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"Why would you say no thanks to someone saying hi? "Beat me to it | |||
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"It’s called shorting your shot Lots of straight guys aren’t straight I’d even say that I have 100x more chance to hook up by messaging a straight guy than a woman" Ha ha. Maybe I need to be clearer on my profile! I didn't think that there was anything wrong with. "No thanks". Could be a simple not interested in anything even a chat. | |||
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"Why would you say no thanks to someone saying hi?
Beat me to it"Beat meat to it | |||
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"Why would you say no thanks to someone saying hi? "Why would a guy man randomly message a straight guy saying hi? On a site like this, only one reason. | |||
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"As a gay man myself - no I never message straight guys - no point. I do however get countless guys down as straight msging/fabbing/winking me. This won't be popular but the way I see it there is a percentage of clearly bi guys who put themselves as straight. there is an equal percentage of gay/bi lads who have this delusional fantasy of seducing a straight guy. leads to confusion as the gay/bi guys who meet these closet cases start assuming all ACTUAL straight guys are also secretly into men, when of course actual straight guys aren't. so start messaging any guys who are straight. Delete block and move on I say - lifes far too short to play silly mind games." I didn't need to block. He blocked me. Perhaps they are bi guys but don't want to be rejected by females / couples who say " no bi guys" | |||
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"On the other side of the coin why do "straight" guys message gay men? Before anyone answers I already know lol met several of them" Start a new post on that. I am sure it will be closed for being too big very quick  | |||
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"This what happens when you have guys who say they straight but like other men on the Down Low, you gonna have other guys who are openly gay (not all off them) thinking other straight men must be down low as well which isnt the case for the majority. " But their intentions are meet motivated. This guy claimed he wasn't looking for a meet. I can see why the ladies on here get annoyed with those who can't take a rejection! | |||
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"You do protest loudly though OP. Are you sure you don't swing that way? Not even a little?" Beat me to that  | |||
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"You do protest loudly though OP. Are you sure you don't swing that way? Not even a little?" Am I? Just interested to understand why a gay man would message a straight man just to say hi. The only time I send messages is if I am seeking something. | |||
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"I think you may be reading more than is present! You said no thanks and was blocked! Move on! Wait until you’ve been chatting to someone you do like for weeks and then they randomly block you. Or, out of nowhere, the other side of their personality makes an appearance because you innocently enquired about their weekend away they’d told you about a few days before! Fab life, scream if you wanna go faster kids "Been there. Just looking for points of view. Thanks for your contribution. | |||
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"You do protest loudly though OP. Are you sure you don't swing that way? Not even a little? Beat me to that "Even if I was, you wouldn't be my type. Sorry. | |||
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"Maybe I'm mental, but the best way to find out why he was messaging you would have been to have a conversation with him and... you know... ask him?" Ok captain hindsight. Gay man messages me. Not interested so reply as such. He replies saying he wasn't asking for a meet and blocks me. So, how do I then ask him I why he messaged me if it wasn't for a meet? | |||
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"Lots if bi guys put straight for a number of reasons Homophobia on here To widen their pool of possible meets Just personal shame or embarrassment " Fair enough but this guy wasn't just messaging me to say hi. Was he!? Thanks for your PoV. | |||
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"Lots if bi guys put straight for a number of reasons Homophobia on here To widen their pool of possible meets Just personal shame or embarrassment Fair enough but this guy wasn't just messaging me to say hi. Was he!? Thanks for your PoV." 99% sure he wasn’t. Most guys don’t just message guys for a friendly chat. All I can say is I’m not too sure why you’re so bothered. | |||
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"Lots if bi guys put straight for a number of reasons Homophobia on here To widen their pool of possible meets Just personal shame or embarrassment Fair enough but this guy wasn't just messaging me to say hi. Was he!? Thanks for your PoV. 99% sure he wasn’t. Most guys don’t just message guys for a friendly chat. All I can say is I’m not too sure why you’re so bothered. " I am not bothered. Just curious..not in that way though | |||
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"If men are looking for other men, surely using Fab guys would be their better option? " Maybe I should just redirect messages to that site in the future! | |||
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"Why would you say no thanks to someone saying hi?
