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By *icecouple561 OP Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

aging? Or age.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I'm not happy about it, but I'm accepting of my newly found wrinkles & the grey hairs popping up.

If they bothered me that much I'd probably Botox them but at the moment I don't really care.

Mrs

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Aging beats the alternative

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

All going to age and die at some point. No point thinking on it as it’s just a process. My time is more focused on the now as tomorrow may never come

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By *icecouple561 OP Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I'm not happy about it, but I'm accepting of my newly found wrinkles & the grey hairs popping up.

If they bothered me that much I'd probably Botox them but at the moment I don't really care.

Mrs "

Our daughter is a little younger than you but not much. She has regular Botox. I think not really caring is not only less expensive but a better mind set.

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By *icecouple561 OP Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Aging beats the alternative

Darn right!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Luckily, men age like wine. Bring it on

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

I don't like it but it's going to happen anyway so just roll with it.

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By *icecouple561 OP Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"All going to age and die at some point. No point thinking on it as it’s just a process. My time is more focused on the now as tomorrow may never come "

I agree.

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

"aging? Or age.

Used to terrify me lol but realised it’s not just me getting older, we all are & it’s fine

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

As for aging affects. Well I love cosmetic surgery and tweaks

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By *BWLOVER1965Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

We all get old nothing can stop the aging process or the ticking clock of time you only have one life enjoy all you can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens. I'm really not fussed about it. I'd rather be old than dead. It is what it is. Ageing is a gift of life

Mrs C

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ageing is life. Accept and embrace it.

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By *icecouple561 OP Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Luckily, men age like wine. Bring it on "

Good attitude.

Is that vintage or Aldi £2:99?

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By *heelz69Man
over a year ago

Manchester

I don't really think about it, you're as old as you feel I say!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only get more awwsome and wonderful with age

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"Luckily, men age like wine. Bring it on "

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They also rot like cheap cork.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am just over 40. I don't concern myself too much with the number or the implications of it. I'm very comfortable talking about death and I am not trying to stop the time as such minus putting a dye on my hair

Here for a short while to collect some meaningful moments with people who matter - that's my attitude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Embracing it, I only just turned 39 though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aging is just nature taking its course,

How you conform to what your told about age is your business.

Live and let live!

As long as you keep your body healthy, age really is just a number

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

In terms of appearance, I don't care.

In terms of health problems, it concerns me, because it's an increase in vulnerability in a world where safety nets are being ripped away, and where those who have needs are demonised.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"aging? Or age.

I have always been attracted to an older woman and as I am getting older myself I personally feel that I am right. Older ladies are the fabbing sexiest..

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By *hunky ChefMan
over a year ago

Norwich

"aging? Or age.

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In general or sexually?

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By *icecouple561 OP Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Thank you for all your answers. I can't keep up to respond indivually

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By *icecouple561 OP Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"aging? Or age.

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In general or sexually?"

In general.

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By *icecouple561 OP Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"In terms of appearance, I don't care.

In terms of health problems, it concerns me, because it's an increase in vulnerability in a world where safety nets are being ripped away, and where those who have needs are demonised."

I think you're right to be concerned. If possible we need to provide our own safety nets .

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

i try not to think about it to much,, im in better shape now than when i was 50,, i do miss my full head of jet black hair thow

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Not feeling it mentally or physically just the numbers seem to be far ahead for me

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

"Luckily, men age like wine. Bring it on

Good attitude.

Is that vintage or Aldi £2:99?"

Don’t confuse quality with cost. Where I live you can get a great bottle of wine for under €3.

Gbat

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"In terms of appearance, I don't care.

In terms of health problems, it concerns me, because it's an increase in vulnerability in a world where safety nets are being ripped away, and where those who have needs are demonised.

I think you're right to be concerned. If possible we need to provide our own safety nets . "

Of course, but I don't think many of us are equipped to be able to provide for ourselves in a world without safety nets for healthcare, aged care, etc. Depending on how bad it gets, pension plans might turn into euthanasia plus funeral plans.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

It sometimes bothers me, as my face ages, but then I've lost too many friends already and tell myself off for being a bit vain.

I do worry about my knee, had an operation in my early twenties and was told I may be at more risk of arthritis. Mobility issues etc worry me I don't want to become a burden on my children. I'm trying to be like my uncle he's just celebrated his 70th birthday by an all day hike with his mates, with pub pitstops. He still goes out and quizzes with them on a weekly basis. He's inspiring me to not become complacent.

