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By (user no longer on site) OP   
52 weeks ago

How much notice do take of a woman's verifications and the age of them?

I'm displaying one. And only one.

But it was put to me recently that the person in question couldn't work out if I was 'tricky' and had only slept with one person and hadn't been able to find anyone else. Or if I just hid them all. And a comment was made about the length of time that had elapsed since my verification.

So, guys, if a woman has a verification over a certain time frame, does it make you question her? and if she's only displaying one that is near the start of her fab profile creation does it put you off? Would you think she's involved still with that guy?

I'm curious.

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By *affeine DuskMan
52 weeks ago

Caerphilly

If I was ever thinking of spending time with anyone on here, the veri system would be the last thing on my mind as far as questions go.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

I don’t take any notice. I am sure that somewhere there are verifications which are not so great but people chose not to display

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
52 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

If it’s someone I don’t know from Adam, I look at the veris quite closely. And they help me decide whether I’m interested.

But if it’s someone I’ve chatted with, or I know from these here forums, I might not even look. Because I already know whether I’m interested or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"How much notice do take of a woman's verifications and the age of them?

I'm displaying one. And only one.

But it was put to me recently that the person in question couldn't work out if I was 'tricky' and had only slept with one person and hadn't been able to find anyone else. Or if I just hid them all. And a comment was made about the length of time that had elapsed since my verification.

So, guys, if a woman has a verification over a certain time frame, does it make you question her? and if she's only displaying one that is near the start of her fab profile creation does it put you off? Would you think she's involved still with that guy?

I'm curious.

"

I really don’t care about a girls verifications. The only thing I’ll take from it is “she meets, so is maybe more reliable than someone without any”.

Timings of veris and the number of them is really not something I look at.

Although- if I’m perving and she has some great FF photos, a veri from a girl could mean someone else has some awesome amateur porn photos to perve on. Otherwise, “meh” to veris

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

I used to look, to see what sort of person they were meeting. If I felt I didn’t match up with that, I would avoid that person.

I’m less inclined to do that now as I embrace what/who I am. And if they’re interested in me, then the people they’ve previously met have no bearing on that.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

Personally the only thing I use a woman’s verifications for are seeing the type of guys she’d met in the past and if I could hold a candle to them

Pulled out of a few meets after checking the verifications and realising I couldn’t keep up

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By *VineMan
52 weeks ago

The right place

I pay very little attention to verifications. I very rarely read others.

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By *heelz69Man
52 weeks ago

Manchester

I do read them, but it doesn't matter how old or how many they are, it's all about the attraction for me

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

I read them but I prefer to go off my own judgement on how they come across to me and whether I'd personally want to meet them. I don't think I even pay attention to the date of the verification to be honest

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By *eyond PurityCouple
52 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

Verifications are interesting to read for various reasons

What type of person you are attracted to.

What level of detail you are happy with in a veri.

But they don’t tell the rest of the story.

Whether it was a while ago or whether it was recent no one would know if you’ve met that person 20 times or just once.

Most people on here want sex, regular sex too so if you only have one veri up and it’s from a while ago then you could either be meeting up with the same guy or you could be meeting up with a number of guys and you aren’t wanting veris.

It’s your profile, your life, what others think doesn’t/shouldn’t matter.

K

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By *illy IdolMan
52 weeks ago

Midlands


"Personally the only thing I use a woman’s verifications for are seeing the type of guys she’d met in the past and if I could hold a candle to them

Pulled out of a few meets after checking the verifications and realising I couldn’t keep up "

Basically this, minus the couldn't keep up bit.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
52 weeks ago

Reading


"Personally the only thing I use a woman’s verifications for are seeing the type of guys she’d met in the past and if I could hold a candle to them

Pulled out of a few meets after checking the verifications and realising I couldn’t keep up "

My veris would confuse many.i totally don't have a type.

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By *rHotNottsMan
52 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I ignore them, women just leave and come back anyway when they get too many.

Veris are rather silly , you can be a phycho & get a hundred good ones just for turning up and smiling.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"Personally the only thing I use a woman’s verifications for are seeing the type of guys she’d met in the past and if I could hold a candle to them

Pulled out of a few meets after checking the verifications and realising I couldn’t keep up

My veris would confuse many.i totally don't have a type. "

Same for me.

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By *impleme667Man
52 weeks ago

Sheffield

For the start, I believe the principal of supply and demand take the luxury of verifications out for most of the males on site ! But apart from that, I believe verifications are not a very good representation of anyone! They reduce the risk but in my view, that reduction is negligible!

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By *eroLondonMan
52 weeks ago

Covent Garden

Moth-eaten verifications and those gathering dust aren't an issue for me. When a woman contacts me and her verifications are from men with sizeable assets and adonis-like qualities then it may potentially impinge my engagement with her: I don't wish to waste her time unless her acquaintanceship is for a platonic afternoon tea

OP, don't concern yourself with placating others - just ask your friend to write the same verification again, verbatim. Display that new one and hide the old one.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"Personally the only thing I use a woman’s verifications for are seeing the type of guys she’d met in the past and if I could hold a candle to them

Pulled out of a few meets after checking the verifications and realising I couldn’t keep up

My veris would confuse many.i totally don't have a type. "

I think that’ll put a lot of guys at ease

I arranged a meet with a couple then cancelled after viewing their verifications

They couldn’t understand why I was somewhat put off at most of the verifications coming from huge black guys

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
52 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

I read them out of interest. They are a mixed bag really. Some are happy to list conquests, others for socials, some in between. Others tend to block some or all.

Some can be quite amusing though but it wouldn't really change my thoughts on anyone.

Being North of the Wall and remote ish, it can be quite interesting looking at the connections. It can look a bit like a family tree in Norfolk.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
52 weeks ago

Llanelli

I don't pay much attention to them, as long as I can see they're genuine that's all that matters

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

Verifications are a minor part of my process..I prefer to make my own decisions based on my communications with them

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By *eroLondonMan
52 weeks ago

Covent Garden


"I don't pay much attention to them, as long as I can see they're genuine that's all that matters"

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Good to sêê him back. He's ^ a gentleman.

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By *arynBrianCouple
52 weeks ago

Epping


"How much notice do take of a woman's verifications and the age of them?

I'm displaying one. And only one.

But it was put to me recently that the person in question couldn't work out if I was 'tricky' and had only slept with one person and hadn't been able to find anyone else. Or if I just hid them all. And a comment was made about the length of time that had elapsed since my verification.

