FabSwingers.com forum: How often do you go out?

By *ools and the brain OP Couple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Discussion this morning with jools. we seem to have turned into hermits hardly go out and find it difficult to get any enthusiasm to be around actual people.

Not sure if it's a financial thing or the fact that so many pub's in our area are soulless hole's either void of atmosphere or full of sniffed up assholes acting like it's their own personal pub.

Restaurants don't fair better with most interested in fast turnaround and little in the way of "ambience" so the sofa usually wins

Misanthropes Assemble!

(Just not together in the same room)

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Not often, maybe once every few months, mainly down to childcare.

We usually plan for the organised socials or just a night away ourselves.

I'm quite happy being a hermit though.

Mrs

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Difficult being a 'weekend dad'. I will make an effort for weeknight socials, but very few around here

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By *archelCouple
over a year ago

A field somewhere

We're pretty much the same, never go out unless it's a Saturday night, which is usually spent in a club.

It's combination of Mrs M working silly hours monday to Thursday, me being tired when home from work and usually in bed at 20:30, and kids, theyre just below the age where they could be left at home, until then its babysitters.

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
over a year ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

I am the same, going out is a rarity because I just can't be arsed.

If I do go out it's a meal out or cinema and never out late. I can't think of anything worse than sitting in an over crowded over priced pub.

Next meal out is for my sons 30'th Birthday in a few weeks and won't involve alcohol

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

I go out a lot but I've virtually given up drinking so pubs not a good idea, restaurants, coffee shops yes

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By *esafinadOHolyNightMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Hardly ever go out these days. I work a lot and don't drink much so I don't really go to bars anymore. Tbh though, I don't feel like I'm missing out

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

I walk the streets in my scanties with my phone in my hand, trying to get in range of “who’s near” - does that count?

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Tend not to go drinking in pubs and rarely go out for food alone. But tend to do events or gigs etc. Went to see the Prodigy this week, though I'm not as good ay going out midweek these days.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"I walk the streets in my scanties with my phone in my hand, trying to get in range of “who’s near” - does that count?"
lol

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

do go out most weekends country pub for a drink then back in town for a meal,,, i agree lots of pubs are dead today such a shame,,,

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

On Holibobs

Pretty much every weekend. loving my single social life, meeting up with mates and fwb's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like out out? To a pub? The last time was actually about 18months ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven’t been ‘out’ for many many years. The job I did denied me any social life, and social circle. I’m no good at creating a new one, so I live fairly reclusively.

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By *ools and the brain OP Couple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

We occasionally pop round our local pub on a weekday evening just for a single drink,kinda break's the week up, but we avoid it at the weekend very different crowd.

Cinema decent film's seem few and far between.

Coffee shops, not many open in the evening and then who wants to sit in a Costa on a Saturday night?

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Discussion this morning with jools. we seem to have turned into hermits hardly go out and find it difficult to get any enthusiasm to be around actual people.

Not sure if it's a financial thing or the fact that so many pub's in our area are soulless hole's either void of atmosphere or full of sniffed up assholes acting like it's their own personal pub.

Restaurants don't fair better with most interested in fast turnaround and little in the way of "ambience" so the sofa usually wins

Misanthropes Assemble!

(Just not together in the same room)

I play in a couple of bands, so I go out to pubs quite often... but it's basically working, so not quite the same.

Cal

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By *illybeachboyMan
over a year ago

Guernsey

I never go out just for a drink, it's usually for a meal with a few drinks afterwards, I'd say I do that about every 5 weeks or so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I’m working away for work then I’m out almost every night with one group of colleagues or another, for a meal or drinks or both. But when home in the UK I generally can’t be arsed with it

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

I play in a team game, fortunately the venue for said games is pubs and social clubs, we play most weeks on a weekday during the autumn to spring period.

The emphasis is on the social not the game but we do like to win.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We frequently go out in the day but rarely at night any more. To be honest neither of us really want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We rarely go out now. Between finding child care and the rubbish nightlife around here it’s more hassle than it’s worth sometimes.

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By *ools and the brain OP Couple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"We frequently go out in the day but rarely at night any more. To be honest neither of us really want to. "

Well this is exactly what we said, can't be arsed.

By the time we get home cook tea eat it , clean up prep lunches and clothes for next day bathe or shower it's usually about 9/9:30 so bedtime

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went out once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not so much over the past couple of years,lockdown really messed me up mentally but I'm going out much more lately feels great

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Over the last couple of years only a few family events, nothing outside of that. Combination of finances and mobility problems. Plus I like my own space too much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My diary tends to swing both ways, either nothing planned or I've got several things on and am looking forward to a night in!

