FabSwingers.com forum: Personal questions

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I was chatting to a couple we were getting on really well.

But I found they started asking really personal questions like they wanted my full name which is not a problem but the asked who I worked for and the company name this instantly gave a me a red flag

What are your thoughts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd tell them to fuck off.

Likely a scam or just dodgy as hell.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd tell them to fuck off.

Likely a scam or just dodgy as hell. "

Or recruitment consultants with a dried up pipeline.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd tell them to fuck off.

Likely a scam or just dodgy as hell.

Or recruitment consultants with a dried up pipeline."

Brb

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd tell them to fuck off.

Likely a scam or just dodgy as hell. "

Yeah that's what I thought

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I said you don't need to know this information they had few verifications, definitely put me off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I said you don't need to know this information they had few verifications, definitely put me off "

People will set the boundaries they want to feel safe. If you don't want to give out information, you shouldn't. It is odd, in my opinion, but maybe they've had a rough time with previous partners. Or, as I said, they could be trying to figure out if your CV suits their job listing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I said you don't need to know this information they had few verifications, definitely put me off "

Doesn't matter how many veris they have, don't give people any personal information. Too risky.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Tell them to fuck off

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By *helroyCouple
over a year ago

Skegness

fuck them off

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

Full/real names are not required for random sexual encounters, certainly not your employment/employer. If it was to be a regular partner, over time of a few meetings, I would expect to share personal stuff like that.

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By *inky ChefMan
over a year ago

Norwich

"I was chatting to a couple we were getting on really well.

But I found they started asking really personal questions like they wanted my full name which is not a problem but the asked who I worked for and the company name this instantly gave a me a red flag

What are your thoughts "

My guess would be they wanted to check you out on Facebook.

Probably found more people with the same name, so that's why they asked for your work.

Still...

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Yeah red flags

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless they are ill and need medical attention will anyone find out im a doctor. Dooooop. Lol

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By *UIETELLE2052Couple
over a year ago

Dundrum/Rathfarnham

We use Fab names only and would not answer those type of questions Red flag for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Massive red flag! I wonder if they think they know you in vanilla world? Instant block if I was you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had no idea people typically used false names, is that really the norm? I don't think I'd respond if I gave a false name and would just look even more stupid.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

I wouldn’t expect to answer personal questions from anyone from Fab unless we developed a friendship. And I wouldn’t ask either. I’ve stopped speaking to people before when they’ve got over familiar too quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had no idea people typically used false names, is that really the norm? I don't think I'd respond if I gave a false name and would just look even more stupid."

That just reminded me of Homer Simpson going into witness protection. The FBI agent stamping on his toes.

Homer leans over..."I think he's taking to you" to the other agent lol

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt

I have close friends that I don't know the company name they work it's not my business.

I don't know why an acquaintance off fab would want to know such personal information it's weird

That is a red flag and if you haven't already OP you should block them

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Just say that it’s on a need to know basis and they don’t need to know.

But that for the record your name is Roy Rogers and you work with horses.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Just tell them your surname is Smith and you're self employed.

But no, that's far too many details to be asking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bloody hell, that's not on

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

It's dodgy as fuck Holmes.

Run away.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"I was chatting to a couple we were getting on really well.

But I found they started asking really personal questions like they wanted my full name which is not a problem but the asked who I worked for and the company name this instantly gave a me a red flag

What are your thoughts "

Block

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yeah that's weird. I wouldn't go anywhere near that.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

They don't need to know where you work and the company name, that has No bearing on a meet.

I'd be very wary of someone who was asking far too much.

It puts me off when I get messages asking where I live /work when we haven't spoken & I block them.

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By *agnar73Man
over a year ago

glasgow-ish

What are your thoughts

My guess would be they wanted to check you out on Facebook.

Probably found more people with the same name, so that's why they asked for your work.

Still..."

It’s that, some people are absolutely incredible at FB stalking and I’d say go look at your filters for who can look at you.

I don’t know how to do it, but I know to restrict it after ‘friends’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't divulge my surname or my place of work. Block them and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed with all the above OP..I tell people all the time on here..or swinging in general..always always go with your gut instinct!

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By *an1978Woman
over a year ago

GONE/TIMEOUT (No DMs please)

Totally understandable if you don't want to give that information.

Perhaps they're not very subtle at the "getting to know you" stage... but it may just be they want to verify who you are for safety.

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

"Had no idea people typically used false names, is that really the norm? I don't think I'd respond if I gave a false name and would just look even more stupid."

I don't use my real name. I've met hundreds of people at social events and none of them know my real name.

If I have regular meet I'll tell them

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt

Please keep messages to this forum please

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal

"I'd tell them to fuck off.

Likely a scam or just dodgy as hell.

