FabSwingers.com forum: Someone of the opposite sex pinches your bottom at work

By *andadbod OP Man
49 weeks ago

Liverpool

I’m gunna assume a certain pattern on this one.

How would you react?

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

Again, punch in the mouth

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By *awsCouple
49 weeks ago

banbury

How you doin !

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

That’s not even unusual, the office women at work events get fucking wild

Id just ignore it. Kicking up a fuss isn’t going to result in me winning when it’s a woman vs me

I can accept the odd bum pinch to keep things calm

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By *entlemanrogueMan
49 weeks ago

Motherwell

For one gender it would be entirely unacceptable.

The other gender claims it is just a bit of fun, and thr victim shouldn't be so uptight.

Different rules for different fools.

Of one of the women in my office pinched my arse, i would likely say, ok, my turn, turn around.

But then my entire office know i am kinky so they would likely expec that.

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By *aughtycouple1008Couple
49 weeks ago

west london

Happened to me .Ricky ....she was very sexy. So one day I did the same and she smiled. Then a naughty grope every now and then f her arse to which she smiled.

Jokingly she said she needs a massage....so I started massaging her shoulders and got an erection.

Two days later I left for a better job lol....

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

Again report them sexual harassment is sexual harassment no matter what

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

If she's cute, tall and muscular then hell yeah that sounds awesome! If she aint then probably report to HR for sexual harrassment.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
49 weeks ago

Leeds

Slap across the face

Mrs

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By *otsossieMan
49 weeks ago

local, but not too local

That would entirely depend upon who it was. I’d probably laugh and chat to them.

It’s sadly never the “right” ones

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

I'd probably laugh it off.

I used to work in an office where the boss would come along in his wheelchair and slap my arse as I was bent over filing.

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By *ellinever70Woman
49 weeks ago

Ayrshire

"I'd probably laugh it off.

I used to work in an office where the boss would come along in his wheelchair and slap my arse as I was bent over filing."

You don't see an issue with that?

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

Usually when out of a drink get my ass pinched quite a bit. Not bothered

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By *ools and the brainCouple
49 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

Shout in a very loud voice in the style of a Victorian "OH HOW VERY DARE YOU"

then pretend to faint causing a right scene and demand the rest of the day off and compensation for the emotional trauma.

Maybe discreetly ask the person if they think it is appropriate in the workplace in 2023 and could they stop.

Speak to your line manager

Ignore, hopefully they will get the message

If you want to be really extreme go to the police and get them arrested for assault.

Next time,fart as they do it.

It's all probably in your head and just a wank fantasy

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

I’d take it as a compliment and ask her out for a drink.

I certainly wouldn’t overact and cry like a baby

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By *mf123Man
49 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

Id ignore it just incase it was a mozzie biting my bum

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
49 weeks ago

Leeds

Bang her in the bog, obviously.

The mr

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

Good on ya

"I'd probably laugh it off.

I used to work in an office where the boss would come along in his wheelchair and slap my arse as I was bent over filing."

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"I'd probably laugh it off.

I used to work in an office where the boss would come along in his wheelchair and slap my arse as I was bent over filing.

You don't see an issue with that?"

No. It was a lot of years ago and those things were accepted. Same as getting wild whistled at. I didn't see either as an issue and Im certainly not going to make myself feel as if I was a victim.

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By *ellinever70Woman
49 weeks ago

Ayrshire

"I'd probably laugh it off.

I used to work in an office where the boss would come along in his wheelchair and slap my arse as I was bent over filing.

You don't see an issue with that?

No. It was a lot of years ago and those things were accepted. Same as getting wild whistled at. I didn't see either as an issue and Im certainly not going to make myself feel as if I was a victim. "

How would you feel about them happening now?

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

When it’s happened before it’s been complete strangers and I’ve always had mixed emotions and kind of just got on with it partly because was too busy. Partly flattered when a women’s done it as a straight guy but also didn’t feel good when it was a man.

I guess it’s a case of whether it’s wanted or not, but given you can’t mind read, go with the safe option and don’t feel them up.

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

It’s only sexual harassment if you deem it unwelcome and inappropriate.

"Again report them sexual harassment is sexual harassment no matter what "

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"I'd probably laugh it off.

I used to work in an office where the boss would come along in his wheelchair and slap my arse as I was bent over filing.

You don't see an issue with that?