So, guys, if a woman has a verification over a certain time frame, does it make you question her? and if she's only displaying one that is near the start of her fab profile creation does it put you off? Would you think she's involved still with that guy?

I'm curious.

"

We treat verifications like eBay or Amazon reviews; have you ever seen a bad one on here - obviously everyone in Fabland is perfect? In this namby-pamby world we now live in, everyone is frightened to speak their minds for fear of ridicule. If folks think a review is the only criteria for contacting someone then they are either extremely sexually frustrated and or very shallow. Most of the folks we play with would not entertain a site such as this so hopefully, that keeps them a long way from us only having One fab meet The advice I gave my kids was ‘always ignore the morons’. Good luck… M&B xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

If a guy cared that much about a verification then he isn't a guy for me.

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By *azrich87Man
52 weeks ago

kings lynn

I don’t take any notice of them really. I will have a read of few few some times. I can’t see why it would change anything if they have a recent one or many of them

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"How much notice do take of a woman's verifications and the age of them?

I'm displaying one. And only one.

But it was put to me recently that the person in question couldn't work out if I was 'tricky' and had only slept with one person and hadn't been able to find anyone else. Or if I just hid them all. And a comment was made about the length of time that had elapsed since my verification.

So, guys, if a woman has a verification over a certain time frame, does it make you question her? and if she's only displaying one that is near the start of her fab profile creation does it put you off? Would you think she's involved still with that guy?

I'm curious.

"

I’d be suspicious of a profile that is a year or so old, with only one verification but that verification was left at the inception of the profile.

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By *aiseiMan
52 weeks ago

Birmingham

Not much…..might casually browse but don’t check every time.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"I don't pay much attention to them, as long as I can see they're genuine that's all that matters "

How do you 'see' they are genuine?

Genuine question.

Genuinely.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

I only look AT Pictures myself

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By *ynecplCouple
52 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Verifications are just part of the whole package. One verification on show means nothing.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
52 weeks ago

Llanelli


"I don't pay much attention to them, as long as I can see they're genuine that's all that matters

How do you 'see' they are genuine?

Genuine question.

Genuinely.

"

Usually when they're naked in my bed and not being a cock tease

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"I only look AT Pictures myself "

The most honest dude on Fab!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
52 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Is this why nobody wants me coz i don’t show them

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"Is this why nobody wants me coz i don’t show them "

No. That’s another reason!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
52 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts


"Is this why nobody wants me coz i don’t show them

No. That’s another reason! "

Hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"Is this why nobody wants me coz i don’t show them "

I can’t have you because I won’t shave my beard off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
52 weeks ago

The fact that people are looking at verifications and seeing if they match up...do guys do this more than women? Or is it the same? Using previous me as a marker of if you'd go for a woman limits you doesn't it????? Why do that?

The message I'm getting here is that showing more veris showing more varied men would actually help a woman out more than the actual veris themselves.

Is this where I'm going wrong just displaying the one??

Seriously though, I hate veris they seem to cause problems. I only display one so people could potentially see that I am the person in the profile...but that's an argument in itself.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
52 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts


"Is this why nobody wants me coz i don’t show them

I can’t have you because I won’t shave my beard off. "

I don’t shag everyone who doesn’t have a beard!!

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By *addad99Man
52 weeks ago

Rotherham /newquay

I do read verifications just to get a feel before I message or not some say one thing but veris show something else It doesn't put me off with the amount they may display but certainly helps me as to what type they are.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
52 weeks ago


"Is this why nobody wants me coz i don’t show them "

Haha I just typed the same thing just in different words.

Is it a thing?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
52 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts


"Is this why nobody wants me coz i don’t show them

Haha I just typed the same thing just in different words.

Is it a thing? "

It could be but that’s their problem. I’d still rather keep who I meet/have met to myself. I show social ones every now and then if I really want to meet someone new. Just to show what an absolute fucking delight I am.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
52 weeks ago

Llanelli


"Is this why nobody wants me coz i don’t show them

I can’t have you because I won’t shave my beard off. "

That's not the reason, she wants me with my beard

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

If I've spoken to the lady and seen her on cam it would not even matter to me not everyone feels the need for a 101 veris

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By *ora the explorerWoman
52 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts


"Is this why nobody wants me coz i don’t show them

I can’t have you because I won’t shave my beard off.

That's not the reason, she wants me with my beard "

Shush!!!!!

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By *iscean_dreamMan
52 weeks ago

Llanelli


"Is this why nobody wants me coz i don’t show them

I can’t have you because I won’t shave my beard off.

That's not the reason, she wants me with my beard

Shush!!!!!"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
52 weeks ago


"Is this why nobody wants me coz i don’t show them

Haha I just typed the same thing just in different words.

Is it a thing?

It could be but that’s their problem. I’d still rather keep who I meet/have met to myself. I show social ones every now and then if I really want to meet someone new. Just to show what an absolute fucking delight I am. "

Do I need a new veri to get a new guy? ....I can't believe I even typed that?! Just how mad does that sound!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
52 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts


"Is this why nobody wants me coz i don’t show them

Haha I just typed the same thing just in different words.

Is it a thing?

It could be but that’s their problem. I’d still rather keep who I meet/have met to myself. I show social ones every now and then if I really want to meet someone new. Just to show what an absolute fucking delight I am.

Do I need a new veri to get a new guy? ....I can't believe I even typed that?! Just how mad does that sound!"

Nah I don’t reckon. Would you really want to meet someone who’s that bothered about it? Besides yours isn’t that old x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
52 weeks ago


"Is this why nobody wants me coz i don’t show them

Haha I just typed the same thing just in different words.

Is it a thing?

It could be but that’s their problem. I’d still rather keep who I meet/have met to myself. I show social ones every now and then if I really want to meet someone new. Just to show what an absolute fucking delight I am.

Do I need a new veri to get a new guy? ....I can't believe I even typed that?! Just how mad does that sound!

Nah I don’t reckon. Would you really want to meet someone who’s that bothered about it? Besides yours isn’t that old x "

Well I didn't think it was till I got questioned. But it intrigued me how much it was a subject.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
52 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts


"Is this why nobody wants me coz i don’t show them

Haha I just typed the same thing just in different words.

Is it a thing?

It could be but that’s their problem. I’d still rather keep who I meet/have met to myself. I show social ones every now and then if I really want to meet someone new. Just to show what an absolute fucking delight I am.

Do I need a new veri to get a new guy? ....I can't believe I even typed that?! Just how mad does that sound!