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By *icecouple561 OP Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"In terms of appearance, I don't care.

In terms of health problems, it concerns me, because it's an increase in vulnerability in a world where safety nets are being ripped away, and where those who have needs are demonised.

I think you're right to be concerned. If possible we need to provide our own safety nets .

It simply won't be possible for many to provide for their old age. Apart from the fact that most of us just don't believe we'll ever get old not many are in the position to make provision for the future to that extent.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

Isn’t age “x” the new 20’s/30’s anyway….

I am enjoying the “grumpy old man” arc I am going through at the moment…

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

Not to think about it

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I'm doing what I can to stave off any potential adverse effects

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

I try to look after myself as best as I can in terms of my health. That’s all I can do really.

That’s also true regardless of age - but as I get older I’m also more aware of making sure to give my body what it needs.

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By *icecouple561 OP Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"It sometimes bothers me, as my face ages, but then I've lost too many friends already and tell myself off for being a bit vain.

I'm not being rude at all but I laugh when people refer to 70 year olds as 'still' going out to the pub

. It's only three years away for me and I think I'll manage it. My dad's 96 and has a better social life than I do but he sticks to Wetherspoons for his pub visits now.

I understand what you're saying though and I'm not being intentionally sarcastic or patronising

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I’m cool with it at the moment but I imagine myself not being soon. Always said I’d never ever have any treatment but I’m not so sure now. I’ll see how things go

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By *hunky ChefMan
over a year ago

Norwich

"aging? Or age.

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In general or sexually?

In general.

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It doesn't bother me much.

It gets funny at work sometimes.

I work mostly with people close to 60 and people in their early 20's.

There's only two of us in the early 40's range.

I'm lucky with aging.

Doesn't take anything away from my beauty.

Ugly guys age better.

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By *oding1Man
over a year ago

marlow

I've been lucky enough to have missed being middle aged and gone directly to being old.

Really enjoying it!!!

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

I think one of the biggest gifts people can do for themselves as they get older. 40+ onwards is to do some weight training as your body will thank you for it in your 50/60/70s and try keep muscle mass on somewhat to counter natural degradation each decade

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"It sometimes bothers me, as my face ages, but then I've lost too many friends already and tell myself off for being a bit vain.

I'm not being rude at all but I laugh when people refer to 70 year olds as 'still' going out to the pub

. It's only three years away for me and I think I'll manage it. My dad's 96 and has a better social life than I do but he sticks to Wetherspoons for his pub visits now.

I understand what you're saying though and I'm not being intentionally sarcastic or patronising"

Our perception of age is so subjective anyway. I did some work with a woman a few years ago (no longer with us) who referred to the Queen as "that young lady"

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"It sometimes bothers me, as my face ages, but then I've lost too many friends already and tell myself off for being a bit vain.

I'm not being rude at all but I laugh when people refer to 70 year olds as 'still' going out to the pub

. It's only three years away for me and I think I'll manage it. My dad's 96 and has a better social life than I do but he sticks to Wetherspoons for his pub visits now.

I understand what you're saying though and I'm not being intentionally sarcastic or patronising"

That's a fair comment, it's because I compare him with my mum who is 63 and is a bit hermit like already. And I can see the differences between them if that makes sense? I appreciate that didn't come across in my first post though.

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By *reen as JadeCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

It happens to everyone. Try not to worry about it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Embrace it.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

Can't do a thing about it so try and look as good as possible and never ever think a 24 year old is out of your league.

I'm gonna be a fucking dirtbag when I'm older aren't I?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In most aspects, my life has got a whole load better and happier, the older I've got.

I'm looking forward to retirement when I have so much more time to do the things I love in life. The only downside to aging is failing health. I worry more about being poorly and loosing my independence than I do about actually dying.

Life is back to front, when you're young and have your health but not necessarily the money, and your time is taken up with work and family. When your old and have money and hopefully family is grown up and settled, you may not have my health.

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By *trideMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Denial!

I flatly refuse to let it happen to me.

I don’t remember birthdays, and I don’t know old I am. When asked, I say: “Just past 29”.

I have a first class diet, including a wide range of supplements.

I exercise regularly – at least 30 minutes every day except Sunday.

I keep my testosterone (sex hormone) blood levels the same as those of a 30-year-old man’s.

