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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is sex sometimes too much hard work or overrated?

Not the actual sex bit but the getting a meet, getting ready for a meet, the anticipation, maybe a lack of connection, the travelling, all of it or is that all part of it.

Would it sometimes just be easier to masturbate, it potentially results in the same, an orgasm.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

If there's no connection I'd rather masturbate for sure.

I can get myself off at home just fine. I go through all the faff because I want to do it with a particular person

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
over a year ago

The last house on the left…

"Is sex sometimes too much hard work or overrated?

Not the actual sex bit but the getting a meet, getting ready for a meet, the anticipation, maybe a lack of connection, the travelling, all of it or is that all part of it.

Would it sometimes just be easier to masturbate, it potentially results in the same, an orgasm. "

Those sound like the problems of someone who gets too much sex LOL

I like the effort & uncertainty.

To quote Jurassic Park...

"He doesn't want to be fed, he wants to hunt"

Sex to me I’d like pizza...

If it’s bad, it still good

If it’s not my choice of topping, it’s dtill good

If it’s cold & days old...it’s still good

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If no connection i would not be meeting … even with a connection it’s not just about the sex, everything in between can be just as exciting … if not more … the intensity when 2 similar minds collide is simply extraordinary !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope

Good sex takes effort from both sides.

Not willing to put effort in, then why bother?

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By *icolasHidalgoDeCorazonMan
over a year ago

St Leonards

In terms of cock twitch, and orgasm sensations around the cock/balls area - wanking is usually a lot better.

You know what you need and when you need it, better than anyone.

In terms of the rest of body feelings, eye contact, kiss, caress, brutal steam-train energy, biting, pulling hair...and about a million other things...

Wanks aren't even in the same universe.

Sadly, the other human is required for that, and that's where it gets messy. Someone great "on paper" can be a bit disappointing in reality, vice versa, or someone who was once great can get stale. Socially and sexually.

That applies to their experiences with me as much as my experiences with them.

A wank very rarely lets you down.

It just can't take you to the other places anywhere near as well though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is sex sometimes too much hard work or overrated?

Not the actual sex bit but the getting a meet, getting ready for a meet, the anticipation, maybe a lack of connection, the travelling, all of it or is that all part of it.

Would it sometimes just be easier to masturbate, it potentially results in the same, an orgasm. "

Absolutely

Once you’ve had enough casual sex you get bored of it and need more of a connection. That connection takes far more effort

Very easy going out on a Saturday night and finding a warm body to shack up with for the night

Much harder to find someone you wanna sleep next to after and actually hang out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and yes.

All of it

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Yep. Don’t think I can be bothered with meeting new people anymore. Haven’t for ages now. I’ll stick with the oldies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and no depends

It’s to much for a quick 5-10 minute splat and run

but if a person is willing to go rounds and have a joyful time along the way say 4-5-6-7 hours all night and the next morning

Or 2-3 days then it’s most definitely worth the time

And for those wondering I don’t mean just straight sex for all those hours there’s so mucb more that can be done and when you do the hours just fly by

For instance ok

So round one then a break

Maybe a glass off bubbly or something and so chit chat

On to round two break during that break a little outfit change maybe some more talk

And a lap dance and what not

On to round 3 then break

Maybe a little fleshing up at this point jump in a shower together and tease

Then come out maybe bring a couple off outfits out have another glass off bubbly

While changing in and out off outfits give mini lap dances and parding around

Then let them pic they favourite one and on to round 4

By this point we 4-5 hours deep

We had a wonderful time and it’s been all worth it

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By *icolasHidalgoDeCorazonMan
over a year ago

St Leonards

"Yes and no depends

It’s to much for a quick 5-10 minute splat and run

but if a person is willing to go rounds and have a joyful time along the way say 4-5-6-7 hours all night and the next morning

Or 2-3 days then it’s most definitely worth the time

Wot Natalie sed

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

Absolutely. It's fun as fuck but the person needs to be just that - fun.

When people start acting like they are better than others because they think they are highly desirable the sexual attraction dwindles like a beast. So you have a good midriff, probably down to your sexy parents genes. It doesn't make you fetch.