Nah I don’t reckon. Would you really want to meet someone who’s that bothered about it? Besides yours isn’t that old x

Well I didn't think it was till I got questioned. But it intrigued me how much it was a subject.

"

I think they’re important to some. I’ve never been a fan. Although I do nosey at everyone else’s

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
52 weeks ago


"Is this why nobody wants me coz i don’t show them

Haha I just typed the same thing just in different words.

Is it a thing?

It could be but that’s their problem. I’d still rather keep who I meet/have met to myself. I show social ones every now and then if I really want to meet someone new. Just to show what an absolute fucking delight I am.

Do I need a new veri to get a new guy? ....I can't believe I even typed that?! Just how mad does that sound!

Nah I don’t reckon. Would you really want to meet someone who’s that bothered about it? Besides yours isn’t that old x

Well I didn't think it was till I got questioned. But it intrigued me how much it was a subject.

I think they’re important to some. I’ve never been a fan. Although I do nosey at everyone else’s "

Why am I not surprised at that

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

Pay no attention at all

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

I don't have enough time or energy to second guess too much.

That said one veri make me think it's someone who has games the system. But depends who the veri is from as well.

Tbh, who cares. Send a dick pic. Say FAF. Get your dick wet. This sex site is easy. Why complicate it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
52 weeks ago

So guys if you're checking out who a woman meets, what happens if she's verified by a woman??? Do you match up to that?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
52 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts


"Is this why nobody wants me coz i don’t show them

Haha I just typed the same thing just in different words.

Is it a thing?

It could be but that’s their problem. I’d still rather keep who I meet/have met to myself. I show social ones every now and then if I really want to meet someone new. Just to show what an absolute fucking delight I am.

Do I need a new veri to get a new guy? ....I can't believe I even typed that?! Just how mad does that sound!

Nah I don’t reckon. Would you really want to meet someone who’s that bothered about it? Besides yours isn’t that old x

Well I didn't think it was till I got questioned. But it intrigued me how much it was a subject.

I think they’re important to some. I’ve never been a fan. Although I do nosey at everyone else’s

Why am I not surprised at that "

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"So guys if you're checking out who a woman meets, what happens if she's verified by a woman??? Do you match up to that? "
means she can put up with crazy. That's a good sign

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
52 weeks ago


"I don't have enough time or energy to second guess too much.

That said one veri make me think it's someone who has games the system. But depends who the veri is from as well.

Tbh, who cares. Send a dick pic. Say FAF. Get your dick wet. This sex site is easy. Why complicate it? "

Games the system???

Do you want to get your dick wet Hovis? (The autocorrect to hobos was definitely worth correcting)

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"Is this why nobody wants me coz i don’t show them

I can’t have you because I won’t shave my beard off.

I don’t shag everyone who doesn’t have a beard!! "

That’s not what I heard

*runs like fuck*

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
52 weeks ago


"So guys if you're checking out who a woman meets, what happens if she's verified by a woman??? Do you match up to that? means she can put up with crazy. That's a good sign "

Oooh shots fired!!!

Duck!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
52 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts


"Is this why nobody wants me coz i don’t show them

I can’t have you because I won’t shave my beard off.

I don’t shag everyone who doesn’t have a beard!!

That’s not what I heard

*runs like fuck* "

Why do you think I don’t show my veris. Takes up too much fab space

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
52 weeks ago

Somewhere else


"If a guy cared that much about a verification then he isn't a guy for me.

"

This goes for me too.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
52 weeks ago

Somewhere else


"The fact that people are looking at verifications and seeing if they match up...do guys do this more than women? Or is it the same? Using previous me as a marker of if you'd go for a woman limits you doesn't it????? Why do that?

The message I'm getting here is that showing more veris showing more varied men would actually help a woman out more than the actual veris themselves.

Is this where I'm going wrong just displaying the one??

Seriously though, I hate veris they seem to cause problems. I only display one so people could potentially see that I am the person in the profile...but that's an argument in itself."

I’m happy to speak to someone on camera to do our own veri that we are who we say we are. In fact I insist on that before meeting for my own safety and peace of mind. The written verifications aren’t my thing - if that puts a dude off me, it means we’re not compatible.

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By *ddie1966Man
52 weeks ago

Paper Town Central, Essex.

IMHO

A single veri of a social meet (possibly not more than a year old I suppose) should be all that's really necessary.

I don't want to know if they're great in bed (or elsewhere). I don't want to know what their O levels are up to scratch.

I just want to know they're genuine.

I'll make up my own mind.

But I would never tell.

A Gentleman never tells.

I am a gentleman.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
52 weeks ago

Somewhere else


"I don't have enough time or energy to second guess too much.

That said one veri make me think it's someone who has games the system. But depends who the veri is from as well.

Tbh, who cares. Send a dick pic. Say FAF. Get your dick wet. This sex site is easy. Why complicate it?

Games the system???

Do you want to get your dick wet Hovis? (The autocorrect to hobos was definitely worth correcting) "

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By *batMan
52 weeks ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

I'm not that fussed on the content of veris. Quite a few of them seem poorly written, almost sycophantic.

The most gag producing stuff normally has something along the lines of "treat this one with respect." as if you shouldn't treat everyone with respect!!

I only post my veri summary as I previously had feedback that some won't entertain meeting unless you have a recent one.

Gbat

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By *verageSausageMan
52 weeks ago

Flintshire

I don't take much notice of verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

People will display what they think are the good ones from the "hot" people.

The idea of someone gushing (not literally!) About me and me proudly displaying it just seems a little egotistical to me.

Also, a grown adult that has to rely on strangers opinions of someone is not the type of adult I'd want to get naked with.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
52 weeks ago

Lincoln

The only notice I really take of verifications is normally: do they have any, and do any of them mention barebacking I don't read too much into them.

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"The fact that people are looking at verifications and seeing if they match up...do guys do this more than women? Or is it the same? Using previous me as a marker of if you'd go for a woman limits you doesn't it????? Why do that?

The message I'm getting here is that showing more veris showing more varied men would actually help a woman out more than the actual veris themselves.

Is this where I'm going wrong just displaying the one??

Seriously though, I hate veris they seem to cause problems. I only display one so people could potentially see that I am the person in the profile...but that's an argument in itself."

