FabSwingers.com forum: Feeling empty

By *ong-leggedblond OP Woman
over a year ago

Next Door

On the back of another post about being happy.

I am feeling empty inside.

I'm not happy or sad. I'm not feeling many emotions. I don't want to cry or scream or laugh. I've mot wanted to talk about it until today, and I don't want friends/family to have the worry of this burden on them.

Working but doing what's needed and not pushing myself to find more (which is very unlike me).

I'm pleased to hear about others having good times and happy for them, I'm not envious of them.

I thought a few months/weeks ago I was in a good place over all in life. Nothing since then has changed except for those empty feeling.

Anyone else ever felt like this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been there. It was depression.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On the back of another post about being happy.

I am feeling empty inside.

Working but doing what's needed and not pushing myself to find more (which is very unlike me).

I'm pleased to hear about others having good times and happy for them, I'm not envious of them.

I thought a few months/weeks ago I was in a good place over all in life. Nothing since then has changed except for those empty feeling.

Anyone else ever felt like this? "

Absolutely I have, it was exactly as you have described really.

Not depressed, happy, sad etc just empty. It gradually passed I think it's really normal to go through phases, I think sometimes it is assumed you just swing from happy to sad with some other random emotions inbetween but that isn't the case.

I think what is important to remember is that people will have been there like yourself and that your not alone in that feeling or lack of feeling should I say.

If it carrys on for long periods of time then maybe it would be helpful to look more into it but I think as long as it's not going on for months then I wouldn't worry too much.

Easier said than done though.

I hope your mood becomes more colourful as time goes on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Might be worth an appointment with your GP.. Hope you get sorted xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On the back of another post about being happy.

I am feeling empty inside.

Working but doing what's needed and not pushing myself to find more (which is very unlike me).

I'm pleased to hear about others having good times and happy for them, I'm not envious of them.

I thought a few months/weeks ago I was in a good place over all in life. Nothing since then has changed except for those empty feeling.

Anyone else ever felt like this? "

Depersonalisation.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

That empty feeling feels a lot easier than actually feeling. There are times when I've retreated into it without noticing for a long time.

When you're ready, maybe take some time to work out what you actually want to be doing and where you're going. But go easy on yourself. And there's no shame in reaching out for a little help on understanding or moving forward.

Be well OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve experienced it in the past; it was exhaustion in my case. I took a month away to do what I wanted to. That helped me.

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By *ong-leggedblond OP Woman
over a year ago

Next Door

Invisible and lonely are 2 words that someone has advised.

I do feel lonely, I work from home and no offices close by. Cut out a few friends a few yrs ago due to them draining me. Now I've only a very close friend group.

Invisible, to my friends and family. And work often.

Not sure if you experienced also

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By *ong-leggedblond OP Woman
over a year ago

Next Door

Thank you to those who have posted,

I do appreciate the posts.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

I wholeheartedly feel that and I support you OP, and everyone who feels the same.

It might be worthy to research “anhedonia”, to understand the cause and find some way of understanding what and why you’re feeling like that.

Inbox is open, as always xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think emptiness can happen to us all at times and you should never compare how you feel to others.

In the words of the great Judge Judy “we have 2 ears and 1 mouth for a reason, to listen twice as much as we speak”

Too many people try and tell you it will be alright or what you need to do.

You do you

Realising you feel this way is half or more of the battle. Sorting it. Not so easy

Social media for me is a killer and I no longer have it. Seeing others having a great time when I can feel not so great can eat at me

Do you, and remember those that are surrounded by people or display signs of fulfilment can sometimes be lonely and empty as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was like this for much of last year, like Edward Norton’s Character at the beginning of Fight Club but without the insomnia.

Talk therapy and a long and honest conversation with my boss at work helped me through it

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By *hromosexualsCouple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon

It sometimes feels a bit like all the flavour has been sucked out of life. For me it doesn't usually last long, and for that I'm thankful

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I have been there OP. For me it was a mixture of burnout leading onto a bit of depression. Life wasn’t hard - it was just a bit meh.

Getting into exercise and getting the blood flowing through the muscles helped as did making it a regular habit. I also pushed myself out of my comfort zone by getting into life modelling - not suggesting you do that but a shock to the system helped me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wholeheartedly feel that and I support you OP, and everyone who feels the same.

It might be worthy to research “anhedonia”, to understand the cause and find some way of understanding what and why you’re feeling like that.

Inbox is open, as always xx"

Damn, anhedonia... I'll try and remember that going on!

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By *icolasHidalgoDeCorazonMan
over a year ago

St Leonards

"On the back of another post about being happy.

I am feeling empty inside.

Working but doing what's needed and not pushing myself to find more (which is very unlike me).

I'm pleased to hear about others having good times and happy for them, I'm not envious of them.

I thought a few months/weeks ago I was in a good place over all in life. Nothing since then has changed except for those empty feeling.

Anyone else ever felt like this? "

It may help to look at your mind/emotions (including numbness) as being as seasonally affected as, for example, a tree shedding leaves.

We're in the biggest lack of light period of the year, that light is thin and weak, and this season "reeks" of emptiness, much more than it reeks of high drama/ups/downs etc.

It's an "empty" time of year.

If it starts becoming more traumatic, definitely time to seek a therapist/GP in case there are bigger issues underlying it.

Of course, you could just suck my dick, because this is FAB and a dick-sucking kinda place, but you're probably "not in the room" enough for said dick-sucking to be a memorable highlight for either of us.

But the offer's there if nothing else works, 'coz I only have your best interests at heart.

Honest x

(PS - My cum is full of happy unicorns, well-known for driving feelings of emptiness away. And they sing "Walking On Sunshine". A lot. Gets bloody annoying tbh...)

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

"On the back of another post about being happy.

I am feeling empty inside.

Working but doing what's needed and not pushing myself to find more (which is very unlike me).

I'm pleased to hear about others having good times and happy for them, I'm not envious of them.

I thought a few months/weeks ago I was in a good place over all in life. Nothing since then has changed except for those empty feeling.

Anyone else ever felt like this? "

Kinda the same for me, not actually sure what makes me happy.

Your username is great btw.

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By *olf and RedCouple
over a year ago

Nr Cardiff or at Chams Darlaston

It may help to look at your mind/emotions (including numbness) as being as seasonally affected as, for example, a tree shedding leaves.

We're in the biggest lack of light period of the year, that light is thin and weak, and this season "reeks" of emptiness, much more than it reeks of high drama/ups/downs etc.

It's an "empty" time of year."

^ I think this is very true, it’s a change in seasons and a flat month in many ways.

OP in respect of working from home, are you able to mix that up. Sit and work in a coffee shop or book a space in a cafe with lunch. Just to get out amongst other people.

Do you have online facilities within your company to talk to others about how you’re feeling? We have mental health first aiders who will just listen, if that’s what you need at that time.

Red

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