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

I just sleep with people I call friends.

All the travel and whatnot, it's worth it that way for far more things than a fistful of orgasms, which is also my fave western.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is sex sometimes too much hard work or overrated?

Not the actual sex bit but the getting a meet, getting ready for a meet, the anticipation, maybe a lack of connection, the travelling, all of it or is that all part of it.

Would it sometimes just be easier to masturbate, it potentially results in the same, an orgasm. "

It’s easier to have a wank, if I just wanted sex.

It’s easier to just get a local meet if I just wanted sex, but that’s not without some effort.

But if I thought I was making too much effort, I’d it really worth it?

I like the feeling of it being effortless and wanting to meet them no matter what. You just do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s the kisses for me

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"It’s the kisses for me "

Sounds like the start of a song

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"If there's no connection I'd rather masturbate for sure.

I can get myself off at home just fine. I go through all the faff because I want to do it with a particular person

This.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"I just sleep with people I call friends.

All the travel and whatnot, it's worth it that way for far more things than a fistful of orgasms, which is also my fave western.

Oh I like that one too! Has it got spaghetti?

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"Absolutely. It's fun as fuck but the person needs to be just that - fun.

“Stop trying to make fetch happen!”

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"Yes and no depends

It’s to much for a quick 5-10 minute splat and run

but if a person is willing to go rounds and have a joyful time along the way say 4-5-6-7 hours all night and the next morning

Or 2-3 days then it’s most definitely worth the time

And for those wondering I don’t mean just straight sex for all those hours there’s so mucb more that can be done and when you do the hours just fly by

For instance ok

So round one then a break

Maybe a glass off bubbly or something and so chit chat

On to round two break during that break a little outfit change maybe some more talk

And a lap dance and what not

On to round 3 then break

Maybe a little fleshing up at this point jump in a shower together and tease

Then come out maybe bring a couple off outfits out have another glass off bubbly

While changing in and out off outfits give mini lap dances and parding around

Then let them pic they favourite one and on to round 4

By this point we 4-5 hours deep

We had a wonderful time and it’s been all worth it

Splat and run! Lmao - Liz Phair would be proud I think x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's only overrated if she/they does not turn up. I like the ritual of getting ready, the anticipation, all of it.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Yes, for purely casual sex I find it is.

I think I prefer the spontaneity of seeing someone in person and sparks flying that way. Online it all seems a bit forced.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No sex it’s worth it. And if it’s too much hassle then I just do it with someone else. It can be hard developing a roster but I also enjoy meeting people, going on dates/ socials.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Splat and run! Lmao - Liz Phair would be proud I think x"

Yea I think she would be ha ha definitely a good one x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is too much like hard work is getting ready and they don't turn up. Even though they have confirmed earlier in the day.

Unfortunately I don't cum from masturbating. It doesn't turn me on.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Any day can be manufactured to be a drag but we make it to be a lot better than that. Sure, we could wa nank ourselves silly but we learn to shape our partner selection and engagement to be earth shattering bliss. And rest when we need to

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"Would it sometimes just be easier to masturbate, it potentially results in the same, an orgasm. "

Yes, sex is sometimes too much work. But, no, I don't think a wank is the same, at all. A connection and a give-and-receive of pleasure that results in an orgasm is hardly the same as merely shooting my load.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Is sex sometimes too much hard work or overrated?

Not the actual sex bit but the getting a meet, getting ready for a meet, the anticipation, maybe a lack of connection, the travelling, all of it or is that all part of it.

Would it sometimes just be easier to masturbate, it potentially results in the same, an orgasm. "
You've hit the perverbial nail on the head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's hard work but at least men don't have to shave their legs n shit urgh.

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
over a year ago

Maidstone

God yes. Too much effort. Or I'm too lazy. Possibly both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"God yes. Too much effort. Or I'm too lazy. Possibly both. "

^pillow princess.

*it’s a joke from another topic here.

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By *BWLOVER1965Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

"Is sex sometimes too much hard work or overrated?