You’ve caught the wrong end of the stick

We don’t need verifications showing you like a variety of guys

We just don’t want to see a bunch of verifications that definitely aren’t what we are

Like in my example, most verifications from huge black guys, I can only assume I’m not what you like (the most) and don’t want to meet

Despite what many tell you, guys get insecure too. Most guy want to feel wanted by their partner

I know fabs and many other places like to paint all men as mindless fuck machines that want to use women like holes. That’s just not reality. Most of us want our partner to want us and enjoy it with us

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By *hagTonightMan
52 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

I dont take any notice of it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
52 weeks ago


"The fact that people are looking at verifications and seeing if they match up...do guys do this more than women? Or is it the same? Using previous me as a marker of if you'd go for a woman limits you doesn't it????? Why do that?

The message I'm getting here is that showing more veris showing more varied men would actually help a woman out more than the actual veris themselves.

Is this where I'm going wrong just displaying the one??

Seriously though, I hate veris they seem to cause problems. I only display one so people could potentially see that I am the person in the profile...but that's an argument in itself.

You’ve caught the wrong end of the stick

We don’t need verifications showing you like a variety of guys

We just don’t want to see a bunch of verifications that definitely aren’t what we are

Like in my example, most verifications from huge black guys, I can only assume I’m not what you like (the most) and don’t want to meet

Despite what many tell you, guys get insecure too. Most guy want to feel wanted by their partner

I know fabs and many other places like to paint all men as mindless fuck machines that want to use women like holes. That’s just not reality. Most of us want our partner to want us and enjoy it with us "

I think you misread my post or didn't get my point.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"The fact that people are looking at verifications and seeing if they match up...do guys do this more than women? Or is it the same? Using previous me as a marker of if you'd go for a woman limits you doesn't it????? Why do that?

The message I'm getting here is that showing more veris showing more varied men would actually help a woman out more than the actual veris themselves.

Is this where I'm going wrong just displaying the one??

Seriously though, I hate veris they seem to cause problems. I only display one so people could potentially see that I am the person in the profile...but that's an argument in itself.

You’ve caught the wrong end of the stick

We don’t need verifications showing you like a variety of guys

We just don’t want to see a bunch of verifications that definitely aren’t what we are

Like in my example, most verifications from huge black guys, I can only assume I’m not what you like (the most) and don’t want to meet

Despite what many tell you, guys get insecure too. Most guy want to feel wanted by their partner

I know fabs and many other places like to paint all men as mindless fuck machines that want to use women like holes. That’s just not reality. Most of us want our partner to want us and enjoy it with us

I think you misread my post or didn't get my point."

Probe both

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By *ustamanMan
52 weeks ago

weymouth

Tbh no, I'm just pleased when I get a response to be particularly bothered about the number of veris

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By *ruceyyMan
52 weeks ago

London

Wouldn't give two shits. Although I have thought someone was fit before and saw a veri that they had fucked a really dodgy looking 22 year old boy - that is a boy at that age - and thought ewwww

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

This is really eye opening how many men would be put off if the woman had met someone more attractive

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By *oxesMan
52 weeks ago

Southend, Essex


"This is really eye opening how many men would be put off if the woman had met someone more attractive "

I just take it as a matter of course that some works

Women has most likely lain with someine more attractive than me.

Yes I know it's subjective.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"Wouldn't give two shits. Although I have thought someone was fit before and saw a veri that they had fucked a really dodgy looking 22 year old boy - that is a boy at that age - and thought ewwww"

He was hot!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
52 weeks ago


"This is really eye opening how many men would be put off if the woman had met someone more attractive "

Isn't it just! I'm a little surprised.

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By *ealitybitesMan
52 weeks ago

Belfast

It wouldn't bother me how long it had been since their last verification. I don't pay much heed to them apart from confirming that they are consistent with the rest of their profile and to avoid the drama queens.

I much prefer to meet women who are on a similar journey to myself, taking their time to choose meets and maybe lacking in experience so if they hadn't met in a few years but our conversation went well it wouldn't be an issue.

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By *ruceyyMan
52 weeks ago

London


"This is really eye opening how many men would be put off if the woman had met someone more attractive "

Oh I'm the opposite. I want to be the ugliest guy she's got with

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By *ruceyyMan
52 weeks ago

London


"Wouldn't give two shits. Although I have thought someone was fit before and saw a veri that they had fucked a really dodgy looking 22 year old boy - that is a boy at that age - and thought ewwww

He was hot!!"

He had a huge cock for his skinny ass like bod to be fair. Did not look natural at all. It's like all the protein he eats just goes to his dick.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"For the start, I believe the principal of supply and demand take the luxury of verifications out for most of the males on site ! But apart from that, I believe verifications are not a very good representation of anyone! They reduce the risk but in my view, that reduction is negligible!"

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"This is really eye opening how many men would be put off if the woman had met someone more attractive "

It’s never happened to me ….

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By *imi_RougeWoman
52 weeks ago

Portsmouth

I always try to display the most recent ones, to show that I'm actively seeing people.

I often get asked if I meet for more than coffee, as they're mostly socials and not graphic.

I have however recently been asked to send a pic with a finger on my nose, to prove I'm genuine. From an unverified, 2 week old profile. You can guess my answer to that.

I often do the same thing as guys though, look at who other people have met to see if I match up.

And if a guy only had 1 verification from ages ago, I would question that too.

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By *atch1982Man
52 weeks ago

Abingdon

I would just be grateful to get anywhere near to a meet

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
52 weeks ago

Essex


"This is really eye opening how many men would be put off if the woman had met someone more attractive

Oh I'm the opposite. I want to be the ugliest guy she's got with "

C’mon then Brucey (pats seat)

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
52 weeks ago

Essex

I don’t want to put my sex veris up though. Which is a double edged sword. Some will think I’m just drinking a lot of coffee with a lot of men…

But if I make the others public - there’s an assumption that I’ll always behave in the same way….

Honestly I don’t know

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"Is this why nobody wants me coz i don’t show them "

Now you know that’s not true……

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By *ltmeeMan
52 weeks ago

wrexham

Any kind of contact from women on here would be a bonus. I get nothing, so don't even look how many Vera's they have or the age of them. It's like all the women are on Venus and all the men are on Mars. Well in my world anyway. Plenty of correspondence from guys though.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"This is really eye opening how many men would be put off if the woman had met someone more attractive "

There’s an element of insecurity about it. In my mind, I’d be thinking “why does she want me, when she’s had him…..he’s fuckin hot”

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

The only reason I ever look at verifications is to find out what that person is like during meets.

Otherwise I don’t really think about them at all

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By *rofessor ElementalMan
52 weeks ago

Durham

The verification process isn’t a deal breaker at all and is mostly meaningless when you think about it however it’s a nice and flattening.

