name came up in conversation and another woman told me how much she fancied me.

if one of us had said something,… you know?

We are all literally here for similar things with other people, and nobody is speaking up??

What’s wrong with people? Just go for it!

Just my opinion. "
you are a 100% correct but then that little voice pops into my head and........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pluck up the courage to send a message - never know where it may lead!

Took me 6 months from an initial coffee meet to reconnect with my current partner due to one thing or another, sent a simple message asking ‘has our ship sailed or fancy meeting again?’

Almost 2 years down the line we’re still going strong

Bite the bullet

xx"

Took me 2 minutes to pluck up the courage to say "wow" the videos on your profile are *gulp* ... awesome.

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By *ddie1966Man
over a year ago

Paper Town Central, Essex.

There's no such thing as "Out of my league".

This is the 21st century, woman.

If he's too slow on the uptake then It's his loss and he's probably blind.

Drop him a message and have done.

You're a strong woman in more ways than one.

Go on. You can do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You liked someone here on fab but were afraid to talk to them?

Would you find a way to overcome your shyness?

Would you admire that person from afar?

If they were a regular on the forum, then it would be easier as you can reply to their comments as well as others. Youre then able to start a rapport that way, as opposed to going through messages and being lost among all the other ones.

If they aren't on the forum or on the forum much, then that would be different, I'd need to get a grip of myself and give it a go. As what would I have to lose? Nothing really, as I could still perve on them from afar (if they haven't blocked me). However, what could I gain.....the possibilities are endless.

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By *urious is the VoyeurMan
over a year ago

Rickmansworth

"You liked someone here on fab but were afraid to talk to them?

Would you find a way to overcome your shyness?

Would you admire that person from afar?

Start with something simple like we have the same haircut, so I could help you with the bits that are hard to see

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