FabSwingers.com forum: Is it

By *ark_Knights OP Man
49 weeks ago

london

So is it wrong for a single person to enjoy the mutual pleasures with someone who is attached and their partner is unaware ?

I mean yes it’s quite a hot scenario in someways but is it cheating for the single person too?

Haha I’m single and would never do cheat on a partner

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49 weeks ago

Short answer is yes it’s wrong your not cheating because your single

But it is morally wrong to know that the other person is cheating

The way I look at it I wouldn’t like to be cheated so why would I help someone cheat

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By *unsexual MemelordWoman
49 weeks ago

Midlothian

"Short answer is yes it’s wrong your not cheating because your single

But it is morally wrong to know that the other person is cheating

The way I look at it I wouldn’t like to be cheated so why would I help someone cheat

Agreed.

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"Short answer is yes it’s wrong your not cheating because your single

But it is morally wrong to know that the other person is cheating

The way I look at it I wouldn’t like to be cheated so why would I help someone cheat

Agreed.

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"Short answer is yes it’s wrong your not cheating because your single

But it is morally wrong to know that the other person is cheating

The way I look at it I wouldn’t like to be cheated so why would I help someone cheat

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"So is it wrong for a single person to enjoy the mutual pleasures with someone who is attached and their partner is unaware ?

I mean yes it’s quite a hot scenario in someways but is it cheating for the single person too?

Haha I’m single and would never do cheat on a partner "

Yeah it's wrong but who cares. The attached person is cheating. The single person is not.

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"Short answer is yes it’s wrong your not cheating because your single

But it is morally wrong to know that the other person is cheating

The way I look at it I wouldn’t like to be cheated so why would I help someone cheat

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

Is it morally wrong? Probably.

Are you as bad as the person cheating? Definitely not.

Are you enabling them? Let's be honest, a cheater is gonna cheat.

And if they're hot then yeah, why not.

Also, speaking as someone who's been cheated on but I blame my ex, not the women involved.

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
49 weeks ago

Aberdeen

It isn't something I'd want to be involved in. I've seen the devastation it causes and I want no part of that at all

MrsAbz

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
49 weeks ago

Coventry

I think most people are here for their own pleasure not to police the morals and actions of others. However for many the knowledge that people are cheating in its self may be factor that steals from the enjoyment they seek. Do you want to be party to potentially someone else's misery? You can't control the actions of someone else, just your own actions. The world is not black and white but its completely your choice if your happy to knowingly be party to that cheating.

We'd be hypocrites to say we've 100% never been with someone cheating (although to be fair often unwittingly). There's plenty of regular women and men on the scene doing it (at least in clubs). However it something personally we're not a fan of. Is something that's most likely going to stop us as we're hardly attracted to being party to someone's cheating. However we don't go to judge, we know the world is not perfect. We go to clubs to fulfil our desires not to police others. So on the very rare occasions we have been with someone cheating and had a good time with them. However as much as we may have liked them as an individual and had a hot time with them it still taints things a little.

We talk about someone cheating on the club scene. That doesn't feel as bad as someone online or out in the real world. In a club something is very much of that time and space, seperate from the outside world. However talking to people online and making arrangements ect is very premeditated and very much of the real world. I think that would be a no from us. As much as we're not here to judge or police we don't want to be that much party to it. We both know how much it hurts to have that done to us by ex spouces.

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"Short answer is yes it’s wrong your not cheating because your single

But it is morally wrong to know that the other person is cheating

The way I look at it I wouldn’t like to be cheated so why would I help someone cheat

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"Short answer is yes it’s wrong your not cheating because your single

But it is morally wrong to know that the other person is cheating

The way I look at it I wouldn’t like to be cheated so why would I help someone cheat

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

The ironic thing with these threads is a lot of the women that comment openly flirt with a few popular forum guys that are married and are on here without their partners knowledge.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
49 weeks ago

Coventry

"Is it morally wrong? Probably.

Are you as bad as the person cheating? Definitely not.

Are you enabling them? Let's be honest, a cheater is gonna cheat.

And if they're hot then yeah, why not.

Also, speaking as someone who's been cheated on but I blame my ex, not the women involved.

Definitely a pragmatic response. Pragmatically speaking a veiw I share. However although your being the enabler or not may not change things but do you want to be that guy? Logically why not? If you don't enjoy that with that someone hot, someone else will. Your missing out won't change the situation one bit apart from you missing out personally. So it all boils down to if your rationalisation can defeat your morals/feelings on an issue. I like to see myself generally driven rationally. However on this topic its not so clear cut, I don't want to be that guy although I do know the world isn't black and white for others who's shoes I don't stand in. From the point of veiw of when I was on here as a single guy it's something ultimately I avoided although I.was tempted by a couple of women who were cheating. Not my place to judge them as I didn't stand in their shoes, rationally OK(ish) but personally just too close to home after the way my Ex wife treated me. I agree blame on them, not the other guy so much, but still did I want to be that guy?

It all depends where you stand as an individual. I'm not judging otherz either way, I'd be a hypocrite to do so. However for me it's not something I'm comfortable with as default despite the rational argument.

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
49 weeks ago

Aberdeen

"The ironic thing with these threads is a lot of the women that comment openly flirt with a few popular forum guys that are married and are on here without their partners knowledge.

How would one know they were married unless told?