No. It was a lot of years ago and those things were accepted. Same as getting wild whistled at. I didn't see either as an issue and Im certainly not going to make myself feel as if I was a victim.

How would you feel about them happening now?"

Like I said, I would laugh it off. I've had all sorts done to me in the workplace, including pushed against a wall and marker pen drawn on my face. I knew it was just banter and not meant maliciously.

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

As I heard the slap sound I’d probably have flash backs of times I’ve previously heard that sound … oh such good memories

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

So we're all on a site looking to fuck strangers 1-on-1 or in groups but pinching someone's bum is unacceptable??

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By *ora the explorerWoman
49 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"So we're all on a site looking to fuck strangers 1-on-1 or in groups but pinching someone's bum is unacceptable?? "

That’s a bit of a lame argument! Of course it’s not acceptable!! Although I’m with Ruby on this. If I didn’t like it I’d give them a mouthful or a slap. I wouldn’t be running to the police

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By *use and wolfCouple
49 weeks ago

angus

"I’m gunna assume a certain pattern on this one.

How would you react?"

Worked in the licenced trade in one way or another, DJ, security too. Professionally, every time (women pinch bouncers bums more than any other staff members in my experience).

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By *alandNitaCouple
49 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

"I’m gunna assume a certain pattern on this one.

How would you react?"

It would depend 100% on the relationship I have with the individual.

Cal

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By *illy IdolMan
49 weeks ago

Midlands

"If she's cute, tall and muscular then hell yeah that sounds awesome! If she aint then probably report to HR for sexual harrassment."

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
49 weeks ago

ashford

Give them a smile x

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By *illy IdolMan
49 weeks ago

Midlands

"So we're all on a site looking to fuck strangers 1-on-1 or in groups but pinching someone's bum is unacceptable??

If you didn't like it?

Behave Nora

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By *ora the explorerWoman
49 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"So we're all on a site looking to fuck strangers 1-on-1 or in groups but pinching someone's bum is unacceptable??

If you didn't like it?

Behave Nora"

. I probably wouldn’t like it to be fair. They wouldn’t do it again though that’s for sure

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"It’s only sexual harassment if you deem it unwelcome and inappropriate.

Again report them sexual harassment is sexual harassment no matter what "

If I don’t give permission touch then it’s unwelcome and inappropriate

No means no

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By *otsossieMan
49 weeks ago

local, but not too local

"So we're all on a site looking to fuck strangers 1-on-1 or in groups but pinching someone's bum is unacceptable?? "

Context is everything.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
49 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

"So we're all on a site looking to fuck strangers 1-on-1 or in groups but pinching someone's bum is unacceptable?? "

I think the difference is consent.

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By *entlemanrogueMan
49 weeks ago

Motherwell

"So we're all on a site looking to fuck strangers 1-on-1 or in groups but pinching someone's bum is unacceptable??

I think the difference is consent.

Surely by now, everyone know consent is crucial ffs.

If not, they should hide their profile, read, learn, return as a better human.

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

I really think it's a case of knowing your audience. Some people will be offended, others wouldnt. Choose very carefully.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
49 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"I really think it's a case of knowing your audience. Some people will be offended, others wouldnt. Choose very carefully."

Definitely this

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

Confusing thread

So touching someone without their consent is ok as long as you think you know your audience and that they might like it

Yikes

And we wonder why we still need conversations about consent

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"I really think it's a case of knowing your audience. Some people will be offended, others wouldnt. Choose very carefully."

Only sexually assault those who you think will let you get away with it. Solid advice

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By *LiamMan
49 weeks ago

Midlands

Never going to happen at my workplace

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By *esafinadOHolyNightMan
49 weeks ago

Belfast

I'd be less inclined to give off seriously about it, as is my nature, but I would make the comparison to how they might feel had someone pinched theirs without asking.

Then I'd tell my mates that night that some girl pinched my ass at work and we'd all have a good laugh about it lol

It is indeed strange how all genders don't respond in the same way to this type of thing.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
49 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"Confusing thread

So touching someone without their consent is ok as long as you think you know your audience and that they might like it

Yikes

And we wonder why we still need conversations about consent "

I’m good thanks. You carry on with your conversations and taking things out of context.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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49 weeks ago

East Sussex

Does this still happen? Blimey

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By *orphia2003Woman
49 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

They would get a thump.

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By *ent57Man
49 weeks ago

... where the streets have no name!

