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By *ingdang OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

manchester

If a guy you like insist on having bareback sex for the first meet, what would you do? Would you let him?

I’m clean and do not feel it’s worth the risk. The worry and guilt after a bit of fun is too much to handle. I d like to hear your opinion.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

No chance

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Never. As you said, it’s not worth the risk.

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By *arley QuimWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere

No

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

No, not a chance.

Has he even provided any proof that he's been tested recently?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on who he is.

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By *ingdang OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

manchester

Thanks, glad to hear the same opinion

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By *ingdang OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

manchester

No, he never tested but he said he is “clean”, which doesn’t mean much

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

So I can get a gift that keeps on giving?

Merry Xmas.

No.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Absolutely not.

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By *tephanie63Woman
over a year ago

BRIDGWATER

If he is insisting you have bareback and you don't want to, don't meet him.

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By *arley QuimWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere


"No, he never tested but he said he is “clean”, which doesn’t mean much"

I had a social previously with someone who stated they'd never took a test... But no worries as they'd never had a rash, or any itchiness in that area

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over


"No, he never tested but he said he is “clean”, which doesn’t mean much

I had a social previously with someone who stated they'd never took a test... But no worries as they'd never had a rash, or any itchiness in that area "

Lol people seem to confuse clean with clear. Go figure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Insisted!!!???!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely these boundaries are discussed in advance? But if he's insisting with me, pretty sure it's a regular thing for him so no chance.

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By *ingdang OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

manchester

I was about to meet him and them he started asking about bareback. Now I think I’m not going to meet him any more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks, glad to hear the same opinion"

which oine? You didn't quote

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Absolutely not x

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By *londebiguyMan
over a year ago

Southport


"If a guy you like insist on having bareback sex for the first meet, what would you do? Would you let him?

I’m clean and do not feel it’s worth the risk. The worry and guilt after a bit of fun is too much to handle. I d like to hear your opinion."

If tested and on PrEP.

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By *eordieJeansCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

If anyone was insisting bareback they’d be blocked no matter how great they were.

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By *londebiguyMan
over a year ago

Southport


"No, he never tested but he said he is “clean”, which doesn’t mean much

I had a social previously with someone who stated they'd never took a test... But no worries as they'd never had a rash, or any itchiness in that area

Lol people seem to confuse clean with clear. Go figure "

I don't think that they confuse it.

They use it instead of.

Like ' clean bill of health'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a guy you like insist on having bareback sex for the first meet, what would you do? Would you let him?

I’m clean and do not feel it’s worth the risk. The worry and guilt after a bit of fun is too much to handle. I d like to hear your opinion."

You’ve answered your own question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a guy you like insist on having bareback sex for the first meet, what would you do? Would you let him?

I’m clean and do not feel it’s worth the risk. The worry and guilt after a bit of fun is too much to handle. I d like to hear your opinion.

If tested and on PrEP. "

Does that prevent ALL STI's?

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over


"No, he never tested but he said he is “clean”, which doesn’t mean much

I had a social previously with someone who stated they'd never took a test... But no worries as they'd never had a rash, or any itchiness in that area

Lol people seem to confuse clean with clear. Go figure

I don't think that they confuse it.

They use it instead of.

Like ' clean bill of health'"

You will be surprised I heard someone saying they were clean, shower every day and smell good

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Absolutely not

Only person I'd not use condoms with is my partner, I wouldn't trust anyone else.

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By *arley QuimWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere


"No, he never tested but he said he is “clean”, which doesn’t mean much

I had a social previously with someone who stated they'd never took a test... But no worries as they'd never had a rash, or any itchiness in that area

Lol people seem to confuse clean with clear. Go figure

I don't think that they confuse it.

They use it instead of.

Like ' clean bill of health'

You will be surprised I heard someone saying they were clean, shower every day and smell good "

Sadly this appears to be the bar on Fab sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a guy you like insist on having bareback sex for the first meet, what would you do? Would you let him?

I’m clean and do not feel it’s worth the risk. The worry and guilt after a bit of fun is too much to handle. I d like to hear your opinion."

