FabSwingers.com forum: Are winks any use?

By (user no longer on site) OP
52 weeks ago

“No new winks” (no old winks either).

Most of us don’t bother with winks but it’s there so someone can indicate potential attraction/interest.

Would it be better to have a left swipe / right swipe option like dating sites have? Might help more people meet.

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By *obilebottomMan
52 weeks ago

All over

No, I like them though not always noticing them

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
52 weeks ago

Southampton

I think so, I use them to indicate my interest

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By *achel SmythTV/TS
52 weeks ago

Farnborough

"I think so, I use them to indicate my interest "

As do I … but most go unreciprocated- lol x

R x

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By *layfullsamMan
52 weeks ago

Solihull

I wink, most get ignored but hey ho it is what it is

Would love to receive some as an indication of interest

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
52 weeks ago

Central

I like and use them

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

We've had some great meets that began with a wink.

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
52 weeks ago

Southampton

"I think so, I use them to indicate my interest

As do I … but most go unreciprocated- lol x

R x"

Ditto lol

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
52 weeks ago

Reading

I like them and will wink back if the profile fits what I'm looking for.

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By *hinstrapMan
52 weeks ago

Barnsley

Nothing wrong with a ayup I see you wink wink

.a great way to break the ice.

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By *r Cheeky cheekyMan
52 weeks ago

essex

When I removed her Pretty knickers she was winking at me

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By *eroLondonMan
52 weeks ago

Covent Garden

I find them somewhat pointless and superfluous. I rarely check my winks and I never send them.

I suspect they are more useful to couples to gauge an interest, but I wouldn't know...

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By *ealitybitesMan
52 weeks ago

Belfast

A couple of years ago I did a forum experiment to prove a point.

I said I was in on winkathon and fabathon threads that were running side by side and proceeded to wink and fab every woman and couple who said they were in each thread.

I didn't get a single wink or fab in return.

The point I was trying to prove was that some people join those threads just for the winks and fabs but have no intention of actually taking part.

The way I view the wink option is that if someone sends one and that is reciprocated, it's up to the sender to initiate conversation.

The last dozen or so winks that I've received and responded to have never gone any further because I didn't hear from them again.

Obviously their plan is to wink with the expectation that I will message back rather than just winking.

I have winks going back 6 months or so that I've only just seen this weekend.

If someone wants my attention a wink isn't the way to go about it.

Make an effort and write a half decent message instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

"A couple of years ago I did a forum experiment to prove a point.

I said I was in on winkathon and fabathon threads that were running side by side and proceeded to wink and fab every woman and couple who said they were in each thread.

I didn't get a single wink or fab in return.

The point I was trying to prove was that some people join those threads just for the winks and fabs but have no intention of actually taking part.

The way I view the wink option is that if someone sends one and that is reciprocated, it's up to the sender to initiate conversation.

The last dozen or so winks that I've received and responded to have never gone any further because I didn't hear from them again.

Obviously their plan is to wink with the expectation that I will message back rather than just winking.

I have winks going back 6 months or so that I've only just seen this weekend.

If someone wants my attention a wink isn't the way to go about it.

Make an effort and write a half decent message instead. "

Sending a message or wink isn't going to boost my ego and it's far too much trouble.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

"I think so, I use them to indicate my interest

As do I … but most go unreciprocated- lol x

R x"

I’d rather wink. It just makes sense. If they wink back, I expect they’d like me to send a message.

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By *eroLondonMan
52 weeks ago

Covent Garden

"...I have winks going back 6 months or so that I've only just seen this weekend.

If someone wants my attention a wink isn't the way to go about it.

Make an effort and write a half decent message instead."

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You just reminded me having read your musings! — last week I received a wink from a woman who followed it up by sending an introductory message. Apparently I had winked her over three years ago and she now felt compelled to wink back.

I found the gesture quite amusing and charming.

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By *naswingdressWoman
52 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'd turn that feature off if I was given a choice.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
52 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

According to my homepage I have over 3k new winks since I last looked.

So, to me, they're not worth anything.

Some people use them in ways already described above. Some people are firmly in the if you're interested then make the effort to send an actual message camp. It's very variable and open to individual interpretation.

It is rare to see a woman who actively looks at and engages with the who winked at me list, so it's probably not the best way to reach out to single women. I see plenty of men, couples and TVs who say they do utilise the feature to establish interest before messaging. So it depends on who your market is as to the likelihood of a wink ever being looked at.

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By *naswingdressWoman
52 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"According to my homepage I have over 3k new winks since I last looked.

So, to me, they're not worth anything.

I look at my winks, but that's because no one new can message me. (That means no one new can wink either)

If/ when I decide to open my message filters, I won't look at them anymore.

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
52 weeks ago

Stoke

We definitely look at winks, if we like what we see we message back.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
52 weeks ago

"According to my homepage I have over 3k new winks since I last looked.

