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"You aren't special it happens to everyone!" Hell yes. Preach, sister. | |||
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"Aaah I won't reply to all but keep it coming I think for me it depends who is texting! And why. " How many DMs have you had so far? | |||
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"Please keep it in my DM I wish. " That's a thread idea. Please keep it in my DM. Say something to someone privately you aren't able to on the public forum? If you are in - be prepared for everything just brainstorming out loud. | |||
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"Aaah I won't reply to all but keep it coming I think for me it depends who is texting! And why. How many DMs have you had so far?" Shhhh don't give them ideas. This wasn't the point | |||
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"That's a thread idea. Please keep it in my DM. Say something to someone privately you aren't able to on the public forum? If you are in - be prepared for everything just brainstorming out loud. " Do it. Start the thread. | |||
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"Please keep it in my DM I wish. " Apparently I need to do this, seems my thread ideas come about from things said to me in private! (note I do not disclose things said to me in confidence, all details are private. Just the topic is inspired by conversations). | |||
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"OK. Additional question - if you chose to message via thread - what is it usually what stops you from putting it on the thread and chosing DM instead? I don't mean messaging your friends! " I’m an extrovert, basically. | |||
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"That's a thread idea. Please keep it in my DM. Say something to someone privately you aren't able to on the public forum? If you are in - be prepared for everything just brainstorming out loud. Do it. Start the thread. " It's Woody's if he wants it. If he doesn't- up for grabs two threads a day is more than enough. | |||
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"What... you mean people get messages ? Fuck sake. " Just because you don’t read yours … | |||
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"OK. Additional question - if you chose to message via thread - what is it usually what stops you from putting it on the thread and chosing DM instead? I don't mean messaging your friends! " Sensitive or private things that I feel may help the discussion (topic depending), sharing a similar experience for example. | |||
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"OK. Additional question - if you chose to message via thread - what is it usually what stops you from putting it on the thread and chosing DM instead? I don't mean messaging your friends! Sensitive or private things that I feel may help the discussion (topic depending), sharing a similar experience for example. " A little gift of trust then. That's my usual reason too. Or not wanting to bump a particular thread for the 100th time seeing I already replied. And then remembered something. And then something else. | |||
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"Aaah I won't reply to all but keep it coming I think for me it depends who is texting! And why. How many DMs have you had so far? Shhhh don't give them ideas. This wasn't the point " It was the first thing I thought to be honest. Don't press that red button... | |||
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"I have 2 gripes about it. The small gripe is when people contributing on the thread private message. I usually ignore them. What irritates me more is lurkers who read the thread, don't contribute and then private message. I struggle to work out their motivation. All in all, I tend not to let fab bug me too much, as it kind of defeats the point of it for me. " I had in the past dms from people who weren't able to post in the forum but wanted to add something to discussion too. | |||
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"I do it so we can indulge in some behind the scenes gossip " I'm all ears | |||
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"I don't normally mind a DM if the rest of the thread has moved on but someone has something interesting to say about what I posted. If it could easily be part of the thread then it annoys me. Or if someone's looking for wank material. J" Or its a message on the topic but with a face and cock pic attached from the get go! | |||
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"It normally doesn't bother me and I usually only contact friends and never people I've never spoken to before. The funniest experience I've had with this and only the second time I've used the keep it in the thread comment was last year when an angry woman started a thread to complain about this very issue and how ridiculous it was. I commented with a response similar to my first paragraph here and said it wasn't a big issue for me. Within minutes she messaged me to say I wouldn't say that if I was a woman being pestered all the time. I honestly don't think she could see the irony and she really wasn't happy when I told her to keep it in the thread. " That's some story The irony indeed. I'm not negative about it as such..only in specific circumstances. Just wondered how the forum feels | |||
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"What... you mean people get messages ? Fuck sake. Just because you don’t read yours … " No need to be so accurate and personal | |||
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"The only time it really bothers me is when someone is clearly using mental health threads to get into your inbox. Not long before these messages turn sexual which makes me doubt the original thread in the first place." Ugh. Picking someone fragile in the hope of cheering her up method ? | |||
