FabSwingers.com forum: What gets people through low days

By *inamic OP Man
over a year ago

Blackpool

So since I'm back having to fight my mind again against my depression, what helps others keep fighting and picking urself up off the ground. For me music is my go to, to try bring some peace and clarity to myself. Certain songs for me really just hit me deep, I have gained a vast knowledge of songs and lyrics that fit my mood perfectly.

Currently listening to this to lift my spirits. Sam Ryder - Mountain

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ovzZS8oUJnE&pp=ygUSc2FtIHJ5ZGVyIG1vdW50YWlu Again another song that speaks about my personal experiences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Finding the little win.

Sitting having a coffee looking at a view. Reading a book for a bit. Music.

Something just for me for however long.

Also embracing I’m low, that it’s okay to be low and not to beat myself up for it or that just adds to it

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By *inamic OP Man
over a year ago

Blackpool

"Finding the little win.

Sitting having a coffee looking at a view. Reading a book for a bit. Music.

Something just for me for however long.

Also embracing I’m low, that it’s okay to be low and not to beat myself up for it or that just adds to it "

Very good advice, in fairness think I've slowly got myself lost again and kind of just crept up on me this time

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Little wins and having good friends I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Finding the little win.

Sitting having a coffee looking at a view. Reading a book for a bit. Music.

Something just for me for however long.

Also embracing I’m low, that it’s okay to be low and not to beat myself up for it or that just adds to it

Very good advice, in fairness think I've slowly got myself lost again and kind of just crept up on me this time "

I know when it’s coming, yet sometimes it creeps in.

For me it’s noticing when it’s happening, not trying to stop it but put control measures in place. First thing is phone down and stop looking at what others are doing or getting.

Then it’s trying to be kind to me. The little win.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

Being in nature always helps me...a walk through a wood or along the canal bank and being mindful of the colour of the trees, the wind blowing the grass etc.

Music and meeting friends also helps to lift me, although I find I tend to hide away and have to push myself to make plans to get out.

As someone said earlier, just acknowledging that I'm feeling low and that's OK. I don't always have to be smiling and positive. Sometimes life is a bit shit and that's just how it is.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I remind myself it will pass and that it's probably because I'm tired and/or in pain.

I rest, try to eat better and sleep or play games on my phone if my brain isn't too tired.

If I'm aching all over I run a hot bath with perfumed Epsom salts and wallow while I listen to mellow music.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Some days, when I'm very low, I think about how my family would feel if I wasn't here, then I talk to myself and cry.

I usually wake up feeling better the next day, but if I don't I have medication I can take.

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By *inamic OP Man
over a year ago

Blackpool

Great advice so far and glad to know that I'm not alone in this one, especially during low times. Its good way of doing it by accepting that your low and try find little wins to keep going, definitely going to look for them from now and slowly creep my way back up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A good cry for 5 mins.

Swimming.

Being around people i love

Looking after dogs.

Nice food and good films or a book.

Anything to bring me peace.

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By *inamic OP Man
over a year ago

Blackpool

"Some days, when I'm very low, I think about how my family would feel if I wasn't here, then I talk to myself and cry.

I usually wake up feeling better the next day, but if I don't I have medication I can take.

Been there, I've always been thankful when on that precipice of doing something stupid, I'm able to go and seek further help and I always think that's a blessing that I can have that sense of clarity to know when things have gotten that bad to stop and seek further help when needed.

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By *r_reusMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Do something productive every day, even if it's just for an hour or so, it'll help assuage the feelings of guilt, which for many play a big part of the weight of depression

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wine. Coffee. Sometimes coffee and wine. Occasionally both. R

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By *inamic OP Man
over a year ago

Blackpool

"Do something productive every day, even if it's just for an hour or so, it'll help assuage the feelings of guilt, which for many play a big part of the weight of depression

I throw myself into work as I enjoy what I do and get to serve and look after some amazing people at the hotel I work at. Plus some of the stories you get to learn are pretty amazing.