So far, it’s working – I’m still slim, fit, and have no grey hair. I have plenty of get-up-and-go, and I’m never sick, except for a cold maybe every year or two.

It costs time and money, but I reckon that good health is priceless.

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By *ixieAndHerKingCouple
over a year ago

Debauchery

I love it and I hate it equally! I love the confidence aging brings, the 'I don't give a monkeys arse..' attitude, the freedom and less responsibility getting older brings! But I hate that my body can't keep up with how young and free my brain feels! I want to jump out of bed and embrace the day but my body insists on a good 2 hour warm up and a twice daily massage with voltarol! It's frustrating but I'm definitely happier in my 50s than I've ever been before!

Cherry x

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Can't do nothing about it. Embrace the changes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is what it is. However, I do have to say I was a bit traumatised when combing my hair before work in the car the other day I found a thicket of white hair, I couldn't pull it out otherwise I'd have had a bald patch! :D It's when it's smacked in your face and you get a reminder, yep your getting old, that its a bit disheartening, but it's the way life is. When you can slowly glide into it, it's not so bad, as you don't notice it.

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By *icecouple561 OP Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

For myself I don't really care. As Tina said it's better than the alternative.

I am mildly concerned about extreme old age so try to maintain good health and fitness as far as possible but I am lazy too.

Would I consider surgery or Botox? Probably not, mostly because it's expensive and I'm too scared and as above I'm lazy

I don't try to act or look younger than I am but neither do I think that certain behaviours and styles of dressing are just for particular age groups.

I dislike immaturity.

If someone offered me the chance to look twenty years younger with no effort, cost or pain would I accept? Damn right I would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not too fussed but that's probably because I still look 20. When everything hits the floor I might feel differently

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

It's just something that happens.

I'm getting older. The people I care about are getting older. When it leads to infirm health and other issues it'll be more of an issue.

But mostly, it just is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not that bothered by it. There’s nothing I can do to stop it, so won’t give it headspace. My only concern with age is ensuring my little one outlives me, and that I’m around long enough to give her the tools to get a better start than I had.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

In all honesty? I am scared.

Just back from spending the night at my mother-in-law’s. She’s falling at least a couple of times a day and we’ve arrived to the conclusion that she can’t be on her own anymore. She is very overweight, smoked most of her life and now she is seeing the reflection of that in her very reduced mobility.

If anything has spurred me to get my arse to the gym again was last night. I don’t want to lose my independence or put my children through any of that in the next 30 years or so. Of course I only have control over some things, not over cancer of other illnesses or conditions which can be catastrophic in the long run.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As you get older - 40 plus - you naturally start to embrace it

I think pre-40 it's viewed as the end of life as you know it!

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By *archelCouple
over a year ago

A field somewhere

I'm disgusted by it

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m embracing my age and honestly feel I’m in my most content stage ever.

Kids are grown up and doing well, I recently had the courage to end a relationship that wasn’t right and I feel in relatively good health.

I have a lot to be thankful for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't stop it, it's happening to everyone all the time.

I've embraced middle aged-ness and see it as a new chapter to be explored.

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By *odevilWoman
over a year ago

exeter

On one hand, I am the most comfortable in my own skin (and mind) I have ever been. I'm happy to have the understanding and experience I've gained in my "advanced" years. Someone asked the other day if I would go back to being twenty-something and the idea horrified me!

On the other hand, I tried to message some fitty on fab the other day and found I was outside of their age range filter on the upper end.

Completely devastated.

(Tiny exaggeration. You get the idea)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aging: better than the alternative

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I’m enjoying it to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m enjoying it to be honest. "

You look amazing

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

Can't change it and with it comes new experiences etc so crack on..

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

My biggest fear is dementia of some kind. Losing my youth isn't an issue, losing my dignity is.

Gbat

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"My biggest fear is dementia of some kind. Losing my youth isn't an issue, losing my dignity is.

Gbat "

Can relate to that having had loved ones suffer that simply fucking awful disease..

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By *K430Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

I'm pretty relaxed about it to be honest , outside my control so I just control the controllables

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By *hunky ChefMan
over a year ago

Norwich

"I’m enjoying it to be honest.

You look amazing

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She does look amazing.

Kind of reminding me to the MILF I use to be with in my early 20's.

On and off for 10+ years.