"Does this still happen? Blimey"

I was thinking the same ... you'd have to be brave and/or daft to do it now (quite rightly). I was an offender in the past... but those were different times.

I was also subject to such behaviour when working in a factory where the ratio of F to M was something like 30:1 ... I suppose it was down to who did the grabbing whether I liked it or not!

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By *2000ManMan
49 weeks ago

Worthing

Ignore it.

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

Be very happy and hope she’s someone I fancy

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49 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"Confusing thread

So touching someone without their consent is ok as long as you think you know your audience and that they might like it

Yikes

And we wonder why we still need conversations about consent "

When I met my husband I actually slid my arm around his waist to let him know I was very interested. I didn't ask first. Better hang me now eh.

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
49 weeks ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

Ugly Betty would welcome this interaction, but if I'm at work or in man clothes for any reason, she would be informed that were the genders to he reversed, I would likely get into a lot of trouble & just because she is a woman, that does not make it okay to touch someone there without consent.

I wouldn't take it any further than that, but would be left with feelings of confusion & displeasement.

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By *ris GrayMan
49 weeks ago

Dorchester

"Confusing thread

So touching someone without their consent is ok as long as you think you know your audience and that they might like it

Yikes

And we wonder why we still need conversations about consent "
Its not about consent its about thought if your thought process is ungentlemanly then you would consider pinching a woman's bum but if its the opposite you wouldn't i certainly have never even considered this as an option unless i knew that person very well and in this day and age a lot of women would have you arrested

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By *orny-DJMan
49 weeks ago

Leigh-on-Sea

It's unacceptable in the workplace, though it's unlikely that many men would complain if a woman pinched their bum, it is still considered sexual harrassment whomever is doing it

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By *rispyDuckMan
49 weeks ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Be filing a compliant!!!!

At least buy me dinner 1st before grabbing my cakes

(if they are fit ofcourse)

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"Confusing thread

So touching someone without their consent is ok as long as you think you know your audience and that they might like it

Yikes

And we wonder why we still need conversations about consent Its not about consent its about thought if your thought process is ungentlemanly then you would consider pinching a woman's bum but if its the opposite you wouldn't i certainly have never even considered this as an option unless i knew that person very well and in this day and age a lot of women would have you arrested

Touching people without asking isn’t about consent?

This thread is a perfect example of why the idea of consent still needs to be discussed

Imagine a guy reading this thread and thinking “pinching bum at work = ok as long as I think it’s the right person”

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
49 weeks ago

Reading

Inglove my manager. She's ferocious and will rip him apart.

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By *heekyDemandCouple
49 weeks ago

Leicester

Depends on what connection you have with said colleague.

If it's just professional and no personal involvement then report to HR.

But, if half and hour ago you both exited the supply closet after fucking in the arse, going ATM then shooting cum down her throat - it's probably going to be OK.

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By *ittleRed18Woman
49 weeks ago

Aberdeen

Regardless of gender reaction would be the same. I'd smack their arm away and stare them down before explaining in a patronising/teacher tone about consent, body autonomy and professionalism in a simple way. With a "Do you understand?" When I was finished my rant

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By *heGateKeeperMan
49 weeks ago

Stratford

Contextually it does depend but I wouldn’t be impressed even if we had that kind of relationship in/out of work

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"So we're all on a site looking to fuck strangers 1-on-1 or in groups but pinching someone's bum is unacceptable?? "

Yes. The difference is consent

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

Ring ring pon di HR

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

**Da ling da ling**

Hello, is that HR?

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49 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

People love touching my bum without consent and it lowkey irks me.

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By *OYFBWoman
49 weeks ago

Jersey (sometimes Notts)

A few bums in this thread I’d quite like to pinch!

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

He would be picking his nuts up off the floor.

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By *heekyDemandCouple
49 weeks ago

Leicester

"A few bums in this thread I’d quite like to pinch! "

Shame you are 300+ miles and the busiest shipping lane in the world away.

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

Keep it out of the workplace, when I'm there, I'm busy.

Anyone touching me without my consent is inviting a loud and embarrassing humiliation scene with them as the star. So unless you're in to that...

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"Keep it out of the workplace, when I'm there, I'm busy.