Yeah that's what I thought "

Good instinct

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal

"Agreed with all the above OP..I tell people all the time on here..or swinging in general..always always go with your gut instinct!

Totally agree

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By *inky ChefMan
over a year ago

Norwich

"Please keep messages to this forum please "

Oh, hello.

Haven't seen seen you around before.

Didn't know we have a Playboy Bunny here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make funny shit up and see where they go with it.

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By *ostindreamsMan
over a year ago

London

I would divulge my name and personal details only after I have developed some level of friendship after real social meets. If anyone asks these details online, it is a red flag

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London | Belfast

All I need is: Phone number (to text for meets) name (can be fake, don't care) and a location where we meet. Either mine, hers, or public.

Very sketchy stuff lol

But maybe they just were nervous and were asking questions to stall it and make themselves feel like they ask those questions to get to know you better, without any ill intentions behind it.

That, or they wanted your kidneys.

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By *ir SnakebitesMan
over a year ago

Llandeilo

Definitely a red flag, work place ect should be irrelevant info, espesaly at the start of an interaction

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By *oJo pornstarMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

My real names Ben, Ben Dover. I work for Phill Mckraken logistics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always ask for your real name, your mother's maiden name, the name of your first pet and the town where you were born.

I quite like to know your bank details so that I can pay the hotel cost if you have booked it, or it may be easier if you give me the 16 digit number on your card, the expiry date and the three digits on the back.

So if someone asked me for those details I'd probably be happy, but any more than that and i might be able to see a red flag being hoisted in the distance (or am I being over cautious?)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always ask for your real name, your mother's maiden name, the name of your first pet and the town where you were born.

So if someone asked me for those details I'd probably be happy, but any more than that and i might be able to see a red flag being hoisted in the distance (or am I being over cautious?)

No phone number!

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Blimey

Yeah I don't divulge personal info on fab, I only say what I don't mind been passed on, cos it will be

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"I was chatting to a couple we were getting on really well.

But I found they started asking really personal questions like they wanted my full name which is not a problem but the asked who I worked for and the company name this instantly gave a me a red flag

What are your thoughts "

Yeah bit dodgy. I’d never give my surname out or my place if employment.

The mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always ask for your real name, your mother's maiden name, the name of your first pet and the town where you were born.

So if someone asked me for those details I'd probably be happy, but any more than that and i might be able to see a red flag being hoisted in the distance (or am I being over cautious?)

No phone number!

Damn, forgot that one. Obviously need it to arrange the meet.

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By *idnight RamblerMan
over a year ago

Pershore

Yes, a couple asked me where I stored my Dremel which crossed the line for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, a couple asked me where I stored my Dremel which crossed the line for me."

Clearly they were just offering to help you out.

On that point, Raven is looking for help with DIY this w/end if you are free (on another thread).

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

"Had no idea people typically used false names, is that really the norm? I don't think I'd respond if I gave a false name and would just look even more stupid."

False names have been known

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By *1bttmMan
over a year ago

Shoreditch east London

"I was chatting to a couple we were getting on really well.

But I found they started asking really personal questions like they wanted my full name which is not a problem but the asked who I worked for and the company name this instantly gave a me a red flag

What are your thoughts "

Definitely a red flag....but sounds more like an interview than a chat. Whatever their reasons it would've put me off for being far too specific and unnecessary at this point.

U shoulda jokingly asked if they wanted to know yr salary, bank account details n passwords too

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By *ostindreamsMan
over a year ago

London

"Had no idea people typically used false names, is that really the norm? I don't think I'd respond if I gave a false name and would just look even more stupid."

I know many people do give false names. I personally just give my first name which isn't unique. If we develop a good rapport, I divulge more personal details.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had no idea people typically used false names, is that really the norm? I don't think I'd respond if I gave a false name and would just look even more stupid.

False names have been known

You weren't baptised TinaTitz?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was chatting to a couple we were getting on really well.

But I found they started asking really personal questions like they wanted my full name which is not a problem but the asked who I worked for and the company name this instantly gave a me a red flag

What are your thoughts "

That would be a no from me.

Someone can ask what I do for a living etc thats absolutely fine but that level of information after merely a few messages is strange to me.

If your that worried about someone then maybe you shouldn't be meeting them. You can always meet in a public place for a social

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I would've stopped even given the full name.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask yourself why they want this information. Imagine what they could do with it.

Then tell them to fuck off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I felt uncomfortable just reading it

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

Maybe they're just trying to make a conversation.

Being a data analyst many of you don't even know how a small piece of benign information can be used. What one may think is useful information can end up being garbage and what you think may be useless data can be quite useful.

ALL information has value. From a colour of someone's car to the name of a town someone lives in.