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By *TK421-Man
52 weeks ago

Cheltenham

My only verification is from well over a year ago so I would be a massive hypocrite to juge someone on theirs.

Besides which most verifications tell me bugger all other than 'Treat her with respect'..... like I was planning on being an arsehole

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By *iscean_dreamMan
52 weeks ago

Llanelli


"Wouldn't give two shits. Although I have thought someone was fit before and saw a veri that they had fucked a really dodgy looking 22 year old boy - that is a boy at that age - and thought ewwww

He was hot!!

He had a huge cock for his skinny ass like bod to be fair. Did not look natural at all. It's like all the protein he eats just goes to his dick."

Shit bed making skills though

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By *ou only live onceMan
52 weeks ago

London

I definitely read them (and the veris they've left), but mainly as I'm nosy.

They've not yet changed my opinion of someone, but never say never! I might think twice if it was very obvious I was not her "type", but I like to think I'd know I was or wasn't without needing the veris...

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
52 weeks ago

Maidstone

I won't show any because any guy that bases whether he wants to meet me or not on who I've previously met or what I've done, can fuck right off

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"This is really eye opening how many men would be put off if the woman had met someone more attractive

There’s an element of insecurity about it. In my mind, I’d be thinking “why does she want me, when she’s had him…..he’s fuckin hot”"

Is there an element of not believing the woman knows her own mind? Like, deciding she obviously doesnt want X because Y is better looking, is that not removing the choice from the woman because you don’t trust her to make her own judgement?

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By *im ForbedMan
52 weeks ago

Winchester

I think a few well written veris are useful just to show the person receiving them is (probably) real and will appear when they say they will..vintage not too important.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"This is really eye opening how many men would be put off if the woman had met someone more attractive

There’s an element of insecurity about it. In my mind, I’d be thinking “why does she want me, when she’s had him…..he’s fuckin hot”

Is there an element of not believing the woman knows her own mind? Like, deciding she obviously doesnt want X because Y is better looking, is that not removing the choice from the woman because you don’t trust her to make her own judgement?"

Because women don't do this?? Men are allowed to be insecure.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"This is really eye opening how many men would be put off if the woman had met someone more attractive

There’s an element of insecurity about it. In my mind, I’d be thinking “why does she want me, when she’s had him…..he’s fuckin hot”

Is there an element of not believing the woman knows her own mind? Like, deciding she obviously doesnt want X because Y is better looking, is that not removing the choice from the woman because you don’t trust her to make her own judgement?

Because women don't do this?? Men are allowed to be insecure.

"

I’ve said men because the thread is about men

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"This is really eye opening how many men would be put off if the woman had met someone more attractive

There’s an element of insecurity about it. In my mind, I’d be thinking “why does she want me, when she’s had him…..he’s fuckin hot”

Is there an element of not believing the woman knows her own mind? Like, deciding she obviously doesnt want X because Y is better looking, is that not removing the choice from the woman because you don’t trust her to make her own judgement?

Because women don't do this?? Men are allowed to be insecure.

I’ve said men because the thread is about men "

Ah were slagging men off.

Gotcha.

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By *illy IdolMan
52 weeks ago

Midlands


"This is really eye opening how many men would be put off if the woman had met someone more attractive

There’s an element of insecurity about it. In my mind, I’d be thinking “why does she want me, when she’s had him…..he’s fuckin hot”

Is there an element of not believing the woman knows her own mind? Like, deciding she obviously doesnt want X because Y is better looking, is that not removing the choice from the woman because you don’t trust her to make her own judgement?

Because women don't do this?? Men are allowed to be insecure.

I’ve said men because the thread is about men "

Men are allowed to be insecure. We're human too

Chill ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"This is really eye opening how many men would be put off if the woman had met someone more attractive

There’s an element of insecurity about it. In my mind, I’d be thinking “why does she want me, when she’s had him…..he’s fuckin hot”

Is there an element of not believing the woman knows her own mind? Like, deciding she obviously doesnt want X because Y is better looking, is that not removing the choice from the woman because you don’t trust her to make her own judgement?

Because women don't do this?? Men are allowed to be insecure.

I’ve said men because the thread is about men

Ah were slagging men off.

Gotcha.

"

Er no, read the posts. No one slagged anyone off.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"This is really eye opening how many men would be put off if the woman had met someone more attractive

There’s an element of insecurity about it. In my mind, I’d be thinking “why does she want me, when she’s had him…..he’s fuckin hot”

Is there an element of not believing the woman knows her own mind? Like, deciding she obviously doesnt want X because Y is better looking, is that not removing the choice from the woman because you don’t trust her to make her own judgement?

Because women don't do this?? Men are allowed to be insecure.

I’ve said men because the thread is about men

Men are allowed to be insecure. We're human too

Chill ladies"

Ah the fan club. Again, no one said they’re not

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By *illy IdolMan
52 weeks ago

Midlands


"This is really eye opening how many men would be put off if the woman had met someone more attractive

There’s an element of insecurity about it. In my mind, I’d be thinking “why does she want me, when she’s had him…..he’s fuckin hot”

Is there an element of not believing the woman knows her own mind? Like, deciding she obviously doesnt want X because Y is better looking, is that not removing the choice from the woman because you don’t trust her to make her own judgement?

Because women don't do this?? Men are allowed to be insecure.

I’ve said men because the thread is about men

Men are allowed to be insecure. We're human too

Chill ladies

Ah the fan club. Again, no one said they’re not "

Chill Fluffy

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"This is really eye opening how many men would be put off if the woman had met someone more attractive

There’s an element of insecurity about it. In my mind, I’d be thinking “why does she want me, when she’s had him…..he’s fuckin hot”

Is there an element of not believing the woman knows her own mind? Like, deciding she obviously doesnt want X because Y is better looking, is that not removing the choice from the woman because you don’t trust her to make her own judgement?

Because women don't do this?? Men are allowed to be insecure.

I’ve said men because the thread is about men

Men are allowed to be insecure. We're human too

Chill ladies

Ah the fan club. Again, no one said they’re not "

The guy (sorry I didn't see who posted it) said he can feel insecure. If a woman had posted that everyone would agree. But a guy, then it's him not thinking a woman knows her own mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"This is really eye opening how many men would be put off if the woman had met someone more attractive

There’s an element of insecurity about it. In my mind, I’d be thinking “why does she want me, when she’s had him…..he’s fuckin hot”

Is there an element of not believing the woman knows her own mind? Like, deciding she obviously doesnt want X because Y is better looking, is that not removing the choice from the woman because you don’t trust her to make her own judgement?

