FabSwingers.com forum: Profile sexuality

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

There seems to be a lot of folk on here that classify themselves as “straight” when obviously they are not when it comes to chatting.

Not sure why that is but surely if you are curious, Bi or gay you should be happy to let others know and be proud of your orientation.

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By *odgers and PartingCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

But if that doesn’t fit where you’re at then you pick the thing that’s closest to it. No? I’m down as bi curious, I’m not really but there’s no ‘don’t mind fumbling about a bit’ tag. Got zero interest in ever meeting a guy and I’m definitely not gay. Mines set more as a heads up than a looking for. R

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

"There seems to be a lot of folk on here that classify themselves as “straight” when obviously they are not when it comes to chatting.

Not sure why that is but surely if you are curious, Bi or gay you should be happy to let others know and be proud of your orientation.

Couldn't agree more, but to some people getting sex is more important than honesty

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

You’d think…

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By *w71Man
over a year ago

Swanage

I think profile sexuality is a tricky one, I wouldn’t class myself as gay. I am not attracted to men in the slightest. However I do enjoy receiving anal sex I use Bi on my profile because it is the easiest way of describing my sexuality

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I think profile sexuality is a tricky one, I wouldn’t class myself as gay. I am not attracted to men in the slightest. However I do enjoy receiving anal sex I use Bi on my profile because it is the easiest way of describing my sexuality "

Surely that’s bisexual then? Sex with men?

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By *w71Man
over a year ago

Swanage

But is it also not some kind of attraction to them also?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"But is it also not some kind of attraction to them also? "

No I don’t think you need to be attracted to them romantically etc. I dunno. I’m not a fan of labels but if you’re going by the ones available here then I’d say that was bisexual.

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By *w71Man
over a year ago

Swanage

"But is it also not some kind of attraction to them also?

No I don’t think you need to be attracted to them romantically etc. I dunno. I’m not a fan of labels but if you’re going by the ones available here then I’d say that was bisexual. "

That’s fair enough I’m not disagreeing with you by the way just airing out my own confusion. I do agree I’m not a fan of labels.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"But is it also not some kind of attraction to them also?

No I don’t think you need to be attracted to them romantically etc. I dunno. I’m not a fan of labels but if you’re going by the ones available here then I’d say that was bisexual.

That’s fair enough I’m not disagreeing with you by the way just airing out my own confusion. I do agree I’m not a fan of labels. "

I think bi playful would be a good new one

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By *ongandharderMan
over a year ago

Rotherham

"But is it also not some kind of attraction to them also?

No I don’t think you need to be attracted to them romantically etc. I dunno. I’m not a fan of labels but if you’re going by the ones available here then I’d say that was bisexual. "

I'd say that's bi

Or even a hedonist:

a person who believes that the pursuit of pleasure is the most important thing in life

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Some people just like cock and are straight, in their minds. And the realization only occurred in maturity. Perhaps if they lived to several thousand years old, they'd get to like more of a man?

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I use straight as that is exactly what I am with no grey areas at all but I've seen many men talk of feeling they are treated differently by women and couples if they admit they are bi.

I've also read comments here from women and couples confirming this as their position.

Some people live for labels and have to slap one on everything on here because it's suits their own agenda and they feel anyone not prepared to wear a label are not to be trusted or are hiding something.

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

Surely that’s bisexual then? Sex with men? "

This is very confusing to me. I'm all for everything exploring what suits them. If you like a cock up your arse, surely you're a little bit Bi/gay?

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By *w71Man
over a year ago

Swanage

Surely that’s bisexual then? Sex with men?

This is very confusing to me. I'm all for everything exploring what suits them. If you like a cock up your arse, surely you're a little bit Bi/gay?"

Oh you are absolutely right, I’m just not sure I admit it to myself regularly

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By *ongandharderMan
over a year ago

Rotherham

Surely that’s bisexual then? Sex with men?

This is very confusing to me. I'm all for everything exploring what suits them. If you like a cock up your arse, surely you're a little bit Bi/gay?"

