FabSwingers.com forum: straight males

By *omersetsmithy OP Man
over a year ago

Horfield

Why look at Men and have a block on men messaging you. I have one look every 2 weeks . I want to ask him why are you looking

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

It's their profile and they can look if they want too.

If you don't like it, block the profile

I struggle to understand why people keep viewing profiles but there bio etc don't match they or you want.

Also the same with people viewing there blocked list

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Block him, then he can't look

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"Why look at Men and have a block on men messaging you. I have one look every 2 weeks . I want to ask him why are you looking "

Perhaps he doesn't want to get lots of messages from men but might message some himself at times. Perhaps something you posted in Forum or a meet request caught his eye and he wanted to see if anything on your profile of interest. Perhaps he is jealous and keeping tabs on your to see if you get any action

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I struggle to understand why people keep viewing profiles but there bio etc don't match they or you want.

I look at profiles when someone has made a comment in the Forum that amuses me or that I want to respond to in the Forum. I also look if they have an interesting/funny/cryptic status update.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I struggle to understand why people keep viewing profiles but there bio etc don't match they or you want.

I look at profiles when someone has made a comment in the Forum that amuses me or that I want to respond to in the Forum. I also look if they have an interesting/funny/cryptic status update."

Sometimes by the time I have started to type my comment I have completely forgotten what I read on their profile so I go back - it's an age thing, I should be in a home really.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"It's their profile and they can look if they want too.

I immediately read that to the tune of "It's my party and I'll cry if I want to"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why look at Men and have a block on men messaging you. I have one look every 2 weeks . I want to ask him why are you looking "

He may have a Christmas jumper fetish?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having a nosey, you can always block him

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

Just block all men? I mean, the tools are there to do so rather than a forum post.

Or is that too much common sense for 10:30 on a Wednesday morning?

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By *aissez-faireMan
over a year ago

Right behind you…. Boo

I sometimes look at a persons bio if they say something in the forums. It’s generally because I’m being judgemental and I want to affirm my scathing opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why look at Men and have a block on men messaging you. I have one look every 2 weeks . I want to ask him why are you looking

He may have a Christmas jumper fetish?"

You made me look! Now if I go back in a few weeks time I will be the person this thread refers to.

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

I sometimes have a look at men, to help figure out the type of guy a particular woman has previously met (from her veris). It doesn’t mean I’m interested in him.

But of course that doesn’t explain why he might be looking at you regularly.

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By *trueceltMan
over a year ago

Brynamman

Perhaps your soft stalker is building up to it, OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I sometimes look at a persons bio if they say something in the forums. It’s generally because I’m being judgemental and I want to affirm my scathing opinion

That seems fair - I shall adopt the same approach.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why look at Men and have a block on men messaging you. I have one look every 2 weeks . I want to ask him why are you looking

He may have a Christmas jumper fetish?

You made me look! Now if I go back in a few weeks time I will be the person this thread refers to.

Plead the fetish amendment!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I sometimes look at a persons bio if they say something in the forums. It’s generally because I’m being judgemental and I want to affirm my scathing opinion

And sir, if I may say, a perfectly reasonable approach.

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By *he Silver FuxMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

I look at men’s profiles because I’m looking at there / her veri history, seeing what type of guys they/ she like to meet

But not in your case, just wanted to see your jumper

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By *omersetsmithy OP Man
over a year ago

Horfield

"Just block all men? I mean, the tools are there to do so rather than a forum post.

Or is that too much common sense for 10:30 on a Wednesday morning? "

Thought Forum was for debating

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By *omersetsmithy OP Man
over a year ago

Horfield

Thanks for the comments. My Christmas jumpers are doing me proud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just block all men? I mean, the tools are there to do so rather than a forum post.

Or is that too much common sense for 10:30 on a Wednesday morning?