Because women don't do this?? Men are allowed to be insecure.

I’ve said men because the thread is about men

Men are allowed to be insecure. We're human too

Chill ladies

Ah the fan club. Again, no one said they’re not "

You can chill, they all hate me really!

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By *estSussexGuy76Man
52 weeks ago

copthorne

Makes no difference to me with regards those sort of things.

As long as we have a great time together thats all I need to know

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"This is really eye opening how many men would be put off if the woman had met someone more attractive

There’s an element of insecurity about it. In my mind, I’d be thinking “why does she want me, when she’s had him…..he’s fuckin hot”

Is there an element of not believing the woman knows her own mind? Like, deciding she obviously doesnt want X because Y is better looking, is that not removing the choice from the woman because you don’t trust her to make her own judgement?

Because women don't do this?? Men are allowed to be insecure.

I’ve said men because the thread is about men

Men are allowed to be insecure. We're human too

Chill ladies

Ah the fan club. Again, no one said they’re not "

Let’s be honest, it’s not man bashing

But it is taking genuine insecurity many men face and turning it into a woman’s issue. As if men being affected by their mental health is an act of “removing the choice” for the woman.

You’re allowed to feel insecure guys.

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By *earded-OneMan
52 weeks ago

Woolwich

I just look at them to confirm the person is legit and that’s it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
52 weeks ago

Oh fucking hell.

Can we all play nice?

Just once?

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By *rightonsteveMan
52 weeks ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I don’t take much notice. I have some dreadful ones which put people off. Suits me, I like to meet people with a sense of humour who can see the funny side.

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By *andadbodMan
52 weeks ago

Liverpool

i don’t normally read verifications

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By *ruceyyMan
52 weeks ago

London


"Oh fucking hell.

Can we all play nice?

Just once?"

I agree, let's all play nice! Thank God there's nice people like you and me here to keep it all friendly eh!

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By *orthwhile27Man
52 weeks ago

dark side of the moon

Don't read veris, it's not TripAdvisor after all

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By *rispyDuckMan
52 weeks ago

Chinese Takeaway near you


"How much notice do take of a woman's verifications and the age of them?

I'm displaying one. And only one.

But it was put to me recently that the person in question couldn't work out if I was 'tricky' and had only slept with one person and hadn't been able to find anyone else. Or if I just hid them all. And a comment was made about the length of time that had elapsed since my verification.

So, guys, if a woman has a verification over a certain time frame, does it make you question her? and if she's only displaying one that is near the start of her fab profile creation does it put you off? Would you think she's involved still with that guy?

I'm curious.

"

I’m a skeptical person both on & off fab . I go through verifications more to get an idea of the person being verified’s personality. The impression they left on their last meet and if I think we compatible. I’m aware some people have hundreds of veris & only display 1 & some ask not to be verified so it gives illusion of few meets lol. In general I’m not too bothered with number of veris due to points above, what would put me off would be multiple different meet veris a week

I would think they not getting STD checked often as that takes about a week to come out

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By *inky ChefMan
52 weeks ago

Norwich


"How much notice do take of a woman's verifications and the age of them?

I'm displaying one. And only one.

But it was put to me recently that the person in question couldn't work out if I was 'tricky' and had only slept with one person and hadn't been able to find anyone else. Or if I just hid them all. And a comment was made about the length of time that had elapsed since my verification.

So, guys, if a woman has a verification over a certain time frame, does it make you question her? and if she's only displaying one that is near the start of her fab profile creation does it put you off? Would you think she's involved still with that guy?

I'm curious.

"

If someone have 300 verifications, then that's more likely put me off.

I don't judge them, but it's unlikely they want something semi regular.

Otherwise I don't care about age, height, boob size, gorgeous face or verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

I despise them.

You only supposed go.. Yes, they are like their profile. Instead I get pornographic details how their cock or vagina was corrupted.

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By *ansoffateMan
52 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Who reads into a nice verification and twists that into something negative? Talk about being bitter. Ooh she's only got one verification displayed... I must consult the runes to decipher this witchcraft.

Or maybe just ask politely at an appropriate juncture in the conversation and pay attention to her rationale?

Unless you are assuming everyone lies... Can't see how that would ever be a negative way to initiate human interaction.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"How much notice do take of a woman's verifications and the age of them?

I'm displaying one. And only one.

But it was put to me recently that the person in question couldn't work out if I was 'tricky' and had only slept with one person and hadn't been able to find anyone else. Or if I just hid them all. And a comment was made about the length of time that had elapsed since my verification.

So, guys, if a woman has a verification over a certain time frame, does it make you question her? and if she's only displaying one that is near the start of her fab profile creation does it put you off? Would you think she's involved still with that guy?

I'm curious.

"

I would say that one should never question a lady about how she runs her life if you are not the spouse of that lady.

If you post every verification then you’d have some saying you sleep with all of fab. Lol

Your private business is your private business and it is not for others to question or dictate.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"Who reads into a nice verification and twists that into something negative? Talk about being bitter. Ooh she's only got one verification displayed... I must consult the runes to decipher this witchcraft.

Or maybe just ask politely at an appropriate juncture in the conversation and pay attention to her rationale?

Unless you are assuming everyone lies... Can't see how that would ever be a negative way to initiate human interaction. "

Lol, love the ‘consult the runes’ but, was howling, made me think of Barbarians on Netflix

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"If a guy cared that much about a verification then he isn't a guy for me.

This goes for me too."

And me.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

I don't display any of mine, it's really noones business who I meet and what we do. I used to have a nice one from a social displayed but after a couple of messages along the lines of "[usernameofhotguyimet] WOW. I really don't stand a chance" I hid it.

As some other ladies have said I don't actually have a type like that and don't want to put someone off because one guy I met for a coffee happens to be ripped.

If a guy was funny with me about veris like that OP, he's not someone I would meet. What will he be telling you you're doing "wrong" next?

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By *r_PinkMan
52 weeks ago

london stratford


"How much notice do take of a woman's verifications and the age of them?

I'm displaying one. And only one.

But it was put to me recently that the person in question couldn't work out if I was 'tricky' and had only slept with one person and hadn't been able to find anyone else. Or if I just hid them all. And a comment was made about the length of time that had elapsed since my verification.

So, guys, if a woman has a verification over a certain time frame, does it make you question her? and if she's only displaying one that is near the start of her fab profile creation does it put you off? Would you think she's involved still with that guy?