Why would a guy man randomly message a straight guy saying hi? On a site like this, only one reason."We are both straight but chat with bi and gay men and women. Swinging isn't all about sex it's social too. The Swinging community involves a very varied bunch of people so why not embrace it. | |||
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"Maybe I'm mental, but the best way to find out why he was messaging you would have been to have a conversation with him and... you know... ask him? Ok captain hindsight. Gay man messages me. Not interested so reply as such. He replies saying he wasn't asking for a meet and blocks me. So, how do I then ask him I why he messaged me if it wasn't for a meet?" Well, you can't go back in time obviously. What I'm saying is you chose to cut the guy right off at the start, but he could have wanted to talk about anything. We get quite a lot of messages, most get round to talking about meeting eventually but not always and loads of other subjects get discussed too. | |||
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"If men are looking for other men, surely using Fab guys would be their better option? " You would think so, but sadly not the case. Fabguys has went progressively downhill since covid. Site is now overrun by married panty wearing cheats who migrated over as most of the women on here won't have a bar of them. This "straight" question comes up often on the forums over there. On here we have bi pretending to be straight. On guys we have as I call them the "redefiners" as in they want straight redefined to include same sex activity. When that fails they go after the word fetish - in this case to include the sex organs (def of a fetish excludes the sex organs) so they can claim they have merely a "cock fetish". and when that similarly fails we are redirected to a link posted by them to MSM on wiki. I've resigned myself to the fact it doesn't matter what site - there will always be a few individuals who live in cloud coockoo land and are at best simply avoided. | |||
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"Maybe I'm mental, but the best way to find out why he was messaging you would have been to have a conversation with him and... you know... ask him? Ok captain hindsight. Gay man messages me. Not interested so reply as such. He replies saying he wasn't asking for a meet and blocks me. So, how do I then ask him I why he messaged me if it wasn't for a meet? Well, you can't go back in time obviously. What I'm saying is you chose to cut the guy right off at the start, but he could have wanted to talk about anything. We get quite a lot of messages, most get round to talking about meeting eventually but not always and loads of other subjects get discussed too." Maybe I get too many "want a discreet meet" messages from men. | |||
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"I think you may be reading more than is present! You said no thanks and was blocked! Move on! Wait until you’ve been chatting to someone you do like for weeks and then they randomly block you. Or, out of nowhere, the other side of their personality makes an appearance because you innocently enquired about their weekend away they’d told you about a few days before! Fab life, scream if you wanna go faster kids "Fuck!!! That sounds so intense ! Loving the messages, some of the responses are genuinely hilarious so thank you. | |||
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I chat with some really very nice straight guys and it is just that, a chat. Chats don't have to have ulterior motives surely. | |||
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"If men are looking for other men, surely using Fab guys would be their better option? You would think so, but sadly not the case. Fabguys has went progressively downhill since covid. Site is now overrun by married panty wearing cheats who migrated over as most of the women on here won't have a bar of them. This "straight" question comes up often on the forums over there. On here we have bi pretending to be straight. On guys we have as I call them the "redefiners" as in they want straight redefined to include same sex activity. When that fails they go after the word fetish - in this case to include the sex organs (def of a fetish excludes the sex organs) so they can claim they have merely a "cock fetish". and when that similarly fails we are redirected to a link posted by them to MSM on wiki. I've resigned myself to the fact it doesn't matter what site - there will always be a few individuals who live in cloud coockoo land and are at best simply avoided." Nailed it | |||
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"If men are looking for other men, surely using Fab guys would be their better option? You would think so, but sadly not the case. Fabguys has went progressively downhill since covid. Site is now overrun by married panty wearing cheats who migrated over as most of the women on here won't have a bar of them. This "straight" question comes up often on the forums over there. On here we have bi pretending to be straight. On guys we have as I call them the "redefiners" as in they want straight redefined to include same sex activity. When that fails they go after the word fetish - in this case to include the sex organs (def of a fetish excludes the sex organs) so they can claim they have merely a "cock fetish". and when that similarly fails we are redirected to a link posted by them to MSM on wiki. I've resigned myself to the fact it doesn't matter what site - there will always be a few individuals who live in cloud coockoo land and are at best simply avoided. Nailed it "...yeah pretty much. OP, next time you get a message that just says 'hi' or whatever - from anyone, not just guys - give it the same effort you got and just delete it.  | |||
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"And therein is one of the problems with fab. Not everyone is looking to meet and compatibility isn't always obvious. I have spoken to many people in the past that have had no interest in meeting including day guys. It's called conversation and sadly this site lacks that on the whole especially between men. Can I ask OP if he had approached you in a social setting, would your response of been the same? Marc" Of course not. He might have wanted to know the time or just looking for conversation to pass the time. I really don't see how you can compare a social situation to a sexually motivated site. | |||
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"If men are looking for other men, surely using Fab guys would be their better option? You would think so, but sadly not the case. Fabguys has went progressively downhill since covid. Site is now overrun by married panty wearing cheats who migrated over as most of the women on here won't have a bar of them. This "straight" question comes up often on the forums over there. On here we have bi pretending to be straight. On guys we have as I call them the "redefiners" as in they want straight redefined to include same sex activity. When that fails they go after the word fetish - in this case to include the sex organs (def of a fetish excludes the sex organs) so they can claim they have merely a "cock fetish". and when that similarly fails we are redirected to a link posted by them to MSM on wiki. I've resigned myself to the fact it doesn't matter what site - there will always be a few individuals who live in cloud coockoo land and are at best simply avoided. Nailed it
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OP, next time you get a message that just says 'hi' or whatever - from anyone, not just guys - give it the same effort you got and just delete it.