So, to me, they're not worth anything.

One of them winks was from me!

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By *parkle1974Woman
52 weeks ago

Leeds

I never look at them x

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

Exercises your eye muscles

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

"According to my homepage I have over 3k new winks since I last looked.

So, to me, they're not worth anything.

I look at my winks, but that's because no one new can message me. (That means no one new can wink either)

If/ when I decide to open my message filters, I won't look at them anymore."

Didn't know this was a thing! I didn't try to wink you, honest.

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By *VineMan
52 weeks ago

The right place

So, in summary it’s a lottery. Some people look at them and others don’t.

I think it’s different whether you’re a man or a woman. If someone sends on to a single man, there’s greater chance they will get noticed.

Personally I like them.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

I never look at winks, so it's a really bad way to get my attention.

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By *ustamanMan
52 weeks ago

weymouth

I view it that's it's like the glance/lingering look across a room at someone that you find attractive, it might lead somewhere or more probably not. But it's nice anyway

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By *ulfilthmentMan
52 weeks ago

Just around the corner

Yes and no. Some people respond and some don’t.

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By *r_reusMan
52 weeks ago

Coventry

For a man?

Probably not.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

Women with 3k winks and hundreds of messages unopened in their inbox

Is contacting anyone worth it? Wink or message

Seems people inboxes are entirely too busy for it to be worth it all together

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By *eroLondonMan
52 weeks ago

Covent Garden

"I view it that's it's like the glance/lingering look across a room at someone that you find attractive, it might lead somewhere or more probably not. But it's nice anyway

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'Useful' only if the person at whom you're glancing at is looking back at you... unbeknownst to you that directly behind you are 100s of other men also glancing at her, so she may not necessarily be looking at you....if at all.

If she does wink at you it may ·not· be a wink - she might be constipated.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

"According to my homepage I have over 3k new winks since I last looked.

…."

I just looked.

I have 13 winks since I rejoined.

10 men

1 woman

2 couples (one is a MM couple)

My deduction is that guys use the winks more than women…. I wonder why?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
52 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"Women with 3k winks and hundreds of messages unopened in their inbox

Is contacting anyone worth it? Wink or message

Seems people inboxes are entirely too busy for it to be worth it all together "

I keep my inbox pretty clear and send a no to most before deleting, but a slow day is probably around 30 of those to get through. I've taken to hiding my profile for short periods when I just can't be arsed for a bit.

The people who I find interesting and engaging get proper responses, regardless of how many "No" messages I've sent that day.

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
52 weeks ago

Tamworth

We don't check ours, we'll that's a lie actually, I click it once a day to clear the "X new winks" but I don't actually use the feature or look at who winked us.

Weirdly, I find it gives me the ick. Like being poked on social media

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By *he Silver FuxMan
52 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

Personally I like a wink and have received a few that led to some lovely messages and encounters but I appreciate that many single ladies and a lot of couples don’t respond to them

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
52 weeks ago

Bristol

Winks mean nothing to me.

If you're really interested in getting to know mw, think of something to say and send me a message.... It's not difficult.

One of the things that bugs me are profile that say something like "if we wink it means we're interested"... but still won't actually go so far as to send an opening message.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

I use winks as a shortcut hello...if I get one back then I take that as an indication to start chatting.

I know some see them as lazy, but rather than typing out the opening message countless times, save it for the ones that actually say hello with a return wink.

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By *illycarrolCouple
52 weeks ago

n/cle on tyne

we think winks are OK, if not interested we do not follow it up, works both ways a lot better than the one liners we think

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By *ustamanMan
52 weeks ago

weymouth

"I view it that's it's like the glance/lingering look across a room at someone that you find attractive, it might lead somewhere or more probably not. But it's nice anyway

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If she does wink at you it may ·not· be a wink - she might be constipated.

Ah hence the 'more probably not' comment - but a fella can dream can't we

even if it's delusional

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

I'm happy to receive, never send them I think if a profile interests me enough the couple of minutes to type a message is an investment I'm happy to make

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By *ennyleeeWoman
52 weeks ago

Southampton

I bulk delete them every day I wish they could just be turned off.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
52 weeks ago

little house on the praire

I never used to bother with winks now I check them as I'm fascinated to who would wink a hidden profile

I get about 4 a week

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

They work for some, they seem to piss others off quite a lot.

I find the violently negative opinions about them to be quite amusing.

For those who continually get ignored, it’s a harmless and simple way to show interest without wasting the time to concoct the tailor made war and peace message that will most likely be deleted unread.

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By *yore34Man
52 weeks ago

Hull

I use them to show my interest

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By *ennyleeeWoman
52 weeks ago

Southampton

I have honestly never looked at a wink in the 5 years we have been on here.