I'm curious.

"

1st I ogle/perv the photos. Then I check if they meet single guys, smokers and what their interests are (in that order) age does not bother me if I fancy the person. Then I like to see a few verification which are meeting in person as opposed to web cams!

But that's just me

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"How much notice do take of a woman's verifications and the age of them?

I'm displaying one. And only one.

But it was put to me recently that the person in question couldn't work out if I was 'tricky' and had only slept with one person and hadn't been able to find anyone else. Or if I just hid them all. And a comment was made about the length of time that had elapsed since my verification.

So, guys, if a woman has a verification over a certain time frame, does it make you question her? and if she's only displaying one that is near the start of her fab profile creation does it put you off? Would you think she's involved still with that guy?

I'm curious.

"

Being honest I'd fire the same question right back at you, I've met two great women in the 5 months I've been on here and I am friends with both of them. Unfortunately, neither them or me were verified so we were unable to verify meet but the other day I spoke ro q lady on here who verified me by cam after our call and now getting more response so makes me think is it just the green badge lol

Me I do not give a flying f**k about verified or not I'm chuffed to get a response lol

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By *apnDomMan
52 weeks ago

London

Doubt any guy really pays attention to those veris, especially not value. I mean they wouldn't meet a woman because the veri is too old? lmao. Guys don't have hundreds of options everyday to pick from. Put 2 and 2 together

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By *he Dark SaintMan
52 weeks ago

hitchin

If a woman only has 1 veri from the near the beginning, it does raise question whether she is real or a time waster.

Nothing wrong about being reserved or presellecting carefully. On a site like this however, people like to move faster.

Cold approach on here is dead though and it's better to meet in clubs

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By *aturemanforfunMan
52 weeks ago

Leeds

It really doesn’t mean anything to me,

I don’t read them and don’t see the point in them.

Someone could have a hundred veri”s saying how amazing they are. But might of met another hundred that do not think the same.

I don’t trust people when they recommend food because we all have different tastes and likes. So I’m not going to take someone’s word on sex .

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"It really doesn’t mean anything to me,

I don’t read them and don’t see the point in them.

Someone could have a hundred veri”s saying how amazing they are. But might of met another hundred that do not think the same.

I don’t trust people when they recommend food because we all have different tastes and likes. So I’m not going to take someone’s word on sex .

"

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"Makes no difference to me with regards those sort of things.

As long as we have a great time together thats all I need to know "

I don't want to see any veris on profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"Makes no difference to me with regards those sort of things.

As long as we have a great time together thats all I need to know

I don't want to see any veris on profiles. "

Sorry.

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By *ris GrayMan
52 weeks ago

Dorchester

I don't look it puts me off, rather not know

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By *ustamanMan
52 weeks ago

weymouth

All it really means is they turned up and not a time waster - everything else is fluff

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"Makes no difference to me with regards those sort of things.

As long as we have a great time together thats all I need to know

I don't want to see any veris on profiles.

Sorry. "

I looked!

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

Depends if there's something interesting I like about them.

The quantity. The quality. The physique. The quality of a veri's veries. The veri that was or wasn't reciprocated. Any other standout profile features on their profile. Etc etc

I'll build up a mental mindmap of dodgy what-ifs if they're particularly promiscuous or veried by a veri who was veried by someone promiscuous.

Yeah, I don't really pay attention to any of that.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"Makes no difference to me with regards those sort of things.

As long as we have a great time together thats all I need to know

I don't want to see any veris on profiles.

Sorry.

I looked!

"

It’s not what people show or say. I’d worry about the stuff people don’t.

I prefer people who are open and truthful.

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By *apnDomMan
52 weeks ago

London

Actually, thinking about it, the only time I get suspicious is when women immediately have veris even if they're brand new on the site.

I know for a fact that women sometimes ask to get verified by you, and that some men also offer to verify you as a favour (if you got a female profile, at least it happened to two of my friends on here.)

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By *ora the explorerWoman
52 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts


"Actually, thinking about it, the only time I get suspicious is when women immediately have veris even if they're brand new on the site.

I know for a fact that women sometimes ask to get verified by you, and that some men also offer to verify you as a favour (if you got a female profile, at least it happened to two of my friends on here.)"

To be fair. If someones left and they come back then people may verify them. I’ve got about 10 in the space of one week on mine. But they were all from when I was previously on here

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

Veris mean nothing. I’ve seen someone this morning with multiple veris. If people knew the truth about they person they’d run a mile (especially on here). So I don’t put much trust in them as telling me anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"Veris mean nothing. I’ve seen someone this morning with multiple veris. If people knew the truth about they person they’d run a mile (especially on here). So I don’t put much trust in them as telling me anything. "

Hence I hide mine.

I could have 1 social veri from 1993 but also have had 7 bareback gangbangs this week off Fab. No veris.

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By *ruceyyMan
52 weeks ago

London


"Veris mean nothing. I’ve seen someone this morning with multiple veris. If people knew the truth about they person they’d run a mile (especially on here). So I don’t put much trust in them as telling me anything.

Hence I hide mine.

I could have 1 social veri from 1993 but also have had 7 bareback gangbangs this week off Fab. No veris. "

Well that would be putting Craig David to shame

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"Veris mean nothing. I’ve seen someone this morning with multiple veris. If people knew the truth about they person they’d run a mile (especially on here). So I don’t put much trust in them as telling me anything.

Hence I hide mine.

I could have 1 social veri from 1993 but also have had 7 bareback gangbangs this week off Fab. No veris.

Well that would be putting Craig David to shame "

Shagged him.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"Veris mean nothing. I’ve seen someone this morning with multiple veris. If people knew the truth about they person they’d run a mile (especially on here). So I don’t put much trust in them as telling me anything.

Hence I hide mine.

I could have 1 social veri from 1993 but also have had 7 bareback gangbangs this week off Fab. No veris. "

Seems to be single M who place the most emphasis on getting verified.

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By *ruceyyMan
52 weeks ago

London


"Veris mean nothing. I’ve seen someone this morning with multiple veris. If people knew the truth about they person they’d run a mile (especially on here). So I don’t put much trust in them as telling me anything.

Hence I hide mine.

I could have 1 social veri from 1993 but also have had 7 bareback gangbangs this week off Fab. No veris.

Well that would be putting Craig David to shame

Shagged him. "

Atta girl

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By *heelerMan
52 weeks ago

Northants

I do read them but dont bother me unless they are meeting someone different most days.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

I do look at them as part of the information gathering process for making a decision.

