FabSwingers.com forum: Appropriate work party outfit

By *issYeuxBleus OP Woman
49 weeks ago

My boudoir - S Wales

Right I have a question…

Would it be appropriate to wear something sheer that shows a bra to a works Christmas party?

I think the outfit is quite classy but I work with a load of men, truckers at that. They may just see baps!

Could be setting myself up for some Monday morning gossip.

On the other hand, I feel really good in it.

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By *ee_awMan
49 weeks ago

newcastle

Surely it's all about what you want to wear? If it makes you feel good then what's the problem?

And if there's office gossip it'll just be "wow - she looked hot at the xmas do" for a couple of days and then forgotten - at least until the lead up to next years party, then it'll be "do you remember that see through outfit!

I guess at the end of the day I'm saying wear what you feel good in and sod them!

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By *hunky GentMan
49 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Right I have a question…

Would it be appropriate to wear something sheer that shows a bra to a works Christmas party?

I think the outfit is quite classy but I work with a load of men, truckers at that. They may just see baps!

Could be setting myself up for some Monday morning gossip.

On the other hand, I feel really good in it.

Opinions please

Let's face it - we're looking at your baps anyway.

BTW- do you need a +1?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
49 weeks ago

East Sussex

Basically it comes down to how you'll feel if there is gossip and if the thought of that might spoil your evening.

I'm all for wear what you want but even though it's unfair sometimes there will be consequences you might not appreciate, if you're prepared for that go ahead.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
49 weeks ago

Leeds

Hmmmm I'd have to see it to judge maybe without the bra too

Mrs

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By *naswingdressWoman
49 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think this is one of those things that is in a process of change. When I was a young adult I was made to feel that bra strap slippage was the height of sins. Now people seem to show them off on purpose.

I'm not sure about... a work event? But maybe if it's a very neutral bra.

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By *ickyKlungespeareMan
49 weeks ago

St Leonards

I think they'll see baps, and remember baps, and make comments about baps all year long.

So...the question would be...would your "bapness" harm your working life there?

If it would, maybe something that subtly hints at baps, rather than serves them on a platter?

For FAB delectation...both subtle and platter always welcomed x

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
49 weeks ago

Norwichish

If the bra is a sold colour material (not lace or sheer) then I wouldn’t see a problem with it.

If anyone judges you for what you wear it’s their problem not yours

And if the truckers see it as a come on then also that is their issue not yours.

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By *illy IdolMan
49 weeks ago

Midlands

You work with men. All they'll see is baps whatever you wear.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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49 weeks ago

East Sussex

"If the bra is a sold colour material (not lace or sheer) then I wouldn’t see a problem with it.

If anyone judges you for what you wear it’s their problem not yours

And if the truckers see it as a come on then also that is their issue not yours."

People have a habit still of blaming the woman for wearing something than for other people's reaction to it.

I bet 10p that if comments are made in a weeks time and the op complains so.e bright spark will say "it's your fault for showing your bra".

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

Depends how seriously you want to be taken at work

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By *naswingdressWoman
49 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"If the bra is a sold colour material (not lace or sheer) then I wouldn’t see a problem with it.

If anyone judges you for what you wear it’s their problem not yours

And if the truckers see it as a come on then also that is their issue not yours.

People have a habit still of blaming the woman for wearing something than for other people's reaction to it.

I bet 10p that if comments are made in a weeks time and the op complains so.e bright spark will say "it's your fault for showing your bra". "

Yeah, this is why I'm hesitant to say it's ok, even though the fashion has clearly moved towards this being acceptable.

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By *avelovescouplesMan
49 weeks ago

wolverhampton

As long as it’s not like your 6 th pic on your profile I think you will be ok x

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

I personally wouldn't go to my works party wearing that outfit, but that's because I know so many people would gossip and judge and I can't be doing with it.

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By *ickyKlungespeareMan
49 weeks ago

St Leonards

I want to live in a world where I can go to work naked, or dressed up like Jacob Rees-Mogg, and nobody gives a shit.

Only you (OP) know whether you want to crusade for freedom here, or maybe you're jacking the job in after Xmas so who cares, or maybe those truckers are more 21st Century than any of us know?