Also flirting is not quite the same - people flirt all the time in real life, it doesn't mean anything. At least it doesn't to me, its just a little amusement to pass the time. Thats not really something I can get worked up over. I could try but it would be hypocritical.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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49 weeks ago

East Sussex

The single person is the enabler. They're not cheating just like buying alcohol for an alcoholic isn't actually being an alcoholic

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
49 weeks ago

Staffordshire

We’re down with opp

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
49 weeks ago

ashford

As a single person myself I consider it to b a yes as an enabler ! X

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
49 weeks ago

Reading

For me, yes, but i think it's for each person to set their own moral compass.

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
49 weeks ago

London

I wouldn't knowingly do it, falls under 'treat people how you would like to be treated' for me.

I have had people reveal afterwards though. I've also had people hoping that I was cheating after we had sex too, I guess it's an ego/kink thing for some.

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By *issmorganWoman
49 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Well you'd be helping them to cheat on their partner which isnt great.

It's wrong to me, which is why I wouldn't meet anyone whose partner is unaware they're on here.

There's lots of actual singles you can meet and have good times with instead.

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By *inky ChefMan
49 weeks ago

Norwich

Many of the commenters are couples on a swinging site, or women/men who play with couples.

Just an observation, that's all.

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"So is it wrong for a single person to enjoy the mutual pleasures with someone who is attached and their partner is unaware ?

I mean yes it’s quite a hot scenario in someways but is it cheating for the single person too?

Haha I’m single and would never do cheat on a partner "

It’s not

You are not responsible for what someone does to their partner

I’ve hooked up with many take /married women and never felt even slightly bad about it

It’s not my relationship to keep tabs on or feel bad about.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
49 weeks ago

Leeds

"Short answer is yes it’s wrong your not cheating because your single

But it is morally wrong to know that the other person is cheating

The way I look at it I wouldn’t like to be cheated so why would I help someone cheat

This!

Mrs

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
49 weeks ago

Leeds

"Many of the commenters are couples on a swinging site, or women/men who play with couples.

Just an observation, that's all.

All of the comments are from people on a swinging site couples/men/women, it is posted on a swinging site after all.

Mrs

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By *penbicoupleCouple
49 weeks ago

Northampton

It's not cheating, but whether it's 'wrong' or not is probably decided on a case by case basis, IMO.

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By *ark_Knights OP Man
49 weeks ago

london

Valuable perceptions indeed thank you.

Absolutely no judgment either

I was of the ilk that I’m single and we are adults so she makes her choice independently and it is her who has a partner who doesn’t know so she has more on the line

However long after we’d stopped I received a text from the partner simply saying he knows what she has been up to and she’s all yours

Sort of vouched I’d personally not do it again without the partner being aware !!! As sort of blamed myself for causing issues

But not sure where I stand

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By *ris GrayMan
49 weeks ago

Dorchester

"Valuable perceptions indeed thank you.

Absolutely no judgment either

I was of the ilk that I’m single and we are adults so she makes her choice independently and it is her who has a partner who doesn’t know so she has more on the line

However long after we’d stopped I received a text from the partner simply saying he knows what she has been up to and she’s all yours

Sort of vouched I’d personally not do it again without the partner being aware !!! As sort of blamed myself for causing issues

But not sure where I stand

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You stood on the 'get your dick wet' side and now it plays with your conscience

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
49 weeks ago

Markfield

I was seeing someone from here who was separated. Except he wasn’t, apart from in his own head. Where does that put me? Was I an enabler? Not disagreeing with thoughts already shared just really don’t know that it’s always cut and dried and easy to stand on one side or the other. Prior to spending time with him I was against meeting anyone who was playing away without clear consent. I still am. But I realise I have been involved in a situationship (lol) that I wouldn’t have chosen had I been fully clear ahead of meeting. But like jinglebellatrix says (I paraphrase) he was hot, so why not …

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By *ark_Knights OP Man
49 weeks ago

london

"I was seeing someone from here who was separated. Except he wasn’t, apart from in his own head. Where does that put me? Was I an enabler? Not disagreeing with thoughts already shared just really don’t know that it’s always cut and dried and easy to stand on one side or the other. Prior to spending time with him I was against meeting anyone who was playing away without clear consent. I still am. But I realise I have been involved in a situationship (lol) that I wouldn’t have chosen had I been fully clear ahead of meeting. But like jinglebellatrix says (I paraphrase) he was hot, so why not … "

Oh you’ve nothing worry about as you was unaware

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

So long as she raises our children with her partner well enough, taking them to the mosque on Fridays, the synagogue on Saturdays and church on Sundays, then no, it's all ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"The ironic thing with these threads is a lot of the women that comment openly flirt with a few popular forum guys that are married and are on here without their partners knowledge.

How would one know they were married unless told?

MrsAbz "

A lot state it on their profile or are open about it on here. The amount of women that make exceptions is unreal. People just don't want to be seen as the type of woman that would meet a married guy.

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
49 weeks ago

Aberdeen

"The ironic thing with these threads is a lot of the women that comment openly flirt with a few popular forum guys that are married and are on here without their partners knowledge.

How would one know they were married unless told?

MrsAbz

A lot state it on their profile or are open about it on here. The amount of women that make exceptions is unreal. People just don't want to be seen as the type of woman that would meet a married guy. "

True, I guess more are open to it than want to admit. Also, I should maybe start looking at profiles for a heads up on whats going on. My bad. I'm lazy and can never be bothered.

MrsAbz

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