"I will do as I have in the past. Just surprised that this guy called me arrogant and denied he was looking for a meet. My "no thanks" wasn't meet specific..maybe I meant I didn't want a chat. | |||
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"And therein is one of the problems with fab. Not everyone is looking to meet and compatibility isn't always obvious. I have spoken to many people in the past that have had no interest in meeting including day guys. It's called conversation and sadly this site lacks that on the whole especially between men. Can I ask OP if he had approached you in a social setting, would your response of been the same? Marc Of course not. He might have wanted to know the time or just looking for conversation to pass the time. I really don't see how you can compare a social situation to a sexually motivated site." Because many use Fab for social interaction not just for sex when it suits. Marc | |||
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"Not sure why you're getting a hard time in some of the responses. Rather than ignore you said no thank you and rudeness was returned. It's his issue not yours. You'll never know why he messaged you but don't worry he blocked you. Happens loads on here. I mostly don't reply if a profile doesn't interest me now, too many occasions of unkindness returned or stream of questions challenging why I feel that way. " Totally agree. The OP asked a simple question - but we have some even questioning his sexuality? I'm with the OP on this one - he did nothing wrong. | |||
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"I firmly believe "Straight" as we know it doesn't really exist on here. It's just a spectrum of gay ranging from "no thanks but I'll sit in the corner & wank whilst I watch you rail my missus", to "hello sailor, what time is Eurovision on?“ "Then sorry sweetheart I disagree - straight is a very real thing. As in the vast majority of males are. Any thing else is wishfull thinking x | |||
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"And therein is one of the problems with fab. Not everyone is looking to meet and compatibility isn't always obvious. I have spoken to many people in the past that have had no interest in meeting including day guys. It's called conversation and sadly this site lacks that on the whole especially between men. Can I ask OP if he had approached you in a social setting, would your response of been the same? Marc Of course not. He might have wanted to know the time or just looking for conversation to pass the time. I really don't see how you can compare a social situation to a sexually motivated site. Because many use Fab for social interaction not just for sex when it suits. Marc" I said it was a sexually motivated site. Not exclusive. Do I message gay women for a social chat? No. They probably aren't interested in seeking social chat with straight men. They would probably think I am just looking to shag a couple of lesbians... | |||
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"Bisexuality isn't a real thing. It's just something that people feel obliged or pressured into engaging in. And just to save time debating this, it's a tongue in cheek comment which reads just as stupidly as the regular fab view on how straight people are scared to explore. " then what exactly is the point of your post ? | |||
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"Bisexuality isn't a real thing. It's just something that people feel obliged or pressured into engaging in. And just to save time debating this, it's a tongue in cheek comment which reads just as stupidly as the regular fab view on how straight people are scared to explore. " Good satire pal, I like that | |||
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"Bisexuality isn't a real thing. It's just something that people feel obliged or pressured into engaging in. And just to save time debating this, it's a tongue in cheek comment which reads just as stupidly as the regular fab view on how straight people are scared to explore. " But but everyone’s bisexual they’re just in denial.  | |||
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"Gosh a gay man saying hi to a straight man, stop the bus. " Yes we should - as a Gay man it pains me to see the amount of straight lads that gay men comtact - have a word with yourself lads - straight on here means straight not what laughably goes by fabstraight. | |||