Anyone touching me without my consent is inviting a loud and embarrassing humiliation scene with them as the star. So unless you're in to that... "

And also in to harassment tribunals obviously

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By *BWLOVER1965Man
49 weeks ago

My Own Little World

I would report to line management

Then if nothing done

Leave sue the company

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

I'd just kick them off the job instantly

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By *ools and the brainCouple
49 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

"Confusing thread

So touching someone without their consent is ok as long as you think you know your audience and that they might like it

Yikes

Touching people without asking isn’t about consent?

This thread is a perfect example of why the idea of consent still needs to be discussed

Imagine a guy reading this thread and thinking “pinching bum at work = ok as long as I think it’s the right person” "

Exactly, there's been a few replies that are frankly concerning.

(It's ok if the person wants you to apparently!!!)

Which is totally bullshit as how do you know if they want you to until you do it?

By then it's too late as the person may have not wanted you to.

Point being no matter how small the act it's still inappropriate, allowing it will give the impression that it's ok and thing's may escalate or lead to predatorial behaviour.

The very fact that there's so many different replies is proof more needs to be done.

It's simple, regardless of gender no touchy touchy in work place even inappropriate language can lead to people feeling extremely uncomfortable.

And I'm a hairy arsed big old builder bloke if a neanderthal like me can understand this then why can't office workers understand?

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

Yes that’s right if you don’t give permission. So not everyone is in your position so to blanket state report them for sexual harassment is incorrect

"It’s only sexual harassment if you deem it unwelcome and inappropriate.

Again report them sexual harassment is sexual harassment no matter what

If I don’t give permission touch then it’s unwelcome and inappropriate

No means no

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
49 weeks ago

Cap d'Agde

Even though both are wrong, isn't a man touching a woman without consent more serious than the other way round because of the power imbalance?

A woman is likely to feel considerably more threatened than a man would.

Of course with a female boss touching a male employee, the power balance might be reversed.

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

No big deal really grab away

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

It’s only inappropriate if the person receiving the pinch thinks it’s inappropriate. Not everyone does!

I could have my arse pinched every day at work between now and Xmas and I wouldn’t give a fuck, I wouldn’t think it’s inappropriate therefore no offence has been committed.

Now back to my bar job in Hooters…….

"Confusing thread

So touching someone without their consent is ok as long as you think you know your audience and that they might like it

Yikes

Touching people without asking isn’t about consent?

This thread is a perfect example of why the idea of consent still needs to be discussed

Imagine a guy reading this thread and thinking “pinching bum at work = ok as long as I think it’s the right person”

Exactly, there's been a few replies that are frankly concerning.

(It's ok if the person wants you to apparently!!!)

Which is totally bullshit as how do you know if they want you to until you do it?

By then it's too late as the person may have not wanted you to.

Point being no matter how small the act it's still inappropriate, allowing it will give the impression that it's ok and thing's may escalate or lead to predatorial behaviour.

The very fact that there's so many different replies is proof more needs to be done.

It's simple, regardless of gender no touchy touchy in work place even inappropriate language can lead to people feeling extremely uncomfortable.

And I'm a hairy arsed big old builder bloke if a neanderthal like me can understand this then why can't office workers understand?"

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
49 weeks ago

Maidstone

Depends who it was

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By *aturefunswTV/TS
49 weeks ago

bristol

My worry would be how my reaction if any is received .

But en femme or male just love compliments given to me in all ways .

But it is inappropriate now and a no no !

But if you work away from home you spend most of your waking hours with others so good chance you will come across this situation

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By *ris GrayMan
49 weeks ago

Dorchester

Its about think before you act dumb acts have dire consequences and the women of fab know all about the legal implications

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By *r_reusMan
49 weeks ago

Coventry

This actually has happened to me before, and not just a pinch but a full on bum fondling.

This was long ago when I worked in security though, and the girl in question was a very cute teen, you can imagine how 'offended' I was for yourselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"Confusing thread

So touching someone without their consent is ok as long as you think you know your audience and that they might like it

Yikes

Touching people without asking isn’t about consent?

This thread is a perfect example of why the idea of consent still needs to be discussed

Imagine a guy reading this thread and thinking “pinching bum at work = ok as long as I think it’s the right person”

Exactly, there's been a few replies that are frankly concerning.

(It's ok if the person wants you to apparently!!!)

Which is totally bullshit as how do you know if they want you to until you do it?

By then it's too late as the person may have not wanted you to.

Point being no matter how small the act it's still inappropriate, allowing it will give the impression that it's ok and thing's may escalate or lead to predatorial behaviour.