It's how the information intends to be used. If it's for benign honourable reasons then there's no harm.

Too much paranoia here. Lay off the fear. The only thing to fear is fear itself. It's quite astonishing really.

Many of you are all smiles in each others company and after that you're all wondering if the other person has booby trapped your letter box or places a UVIED under your car!

It's a bit sad when you all say swingers are lovely people when really there's an underlying distrust amongst one another. Remember, your best friend was a stranger once!

Anyway, personal information is the beholders responsibility to safeguard and no matter how much someone may blame the information seeker for it. The responsibility lies with whomever the information originates for the safeguarding of it.

I wonder how many of you have checked what is out there on the internet about yourself.

This forum post is actually published on the internet....did any of you know that!?

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

"Maybe they're just trying to make a conversation.

ALL information has value. From a colour of someone's car to the name of a town someone lives in.

It's how the information intends to be used. If it's for benign honourable reasons then there's no harm.

Too much paranoia here. Lay off the fear. The only thing to fear is fear itself. It's quite astonishing really.

Many of you are all smiles in each others company and after that you're all wondering if the other person has booby trapped your letter box or places a UVIED under your car!

It's a bit sad when you all say swingers are lovely people when really there's an underlying distrust amongst one another. Remember, your best friend was a stranger once!

I wonder how many of you have checked what is out there on the internet about yourself.

This forum post is actually published on the internet....did any of you know that!?"

The forums can be read without being logged onto the site. You don't need a profile.

Swingers aren't lovely people, they are just as likely to copy your information/ pics and spread them around as 'non-swingers'. Bit stupid to think they wouldn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

Why do we even bother then? we share our bodies with people whom we distrust!!!

what's the point eh!?...all the fake feigned smiles! sad.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

You're God damn right about swingers not being lovely people.... smiling assassin's many.

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52 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

"I was chatting to a couple we were getting on really well.

But I found they started asking really personal questions like they wanted my full name which is not a problem but the asked who I worked for and the company name this instantly gave a me a red flag

What are your thoughts

That would be a no from me.

Someone can ask what I do for a living etc thats absolutely fine but that level of information after merely a few messages is strange to me.

If your that worried about someone then maybe you shouldn't be meeting them. You can always meet in a public place for a social

My advice is give information to only those you trust.

Trust me ....when you say even giving your occupation is ok.... I've actually advised someone in this very thread to NOT give that information out about them because it gave away too much about themselves!!!!

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By *hromosexualsCouple
52 weeks ago

Near Abercynon

OK well this thread took a weird turn

We sometimes ask guys what industry they work in. Nothing sinister, but we both work in the same industry and ideally don't want to be meeting with folks we might in a professional capacity the next day...

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

"OK well this thread took a weird turn

I used to work with someone who was a big time swinger at chams and diamonsmiles was a friend of hers. I never fucked her because of the work association though.

we'd sit at lunch on the Monday and not even think of mentioning the playmates she had the day before in chams!

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By *hromosexualsCouple
52 weeks ago

Near Abercynon

"OK well this thread took a weird turn

I used to work with someone who was a big time swinger at chams and diamonsmiles was a friend of hers. I never fucked her because of the work association though.

we'd sit at lunch on the Monday and not even think of mentioning the playmates she had the day before in chams!

Fair enough, but we still want to try to keep a separation between our personal lives and our professional lives, and it seems sensible to avoid mixing the two if possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

"OK well this thread took a weird turn

I used to work with someone who was a big time swinger at chams and diamonsmiles was a friend of hers. I never fucked her because of the work association though.

we'd sit at lunch on the Monday and not even think of mentioning the playmates she had the day before in chams!

Fair enough, but we still want to try to keep a separation between our personal lives and our professional lives, and it seems sensible to avoid mixing the two if possible."

Yes....you don't shit where you eat to quote a rather vulgar phrase comes to mind

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

Yes I detest it too when peeps get way too personal.... sometimes it's like an interrogation tbh....I've been asked twice here for my address....omg yes my home address....

one fella said he wanted to send me something in the post....

The other fella had absolutely no explanation as to why he wanted my address....like that's just too weird

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

"Yes I detest it too when peeps get way too personal.... sometimes it's like an interrogation tbh....I've been asked twice here for my address....omg yes my home address....

one fella said he wanted to send me something in the post....

The other fella had absolutely no explanation as to why he wanted my address....like that's just too weird

what's the topic of conversation then between shags? discussion about PMQ's?

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

yes.....enormous RED FLAG....I'd just block them if that happens....that is without doubt a potential scam about to take place ....(in my opinion)....mind yourself out there, there are a lot of nice people....but there are also a lot of bad people....scammers!!!....probe a bit....and if people get pushy....it is time to get rid of them!!

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