Not the actual sex bit but the getting a meet, getting ready for a meet, the anticipation, maybe a lack of connection, the travelling, all of it or is that all part of it.

Would it sometimes just be easier to masturbate, it potentially results in the same, an orgasm. "

Sex is sex when no woman available most of time now can’t be arsed to be fair I know men can be hard work relationship wise finding it difficult on fab pastures new as they say to old for this shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An orgasm by myself does not compare to the one I can have with a bed mate.

The weight of the person, the feel of them, the way they smell, their touch how they touch me.

It isn't comparable.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Is sex sometimes too much hard work or overrated?

Not the actual sex bit but the getting a meet, getting ready for a meet, the anticipation, maybe a lack of connection, the travelling, all of it or is that all part of it.

Would it sometimes just be easier to masturbate, it potentially results in the same, an orgasm. "

Lack of connection would mean no meet, I've zero time for shit sex I'd rather have amazing sex at home than bother to meet someone we've zero connection with.

Mrs

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

All part and parcel of it for us anyway and there has to be a "Conection/spark/attraction" for us both for us to even consider butting uglies or similiar and deffo not into turn fumble/fuck n go type of meets but each to their own we say xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"An orgasm by myself does not compare to the one I can have with a bed mate.

The weight of the person, the feel of them, the way they smell, their touch how they touch me.

It isn't comparable."

A bed mate!!! I need one of those.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is sex sometimes too much hard work or overrated?

Not the actual sex bit but the getting a meet, getting ready for a meet, the anticipation, maybe a lack of connection, the travelling, all of it or is that all part of it.

Would it sometimes just be easier to masturbate, it potentially results in the same, an orgasm.

Lack of connection would mean no meet, I've zero time for shit sex I'd rather have amazing sex at home than bother to meet someone we've zero connection with.

Mrs "

As a couple, that’s go to be lucky to find a connection all ways.

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By *amesB66Man
over a year ago

St Peter Port

"Is sex sometimes too much hard work or overrated? The finding someone to meet, getting ready for a meet, the anticipation, maybe a lack of connection, the travelling, all of it or is that all part of it.

Would it sometimes just be easier to masturbate, it potentially results in the same, an orgasm. "

I disagree. The pre meet organization, flirting, preparation and anticipation is a huge part of the excitement.

You hope, by that stage, that those you may not gel with have revealed themselves and you've aborted, but on the odd occasion one does slip through the net, then yes, I agree, it's disappointing.

The prospect of great sex, with an interesting woman, far out weighs the known pleasure of my right hand.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

No. If it felt like too much hard work or had the potential to be a damp squib I wouldn't bother with it. I've got a fiancé at home so I'm not exactly sex starved.

I've never seen a connection as being "effort" - I love making and exploring them and seeing what unfolds.

And no, the orgasms from me wanking or me having sex with another are very different. Both enjoyable don't get me wrong but I'd always choose the latter.

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By *amesB66Man
over a year ago

St Peter Port

"No. If it felt like too much hard work or had the potential to be a damp squib I wouldn't bother with it. I've got a fiancé at home so I'm not exactly sex starved.

I've never seen a connection as being "effort" - I love making and exploring them and seeing what unfolds.

And no, the orgasms from me wanking or me having sex with another are very different. Both enjoyable don't get me wrong but I'd always choose the latter. "

Absolutely

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
over a year ago

Maidstone

"God yes. Too much effort. Or I'm too lazy. Possibly both.

^pillow princess.

*it’s a joke from another topic here.

For me it's too much effort finding someone to get to the wanting sex stage with. Once you get there it's easy.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I only attend clubs, so I love the getting ready to go out feeling and not knowing who you might meet at a club.

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By *amesB66Man
over a year ago

St Peter Port

"I only attend clubs, so I love the getting ready to go out feeling and not knowing who you might meet at a club. "

That's a viable option!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"God yes. Too much effort. Or I'm too lazy. Possibly both.

^pillow princess.

*it’s a joke from another topic here.

For me it's too much effort finding someone to get to the wanting sex stage with. Once you get there it's easy.

I can relate in some way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had sex once it was alright might do it again. Dunno.

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