But...deep down...you know what effect you'll have in those preexisting dynamics, because none of us work there, only you, and deep down you already know whether you want to do this, and what the consequences, positive, negative, or neutral, will be.

And you also know what you want to do with those consequences.

Lovely baps btw

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By *oo..Woman
49 weeks ago

Boo's World

Wear it with a good bra underneath, not one that has some slight spillage too it or a nice bodysuit.

If that's all they can gossip about on Monday morning then let them, says more about them than you!

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
49 weeks ago

Norwichish

And that's why it needs to happen more. So people stop victim blaming. If blokes cannot control their urges or cannot see a woman in a beautiful outfit without thinking "I want to f*** that" then that is not the woman's fault, and society needs to make men better.

Men need to make men better, men need to have a word with their mates when they say something that we know is wrong rather than laughing along for fear of being the odd one out or to be seen as woke or a member of the feminati.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
49 weeks ago

East Sussex

Will there be many women colleagues there op?

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"And that's why it needs to happen more. So people stop victim blaming. If blokes cannot control their urges or cannot see a woman in a beautiful outfit without thinking "I want to f*** that" then that is not the woman's fault, and society needs to make men better.

I know your foaming at the mouth to make this men’s fault

But men aren’t the only people that will judge an outfit and take that judgement with them into work

I know in a fantasy world we can all dress how we want

But in reality how you dress is an expression of yourself that others will judge, both men and women, and that could effect your work life, someone’s for better, sometimes for worse

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
49 weeks ago

Maidstone

Personally I wouldn't for a work thing and especially if it was male dominated. But that's just a personal thing as I am in a position in work that's quite respectable and also I don't like men leering at me. But if you feel comfortable enough to wear it you shouldn't bother what people think.

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By *oo..Woman
49 weeks ago

Boo's World

"Wear it with a good bra underneath, not one that has some slight spillage too it or a nice bodysuit.

If that's all they can gossip about on Monday morning then let them, says more about them than you!

Also, you'd probably get worse comments if you worked with a bunch of women rather than men!

Wear what makes you feel good.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
49 weeks ago

East Sussex

The reason I asked if there would be many women colleagues there is because the worst negative judgement often comes from them.

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By *eroLondonMan
49 weeks ago

Mayfair

"Depends how seriously you want to be taken at work "

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I'm would expect the OP to be taken seriously based upon her work, duties and competencies, and not necessarily her clothing/uniform.

Just wear whatever is comfortable and makes you feel content.

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By *affeine DuskMan
49 weeks ago

Caerphilly

On the other hand, I feel really good in it.

This is what matters here, pal.

No nip, no worry.

If you think it looks ace, then it's gonna look ace.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
49 weeks ago

Portsmouth

Is there an option of wearing a cami or vest top underneath instead?

It's such a shame you feel you need to ask, but I completely understand why. Could lead to some very awkward/inappropriate comments at a later date.

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By *otsossieMan
49 weeks ago

local, but not too local

If you’re concerned about it then maybe a slip or a body as suggested?

Without knowing your office culture I can’t really say, but be prepared for comments about your décolletage.

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By *naswingdressWoman
49 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Is there an option of wearing a cami or vest top underneath instead?

It's such a shame you feel you need to ask, but I completely understand why. Could lead to some very awkward/inappropriate comments at a later date. "

Agreed

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By *he Black ExperienceMan
49 weeks ago

banbury

Your role/position in the company will be a factor as well.

As a senior manager I will always be careful of how I present myself to my staff. I'll always be professional on how I dress and interact even at social events. Trust me they can bite u in the ass after.

In a perfect world you won't be judged or spoken about on the way you decide to wear as a woman, unfortunately we don't live in a perfect world. If you are concerned take the advice above and probably wear something like a cami .

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
49 weeks ago

BRIDPORT

If it concerns you that they’ll see the bra it’s simple, loose the bra.

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By *otsossieMan
49 weeks ago

local, but not too local

"Your role/position in the company will be a factor as well.

As a senior manager… "

Yeah I was taught I was “representing the company” at all times and my actions reflected upon them.

One of the reasons I binned it off and became head geek instead.

That and all the shitty politics.

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

If you doubt wearing it enough to add to a forum thread for advice … don’t wear and find something else … whilst showing a bra is not the worse fashion crime ever committed … you will be looked at differently at work … if you can take that .. wear it . If not change .. I’m not saying that’s right or wrong .. just saying it’s likely ..