The very fact that there's so many different replies is proof more needs to be done.

It's simple, regardless of gender no touchy touchy in work place even inappropriate language can lead to people feeling extremely uncomfortable.

And I'm a hairy arsed big old builder bloke if a neanderthal like me can understand this then why can't office workers understand?"

I’m glad someone understands that

If we want a society with less sexual assault and even r@pe then we need strong lines in the sand about consent

If someone touches you without consent, but you decide you like it because he was hot, you are enabling sexual assault. You are telling him consent isn’t always needed and sexual assault is ok. They’ll hes going to add another woman ti that horrible stat that 99% of women have been sexually assaulted

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
49 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania

"Again report them sexual harassment is sexual harassment no matter what "

This is entirely correct.

The workplace is not the appropriate environment for that behaviour, regardless of the perpetrator.

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

If I'm not comfortable with them, I'd likely tell them to fuck the fuck off. If I'm very comfortable and maybe a little flirty with them at times then it's fine

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By *imi_RougeWoman
49 weeks ago

Portsmouth

"Keep it out of the workplace, when I'm there, I'm busy.

Anyone touching me without my consent is inviting a loud and embarrassing humiliation scene with them as the star. So unless you're in to that... "

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By *ruceyyMan
49 weeks ago

London

Depends if they're hot

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"I’m gunna assume a certain pattern on this one.

How would you react?"

Sexual harassment

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By *naswingdressWoman
49 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Hands off

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"Confusing thread

So touching someone without their consent is ok as long as you think you know your audience and that they might like it

Yikes

Touching people without asking isn’t about consent?

This thread is a perfect example of why the idea of consent still needs to be discussed

Imagine a guy reading this thread and thinking “pinching bum at work = ok as long as I think it’s the right person”

Exactly, there's been a few replies that are frankly concerning.

(It's ok if the person wants you to apparently!!!)

Which is totally bullshit as how do you know if they want you to until you do it?

By then it's too late as the person may have not wanted you to.

Point being no matter how small the act it's still inappropriate, allowing it will give the impression that it's ok and thing's may escalate or lead to predatorial behaviour.

The very fact that there's so many different replies is proof more needs to be done.

It's simple, regardless of gender no touchy touchy in work place even inappropriate language can lead to people feeling extremely uncomfortable.

And I'm a hairy arsed big old builder bloke if a neanderthal like me can understand this then why can't office workers understand?

I’m glad someone understands that

If we want a society with less sexual assault and even r@pe then we need strong lines in the sand about consent

This

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

At work it happened to me I said it is inappropriate and I do not tolerate it

Wants to smack my bum.. She knows she cannot do it. I do not cuddle either its inappropriate. Sexual harassment

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

Landlord did it once too. I never consented and told the police

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

Scenario... On a social or at club some guy, or woman touches you do you allow it. Or tell owner or call police

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By *ent57Man
49 weeks ago

... where the streets have no name!

oh dearie dearie me

lots of strange reactions here

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

When I was younger a female friend of mine used to pinch my nipples. There was a group of us that used to socialise regularly. One evening I had enough. So I pinched her nipples back. She never did it again after.

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By *ittleRed18Woman
49 weeks ago

Aberdeen

"Confusing thread

So touching someone without their consent is ok as long as you think you know your audience and that they might like it

Yikes

Touching people without asking isn’t about consent?

This thread is a perfect example of why the idea of consent still needs to be discussed

Imagine a guy reading this thread and thinking “pinching bum at work = ok as long as I think it’s the right person”

Exactly, there's been a few replies that are frankly concerning.

(It's ok if the person wants you to apparently!!!)

Which is totally bullshit as how do you know if they want you to until you do it?

By then it's too late as the person may have not wanted you to.

Point being no matter how small the act it's still inappropriate, allowing it will give the impression that it's ok and thing's may escalate or lead to predatorial behaviour.

The very fact that there's so many different replies is proof more needs to be done.

It's simple, regardless of gender no touchy touchy in work place even inappropriate language can lead to people feeling extremely uncomfortable.

And I'm a hairy arsed big old builder bloke if a neanderthal like me can understand this then why can't office workers understand?

I’m glad someone understands that

If we want a society with less sexual assault and even r@pe then we need strong lines in the sand about consent

This "

What a breath of fresh air you are! I'm in complete agreement with you - to stop the cycle of bad behaviour they need to know it was inappropriate otherwise they'll keep doing it!