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By *essiCouple
over a year ago

suffolk

Just got to go with it..gracefully ? Not a chance lol just take each day as it comes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unavoidable...we all end up there eventually...so just kick on and grow old disgracefully

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

"Unavoidable...we all end up there eventually...so just kick on and grow old disgracefully "

Reminds me of that programme on telly with old people behaving badly

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By *icecouple561 OP Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Unavoidable...we all end up there eventually...so just kick on and grow old disgracefully

Reminds me of that programme on telly with old people behaving badly

If it's the one I'm thinking of it used to make me laugh so much. One bit where an old man was laying on the ground saying his tie was trapped under a car wheel when he went to pick up a pound coin still makes me giggle

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

"Unavoidable...we all end up there eventually...so just kick on and grow old disgracefully

Reminds me of that programme on telly with old people behaving badly

That's the one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not the cosmetic stuff it's the health stuff that is of concern.

Having never fully recovered (and won't until a knee or two replaced)from a running accident almost 3 years ago I am conscious of what impact poor health can have on all aspects of life. Miss the life I had but accept the life I have and enjoy it to the full.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I've aged like yoghurt... So pretty good haha

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

I'm going to live until i'm 124, and die in bed with a woman fully one century younger than me sitting on my face. Ageing doesn't bother me Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm going to live until i'm 124, and die in bed with a woman fully one century younger than me sitting on my face. Ageing doesn't bother me Xx"

We can all dream I suppose

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

"I'm going to live until i'm 124, and die in bed with a woman fully one century younger than me sitting on my face. Ageing doesn't bother me Xx

We can all dream I suppose

Not a dream, it's a fact (that will come to pass)

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands

Growing old is mandatory.

Growing up is optional.

Embrace your journey into old age, you only get one shot at it.

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By *icecouple561 OP Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Unavoidable...we all end up there eventually...so just kick on and grow old disgracefully

Reminds me of that programme on telly with old people behaving badly

That's the one

I'm going to see if I can find that one on YouTube. I could do with a laugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In terms of appearance, I don't care.

In terms of health problems, it concerns me, because it's an increase in vulnerability in a world where safety nets are being ripped away, and where those who have needs are demonised.

I think you're right to be concerned. If possible we need to provide our own safety nets .

I'm hoping euthanasia is available when I get to a certain age stage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In terms of appearance, I don't care.

In terms of health problems, it concerns me, because it's an increase in vulnerability in a world where safety nets are being ripped away, and where those who have needs are demonised.

I think you're right to be concerned. If possible we need to provide our own safety nets .

I'm hoping euthanasia is available when I get to a certain age stage. "

Me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In terms of appearance, I don't care.

In terms of health problems, it concerns me, because it's an increase in vulnerability in a world where safety nets are being ripped away, and where those who have needs are demonised.

I think you're right to be concerned. If possible we need to provide our own safety nets .

I'm hoping euthanasia is available when I get to a certain age stage.

Me too.

T."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As you get older - 40 plus - you naturally start to embrace it

I think pre-40 it's viewed as the end of life as you know it! "

It’s a state of mind, tempered by nature. At 40 I thought I would slow down at 50. I didn’t. At 50 I thought I would slow down at 60. I didn’t. Still doing all the same stuff, and very active. I still compete against others half my age and feature in the upper overall results and usually top of my coffin dodger class….

When I feel age and nature has got the better of me, I will just bow out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never expected to reach the age I have so never really thought about it. Don't think too much about the future but maybe should.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not happy about it at all but slowly getting my head round it. I look pretty young for me age too which helps. I'm just worried it's gonna hit me hard and fast.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

It scares me in that I don't want to loose my independence or ability to do things I enjoy.I work in healthcare and sadly see a lot of that.

However it's also a privellege, as its denied to many and 2 of my close family died relatively young.

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By *Ci LutherMan
over a year ago

Cumalot

Mixed back.. get taken seriously from couples and ladies my age .. but younger people seem to think your over the hill

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By *trideMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

"I'm hoping euthanasia is available when I get to a certain age stage. "

Euthanasia is available now. Sort of.

In 2009 my 90-year-old mother was hospitalised with arthritis and heart problems.

I was asked to sign a “Do not resuscitate” authorisation for her.

She starved herself to death in the hospital bed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t really think much about getting older. It’s something that happens to us all.

I worry about possibly losing physical ability to do some things and then my independence but who knows if or when that will happen? So I don’t.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I don’t really think much about getting older. It’s something that happens to us all.

