FabSwingers.com forum: Demands/demanding/entitled

By *ora the explorer OP Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I see a lot of threads/comments about this. What do you all define as demanding or entitled? If someone specifies exactly what they’re looking for, isn’t that a good thing? Why is it demanding? We are all here for what we want. There are so many reasons why I will or won’t meet people, I don’t tend to list them but if someone does list them why is it demanding?

Just interested in your thoughts

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

You have nice legs

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By *ora the explorer OP Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"You have nice legs"

I demand you get your head between them

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

It's entitled and demanding when they're not what we want but they want us. It's just preferences if they fit.

That's the rule right?

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"You have nice legs

I demand you get your head between them "

Tomorrow good?

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By *ora the explorer OP Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"It's entitled and demanding when they're not what we want but they want us. It's just preferences if they fit.

That's the rule right?"

Yes this is what seems to be the case!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn’t it usually something thrown out when those demands exclude someone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No wanting what you want isn't demanding for me.

I think it is more how they ask for something that I can have the most issue with.

If they presume that I'm going 5o do something that immediately pisses me off haha. I can find that some people just come off as entitled really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a great question and topic

I think it’s also about lambasting a whole “group” of people based upon others within that group

All males are…

All couples are…

Etc etc

I think if we read other peoples profiles we may be quite shocked…

Get me something on my Amazon list

Buy me site membership

And as I said yesterday someone wanted £100 off me for a sofa, oh and someone had lost £20 could I help them

But it’s also about “if you don’t have a face pic I will block you” when they have none

As someone said yesterday just don’t “feed” them

I won’t put anything on my profile I would not say to someone’s face

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I'm entitled and demanding because I'm not interested in their weiner. That's all I know

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By *ora the explorer OP Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"This is a great question and topic

I think it’s also about lambasting a whole “group” of people based upon others within that group

All males are…

All couples are…

Etc etc

I think if we read other peoples profiles we may be quite shocked…

Get me something on my Amazon list

Buy me site membership

And as I said yesterday someone wanted £100 off me for a sofa, oh and someone had lost £20 could I help them

But it’s also about “if you don’t have a face pic I will block you” when they have none

As someone said yesterday just don’t “feed” them

I won’t put anything on my profile I would not say to someone’s face "

Ah yes I understand that. The money thing etc. I suppose men get that more often than women .

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By *ora the explorer OP Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I'm entitled and demanding because I'm not interested in their weiner. That's all I know

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By *ora the explorer OP Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Isn’t it usually something thrown out when those demands exclude someone?"

This is what I’m thinking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Isn’t it usually something thrown out when those demands exclude someone?

This is what I’m thinking "

I mean like you’re so entitled! So demanding.

Not liking beards ffs!

I used to like you until I knew that.

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By *ora the explorer OP Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Isn’t it usually something thrown out when those demands exclude someone?

This is what I’m thinking

I mean like you’re so entitled! So demanding.

Not liking beards ffs!

I used to like you until I knew that.

. I wish I did!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s the nature of FAB I guess. People can be more demanding on here than they could be on say Tinder because they hold more advantages. Just the way it is I guess

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By *ora the explorer OP Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"It’s the nature of FAB I guess. People can be more demanding on here than they could be on say Tinder because they hold more advantages. Just the way it is I guess"
I’ve never been on any of those sites. Is it not as bad then?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think demanding is when people ask potential meets to jump through certain hoops. For example 'make your first message interesting' how on earth anyone is supposed to know what interests someone they've never met I don't know.

I don't think sharing preferences is demanding or entitled but I do think that not giving consideration to anyone else's and just expecting them to fit with yours is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awful but for different reasons. But a more level playing field in terms of male/female ratio. If a person listed on tinder that a someone had to be tall/good looking/massive cock/etc etc they’d get fuck all, especially if they were bang average themselves

"It’s the nature of FAB I guess. People can be more demanding on here than they could be on say Tinder because they hold more advantages. Just the way it is I guess I’ve never been on any of those sites. Is it not as bad then?"

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By *ora the explorer OP Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I think demanding is when people ask potential meets to jump through certain hoops. For example 'make your first message interesting' how on earth anyone is supposed to know what interests someone they've never met I don't know.

I don't think sharing preferences is demanding or entitled but I do think that not giving consideration to anyone else's and just expecting them to fit with yours is"

True. I respond to just a hi sometimes. I always look at the pics and profile first before I open a message so unless it’s very sexual I’ll answer.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

If it's listed on a profile it's a preference.

If it's listed in an opening message it's entitled or demanding.

Some examples of demands I have received....

Lose the beard or you won't fuck my wife.

You're too old and too straight to be any good to anyone here so agree to play bi and bring a sexy lady and we might consider adding you to our to-do list.