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

For a work event, personally, I wouldn't wear sheer tops without a fitted/tight vest under to hide lingerie. But it depends where you work and what the event is.

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By *orkshireBeef26Man
49 weeks ago

Kirkella

"Right I have a question…

Would it be appropriate to wear something sheer that shows a bra to a works Christmas party?

I think the outfit is quite classy but I work with a load of men, truckers at that. They may just see baps!

Could be setting myself up for some Monday morning gossip.

On the other hand, I feel really good in it.

Opinions please

Why not its Christmas!!!

Xxx

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By *rHotNottsMan
49 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Depends on the kind of people really. When I go to our works office party in London , the women really go for it, they look amazing & revealing & the men would not think to or dare say anything derogatory about what they wear , , but it’s Mayfair. Places I worked in the past in the Midlands, very different, they would be the talk of the office for weeks.

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By *esthetic21Man
49 weeks ago

Birmingham/Bristol

Do what makes you feel good

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

Hi OP, I'm sensing you're feeling a little uncomfortable at the thought of wearing this sheer outfit to your male dominated work do....Maybe just go for the old reliable LBD & save the sheer outfit for clubbing....

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By *otSoPoshWoman
49 weeks ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Honestly, it's the sort of thing I'd happily wear. You always strike me as someone who can give more than as good as you get, darling lady... and a swift "and that's as close as you'll ever get to them

" in response to comments made usually works wonders to shut the lairy ones up.

If it feels good, do it. Also... send me photos

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By *issmorganWoman
49 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Could you maybe do a pic in it and let us have a look?.

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By *otsossieMan
49 weeks ago

local, but not too local

If it’s the latest one on her profile it made me growl a bit.

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By *r_GreyscaleMan
49 weeks ago

North Hertfordshire

If you feel good in it, wear it

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By *addad99Man
49 weeks ago

Rotherham /newquay

Only you know the blokes and women you work with and there partners my ex wouldn't even let me talk to you if you even showed a bit of cleavage as for the gossip thats jealousy if you don't do anything wrong I don't see a problem I'm a truck driver though.

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
49 weeks ago

Maidstone

The bottom line is that people will judge regardless of whether they should or not. If accept that and are happy with that then wear it. If not then find something else. It's not difficult.

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By *obilebottomMan
49 weeks ago

All over

I an ideal world it shouldn't matter but we all know the world is not that. If in doubt, don't.

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By *odgers and PartingCouple
49 weeks ago

edinburgh

"Right I have a question…

Would it be appropriate to wear something sheer that shows a bra to a works Christmas party?

I think the outfit is quite classy but I work with a load of men, truckers at that. They may just see baps!

Could be setting myself up for some Monday morning gossip.

On the other hand, I feel really good in it.

Opinions please

You’d wear a bikini on holiday, so… R

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By *hunky GentMan
49 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Here's an option:

Arrive wearing something over the top.

Then if you feel comfortable, at the time, take it off.

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By *a LunaWoman
49 weeks ago

South Wales

Not at a works do.

I’m all for wearing what you want in own time, but for work related things, I think it’s best to opt for coverage.

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By *issYeuxBleus OP Woman
49 weeks ago

My boudoir - S Wales

Very mixed bag of opinions and advice, but all valid. Thanks everyone for commenting.

There will definitely not be any nips showing. I just about found nipple stickers that cover them!

I have wore something similar on a night out before and had a lot of tuts and eye rolls from women with their partners, but also a lot of compliments from women who were with friends. I guess it’s all down to the individual. Was interesting to see the guys input on this post though.

Over and out

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By *ools and the brainCouple
49 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

Every year I try to convince Mrs to wear something a bit sexy to her work Christmas party and every year she says the same thing " I would if it wasn't for the other women" she doesn't care about the men it's the judgy,bitchy women that she's worried about.

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

Get a good photo of you in the outfit in your public pics and we’ll advise (after we’ve stretched out a few quick ones).

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

Go for it. I wouldn't even worry about what anyone else thinks. And if anyone is uncomfortable at the sight of a bra then I really do worry about them. It's a Christmas party and deserves a gorgeous outfit! If you feel good, wear it.

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