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By *oubleswing2019Man
49 weeks ago

Colchester

I'd explain that no consent was given and give them a proper Paddington Bear Hard Stare.

I'd also say there are more appropriate places to learn about consent in a safe, sane and consensual environment. Though to be fair, them initiating a bum pinch is a red flag anyway.

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By *mwirralMan
49 weeks ago

wirral

Had my bum felt by a woman I worked with on a night out, ended up fucking.

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By *ornyblue69Man
49 weeks ago

Wirral

The cleaner in my works comes up behind reaches and doubles my moobs which running hers against and asking me if I want to hold them.

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"So we're all on a site looking to fuck strangers 1-on-1 or in groups but pinching someone's bum is unacceptable?? "

What does being on fab have to do with totally wrong behaviour.

It’s an issue of consent or no consent.

Private (social) and public (office) are separate

Unequal power balance

So definitely wrong on so many levels.

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By *itnakedladMan
49 weeks ago

London Bridge

Yes please

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

Exactly the same as with the guys.

If we have that kind of playful, flirty relationship then no problem. That’s consensual in my eyes.

If it’s random from someone I’m not close to like that. Verbal warning, good shouting at or invitation to disciplinary depending on their attitude when told that’s not ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

My Brother in-law was recently showing me his tan lines by pulling down his jeans a little....I could see his builders arse....

Anyway....I had this powerful strong impulsive to slap his arse....Yea ye may think no harm in that....

His Wife (my sister) was present & she previously accused us of flirting with each other....For that reason I had to stop myself from slapping his arse....But it came out verbally & I just said "jeez I so wanted to spank your ass there wtf"....all went quite

But we were both exchanging flirtatious looks & he was blushing lol....

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By *ervent_fervourMan
49 weeks ago

Halifax

"My Brother in-law was recently showing me his tan lines by pulling down his jeans a little....I could see his builders arse....

Anyway....I had this powerful strong impulsive to slap his arse....Yea ye may think no harm in that....

But we were both exchanging flirtatious looks & he was blushing lol...."

I smile. It's usually just a squeeze/semi fondle though.

Obvs wouldn't do it to someone else.

(Unless they snogged me first. Then I LOVE squeezing/fondling.

Slapping.

Etc..

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By *ellinever70Woman
49 weeks ago

Ayrshire

"My Brother in-law was recently showing me his tan lines by pulling down his jeans a little....I could see his builders arse....

Anyway....I had this powerful strong impulsive to slap his arse....Yea ye may think no harm in that....

But we were both exchanging flirtatious looks & he was blushing lol...."

Do you not like your sister very much?

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"My Brother in-law was recently showing me his tan lines by pulling down his jeans a little....I could see his builders arse....

Anyway....I had this powerful strong impulsive to slap his arse....Yea ye may think no harm in that....

But we were both exchanging flirtatious looks & he was blushing lol....

Do you not like your sister very much?"

I do....I love her to bits....But unfortunately we can't control sexual chemistry as in we can't just switch it off.

I would never ever cross that line ever as in take it any further with her Hubby.

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

It’s just Bantz….

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By *ellinever70Woman
49 weeks ago

Ayrshire

"My Brother in-law was recently showing me his tan lines by pulling down his jeans a little....I could see his builders arse....

Anyway....I had this powerful strong impulsive to slap his arse....Yea ye may think no harm in that....

But we were both exchanging flirtatious looks & he was blushing lol....

Do you not like your sister very much?

I do....I love her to bits....But unfortunately we can't control sexual chemistry as in we can't just switch it off.

I would never ever cross that line ever as in take it any further with her Hubby."

But we can control our behaviour and the words that come out of our mouths

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By *hrista BellendWoman
49 weeks ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

My hand does a automatic back slap reaction, which added with my height and stature generally lands firmly in the genital area, unfortunately some men like cock n ball tor, so I've had mixed results...

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By *moothandslimMan
49 weeks ago

North Walsham

"I really think it's a case of knowing your audience. Some people will be offended, others wouldnt. Choose very carefully."

Think this strikes the right balance.

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By *ervent_fervourMan
49 weeks ago

Halifax

"I really think it's a case of knowing your audience. Some people will be offended, others wouldnt. Choose very carefully.

Think this strikes the right balance."

I see what you did there.

(Where's the open hand emoticon when you need it?)

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