FabSwingers.com forum: Ladies viewpoint

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do ladies like to be called ladies?

What about Hun, babe, chick, women, birds, females, girls, she who shall not be named?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Every time I say my opinion, no matter how much I caveat it that some people feel or see it this way, other women tell me I'm wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's wrong with our names

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ladies and women will do me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My name ! Unless you know me personally very well

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Woman is my preference. Ladies maybe. Female and girl definitely not. Pet names... not until we're friendly.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"Woman is my preference. Ladies maybe. Female and girl definitely not. Pet names... not until we're friendly."

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

Manchester(ish).

"Do ladies like to be called ladies?

What about Hun, babe, chick, women, birds, females, girls, she who shall not be named?"

I hate Ladies, it makes me shudder with revulsion.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Hun, babe, chick or anything like that no!!

Lady, female, woman, girl is fine as that’s what I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t mind babe if it’s someone I know well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

LittleBird probably doesn’t mind being called a bird.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Do ladies like to be called ladies?

What about Hun, babe, chick, women, birds, females, girls, she who shall not be named?

I hate Ladies, it makes me shudder with revulsion. "

For me it's so contextual. It can be nice. It can be eye roll inducing. It can transport me back to school assembly where everyone is in trouble

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hun, babe, chick or anything like that no!!

Lady, female, woman, girl is fine as that’s what I am"

Lady?

interesting

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

Good grief {insert appropriate name/s here}, I'm going to have to create an Excel ™ Spreadsheet with some of these varying responses. I can't keep up.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Good grief {insert appropriate name/s here}, I'm going to have to create an Excel ™ Spreadsheet with some of these varying responses. I can't keep up."

What's computer code for a query? If meet person, ask. If response given, respect wishes.

Job done.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I prefer being called a woman. Mainly because I am. I don't mind lady.

I don't really care what people I don't know very well call me, all it does is tell me something about them, it's no reflection on me

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

If you are addressing a group then preferably women or ladies at a push. Definitely not females or girls.

If talking to me as an individual then use my name (or username on here) please.

Pet names such as hun, babe, darling, sweetheart etc are for people who know me well enough to use them.

Anyone using these in a first message to me on here won't get a reply from me.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Wench, Maid, Lass... Maid is my favourite.

But those all have specific reasons for me. As do the ones I don't like.

Unfortunately I think Nero is right and the only way to know is to do a spreadsheet and change your term depending on who you're talking to.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"What's wrong with our names

That requires me to remember each name for each individual. Lady is universal and much easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dame

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It's not difficult to use woman or lady or whatever regional term is appropriate before you know someone is it? Then once you know them just use whatever term the two of you want.

I always use men or man for people presenting as male. I wouldn't say boys and I don't use 'guy' outside of fab. Once I know someone I might use the term 'mate'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oi bint!

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"I prefer being called a woman. Mainly because I am. I don't mind lady.

I don't really care what people I don't know very well call me, all it does is tell me something about them, it's no reflection on me"

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If I'm going to bonk you, hypothetically (wishful thinking), in an EasyHotel™ then "woman" is fine. If I'm going bonk² you in the Churchill Suite at Claridges then it'll have to be "lady". It's a prerequisite in fact.

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
over a year ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

Being called 'hun' makes my shit itch. Ladies/women is fine

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Hun, babe, chick or anything like that no!!

Lady, female, woman, girl is fine as that’s what I am

Lady?

interesting

. Yeah true. That’s a bit of a stretch to be fair!

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"What's wrong with our names

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i don't know yours or is it miss midnight

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Dame

Oh yes. I’d like to be referred to as this please from now on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hun, babe, chick or anything like that no!!

Lady, female, woman, girl is fine as that’s what I am

Lady?

interesting

. Yeah true. That’s a bit of a stretch to be fair!

Would you like to be stretched?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I prefer being called a woman. Mainly because I am. I don't mind lady.

I don't really care what people I don't know very well call me, all it does is tell me something about them, it's no reflection on me

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If bonking was on the cards whatever the location, I suspect I would know the hapless gent well enough to be on first name terms

. Upon signing the hotel register he might discover that my title is in fact Lady Nice of Niceton unless I was incognito to avoid the Daily Mirror.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

One of our neighbours forgets my name all the time, I told him to just call me Madame

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Hun, babe, chick or anything like that no!!

Lady, female, woman, girl is fine as that’s what I am

Lady?

interesting

. Yeah true. That’s a bit of a stretch to be fair!

Would you like to be stretched? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dame

Oh yes. I’d like to be referred to as this please from now on

Not enough people use it.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Dame

Oh yes. I’d like to be referred to as this please from now on

Anytime somebody says Dame, I just auto think of Judi Dench

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Do ladies like to be called ladies?

What about Hun, babe, chick, women, birds, females, girls, she who shall not be named?"

I asked my play partners this over time and all said they liked to be called women, or girls , 2 didnt mind being called a Lady especialy with my profile bame ,but the rest said Lady was too old/mature.

Each to their own and it easy to stick to a preferred title.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Dame

Oh yes. I’d like to be referred to as this please from now on

Anytime somebody says Dame, I just auto think of Judi Dench

Haha I did too! Dame is a bit old. I’ll go with Lady Nora

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By *ecretsinnersCouple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I’m old fashioned. I prefer lady.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dame

Oh yes. I’d like to be referred to as this please from now on

Anytime somebody says Dame, I just auto think of Judi Dench

Or an Australian drag act?

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"...If I'm going to bonk you, hypothetically (wishful thinking), in an EasyHotel™ then "woman" is fine. If I'm going bonk² you in the Churchill Suite at Claridges then it'll have to be "lady". It's a prerequisite in fact.

If bonking was on the cards whatever the location, I suspect I would know the hapless gent well enough to be on first name terms

. Upon signing the hotel register he might discover that my title is in fact Lady Nice of Niceton unless I was incognito to avoid the Daily Mirror.

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You concupiscent little minx!

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I prefer to be called tartlet or sugartits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies and women will do me

I think that this is the wish of many of the men on Fab

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

She Who Must Be Obeyed!

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I hate hun, babe, trouble or any pet name from someone I've never spoken to before.it makes me cringe, just use my name

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"She Who Must Be Obeyed!"

That works out so well for you

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I hate hun, babe, trouble or any pet name from someone I've never spoken to before.it makes me cringe, just use my name

Trouble either confuses me or makes my skin crawl. It's certainly something that stops any possibility of further conversation

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

I have a terrible habit of saying "sorry love"

Or addressing a mixed room as "hiya guys"

I apologise if these are on your lists of words you find offensive.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"I hate hun, babe, trouble or any pet name from someone I've never spoken to before.it makes me cringe, just use my name

Trouble either confuses me or makes my skin crawl. It's certainly something that stops any possibility of further conversation"

Agree, same as using nawty...

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Prefer woman personally

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By *orny-DJMan
over a year ago

Leigh-on-Sea

"I don’t mind babe if it’s someone I know well "

I would so like to get to know you well

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I don't care who you are, you are getting a "hey you guys! Said in the voice of Sloth

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