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By *r_PinkMan
52 weeks ago

london stratford

For me , a winks as good as a fab! It's a subtle way of saying "heyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy there, I like the look of you".

But not many people ever wink at me or even fav my pics!

(Again)BUT I live in hope that one day someone will wink me and fab me, we will meet and shag happily ever after.

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By *arriedcoupleNECouple
52 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We like a wink and if there's something to the profile that has sent it do respond from time to time.

We also play the wink game where we look at who has viewed us and guess who may have winked. Minutes of fun.

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By *he ass man 666Man
52 weeks ago

paradise city

I like a wink every now and then

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

They're as useful as all other forms of interaction here.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
52 weeks ago

Leeds

I like a wink, we've had some great meets that started with a wink, I think it's an easy icebreaker.

I'm not one for the whole essay of a 1st message rubbish so a wink is nice.

Mrs

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
52 weeks ago

London

Yeah sometimes, if you're low on mental space to write a message but want to show someone you're interested then it can work to let them know. I don't always look at them but like with anything in here, what matters is who sends the wink. If I see a wink from a profile I'm interested in then the wink worked. If it's from a profile I'm not interested in then it didn't.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
52 weeks ago

Portsmouth

I've stopped deleting mine so people can't send them again.

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By *heekyDemandCouple
52 weeks ago

Leicester

Our bio states what we use winks for, so if we get an unsolicited wink from a single guy they either haven't read it or don't care.

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By *arynBrianCouple
52 weeks ago

Epping

"A couple of years ago I did a forum experiment to prove a point.

I said I was in on winkathon and fabathon threads that were running side by side and proceeded to wink and fab every woman and couple who said they were in each thread.

I didn't get a single wink or fab in return.

The point I was trying to prove was that some people join those threads just for the winks and fabs but have no intention of actually taking part.

The way I view the wink option is that if someone sends one and that is reciprocated, it's up to the sender to initiate conversation.

The last dozen or so winks that I've received and responded to have never gone any further because I didn't hear from them again.

Obviously their plan is to wink with the expectation that I will message back rather than just winking.

I have winks going back 6 months or so that I've only just seen this weekend.

If someone wants my attention a wink isn't the way to go about it.

Make an effort and write a half decent message instead. "

Absolutely! If folks are interested, why not write a short message and explain what interests you? We find winks very lazy as most are just winkers hoping you will initiate a message. We got fed up initiating messages which came back with “Hi, how are you”. We ignore them now. M&B x

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

"“No new winks” (no old winks either).

Most of us don’t bother with winks but it’s there so someone can indicate potential attraction/interest.

Would it be better to have a left swipe / right swipe option like dating sites have? Might help more people meet."

Wink wink

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

Never know why a wink is...

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
52 weeks ago

Somewhere else

"I find them somewhat pointless and superfluous. I rarely check my winks and I never send them.

I suspect they are more useful to couples to gauge an interest, but I wouldn't know..."

*winks at you*

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
52 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"*winks at you*"

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By *eroLondonMan
52 weeks ago

Covent Garden

"*winks at you*

;-)"

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She's quite beguiling isn't she, RTG?

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

I think winks can be a good way of showing interest, but rarely anything comes from it.

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By *xeterCandRCouple
52 weeks ago

Digby & Sowton, Exeter

"I think so, I use them to indicate my interest

As do I … but most go unreciprocated- lol x

R x"

If we recieve a wink we always acknowledge and thank the person sending it.

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By *ennyleeeWoman
52 weeks ago

Southampton

"I've stopped deleting mine so people can't send them again. "

What a cool idea!!

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By *obilebottomMan
52 weeks ago

All over

I like them as I mentioned before but wish the box turned yellow. Like the messages as I often don't notice till days after sometimes.

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By *rumcouple2013Couple
52 weeks ago

Tamworth

We like the wink system, and do use it has a way to show interest in a couple. We do get a few, but lately we have found the people sending the wink haven’t read our profile and we have to message pointing the issues out

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By *eyond PurityCouple
52 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

We look at them and will return a wink if the interest is there.

Sometimes we’ll send a message instead of winking back too.

We received a wink off a woman yesterday…we sent a message and she opened it and never responded. I think she just wanted a wink back

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By *eyond PurityCouple
52 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

"I've stopped deleting mine so people can't send them again.

What a cool idea!! "

You can send a wink again to the same profile a month after sending one - the ‘wink at who you’d fuck’ games would be pretty pointless if you could only wink at someone else in your FAB career

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By *S chanel demarTV/TS
52 weeks ago

peterborough

Nope, their lazy and probably no face pictures in the profile....

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By *oveChavvMan
52 weeks ago

weymouth

I always wink when I'm interested then I send msg

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

That’s a pretty sketchy generalisation really isn’t it?

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By *hrough the looking gla55Couple
52 weeks ago

Epsom

We're winkers

as we're shy

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