If it's someone I've been chatting with then they are likely to play a smaller part in the process.

If it's someone I've had no contact with then yes it's necessary but mostly to decide if I want to even engage and how seriously to take them.

A profile with a veri from a long time ago might lead me to believe the person isn't meeting and I'd have to decide if they are interesting enough to just have as a chat friend only.

I've never really thought this much about it but a lot goes into the process now that I do think about it.

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By *ea monkeyMan
52 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

If I’m interested in someone and their last verification is from three years ago, then I’m going to wonder how frequently she meets, if ever. If it’s been that long, then what is the likelihood of actually getting face to face

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
52 weeks ago

So if I had kept my single profile that I had before my two year relationship and then opened it up again after we split.....I'd have been written off by some men as they would have made the assumption I wasn't meeting or assumed I don't meet. Yet in that time I was sexually active and going to clubs with the partner I had.

Interesting isn't it.

So much weight on veris. And I bloody hate them.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


".....

Interesting isn't it.

So much weight on veris. And I bloody hate them."

We all judge, wether we want to or not. We all judge. (.even your hatred to veris)

Keep doing what you do op, you’ll be alright.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"So if I had kept my single profile that I had before my two year relationship and then opened it up again after we split.....I'd have been written off by some men as they would have made the assumption I wasn't meeting or assumed I don't meet. Yet in that time I was sexually active and going to clubs with the partner I had.

Interesting isn't it.

So much weight on veris. And I bloody hate them."

Well hopefully not all the weight would have been on your veris.

Profile write up etc would all count.

Choosing to display a veri from 2 years ago is communicating something. Just have to decide if it's doing what you want it to do.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
52 weeks ago

Somewhere else


"Veris mean nothing. I’ve seen someone this morning with multiple veris. If people knew the truth about they person they’d run a mile (especially on here). So I don’t put much trust in them as telling me anything.

Hence I hide mine.

I could have 1 social veri from 1993 but also have had 7 bareback gangbangs this week off Fab. No veris. "

Oh! That’s what I did. Just this week alone.

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By *atsandwichCouple
52 weeks ago

Hove

I’m really new here but I do look at them. If someone has a number of them I know they are who they say they are and are probably reliable and won’t waste my time. From the content I can tell how rough or dominant they may be and I can make a decision safety-wise whether I feel comfortable to meet solo - might not want to meet someone where a veri mentions bareback or cnc. Lastly I do check who they’ve been sleeping with - and I judge you accordingly! I don’t want to sleep with someone who doesn’t have standards

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By *hiversMan
52 weeks ago

Dinas Powys


"

I really don’t care about a girls verifications. The only thing I’ll take from it is “she meets, so is maybe more reliable than someone without any”.

"

This 100%. Beyond that it's a bit irrelevant as far as I'm concerned

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By *arker secrets 321Man
52 weeks ago

West Bromwich

Maybe ur a private person and u don't want people knowing how many or who uv met ...my verifications are old from wen I ad couples account. 4 me it's more 2 show ur real then who or how many iv met x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
52 weeks ago


"

I really don’t care about a girls verifications. The only thing I’ll take from it is “she meets, so is maybe more reliable than someone without any”.

This 100%. Beyond that it's a bit irrelevant as far as I'm concerned "

At what point would you assume she doesn't meet? If her last veri is over 6 months old would that be considered too long and she's not meeting? 3 months?

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By *hiversMan
52 weeks ago

Dinas Powys


"

I really don’t care about a girls verifications. The only thing I’ll take from it is “she meets, so is maybe more reliable than someone without any”.

This 100%. Beyond that it's a bit irrelevant as far as I'm concerned

At what point would you assume she doesn't meet? If her last veri is over 6 months old would that be considered too long and she's not meeting? 3 months? "

No time limit really... anyone who has been on here for any length of time will likely have taken a break from it at some point. I certainly go through phases when I'm less active here and just hide my account. Between that, repeat meetings and people deleting their accounts it's not unusual to have sizeable gaps between verifications.

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
52 weeks ago

Maidstone


"

I really don’t care about a girls verifications. The only thing I’ll take from it is “she meets, so is maybe more reliable than someone without any”.

This 100%. Beyond that it's a bit irrelevant as far as I'm concerned

At what point would you assume she doesn't meet? If her last veri is over 6 months old would that be considered too long and she's not meeting? 3 months? "

Why would anyone assume that a person isn't meeting just because they don't have recent verifications? Anybody who's overthinking things this much isn't for me and I'd be glad they were put off!

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By *inkyguyUKMan
52 weeks ago

worcester

What are veris and age? I just look at the pictures

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By *otsossieMan
52 weeks ago

local, but not too local


"Well that would be putting Craig David to shame

Shagged him. "

Did he wet the bed?

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"Veris mean nothing. I’ve seen someone this morning with multiple veris. If people knew the truth about they person they’d run a mile (especially on here). So I don’t put much trust in them as telling me anything.

Hence I hide mine.

I could have 1 social veri from 1993 but also have had 7 bareback gangbangs this week off Fab. No veris.

Oh! That’s what I did. Just this week alone."

*fist bump*

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"Well that would be putting Craig David to shame

Shagged him.

Did he wet the bed?"

He squirted.

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By *otsossieMan
52 weeks ago

local, but not too local

Pure filth, that one.

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By *ir SnakebitesMan
52 weeks ago

Llandeilo


"Personally the only thing I use a woman’s verifications for are seeing the type of guys she’d met in the past and if I could hold a candle to them

Pulled out of a few meets after checking the verifications and realising I couldn’t keep up "

I can see the logic in this,to a point. Where as Veri's can be a goid tool to confirm a person it can also be a duble edge sword and have the opposite effect, its a shame. My self personaly im of the mind as a lot of the guys here. If she talking to you then she must have liked what she read or saw sontheres no point comparing yourself to her other veris, just go with the flow and enjoy the connections and interactions, not everything works out how you wNt but dont let that stop youbfrom shooting your shot with anyone super model or no,

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By *apnDomMan
52 weeks ago

London


"Veris mean nothing. I’ve seen someone this morning with multiple veris. If people knew the truth about they person they’d run a mile (especially on here). So I don’t put much trust in them as telling me anything.

Hence I hide mine.

I could have 1 social veri from 1993 but also have had 7 bareback gangbangs this week off Fab. No veris.

Seems to be single M who place the most emphasis on getting verified. "

Yeah, mostly because some women won't even talk to you unless you are verified. It's quite common, too

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