I worry about possibly losing physical ability to do some things and then my independence but who knows if or when that will happen? So I don’t.

I think this is something that comes to people at different ages - watching your parents decline, or maybe grandparents if they decline after the point where you become aware of these things. Or those with disabilities, or around those with disabilities.

(I'm just musing, not going after you or anyone else)

Contemplating my disabilities, those in my family, and the health of my grandparents... I worry that my pension/ superannuation plans are a complete waste of fucking time. Society is not going to be able to accommodate me when I get there, and if I contributed 1000% of my income, a society without a safety net is one I can't afford to live in after a certain age. Not "I'll scrape by", more "my life will be unaffordable within any means I can possibly imagine, no matter how unreasonable those means are"

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

It never really bothered me but after my accident this year I've really aged due to limited mobility. I still get told I don't look my age but I more than feel it.

My mum is 79 and fit and healthy looks 10 years younger. In the summer she was caught by her next door neighbour on top of the summer house pulling it down

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By *addy bareMan
over a year ago

lakeside

Grow old disgracefully and enjoy the ride.

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By *xfordjohnMan
over a year ago

Oxford

"Grow old disgracefully and enjoy the ride."

That's me too. You can't do anything about getting older so just enjoy it.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I'm actually really struggling with it.

I mean I know I look pretty good "for my age" but I feel like some of 30s was wasted being quite poorly, and I kinda wish I could go back. Dreading getting to 50 in a few years. Might start on the Botox!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a process we can't change unfortunately. Maybe delay aging by keeping healthy but it's still going to happen. As for age, I'm 63 now and don't let it bother me. I still enjoy my life

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal

Don't ever end up sitting in Gods Waiting room... Many do. Its sad x

Always keep active n busy

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By *ddie1966Man
over a year ago

Paper Town Central, Essex.

I've said it before and I'll say it again.

I'm not ageing, I'm levelling up.

Maturing nicely.

Age really is just a number if your mind is in the right place.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I sometimes think about how my body will be, mobility wise, in 10 years time, and wonder what I'll be able to do with my great-grandchildren as they get older.

Where relationships are concerned, I spent 2½ days with a 36 year old man last week and didn't feel old.

We went to the high street together, had a coffee in Costa and did a bit of a shop in Sainsbury.

I didn't feel over 20 years older than him.

I'm enjoying life while I'm still able to.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I had three people look shocked when I told them, or reminded them, of my age recently.

I think I look much older than other people seem to think I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aging physically is inevitable, some days I like it more than others but might as well accept what you must and adapt or change what you can/want to.

Main benefit is experience and not giving a fuck as there’s no need “to prove” anything. Literally take it or leave it.

P x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm hoping euthanasia is available when I get to a certain age stage.

Me too.

T."

What?

All right, I’ll agree to go to a home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For myself? I haven’t given it much thought. I joke about my aging but I think I’m aging fairly well; I don’t yet need glasses although I likely will in the next year or two and I’m fairly active mentally and physically. As some have said, it’s failing health and mental acuity that worries me. My appearance doesn’t concern me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"aging? Or age.

Nothing I can do about it is there, apart from fight the impending doom of the end of my

Life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think too much about it. I am happy to age. I just hope it doesn't go too fast, and I hope I remain independent up until my death so nobody has to worry or care for me.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

Loosing physical mobility could be a pain (d’ya see what I did there) but I’m a long way of that yet, as for mental cognisance, that doesn’t bother me, anyone who knows me says I‘ve been doolally for 30 years or more already

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

That I’m very lucky to be given the opportunity….

But that a little filler and Botox doesn’t hurt anyone either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm more like the wine bottle.......can't get the Cork back in !!!!

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By *icecouple561 OP Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I had three people look shocked when I told them, or reminded them, of my age recently.

I think I look much older than other people seem to think I am."

Probably you look younger

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
over a year ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

I'm 50 next year and I never thought I would ever be this old

kind of getting used to the idea, got no choice really

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"I had three people look shocked when I told them, or reminded them, of my age recently.

I think I look much older than other people seem to think I am."

I had someone ask me if I was over 35 the other day. Made up with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"aging? Or age.

It seems to happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we can’t turn the clock back so eat sensibly, find time to exercise, try and find a job you enjoy, be nice to family and friends. enjoy good sex with decent folk, embrace your kinks and fetishes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm hoping euthanasia is available when I get to a certain age stage.

Me too.

What?