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"Bisexuality isn't a real thing. It's just something that people feel obliged or pressured into engaging in. And just to save time debating this, it's a tongue in cheek comment which reads just as stupidly as the regular fab view on how straight people are scared to explore. then what exactly is the point of your post ?" Exactly what you said above. Only straight people have to justify their preference on fab. | |||
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"Not sure why you're getting a hard time in some of the responses. Rather than ignore you said no thank you and rudeness was returned. It's his issue not yours. You'll never know why he messaged you but don't worry he blocked you. Happens loads on here. I mostly don't reply if a profile doesn't interest me now, too many occasions of unkindness returned or stream of questions challenging why I feel that way. Totally agree. The OP asked a simple question - but we have some even questioning his sexuality? I'm with the OP on this one - he did nothing wrong." Thanks and to _imisugar. There has been some decent responses and perhaps I have been a bit narrow minded on the fact that some people are on here for social reasons just as much as anything else. Some right muppets though if they are drawing such conclusions. At around the time I posted my first message, a gentleman in his late 50s fabbed a pic of mine. Compliment. Thats all he did. If he wrote "I know you are straight but just wanted to say I like your pic. Have a nice day", I would reply saying thank you. I might even ask if he is also enjoying the site etc or a engage in a light hearted conversation. One man sent a PM in response to a post I made on another thread. Exchanged a couple of messages a and that's it. | |||
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"Gosh a gay man saying hi to a straight man, stop the bus. Yes we should - as a Gay man it pains me to see the amount of straight lads that gay men comtact - have a word with yourself lads - straight on here means straight not what laughably goes by fabstraight." You're tarring all gay men. We can be friends with straight men just as we can be friends with straight women. It's the 21st century. | |||
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"Gosh a gay man saying hi to a straight man, stop the bus. Yes we should - as a Gay man it pains me to see the amount of straight lads that gay men comtact - have a word with yourself lads - straight on here means straight not what laughably goes by fabstraight. You're tarring all gay men. We can be friends with straight men just as we can be friends with straight women. It's the 21st century. "Not at all sweetheart - if you have bothered to read I have said repeatedly "NOT ALL GAY MEN" x | |||
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"The site provides enough tools to deal with shocking events like this. Someone saying hi is realy not a big deal, is it? But also nobody should have to assert their preferences which should always be respected. As I said before, the best banter and nice conversations I had on here have been with straight guys and they were just that, nice convesations with no ulterior motives. If someone bothers you, block and move on. Some things on here are surprising to everyone from time to time, roll the eye and move on "Very good advice | |||
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"I firmly believe "Straight" as we know it doesn't really exist on here. It's just a spectrum of gay ranging from "no thanks but I'll sit in the corner & wank whilst I watch you rail my missus", to "hello sailor, what time is Eurovision on?“
Then sorry sweetheart I disagree - straight is a very real thing. As in the vast majority of males are. Any thing else is wishfull thinking x"I didn't say it didn't exist, I said it didn't exist 'on here'. As in this website. Hence the basis for all troll posts I read on this topic which I regret to inform you that mine was one of them | |||
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"I firmly believe "Straight" as we know it doesn't really exist on here. It's just a spectrum of gay ranging from "no thanks but I'll sit in the corner & wank whilst I watch you rail my missus", to "hello sailor, what time is Eurovision on?“
Then sorry sweetheart I disagree - straight is a very real thing. As in the vast majority of males are. Any thing else is wishfull thinking x
I didn't say it didn't exist, I said it didn't exist 'on here'. As in this website.
Hence the basis for all troll posts I read on this topic which I regret to inform you that mine was one of them "Those troll posts are nothing in my eyes - So you did a troll no biggie sweetheart sure we all do from time to time | |||
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"Why would you say no thanks to someone saying hi?