I assume that some men are secretly bi in that they would never want Their family to know .

Stigma or they themselves feel like they would judge themselves

Also sometimes I'd say desperation from lack of female attention causes them to seek pleasure by what means are available

In the same way people who watch porn regularly end up looking for more hardcore varied stuff after a while as they struggle more and more so need more and more for a release

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"There seems to be a lot of folk on here that classify themselves as “straight” when obviously they are not when it comes to chatting.

Not sure why that is but surely if you are curious, Bi or gay you should be happy to let others know and be proud of your orientation.

Totally agree, I get there's more stigma for males to admit they're bi, which is sad in this day and age on this site.

I've seen plenty of women who write straight too and clearly aren't or those who are bi curious to get their blokes off.

There's nothing to be ashamed of in being bi at all.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

I'm straight but I still chat/message men. Nothing has changed: I'm still straight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There seems to be a lot of folk on here that classify themselves as “straight” when obviously they are not when it comes to chatting.

Not sure why that is but surely if you are curious, Bi or gay you should be happy to let others know and be proud of your orientation.

I don't know about "you should be happy" bit, because some people aren't. As long as they do not slag off for example being bi and deny it left right and centre, that they would ever have such thoughts, then I'd let them be. It's their choice when and how they share it, if at all. It's discrepancies tied with disrespecting what they might represent themselves, which would get to me and strike me as ingenuity.

Not so sure if I explained that well.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's tough being human. We're complex specimens and we're each very unique. Your black and white are different to mine

We're being very stupid if we expect to have billions of complex organisms to have such matching of complex tastes that they can all fit into 3 or 4 matching categories

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By *inky ChefMan
over a year ago

Norwich

Surely that’s bisexual then? Sex with men?

This is very confusing to me. I'm all for everything exploring what suits them. If you like a cock up your arse, surely you're a little bit Bi/gay?"

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I don't think it's as simple as that.

There are some gray areas.

For example:

You like 1 finger in your bum.

At some point you will try 2 or 3.

Then you might try some toys.

Then you might be interested in pegging.

You realize it's unlikely you will find a woman for that.

You are not into man, but it's either you compromise or playing with yourself and your fingers/toys.

You might find 1 guy, who's willing to fuck you from behind and isn't bothered about any other kind of touch.

That's kind of more like compromising rather than your sexuality.

Most bi/gay guys actually want kissing, oral or they want you to be vers.

So you really won't meet many man, if you are into one thing only.

They want the whole package.

They will consider you a kinky straight guy, if you don't suck, kiss or get turned on by seeing a cock or a muscular man's body.

So anal might be considered gay/bi, but in reality it can be just a kink/fetish.

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By *eeds fun guyMan
over a year ago

yorkshire

I am as straight as they come, only fancy, look at and have the desire to have sex with women.

However, if a scenario happens, which it has, where I am with a MF couple and all of us end up playing I just see that as having very high octane sex. Bi or straight has levels and context I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps their should be a few more options when it comes to picking your sexualality as bi sometimes only means sucking cock and doesn't include anal yet bi also sometimes means you give anal but don't recieve but by selecting bi means you like both but you might only like one of the three.

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By *inky ChefMan
over a year ago

Norwich

"Perhaps their should be a few more options when it comes to picking your sexualality as bi sometimes only means sucking cock and doesn't include anal yet bi also sometimes means you give anal but don't recieve but by selecting bi means you like both but you might only like one of the three."

I used to be on a crap site (worse than this) years ago.

You had the interests section with options to tick give and receive.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Tbf fair Bi is enough. Play bi and oral bi already confuses people, If a man is sexually attracted to a man/parts of a man, then he is Bi. No need to be ashamed or hide it, he can list his bisexual sexual preferences to the man he is chatting to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There seems to be a lot of folk on here that classify themselves as “straight” when obviously they are not when it comes to chatting.

Not sure why that is but surely if you are curious, Bi or gay you should be happy to let others know and be proud of your orientation.

People can get Outed. So not wise to reveal their sexuality in some situations.

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