FabSwingers.com forum: If you found out…

By *aith Skynbyrd OP Woman
52 weeks ago

Somewhere else

That a partner was spending time with someone you really didn’t like.

Would it change anything for you? Would you still be as attracted to them?

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By *heelz69Man
52 weeks ago

Manchester

It would depend on what they were doing

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

I would just explain the situation and ask that they see them without me having to be there lol

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP Woman
52 weeks ago

Somewhere else

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

"That a partner was spending time with someone you really didn’t like.

Would it change anything for you? Would you still be as attracted to them?"

I'd need more information to make an informed decision

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By *ora the explorerWoman
52 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
52 weeks ago

little house on the praire

I'd be ok as long as I didn't have to be there

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP Woman
52 weeks ago

Somewhere else

It’s someone who you believe brings out the absolute worst in your partner.

I’m disappointed, to say the least.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

As long as it was platonic I wouldn't have an issue.

I think if they were fucking and I couldn't stand that person then I would find that difficult.

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP Woman
52 weeks ago

Somewhere else

"As long as it was platonic I wouldn't have an issue.

I think if they were fucking and I couldn't stand that person then I would find that difficult. "

It’s not platonic

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

"As long as it was platonic I wouldn't have an issue.

I think if they were fucking and I couldn't stand that person then I would find that difficult. "

Agree with this one

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
52 weeks ago

all loved up

"It’s someone who you believe brings out the absolute worst in your partner.

I’m disappointed, to say the least. "
I am a partner not a prison guard... my partner or any other person in my life is entitled to see whom ever they please. Just as I don't like someone, doesn't mean they aren't a valid part of their life

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By *ora the explorerWoman
52 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"As long as it was platonic I wouldn't have an issue.

I think if they were fucking and I couldn't stand that person then I would find that difficult. "

This. I’d end it. And I have before

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP Woman
52 weeks ago

Somewhere else

We’re all adults here and I’m not going to tell anyone else what to do. I just have a really bad taste in my mouth now and will probably not see him again.

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By *ne HalfMan
52 weeks ago

central

"That a partner was spending time with someone you really didn’t like.

Would it change anything for you? Would you still be as attracted to them?"

Are they doing anything physical ?

And it wouldn't change how attracted I would be , would be a turn on if you got told details and invited

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

While it wouldn’t be my place to dictate who they see or associate with, it IS my place to maintain my boundaries for myself. If I really don’t want person x connected to my life in any way, and a partner doesn’t respect that, it’s finished.

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP Woman
52 weeks ago

Somewhere else

"As long as it was platonic I wouldn't have an issue.

I think if they were fucking and I couldn't stand that person then I would find that difficult.

This. I’d end it. And I have before "

Pretty sure this is what will happen.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
52 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

It shows a little lack of respect for your wishes if they knew you massively disliked that person.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
52 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"As long as it was platonic I wouldn't have an issue.

I think if they were fucking and I couldn't stand that person then I would find that difficult.

This. I’d end it. And I have before

Pretty sure this is what will happen.

I didn’t say why. It’s not up to me what other people do but it’s up to me what I do x

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

If its a sexual partner, then it's none of my business. If its an actual partner, it's still none of my business but I'd step in if I thought they were truly toxic to their life.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

"It’s someone who you believe brings out the absolute worst in your partner.

I’m disappointed, to say the least. "

That sounds tough. Hugs.

If they don't have the sense to see that, there isn't much you can do. They can just exercise their freedom and find out for themselves what life means without you perhaps. If they care, they will find ways to make it work without dismissing your feelings. X

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
52 weeks ago

Leeds

I'd need more info - if I found out means they deliberately didn't tell me then yeah purely for keeping something from me, but if they were open about it probably wouldn't bother me.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

"It’s someone who you believe brings out the absolute worst in your partner.

I’m disappointed, to say the least. "

If it was a platonic friendship then I’d voice my concerns if I thought that person wasn’t bringing out the best in them.

But ultimately it’s up to them on wether the continue that friendship or not. If it was causing problems for us and they failed to recognise that, I’d walk away.

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP Woman
52 weeks ago

Somewhere else

"It’s someone who you believe brings out the absolute worst in your partner.

I’m disappointed, to say the least.

That sounds tough. Hugs.

Thank you. This is good advice x

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
52 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

It’s the sort of thing that could just kill my attraction to someone. Their taste and judgement would be part of why I fancied them in the first place. If I was suddenly disappointed in that …

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

There's varying degrees, right? Most people have a friend that's a dick and it'd be mildly annoying having to tolerate the dick's company, however if they were aligned with Combat 18 I'd probably drop them out.