Thought Forum was for debating "

I have always assumed the Forum was there for my entertainment - don't think I have ever debated (argued maybe, but then I tend only to pay for the five minute argument).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes straight guys or profiles that don't match show up on who's close search your always going to have a look could be the nextdoor neighbour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just block all men? I mean, the tools are there to do so rather than a forum post.

Or is that too much common sense for 10:30 on a Wednesday morning?

Thought Forum was for debating "

Very true Smithy but the topic of the debate is whimsical at best and banal at worst.

The general consensus of the post is block the mystery fabster and be done!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably just penis envy

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"Just block all men? I mean, the tools are there to do so rather than a forum post.

Or is that too much common sense for 10:30 on a Wednesday morning? "

You can’t block all men from viewing your profile.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I'm straight.

I have all men blocked from messaging but I'll look at the odd male profile now and again if I don't recognise them on the forums or they say something I don't agree with and I need context before responding.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just block all men? I mean, the tools are there to do so rather than a forum post.

Or is that too much common sense for 10:30 on a Wednesday morning?

Thought Forum was for debating

I have always assumed the Forum was there for my entertainment - don't think I have ever debated (argued maybe, but then I tend only to pay for the five minute argument).

Phooey

Seeing your faster than the human eye I suggest the 45 minute argument on whether Fab wives are goers?

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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago

Blackpool, Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield

Occasionally I'll look who someone is after I've read a forum comment and before I reply, in case it helps me answer better. The last two single male profiles I viewed though were just accidental taps on their names while scrolling a forum page. Nothing more, nothing less. Sometimes, there is no big other reason behind something, no matter how much we might like to overthink it and find one...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just block all men? I mean, the tools are there to do so rather than a forum post.

Or is that too much common sense for 10:30 on a Wednesday morning? "

Harsh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just block all men? I mean, the tools are there to do so rather than a forum post.

Or is that too much common sense for 10:30 on a Wednesday morning?

Harsh

Firm but fair I’d say!

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

Depends if they look and show interest in us , it’s on our profile that me husband who is mainly on site . Yes I will look at guys that check our profile , I know what sort of guys my wife goes for and can shortlist the ones I think she will like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just block all men? I mean, the tools are there to do so rather than a forum post.

Or is that too much common sense for 10:30 on a Wednesday morning?

Harsh

Firm but fair I’d say!"

I’d say more condescending

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Just block all men? I mean, the tools are there to do so rather than a forum post.

Or is that too much common sense for 10:30 on a Wednesday morning?

You can’t block all men from viewing your profile. "

No you can't but they won't show on who's looked at you

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By *omblingFreeCouple
over a year ago

The Village

Sort of the same thing going on with us but different....I know Mrs W enjoys browsing profiles that don't match our preferences, or anything we've talked abou together....Tv/Ts, bisexual men, MM couples...I know because I've been tasked with managing our inbox and occasionally I have to answer messages from people saying, 'I noticed you'd read my profile' or, 'thanks for the Fab'. I haven't mentioned anything to her because it's personal, she's entitled to her curiosity - if that's all it is - and I respect her privacy...even if she is a bit rubbish at it lol So, it's not just men who do this kind of thing, OP. It's all part of the joy of having access to a human zoo like this

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

"It's their profile and they can look if they want too.

I immediately read that to the tune of "It's my party and I'll cry if I want to"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just block all men? I mean, the tools are there to do so rather than a forum post.

Or is that too much common sense for 10:30 on a Wednesday morning?

Harsh

Firm but fair I’d say!

I’d say more condescending "

Condescending ........fab? Never!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sort of the same thing going on with us but different....I know Mrs W enjoys browsing profiles that don't match our preferences, or anything we've talked abou together....Tv/Ts, bisexual men, MM couples...I know because I've been tasked with managing our inbox and occasionally I have to answer messages from people saying, 'I noticed you'd read my profile' or, 'thanks for the Fab'. I haven't mentioned anything to her because it's personal, she's entitled to her curiosity - if that's all it is - and I respect her privacy...even if she is a bit rubbish at it lol So, it's not just men who do this kind of thing, OP. It's all part of the joy of having access to a human zoo like this

She know now?

