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By *issHottieBottie OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

One of the worst parts of fab for me is when I recieve a message from a guy (I'm using guy as that's who I get most of my messages from but it has happened with woman/couples too), I read their profile, they sound nice enough, got some good body shots in public etc) so I reply, few messages of banter and they friend request so I accept to see the face pics in private, not one there... So then I have to ask.

Wait for the next message to come thru, here it is.... Pic attached and

Just no attraction there at all. Bugger x

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"One of the worst parts of fab for me is when I recieve a message from a guy (I'm using guy as that's who I get most of my messages from but it has happened with woman/couples too), I read their profile, they sound nice enough, got some good body shots in public etc) so I reply, few messages of banter and they friend request so I accept to see the face pics in private, not one there... So then I have to ask.

Wait for the next message to come thru, here it is.... Pic attached and

Just no attraction there at all. Bugger x"

I get that too - then you have to say no - which can become awkward. That's why - no face pic, no response. If I message someone first I send a face pic. If they decide they are not interested then that is ok - nothing lost.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is more annoying is when I see a hot stud wandering around the forums that lives the other end of the country

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By *issHottieBottie OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"What is more annoying is when I see a hot stud wandering around the forums that lives the other end of the country

Yeah that happens a lot too! Latest one is Wigan. I'm near Dover. 5 and a half hours! He's good looking, has a body to die for and seems like a decent bloke! Gutted

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By *eal_Dick_TurpinMan
over a year ago

Exeter

Just no attraction there at all. Bugger x"

it happens, were are only human, the question is how do you deal with it...

to be fair I have seen pics and thought OK, I'll go for that, but in the flesh after one fuck all the interest has gone, so pics are very deceiving... pics are just porn

reality is the flesh, I have had great sex with people who if I *only* saw a recent clear and in focus face pic first, would have passed on, and had the exact same thing said to me many a time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same old story over here. All the women that i get along with and turn me on like mad are out of London and miles and miles away i.e. even Wales or Scotland even

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is frustrating when you think you've come across someone perfect who then just falls short - or you just fall short of their standards, it really empties you when everythings been going so swimmingly and then you hear the dreaded 'but I'm just not attracted to you', especially when theres a brief pause afterwards and they go '...sorry', oooh thats a real knife twister!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always a bummer when that happens its happened to me a fair bit.

I always try and exchange face pics now early on to avoid disappointment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's why we try and get the face pics swapped early. It's very awkward if you've had a few nice messages then the face pic comes and you don't fancy them.

But having said that one of our best meets was a couple who only had one pic up when we met. We've met them a few times now and they've gradually put up more pics on their profile. But if we looked at their pics now we probably would pass them by, they are very attractive in the flesh just not that photogenic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just had this happen to me, all way going well until he set a face pic, there wasn't actually anything wrong with it just that I'm the fussiest person on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is more annoying is when I see a hot stud wandering around the forums that lives the other end of the country

Yeah that happens a lot too! Latest one is Wigan. I'm near Dover. 5 and a half hours! He's good looking, has a body to die for and seems like a decent bloke! Gutted

PM me his username, I'm near Wigan and happy to take one for the team

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here with me last year, banter was great eventually I asked him for a face pic, didn't fancy him at all and told him so, however we met up for a drink cos we'd been having such a laugh on line, got on brilliantly and ended up playing several times.

Unless they are really not attractive to ya, I do think a social meet can sometimes be a great surprise

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By *issHottieBottie OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"What is more annoying is when I see a hot stud wandering around the forums that lives the other end of the country

Yeah that happens a lot too! Latest one is Wigan. I'm near Dover. 5 and a half hours! He's good looking, has a body to die for and seems like a decent bloke! Gutted

PM me his username, I'm near Wigan and happy to take one for the team

Done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is gutting when you talk to someone and get on great and are attracted to them and them you and you live miles and miles apart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why accept a friends request?- just send the facepics or receive.. friends requests should be after the mutual interest is established

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is more annoying is when I see a hot stud wandering around the forums that lives the other end of the country

Yeah that happens a lot too! Latest one is Wigan. I'm near Dover. 5 and a half hours! He's good looking, has a body to die for and seems like a decent bloke! Gutted

PM me his username, I'm near Wigan and happy to take one for the team

Done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is more annoying is when I see a hot stud wandering around the forums that lives the other end of the country

Yeah that happens a lot too! Latest one is Wigan. I'm near Dover. 5 and a half hours! He's good looking, has a body to die for and seems like a decent bloke! Gutted

PM me his username, I'm near Wigan and happy to take one for the team

Done

Message sent

see thats community spirit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sharing is caring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lmao....makes me laugh how women say "no pic no chat" yet when I ask they have no photo!!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is more annoying is when I see a hot stud wandering around the forums that lives the other end of the country

Yeah that happens a lot too! Latest one is Wigan. I'm near Dover. 5 and a half hours! He's good looking, has a body to die for and seems like a decent bloke! Gutted

PM me his username, I'm near Wigan and happy to take one for the team

Done

Message sent

see thats community spirit!

I'm nice like that

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"What is more annoying is when I see a hot stud wandering around the forums that lives the other end of the country

Yeah that happens a lot too! Latest one is Wigan. I'm near Dover. 5 and a half hours! He's good looking, has a body to die for and seems like a decent bloke! Gutted

PM me his username, I'm near Wigan and happy to take one for the team

Done

Message sent

see thats community spirit!