If a majority said "go for it!" Would you?

Your body your choice.

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By *ingdang OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

manchester

Now I can see most people said no. I think I will go and block him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he’s insisting on one thing before you’ve met what other surprises will he present once you do meet?

I wouldn’t meet him if it were me.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

I’d just like to say…

Russian roulette.

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By *otInventedHereMan
over a year ago

West Midlands

As someone who has always practiced safe sex but still ended up having a bit of a scare when I thought I had caught an STD (turned out to be nothing), I wouldn't risk that stress on my worst enemy.

As amazing as bareback feels I would not do it outside of a monogamous relationship, it just isnt remotely worth the risk.

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat


"No, he never tested but he said he is “clean”, which doesn’t mean much"

I could say I'm a brain surgeon. Doesn't mean it is true!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Insisting is a bit strong tbh.

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By *d4funtimesMan
over a year ago

Cambridge


"If a guy you like insist on having bareback sex for the first meet, what would you do? Would you let him?

I’m clean and do not feel it’s worth the risk. The worry and guilt after a bit of fun is too much to handle. I d like to hear your opinion."

Exactly,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a guy I’d assumed covered .. have never presumed bare back… prefer it yes presume or worse insist it .. no

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central


"I’d just like to say…

Russian roulette."

Bingo

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat


"Insisting is a bit strong tbh."

Insisting is totally out of order. I would have blocked them

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

Is this the stupid question of the day?!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

The most I'd be willing to accommodate bareback is "once we know each other better and trust one another, if we're both open with our habits and test results, can we negotiate under what circumstances the risk is worth it?"

Which is a million miles from bareback on first meet.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire


"Insisting is a bit strong tbh.

Insisting is totally out of order. I would have blocked them "
,,, this

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"Insisting is a bit strong tbh.

Insisting is totally out of order. I would have blocked them ,,, this"

Ditto..

No one has that right and it's a big red flag..

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

no bloody way

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By *areback BikerMan
over a year ago

South Wales

Of the 14 women I've met in the last seven years, since I started adventuring (not through Fab), six have asked for bareback and at least four clearly would have (it got to the point of me pushing my tip against their opening gently, before I fetched a condom unasked).

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By *s-two-75Couple
over a year ago

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"If a guy you like insist on having bareback sex for the first meet, what would you do? Would you let him?

I’m clean and do not feel it’s worth the risk. The worry and guilt after a bit of fun is too much to handle. I d like to hear your opinion."

It’s a no…if your worried and in what’s considered the high risk category (men who have sex with men) it’s worth having Hep jabs asking about prep at your local clinic, safe sex is good but theres always a chance of failure or even not putting it on without your knowledge.. prep doesn’t stop stds but does protect from the most serious.

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By *ullyMan
over a year ago

Near Clacton

It would be a date breaker for me, a risk I am not willing to take.

It's a terrible shame as I personally think it's most intimate, but not an option these days, whatever the guy says.

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
over a year ago

Stoke

More chance of finding rocking horse shit

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

All I can say is, if only. But no bag no shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely not. If we were with a guy or a couple who wanted bb then the meet would be instantly over for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Insisting is a bit strong tbh.

Insisting is totally out of order. I would have blocked them ,,, this

Ditto..

No one has that right and it's a big red flag.."

Well, they can state a preference... everyone has the right to tell them to fuck off. Which is sot in this scenario.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apt*

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By *GermanInLondonMan
over a year ago

London

No. Way too risky.

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By *ir SupremacyMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Only if you like Russian Roulette x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should never do anything you are not comfortable with. Explain why you don't want to BB - if you are not aligned, then move on xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only if you like Russian Roulette x"

Haha. There it is!!!!

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By *lirty_dirtyCouple
over a year ago

Lingfield

We are a bareback couple but never insist on others doing it. We are open and upfront about it, people can make their own choices.

We test every 12 weeks and I take prep daily and that reduces the risks but doesn't remove them completely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Certainly not under any circumstances

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