I go to various comedy shows, or talks, so last night for example was John McGuinnes and Jamie whitham ( although Neil McKenzie had to stand in)

Sunday I'm off to see another Drag show

Next weekend catch up with friends and nothing else which I'm looking forward to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Way too much. Usually out every weekend or two.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love getting out. I'll do varied outings, a day out in London, socialising with friends. I do outings with my kids which are always great, a recent one to Camden with them was brilliant. I'm not a drinker so pubs is probably the least chosen place. Restaurants is a yes though. But I'll also book a massage too and do that just to get out of the four walls.

I do tend to hide indoors more in the really cold weather though.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

More in the summer, I’m rarely in. I tend to hibernate more in the winter

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Out out? Rarely... I don't drink so don't really want to be around people that do, especially at night.

Only thing I really go out for is a gig or concert at night.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Usually once maybe twice a week. Often to clubs sometimes the pub.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't go out much as in restaurants and pubs etc. I go put walking and prefer solitary pursuits if I'm honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everytime I go out, I trip over something and look dumb as fuck so I limit my exposure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not often. UTB socials. Everywhere is expensive and I dont like loud places. Walks with the dogs and cafe lunches.

Costco do really good pizza slices though ! 2 in 1

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By *ortney FoxxxWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

I only go once in a blue moon 1 I can’t be asked to get ready anymore I’m also a smoker so I tend to be in & out of the pub/club so what’s the point I did go to a party last night but 5 months ago was the last time I went out though

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I rarely go anywhere on my own these days. There is usually a dog, child or my mother in tow. If I do, it’s usually in the daytime.

And I don’t mind a bit. I’ve had my clubbing/pub days, and I don’t miss the hangovers!

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By *ie n MashCouple
over a year ago

Back in Malice

Normally out as a couple every weekend, either at a northern soul event or (once a month) a club.

Must admit, finding it harder to get motivated as winter gets closer.

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By *alhamCoupleCouple
over a year ago

London

"Discussion this morning with jools. we seem to have turned into hermits hardly go out and find it difficult to get any enthusiasm to be around actual people.

Not sure if it's a financial thing or the fact that so many pub's in our area are soulless hole's either void of atmosphere or full of sniffed up assholes acting like it's their own personal pub.

Restaurants don't fair better with most interested in fast turnaround and little in the way of "ambience" so the sofa usually wins

Misanthropes Assemble!

(Just not together in the same room)

Good question. It takes a real effort to go out Monday to Friday and usually home and the telly win. Plans for date night often fall through due to a long week. The hardest part seems to be getting out. One of the pleasures of living in London is that there is so much to see and do when we actually do go out

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Out out? Hardly ever. We have no childcare beyond after school club. Any time we eat out or whatever, it's usually with a child in tow. Cinema will be to watch kids films. We have little social life outside of the banter at work and what I get from going to the gym once a week.

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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago

Reading

The last time I went out was about 6 weeks ago. Female friend had not very good week and messaged me late in evening . To come to my house just to go out for few hours . Ended up going into town and arrived back home at 4am.

Before that would be before covid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't go out often, we may stop off at a nice pub restaurant sometimes, though that's more a case of not cooking than the aim to go out.

Mrs goes out more often than Mr, she can enjoy a night out with friends, though even then she turns down more than she accepts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to go out once every month or so but December already has three things

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

"We frequently go out in the day but rarely at night any more. To be honest neither of us really want to. "

Pretty much the same, though I do like it when away on short or linger holidays

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rarely. All my friends live so far away.

Stops me pissing money away though, but it is quiet sad that I'm a hermit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We used to go out to watch Bands every Fri and Sat night but very rarely now.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I only leave the house once a week to go shopping. Since I've not been able to walk without a frame it's difficult.

I've been out for lunch a couple of times and I will be going out in the evening one night over christmas.

Apart from that people come here

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I often wonder what happened to the party girl me that was never home. At least I've got my memories

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

Not often enough lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try and get out of the house every day but usually by myself. I do try and meet friends for lunch now and then and do a monthly pub quiz.

I have one regular Friday lunch meet which has been going on for years.

I used to be lot more sociable on the kink scene but not at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Socially?…..rarely, but I am out a lot

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By *hawn ScottMan
over a year ago

london Brixton

Another weekend dad here! I go to my munch that is once a month thats it.

How things change

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

I'm just going out now, bye x

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