I'm nice like that

Damn you got in first!

I was going to ask for that name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes happens a lot so as others have said the way forward is to get the face pic early on then it avoid hopes being built and disappointment later

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Thats why i ask for a face photo with first message saves a lot of hassle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

unless ppl arent really that bothered about face pics early on in contact I dont see a problem...

I just wonder if someone holding back facepics(until they get the friendshippery) is timewasting and may actually not be wanting to get to the meet stage..and of course to grab a few good pervs at possible nakee pics(trust me it happens contrary to some peoples thoughts)

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

This is exactly why I now put face pics on my profile. It's just far easier all round that way - although coaxing a facepic off some ladies or couples can be really tricky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have mine public but have never had an issue with sending it on request.

Some people do hold it back and it always makes me wonder what they have to hide.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't have mine public but have never had an issue with sending it on request.

Some people do hold it back and it always makes me wonder what they have to hide."

Can I have a face pic!!!!

heh heh..... Sorry, just couldn't resist it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sent

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By *issHottieBottie OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"unless ppl arent really that bothered about face pics early on in contact I dont see a problem...

Interesting because after much banter and then finally getting a pic, I sent mine back. Can only assume he's done what I mentioned in my OP!!! Lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"unless ppl arent really that bothered about face pics early on in contact I dont see a problem...

Interesting because after much banter and then finally getting a pic, I sent mine back. Can only assume he's done what I mentioned in my OP!!! Lol xx "

lol anyway..stop accepting friends requests until uve got a facial lol..thats my advice x

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By *issHottieBottie OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"unless ppl arent really that bothered about face pics early on in contact I dont see a problem...

Interesting because after much banter and then finally getting a pic, I sent mine back. Can only assume he's done what I mentioned in my OP!!! Lol xx

lol anyway..stop accepting friends requests until uve got a facial lol..thats my advice x"

I don't normally. It's just I assumed (wrongly) that one of the private pics would be a face one so I wouldn't have to ask. Lol. Ill delete him as a friend if he doesn't reply soon x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

or the frustrating thing with me is,you tick some of their boxes, so you go to message them and no can do as im outside age limit etc

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I've got a face photo and this time it's a happy smiley one, just the colours are a bit washed out. I've had people message my 'nice profile and pics'...'yes we fancy you'....face pic of me sent then.....bluuurrrgggghhh from them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thats why i ask for a face photo with first message saves a lot of hassle"

Same here

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY

we have both of our faces on public view

mmmmmm wonder if that's why we get no messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is more annoying is when I see a hot stud wandering around the forums that lives the other end of the country

Yeah that happens a lot too! Latest one is Wigan. I'm near Dover. 5 and a half hours! He's good looking, has a body to die for and seems like a decent bloke! Gutted

PM me his username, I'm near Wigan and happy to take one for the team

Done

Message sent

see thats community spirit!

I'm nice like that

I love this!

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By *issHottieBottie OP Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"What is more annoying is when I see a hot stud wandering around the forums that lives the other end of the country

Yeah that happens a lot too! Latest one is Wigan. I'm near Dover. 5 and a half hours! He's good looking, has a body to die for and seems like a decent bloke! Gutted

PM me his username, I'm near Wigan and happy to take one for the team

Done

Message sent

see thats community spirit!

I'm nice like that

I love this!

Someone should make the most of It He's a right hottie x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is more annoying is when I see a hot stud wandering around the forums that lives the other end of the country

Yeah that happens a lot too! Latest one is Wigan. I'm near Dover. 5 and a half hours! He's good looking, has a body to die for and seems like a decent bloke! Gutted

PM me his username, I'm near Wigan and happy to take one for the team

Done

Message sent

see thats community spirit!

I'm nice like that

I love this!

Someone should make the most of It He's a right hottie x "

Have you found any in South East London?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is more annoying is when I see a hot stud wandering around the forums that lives the other end of the country

Yeah that happens a lot too! Latest one is Wigan. I'm near Dover. 5 and a half hours! He's good looking, has a body to die for and seems like a decent bloke! Gutted

PM me his username, I'm near Wigan and happy to take one for the team

Done

Message sent

see thats community spirit!

I'm nice like that

I love this!

Someone should make the most of It He's a right hottie x

Have you found any in South East London?

Im always coming across them, next time I see one I'll PM ya

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is more annoying is when I see a hot stud wandering around the forums that lives the other end of the country

Yeah that happens a lot too! Latest one is Wigan. I'm near Dover. 5 and a half hours! He's good looking, has a body to die for and seems like a decent bloke! Gutted

PM me his username, I'm near Wigan and happy to take one for the team

Done

Message sent

see thats community spirit!

I'm nice like that

I love this!

Someone should make the most of It He's a right hottie x

Have you found any in South East London?

Im always coming across them, next time I see one I'll PM ya

x "

Can you clean them up before you send them my way please

Nothing like a little team spirit, I'll do the same x

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By *lle adie 2Woman
over a year ago

newcastle upon tyne

Snap,I met a guy after much messaging, at first i thought not my type..We still carried on speaking and now im going to meet him again - his personality has overtaken everything and im now attracted to him..Is that odd?

In fact i REALLY REALLY WANT to see HIM again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are plenty of nice guys up here in the north west

lol

I do agree with the o p there's nothing so disappointing as there not being that spark ...

I just rub them on my sweater and get the static going instead

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