All right, I’ll agree to go to a home.

I said "me"! Just like I said that I want to die first.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"I had three people look shocked when I told them, or reminded them, of my age recently.

I think I look much older than other people seem to think I am.

Probably you look younger

I don't see it when I look in the mirror. Maybe they just think 58 is really old and I should have deep lines in my face

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

To be honest I like it. I think women mature sexually as they got older - they know what they want and they have less hang ups about caring what others think.

As long as you stay healthy then life improves - and the sex is definitely better.

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By *he ass man 666Man
over a year ago

paradise city

Personally I think aging has been good for me think I look better than in my 20’s feel more comfortable and confident in myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone just told me that I'm pretty advanced age.

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By *more226Man
over a year ago

somewhere wiltshire

"All going to age and die at some point. No point thinking on it as it’s just a process. My time is more focused on the now as tomorrow may never come

I agree. "
I think it happens at all ages I bet we all know people that has passed at an early age just we never no when it’s coming so live life to the full

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By *icecouple561 OP Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I had three people look shocked when I told them, or reminded them, of my age recently.

I think I look much older than other people seem to think I am.

Probably you look younger

I don't see it when I look in the mirror. Maybe they just think 58 is really old and I should have deep lines in my face

People have fixed ideas about what certain ages look like. If you don't conform it confuses them

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By *icecouple561 OP Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Someone just told me that I'm pretty advanced age.

I can't remember how old you are but judging from your photo I'd say if you're of an advanced age there's not a lot of hope for the rest of us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"aging? Or age.

Grow old gracefully simples it does not phase me.

Embrace it.

Enjoy maturity

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By *icecouple561 OP Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

An interesting variety of answers so far.

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

I've noticed a few grey hairs and a thinning hairline... I'm not even 30

I am not happy about this.

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By *weetkitten65Woman
over a year ago

Halifax

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"aging? Or age.

It’s not optional.

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By *iftyshadesofbrownMan
over a year ago

coventry

I’m optimistic about aging. Life has many lessons to teach us, and it’s wise to embrace every chapter.

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
over a year ago

Cambs

I'm happy to grow old disgracefully... age is a privilege denied to too many and should be embraced. You're never younger than you are today is also very true.. I am what I am and I couldn't give a rats ass about the number attached to me. Xx

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

Seen as we can't avoid it it's grand

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

I find it interesting seeing how many body parts ache or hurt, due to me being an idiot in my younger life.

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By *icecouple561 OP Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I find it interesting seeing how many body parts ache or hurt, due to me being an idiot in my younger life."

Oh!

I find it interesting that getting older isn't at all like I imagined.

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By *oubleswing2019Man
over a year ago

Colchester

I kind of see aging as a clock face.

You are born at "12".

Average UK life expectancy is 81.

So on the clock, that 8pm basically.

You can easily see "where you are" on the clock.

I'm 55, so in terms of a plane landing, I'm kind of on "Final Approach". I can see the lit runway from here.

That's how I see it, anyway.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Mostly love it, as the wisdom and inner maturity beats the physical. And it's as natural a part of living as all of life

. Embrace the change and opportunities

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By *icecouple561 OP Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I kind of see aging as a clock face.

You are born at "12".

Average UK life expectancy is 81.

So on the clock, that 8pm basically.

You can easily see "where you are" on the clock.

I'm 55, so in terms of a plane landing, I'm kind of on "Final Approach". I can see the lit runway from here.

That's how I see it, anyway.

I was talking to my dad about his age recently and said his clock is striking midnight and he's on the eleventh strike! He's fine with it but doesn't want the 12th chime to sound just yet

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By *icecouple561 OP Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Mostly love it, as the wisdom and inner maturity beats the physical. And it's as natural a part of living as all of life

. Embrace the change and opportunities "

I agree with you about the inner maturity. It's so peaceful. I confess I don't understand people who are proud of being immature.

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By *asual_WandererWoman
over a year ago

A spot you want me

Silent resignation

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Transsexual Transylvania

"aging? Or age.

I'm not in favour. When I reach 60, I'm going to start getting younger again.

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By *asques and boxersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford and dept16

Option of not aging isnt very appealing, tried it once not in a rush to try it again! So now just view each day as another gift to unwrap and enjoy CARPE DIEM friends

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By *icecouple561 OP Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"aging? Or age.