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By *heelz69Man
52 weeks ago

Manchester

Maybe try talking about it and just say you're not a big fan of them, and you might have to call it a day, but you understand that you can't tell them what to do and after all it's their choice

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By *omblingFreeCouple
52 weeks ago

The Village

It depends really on what it was I don't like about them. If it was something nebulous like their political views or general outlook, then I'd try to move past it. But if it was something profound selfishness, mis-treating others, harming animals or generally going through life hurting and upsetting other people without giving a damn, then being friends (or more) would reflect rather poorly on my partner, in my eyes. That my he could dismiss that kind of behaviour for his own gratification would lower my opinion of my partner.

Mrs W

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By *rispyDuckMan
52 weeks ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

"That a partner was spending time with someone you really didn’t like.

Would it change anything for you? Would you still be as attracted to them?"

Would depend who the other person I didn’t like was! For example if it’s her Ex or someone who has a crush on her or vice versa

then it’s goodbye haha

If it’s her annoying friend she’s known for years for example, then it’s fine long as they hangout away from my house

. We not all always gonna get along with all our partners family & friends & it’s ok

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By *trueceltMan
52 weeks ago

Bristol

I would try to be tolerate, enlightened- all the good stuff. But I would probably fail because my partner's tastes would reflect their character, and by extension mine. You seem a pretty special kind of person, OP. Remind your partner how very very lucky they are!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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52 weeks ago

East Sussex

I spend time with someone Mr N doesn't like. As long as I don't insist he comes with me to meet her he's fine with it

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

Depends what you mean by 'partner'

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By *antra MassageMan
52 weeks ago

South Side.

"That a partner was spending time with someone you really didn’t like.

Would it change anything for you? Would you still be as attracted to them?"

I'd be annoyed we hadn't had a good conversation about it first. A partner is free to do as she wishes, but if I was worried for her, or had to live with the consequences of their friendship, like bad mood, irritibality, etc, I'd object.

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
52 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania

"That a partner was spending time with someone you really didn’t like.

Would it change anything for you? Would you still be as attracted to them?"

Yes.

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
52 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania

"That a partner was spending time with someone you really didn’t like.

Would it change anything for you? Would you still be as attracted to them?

Yes.

But proper communication is necessary to sort out any issues arising.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
52 weeks ago

Reading

Is noone off my business so they see. I might be curious as to what they see in them. The only exception would be if they had been abusive towards me. Then i may have more trouble not caring.

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP Woman
52 weeks ago

Somewhere else

"It depends really on what it was I don't like about them. If it was something nebulous like their political views or general outlook, then I'd try to move past it. But if it was something profound selfishness, mis-treating others, harming animals or generally going through life hurting and upsetting other people without giving a damn, then being friends (or more) would reflect rather poorly on my partner, in my eyes. That my he could dismiss that kind of behaviour for his own gratification would lower my opinion of my partner.

Mrs W"

Yeah. It’s the latter. And that’s what’s upsetting for me.

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP Woman
52 weeks ago

Somewhere else

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By *mateur100Man
52 weeks ago

nr faversham

If they knew I didn't like the person I'd want to know why

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

"As long as it was platonic I wouldn't have an issue.

I think if they were fucking and I couldn't stand that person then I would find that difficult.

It’s not platonic

Oh then I would find that very difficult and could potentially be a boundary for me. I don't like to dictate to people who they can spend time with but if they're someone that you hate that's kind of shitty.

I guess it would depend on the history between the two women. If they hate each other etc.

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP Woman
52 weeks ago

Somewhere else

Mrs W

Yeah. It’s the latter. And that’s what’s upsetting for me."

Someone going though life harming people and not giving a damn. Or worse, possibly enjoying themselves.

I feel that choosing to be friendly with a person like that reflects poorly on their judgement and also their own character.

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By *ddie1966Man
52 weeks ago

Paper Town Central, Essex.

"As long as it was platonic I wouldn't have an issue.

I think if they were fucking and I couldn't stand that person then I would find that difficult.

It’s not platonic

I can't tell you what to do, but if it was me (for my own sanity) our relationship would be ended.

It can't be good for your health or mental state.

I feel for you...

Sending you virtual hugs.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
52 weeks ago

little house on the praire

If its affecting you say then dump them and find someone else

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By *hrista BellendWoman
52 weeks ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

No, it wouldn't bother me, I trust his judgement and he is his own person, if I received any drama from it them, I would have a conversation with him.

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By *hortishblondeWoman
52 weeks ago

Essex

"If its affecting you say then dump them and find someone else"

I say the same

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

"While it wouldn’t be my place to dictate who they see or associate with, it IS my place to maintain my boundaries for myself. If I really don’t want person x connected to my life in any way, and a partner doesn’t respect that, it’s finished. "

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