Why would a guy man randomly message a straight guy saying hi? On a site like this, only one reason."maybe to arrange a 3some with a women? | |||
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"The site provides enough tools to deal with shocking events like this. Someone saying hi is realy not a big deal, is it? But also nobody should have to assert their preferences which should always be respected. As I said before, the best banter and nice conversations I had on here have been with straight guys and they were just that, nice convesations with no ulterior motives. If someone bothers you, block and move on. Some things on here are surprising to everyone from time to time, roll the eye and move on "I am actually quite surprised that my post has bothered a few people... | |||
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"Why would you say no thanks to someone saying hi?
Why would a guy man randomly message a straight guy saying hi? On a site like this, only one reason.
maybe to arrange a 3some with a women?"Maybe he wasnt a he and was princess of Wales keeping her identity secret...damn, blown that one! Or maybe, it was just a gay male taking a shot at a straight guy just in case he was actually into guys. I suspect the latter. | |||
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"Interesting thread Who knows what the intention of the guy who messaged was as I’m not sure he’s replied in this thread. Yes it may have been to try and arrange a meet but equally it could have been to strike up a friendly conversation. As others have said, it’s a sex site but many, myself included, also like to chat to folks knowing it’s never going to result in a sexual meet but perhaps a beer. How the OP responds is his choice but I’m sure I’m not the only one on here who has received a “no thanks” to an initial “hi” and when it happens I recall an episode a number of years ago when I went up to someone in a bar and said “hi” and they looked at me and simply said “no thanks” which took me aback as I wanted to ask them where they’d bought their trainers. Felt like a total slap in the face and just came across as arrogant. Communication face to face can be complicated and online even more so especially here when as others have said you have bi guys saying straight on their profiles and a myriad of other permutations so it’s easy to misinterpret a message. It’s a minefield sometimes LOL In same situation as OP I would have replied “thanks for the message but I’m not looking to meet guys other than for MFM” Of course the guy who messaged could still have sent a vitriolic message but at least the initial response would have made it clear why you were replying no. " Great Post and good points made. However, he could quite easily have come back with the same comment about he wasn't looking for a meet and called you arrogant. | |||
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"I firmly believe "Straight" as we know it doesn't really exist on here. It's just a spectrum of gay ranging from "no thanks but I'll sit in the corner & wank whilst I watch you rail my missus", to "hello sailor, what time is Eurovision on?“
Then sorry sweetheart I disagree - straight is a very real thing. As in the vast majority of males are. Any thing else is wishfull thinking x
I didn't say it didn't exist, I said it didn't exist 'on here'. As in this website.
Hence the basis for all troll posts I read on this topic which I regret to inform you that mine was one of them
Those troll posts are nothing in my eyes - So you did a troll no biggie sweetheart sure we all do from time to time "You would be surprised how many people see, what is frankly some pretty on-the-nose trolling & yet still fail the IQ test... including the lad who just now felt the need to slide into my DMs just to tell me how much he isn't intrested in men
This is why I should stop giving people the benefit of the doubt & just assume stupidity from the off.
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"I know I can block them or ignore them but this morning I got a message from a guy. He was just saying hi...but why? I responded with "no thanks". His profule stated he was looking for men and that he was gay. I then got a message back saying that i was another arrogant prick on here and wasn't looking for a meet. My profile in no way suggests I am interested in men. So, why would a guy man be messaging me just to say Hi? I don't block men because sometimes men can have a mutual interest like a threesome. A mfm that I wouldn't want to miss out on... Any gay men here randomly message straight guys just to say Hi? Just trying to understand why" Welcome to the world of women and couples. Not all men are like this but there are enough to make delete and block the two most used buttons on fab. Mr DD | |||
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"Youve got a verification from a man on your profile, you will come across as a man that doesn't take issue with other men verifying you or playing in scenarios with other men. You'll likely get approached because of the prospect of mmf etc and some may even think you're bi but not displaying it in order to not scare women off. That happens a lot on here, bi guys keep it quiet to up their chances with women. " That was a mmf cam session and it's that it was involving a female. This guy stated gay. looking to meet M and MM group only. If a guy approaches me in the hope that something might happen either with or without a female then fine. I replied "no thanks" but the response was completely uncalled for. Accusing me of being arrogant and that he wasn't actually looking for a meet. Of course he was... | |||