I'm not in favour. When I reach 60, I'm going to start getting younger again. "

Picture in the attic?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Mostly love it, as the wisdom and inner maturity beats the physical. And it's as natural a part of living as all of life

. Embrace the change and opportunities

I agree with you about the inner maturity. It's so peaceful. I confess I don't understand people who are proud of being immature. "

I think people mistake maturity for an inability to have fun.

Maturity is, in part, knowing when you can be silly and when you shouldn't.

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By *esafinadOHolyNightMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Mostly love it, as the wisdom and inner maturity beats the physical. And it's as natural a part of living as all of life

. Embrace the change and opportunities

I agree with you about the inner maturity. It's so peaceful. I confess I don't understand people who are proud of being immature.

I think people mistake maturity for an inability to have fun.

Maturity is, in part, knowing when you can be silly and when you shouldn't."

I agree with all of this and no longer need to make my own comment

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Transsexual Transylvania

"aging? Or age.

I'm not in favour. When I reach 60, I'm going to start getting younger again.

Picture in the attic? "

You should see me without my wig and lipstick!

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By *icecouple561 OP Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Option of not aging isnt very appealing, tried it once not in a rush to try it again! So now just view each day as another gift to unwrap and enjoy CARPE DIEM friends

Very much agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No point wasting any concern on it, it’ll happen unless you unalive yourself and that’s not a viable alternative.

Stay active, eat well, drink plenty of water and it won’t be half as bad as you fear it may be.

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By *icecouple561 OP Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Mostly love it, as the wisdom and inner maturity beats the physical. And it's as natural a part of living as all of life

. Embrace the change and opportunities

I agree with you about the inner maturity. It's so peaceful. I confess I don't understand people who are proud of being immature.

I think people mistake maturity for an inability to have fun.

Maturity is, in part, knowing when you can be silly and when you shouldn't."

Exactly like my colleagues husband's at s meal we all had together who thought a food fight was a fun idea.

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By *icecouple561 OP Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"aging? Or age.

I'm not in favour. When I reach 60, I'm going to start getting younger again.

Picture in the attic?

You should see me without my wig and lipstick!

I don't wear a wig but I don't look alive until I've got my lipstick on

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Mostly love it, as the wisdom and inner maturity beats the physical. And it's as natural a part of living as all of life

. Embrace the change and opportunities

I agree with you about the inner maturity. It's so peaceful. I confess I don't understand people who are proud of being immature.

I think people mistake maturity for an inability to have fun.

Maturity is, in part, knowing when you can be silly and when you shouldn't.

Exactly like my colleagues husband's at s meal we all had together who thought a food fight was a fun idea.

oh hell no

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

dont worry folks im working on anti aging pill,, it should be ready next christmas

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By *icecouple561 OP Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Mostly love it, as the wisdom and inner maturity beats the physical. And it's as natural a part of living as all of life

. Embrace the change and opportunities

I agree with you about the inner maturity. It's so peaceful. I confess I don't understand people who are proud of being immature.

I think people mistake maturity for an inability to have fun.

Maturity is, in part, knowing when you can be silly and when you shouldn't.

Exactly like my colleagues husband's at s meal we all had together who thought a food fight was a fun idea.

oh hell no"

Hell yes. We were all in our fifties at the time. Mr N and I left early. They hadn't even been drinking. I understand they were bored it wasn't an exciting evening but they weren't toddlers

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Mostly love it, as the wisdom and inner maturity beats the physical. And it's as natural a part of living as all of life

. Embrace the change and opportunities

I agree with you about the inner maturity. It's so peaceful. I confess I don't understand people who are proud of being immature.

I think people mistake maturity for an inability to have fun.

Maturity is, in part, knowing when you can be silly and when you shouldn't.

Exactly like my colleagues husband's at s meal we all had together who thought a food fight was a fun idea.

oh hell no

Hell yes. We were all in our fifties at the time. Mr N and I left early. They hadn't even been drinking. I understand they were bored it wasn't an exciting evening but they weren't toddlers"

Maturity is... I dunno. Arranging a time for that to happen, lining the walls with tarp, and everyone arriving in their swimming costumes.

Or joking about it happening but not actually doing it, because who'd want to clean that up.

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By *oxy RedWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I was so pleased to see my forties! X

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By *icecouple561 OP Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Mostly love it, as the wisdom and inner maturity beats the physical. And it's as natural a part of living as all of life

. Embrace the change and opportunities

I agree with you about the inner maturity. It's so peaceful. I confess I don't understand people who are proud of being immature.