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By *ullyMan
over a year ago

Near Clacton

Music you love is timeless, it certainly lifts my spirits when low.

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By *hunky ChefMan
over a year ago

Norwich

Music definitely.

Either listening or playing.

Playing is a bit time consuming, annoyingly difficult sometimes and too much effort when I'm down.

Also sex or wank, but mostly wank since I spend most of my free time here.

Some people brighten my day, but most just digs me deeper.

I always dig myself out, so technically I am the one who I can always count on with anything really.

Do yourself is the best advice I guess.

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By *edGrayCouple
over a year ago

Swindon

This time of the year does not help my mood. Dank miserable weather, pending Christmas and the pressure to be jolly etc etc. For me I have invested in a uva light which can mimic the sun's uva light and help produce serotonin which can be a mood lifter. Like a previous post said, going for walks in the country side or around wooded areas also helps as trees and foliage can be mood lifting. Exercise is always good for your wellbeing, so I always find time to visit the gym at least 2-3 times a week. Then there is the dreaded alcohol, you feel good when consuming it, but it's also can make you feel down the day after, so I limit my alcohol intake. Hope this helps OP.

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By *BWLOVER1965Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

Had big wobble years ago and I’m not talking about my belly

It was something never experienced before was shock to system so much pain and hurt

Been honest the only thing that helps is medication doctors and the love of family friends and little fat poochie waiting when I get home long walks and love

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By *edGrayCouple
over a year ago

Swindon

I forgot to add, eat more fresh fruit and veg and limit the amount of sugar junk food.

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By *inamic OP Man
over a year ago

Blackpool

"This time of the year does not help my mood. Dank miserable weather, pending Christmas and the pressure to be jolly etc etc. For me I have invested in a uva light which can mimic the sun's uva light and help produce serotonin which can be a mood lifter. Like a previous post said, going for walks in the country side or around wooded areas also helps as trees and foliage can be mood lifting. Exercise is always good for your wellbeing, so I always find time to visit the gym at least 2-3 times a week. Then there is the dreaded alcohol, you feel good when consuming it, but it's also can make you feel down the day after, so I limit my alcohol intake. Hope this helps OP. "

Yeah a friend of mine has one of them lights and he swears by it maybe have to look at investing in one myself. He's abit of inspiration to me, he did try commit suicide at a young age luckily survive without any permanent damage now has a loving wife and a son. Just shows how things change just hoping for it to happen to me sometime soon

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Count your blessings.

Remember that you are lucky to be alive.

To have a roof over your head.

Food in the cupboards.

Money in the bank.

When I feel myself getting a bit low I tell myself to get over it, I tell myself that this feeling won't last, that in the morning I won't care anymore

And that my problems are so minute it's laughable (and sometimes it does make me laugh).

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Depends on how bad the bad day is.

At my very worst - a fuck you stubbornness. I will get through, because... I just will.

Otherwise, just step by step, being kind to myself, using coping mechanisms, and being a bit more self congratulatory than normal (in my head)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On those really low days it’s just focusing on the small goals to get me through the day. One breath after another, making sure I eat and trying not to be too hard on myself. Knowing that whatever happens, the world isn’t going to come to end because of anything I’ve done.

Once I get through those days, it’s raising the stakes for my goals, trying to get a little more done each time until it’s not a chore to do them. Time passes and I know I get through it eventually

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Thinking about what things enrich my life and bring me pleasure, then I do one of them.

Mr DD

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just telling myself that tomorrow will be better and even if not, then it's only a bad patch that will improve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Crying and embrace the sadness.

Tomorrow is another day.

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By *hunky ChefMan
over a year ago

Norwich

"Crying and embrace the sadness.

Tomorrow is another day."

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Crying actually helps, but it's really rare I can do a proper one.

I guess it's coded in men since childhood: "Big boys don't cry".

I still embrace sadness more than I should.

Became a part of me.

The blues is after me constantly.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Music, a hot soak in the bath, a hug from my kids, or a good cry.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Music, my family, my dogs and getting outside

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