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"I know I can block them or ignore them but this morning I got a message from a guy. He was just saying hi...but why? I responded with "no thanks". His profule stated he was looking for men and that he was gay. I then got a message back saying that i was another arrogant prick on here and wasn't looking for a meet. My profile in no way suggests I am interested in men. So, why would a guy man be messaging me just to say Hi? I don't block men because sometimes men can have a mutual interest like a threesome. A mfm that I wouldn't want to miss out on... Any gay men here randomly message straight guys just to say Hi? Just trying to understand why Welcome to the world of women and couples. Not all men are like this but there are enough to make delete and block the two most used buttons on fab. Mr DD" Indeed | |||
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"I know I can block them or ignore them but this morning I got a message from a guy. He was just saying hi...but why? I responded with "no thanks". His profule stated he was looking for men and that he was gay. I then got a message back saying that i was another arrogant prick on here and wasn't looking for a meet. My profile in no way suggests I am interested in men. So, why would a guy man be messaging me just to say Hi? I don't block men because sometimes men can have a mutual interest like a threesome. A mfm that I wouldn't want to miss out on... Any gay men here randomly message straight guys just to say Hi? Just trying to understand why" So, a large proportion of “straight” men on fab are actually bi. I guess they are projecting onto others and since you don’t block them they assume wrongly. | |||
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"I know I can block them or ignore them but this morning I got a message from a guy. He was just saying hi...but why? I responded with "no thanks". His profule stated he was looking for men and that he was gay. I then got a message back saying that i was another arrogant prick on here and wasn't looking for a meet. My profile in no way suggests I am interested in men. So, why would a guy man be messaging me just to say Hi? I don't block men because sometimes men can have a mutual interest like a threesome. A mfm that I wouldn't want to miss out on... Any gay men here randomly message straight guys just to say Hi? Just trying to understand why" It happens, we don't meet men yet most of our messages are from men who think showing me a cock pic will somehow change my mind, if anything it solidifies in my mind the exact reason we don't meet men. Mrs | |||
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"I know I can block them or ignore them but this morning I got a message from a guy. He was just saying hi...but why? I responded with "no thanks". His profule stated he was looking for men and that he was gay. I then got a message back saying that i was another arrogant prick on here and wasn't looking for a meet. My profile in no way suggests I am interested in men. So, why would a guy man be messaging me just to say Hi? I don't block men because sometimes men can have a mutual interest like a threesome. A mfm that I wouldn't want to miss out on... Any gay men here randomly message straight guys just to say Hi? Just trying to understand why" I can only guess it’s because lots of straight guys aren’t that straight. As bi guy I get lots of just Hi messages from straight profile in no way suggests interested in men. What I do with it - I ignore. Doesn’t matter if it’s from male or female profile gay straight or bi. | |||
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"OP, how many times have you been contacted by a man? Is it a frequent occurrence?" It seems to be every time I go somewhere and check who is nearby... | |||
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"OP, how many times have you been contacted by a man? Is it a frequent occurrence? · It seems to be every time I go somewhere and check who is nearby..." • Your profile is the common denominator here: your cherubic face is on full show, your portfolio of identikit cock photos and ejaculations are drawing in a captive audience: men. IF I was that way inclined I would too. P.S. I'm not critiquing your profile or giving any form of profile advice; it's just my observation. It's your profile to do as you please and not my business. | |||
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"I know I can block them or ignore them but this morning I got a message from a guy. He was just saying hi...but why? I responded with "no thanks". His profule stated he was looking for men and that he was gay. I then got a message back saying that i was another arrogant prick on here and wasn't looking for a meet. My profile in no way suggests I am interested in men. So, why would a guy man be messaging me just to say Hi? I don't block men because sometimes men can have a mutual interest like a threesome. A mfm that I wouldn't want to miss out on... Any gay men here randomly message straight guys just to say Hi? Just trying to understand why" He was a prick OP block and delete | |||
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"OP, how many times have you been contacted by a man? Is it a frequent occurrence? It seems to be every time I go somewhere and check who is nearby..." Do you click on guys profiles? | |||
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" (OP) Maybe I get too many "want a discreet meet" messages from men." Maybe, in that case something in your profile is misleading them into thinking you want meets with men. Some men include 'couples' as a preference in order only to get access to the female from the couple, while others might fancy a bit of MM play via meeting a couple. profiles with lots of cock shots are also far more likely to appeal to certain men, whereas many women don't even want to see ANY cock pictures. I suspect that the problem was self inflicted. | |||
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