I think people mistake maturity for an inability to have fun.

Maturity is, in part, knowing when you can be silly and when you shouldn't.

Exactly like my colleagues husband's at s meal we all had together who thought a food fight was a fun idea.

oh hell no

Hell yes. We were all in our fifties at the time. Mr N and I left early. They hadn't even been drinking. I understand they were bored it wasn't an exciting evening but they weren't toddlers

Maturity is... I dunno. Arranging a time for that to happen, lining the walls with tarp, and everyone arriving in their swimming costumes.

Or joking about it happening but not actually doing it, because who'd want to clean that up."

Maturity in my opinion is realising the evening is boring and thinking of ways to improve it that won't impact negatively on other people. Make interesting conversation, suggest we all leave the restaurant and go and play on the swings or admit the evening isn't going well and politely suggest we bring it to a close.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Having recently lost my best friend in her early 40s to an aggressive cancer, I feel rather privileged to be able to age in good health.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Mostly love it, as the wisdom and inner maturity beats the physical. And it's as natural a part of living as all of life

. Embrace the change and opportunities

I agree with you about the inner maturity. It's so peaceful. I confess I don't understand people who are proud of being immature.

I think people mistake maturity for an inability to have fun.

Maturity is, in part, knowing when you can be silly and when you shouldn't.

Exactly like my colleagues husband's at s meal we all had together who thought a food fight was a fun idea.

oh hell no

Hell yes. We were all in our fifties at the time. Mr N and I left early. They hadn't even been drinking. I understand they were bored it wasn't an exciting evening but they weren't toddlers

Maturity is... I dunno. Arranging a time for that to happen, lining the walls with tarp, and everyone arriving in their swimming costumes.

Or joking about it happening but not actually doing it, because who'd want to clean that up.

Or that too! I was just trying to work out how to make a food fight... more mature. I admit my attempt was poor

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By *icecouple561 OP Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Mostly love it, as the wisdom and inner maturity beats the physical. And it's as natural a part of living as all of life

. Embrace the change and opportunities

I agree with you about the inner maturity. It's so peaceful. I confess I don't understand people who are proud of being immature.

I think people mistake maturity for an inability to have fun.

Maturity is, in part, knowing when you can be silly and when you shouldn't.

Exactly like my colleagues husband's at s meal we all had together who thought a food fight was a fun idea.

oh hell no

Hell yes. We were all in our fifties at the time. Mr N and I left early. They hadn't even been drinking. I understand they were bored it wasn't an exciting evening but they weren't toddlers

Maturity is... I dunno. Arranging a time for that to happen, lining the walls with tarp, and everyone arriving in their swimming costumes.

Or joking about it happening but not actually doing it, because who'd want to clean that up.

Or that too! I was just trying to work out how to make a food fight... more mature. I admit my attempt was poor

There are times when food fighting is encouraged between women I understand

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By *BWLOVER1965Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

I smoke I drink I live my life

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Fucking hate it, body is failing mind isn't far behind.

I'd love to be one of those sprightly pensioners in years to come.

Work is getting harder, getting up for work even harder I was a miserable fucker in my 30's,40's and now in my 50's if I make it to 60 and beyond I'm going to be a fucking nightmare

Think I need to find God and serenity if I want to survive.

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By *icecouple561 OP Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Having recently lost my best friend in her early 40s to an aggressive cancer, I feel rather privileged to be able to age in good health."

It always puts things into sharp perspective doesn't it. Sorry to hear your friend passed away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An old guy told me "growing old is inevitable.....growing up is entirely optional!"

I'm growing old disgracefully

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By *icecouple561 OP Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"An old guy told me "growing old is inevitable.....growing up is entirely optional!"

I'm growing old disgracefully"

What does growing up mean to you?

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

"Having recently lost my best friend in her early 40s to an aggressive cancer, I feel rather privileged to be able to age in good health.

It always puts things into sharp perspective doesn't it. Sorry to hear your friend passed away"

It does.

Things never look the same after that.

I believe she is in a better place now after all she’s been through in such a short period of time.

And thank you x

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

"I'm going to live until i'm 124, and die in bed with a woman fully one century younger than me sitting on my face. Ageing doesn't bother me Xx

We can all dream I suppose

...be lucky to afford a bed by then, never mind a visiting masseuse!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"aging? Or age.

Healthy

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