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Why look at Men and have a block on men messaging you. I have one look every 2 weeks . I want to ask him why are you looking "
pressed on your name by mistake, saw a comment you made in forums wanted to read profile etc etc

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

He's probably a Rovers fan and keeping a close eye on the competition

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thought Forum was for debating

I have always assumed the Forum was there for my entertainment - don't think I have ever debated (argued maybe, but then I tend only to pay for the five minute argument).

Phooey

Seeing your faster than the human eye I suggest the 45 minute argument on whether Fab wives are goers?"

They never offered 45 minutes in the Monty Python sketch, only five minutes or half an hour.

Now i have not seen the 'Fab wives are goers' argument, but I suppose the question is are you sure that it is an argument with a connected series of statements intended to establish a proposition or purely contradiction being just the automatic gainsaying of anything the other person says?

The second question is will Rosemary, the adorable police precinct telephone operator being in the room (if you can overlook her whiney, squeaky voice, then she is an adorable catch!)

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By *omblingFreeCouple
over a year ago

The Village

She know now?"

lol Mrs w uses the forum but I don't think she's aware the green arrow shows past comments. but hey, if she discovered I know things about her Fab browsing then it will hopefully remind her I'm chill and respect her right to be curious about whatever she wants

.... and that I'm an incorrigible gossip!

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By *unner6969Man
over a year ago

Bicester

"Why look at Men and have a block on men messaging you. I have one look every 2 weeks . I want to ask him why are you looking "

Sometimes it can be interesting to see the verifications left by someone you are interested in, sometimes it is useful to look at the competition and see what they are doing differently.

But usually if I look, I then block - no interest in any male-male interaction.

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By *alientecoupleCouple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

One word, curiosity. I look at profiles that I’m not sexually attracted to just because I’m curious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why look at Men and have a block on men messaging you. I have one look every 2 weeks . I want to ask him why are you looking "

But did they send you a message? I look at loads of people in the day in real life, I don’t even bother saying yellow to some.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thought Forum was for debating

I have always assumed the Forum was there for my entertainment - don't think I have ever debated (argued maybe, but then I tend only to pay for the five minute argument).

Phooey

Seeing your faster than the human eye I suggest the 45 minute argument on whether Fab wives are goers?

They never offered 45 minutes in the Monty Python sketch, only five minutes or half an hour.

The second question is will Rosemary, the adorable police precinct telephone operator being in the room (if you can overlook her whiney, squeaky voice, then she is an adorable catch!)"

The python sketch on a nod and a wink and is your wife a goer is etched in the annals of comedy gold. As for the establishment of statements to merely contradictory stance is a theme most forum contributors play out?

Surely?

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By *inkyguyUKMan
over a year ago

worcester

"Just block all men? I mean, the tools are there to do so rather than a forum post.

Or is that too much common sense for 10:30 on a Wednesday morning?

Thought Forum was for debating "
no it's for masterdebating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll look at a guys profile if

A) He's posted kn the forum and I'm checking, confirming, any reason really

B) I'm checking someone's veris to see the type of guy she's interested in.

I have guys blocked so I can't see if they look at mine and I don't care tbh.

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By *ayHaychMan
over a year ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)

Don’t know a guy is straight until you read their profile. Many guys are fab-straight even when they have “not looking for single guys” in their profile. Get plenty of messages from profiles like that.

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By *inkyguyUKMan
over a year ago

worcester

It's weird I can see guys profiles that have blocked men. So the block only blocks them from messaging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why look at Men and have a block on men messaging you. I have one look every 2 weeks . I want to ask him why are you looking "

They just want to wank.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With the amount of newer profiles asking how they can improve their profile, the advice always includes

Have a look at other same sex profiles, so maybe men look at yours OP the same as others for inspiration

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