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"What... you mean people get messages ? Fuck sake. Just because you don’t read yours … No need to be so accurate and personal " You read mine though, so it's okay | |||
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"What... you mean people get messages ? Fuck sake. Just because you don’t read yours … No need to be so accurate and personal You read mine though, so it's okay " You two are doing so well keeping it on the thread | |||
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"I don't mind people saying something to me privately, but if it's a response to a question then I ask them to reply on the thread. The point of threads are discussions, but some things can't be said in public. " So where is the line? Sometimes I wonder if someone is rolling their eyes at me as they might think .. gosh she could have just replied in the post, but they don't really know my reasoning for the private message. The sharing act might seem trivial on the surface but it can be still something difficult for the sharer? | |||
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"The only time it really bothers me is when someone is clearly using mental health threads to get into your inbox. Not long before these messages turn sexual which makes me doubt the original thread in the first place. Ugh. Picking someone fragile in the hope of cheering her up method ? " In my experience it's when I've posted a supportive message to a man who was struggling and then had a want to meet message from him. J | |||
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"What... you mean people get messages ? Fuck sake. Just because you don’t read yours … No need to be so accurate and personal You read mine though, so it's okay You two are doing so well keeping it on the thread " Thanks | |||
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"Not guilty for doing. And none received... What's the etiquette for status? My fingers get a bit twitchy towards a message on some status updates but I don't want to be a nuisance. Oh and sorry, did not keep on the thread topic " It's perfectly fine Good fun. Ps. I don't know the "correct" answer. Just dive in ! | |||
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"Not guilty for doing. And none received... What's the etiquette for status? My fingers get a bit twitchy towards a message on some status updates but I don't want to be a nuisance. Oh and sorry, did not keep on the thread topic It's perfectly fine Good fun. Ps. I don't know the "correct" answer. Just dive in ! " Your fingers get bitchy rather than twitchy, but I'll put so I get away with it | |||
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"Not guilty for doing. And none received... What's the etiquette for status? My fingers get a bit twitchy towards a message on some status updates but I don't want to be a nuisance. Oh and sorry, did not keep on the thread topic It's perfectly fine Good fun. Ps. I don't know the "correct" answer. Just dive in ! Your fingers get bitchy rather than twitchy, but I'll put so I get away with it " Well spotted Funny you say that. I've told Miles today it's highest time for him to get a dog so he can boss it around. His reply was - I already have one bitch to train | |||
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"I don't mind people saying something to me privately, but if it's a response to a question then I ask them to reply on the thread. The point of threads are discussions, but some things can't be said in public. So where is the line? Sometimes I wonder if someone is rolling their eyes at me as they might think .. gosh she could have just replied in the post, but they don't really know my reasoning for the private message. The sharing act might seem trivial on the surface but it can be still something difficult for the sharer?" If it's something that can be said on a post then it shouldn't be said in private. | |||
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"I have 2 gripes about it. The small gripe is when people contributing on the thread private message. I usually ignore them. What irritates me more is lurkers who read the thread, don't contribute and then private message. I struggle to work out their motivation. All in all, I tend not to let fab bug me too much, as it kind of defeats the point of it for me. " Agreed! | |||
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"I have 2 gripes about it. The small gripe is when people contributing on the thread private message. I usually ignore them. What irritates me more is lurkers who read the thread, don't contribute and then private message. I struggle to work out their motivation. All in all, I tend not to let fab bug me too much, as it kind of defeats the point of it for me. I had in the past dms from people who weren't able to post in the forum but wanted to add something to discussion too." I should have clarified, lurkers often use the thread to dm, but the message itself is usually a "nice tits" or some such drivel. | |||
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"I have 2 gripes about it. The small gripe is when people contributing on the thread private message. I usually ignore them. What irritates me more is lurkers who read the thread, don't contribute and then private message. I struggle to work out their motivation. All in all, I tend not to let fab bug me too much, as it kind of defeats the point of it for me. I had in the past dms from people who weren't able to post in the forum but wanted to add something to discussion too. I should have clarified, lurkers often use the thread to dm, but the message itself is usually a "nice tits" or some such drivel. " Exactly this | |||
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"What... you mean people get messages ? Fuck sake. Just because you don’t read yours … " Hey Rise Tinted Glasses, leave the key with the porter and don't forget to turn the stove off Btw what is this thread about? | |||
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