Your profile is a load of bs. We know it's only for show.Book an hotel room and you might get to play with us tomorrow.

They may be preferences to them but not in that context especially when they are the ones contacting me.

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By *ora the explorer OP Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"If it's listed on a profile it's a preference.

If it's listed in an opening message it's entitled or demanding.

Some examples of demands I have received....

Lose the beard or you won't fuck my wife.

You're too old and too straight to be any good to anyone here so agree to play bi and bring a sexy lady and we might consider adding you to our to-do list.

Your profile is a load of bs. We know it's only for show.Book an hotel room and you might get to play with us tomorrow.

They may be preferences to them but not in that context especially when they are the ones contacting me. "

Oh wow! Those messages are terrible! That is demanding. I wonder if men get more demanding messages than women. I’ve never had anything like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it's listed on a profile it's a preference.

If it's listed in an opening message it's entitled or demanding.

Some examples of demands I have received....

Lose the beard or you won't fuck my wife.

You're too old and too straight to be any good to anyone here so agree to play bi and bring a sexy lady and we might consider adding you to our to-do list.

Your profile is a load of bs. We know it's only for show.Book an hotel room and you might get to play with us tomorrow.

They may be preferences to them but not in that context especially when they are the ones contacting me. "

They are not preferences that's just awful. I do find that couples seem to be more what I would call demanding than single guys in my experience.

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"Isn’t it usually something thrown out when those demands exclude someone?

This is what I’m thinking

I mean like you’re so entitled! So demanding.

Not liking beards ffs!

I used to like you until I knew that.

. I wish I did! "

Wait...Nora we're going to have to compromise a little here

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By *ora the explorer OP Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"If it's listed on a profile it's a preference.

If it's listed in an opening message it's entitled or demanding.

Some examples of demands I have received....

Lose the beard or you won't fuck my wife.

You're too old and too straight to be any good to anyone here so agree to play bi and bring a sexy lady and we might consider adding you to our to-do list.

Your profile is a load of bs. We know it's only for show.Book an hotel room and you might get to play with us tomorrow.

They may be preferences to them but not in that context especially when they are the ones contacting me.

They are not preferences that's just awful. I do find that couples seem to be more what I would call demanding than single guys in my experience. "

Ah I have couples blocked. Maybe that’s why I haven’t had any like that.

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By *ora the explorer OP Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Isn’t it usually something thrown out when those demands exclude someone?

This is what I’m thinking

I mean like you’re so entitled! So demanding.

Not liking beards ffs!

I used to like you until I knew that.

. I wish I did!

Wait...Nora we're going to have to compromise a little here"

How long is it

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By *ora the explorer OP Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Isn’t it usually something thrown out when those demands exclude someone?

This is what I’m thinking

I mean like you’re so entitled! So demanding.

Not liking beards ffs!

I used to like you until I knew that.

. I wish I did!

Wait...Nora we're going to have to compromise a little here

How long is it "

The beard I mean

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"Isn’t it usually something thrown out when those demands exclude someone?

This is what I’m thinking

I mean like you’re so entitled! So demanding.

Not liking beards ffs!

I used to like you until I knew that.

. I wish I did!

Wait...Nora we're going to have to compromise a little here

How long is it "

3-4mm

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By *ora the explorer OP Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Isn’t it usually something thrown out when those demands exclude someone?

This is what I’m thinking

I mean like you’re so entitled! So demanding.

Not liking beards ffs!

I used to like you until I knew that.

. I wish I did!

Wait...Nora we're going to have to compromise a little here

How long is it

3-4mm"

This is definitely the beard right?

I can cope with that. I just can’t do bushy long ones

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"They are not preferences that's just awful. I do find that couples seem to be more what I would call demanding than single guys in my experience. "

All of the worst messages in my inbox come from couples.

Which is impressive given some of the shit I get from single men

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"Isn’t it usually something thrown out when those demands exclude someone?

This is what I’m thinking

I mean like you’re so entitled! So demanding.

Not liking beards ffs!

I used to like you until I knew that.

. I wish I did!

Wait...Nora we're going to have to compromise a little here

How long is it

3-4mm

This is definitely the beard right?

I can cope with that. I just can’t do bushy long ones "

You never did get round to measuring it

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

If they don't say "please".

Or ask nicely.

It's the difference between asking someone or telling someone.

For example, I prefer clean shaven faces, but I don't demand anyone to shave if they want to meet me. That's up to them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They are not preferences that's just awful. I do find that couples seem to be more what I would call demanding than single guys in my experience.

All of the worst messages in my inbox come from couples.

Which is impressive given some of the shit I get from single men

Haha exactly I have the same issue. It just comes off as so demanding and that I am merely there as an extra tongue so he can watch me get his wife off.

Erm no thanks .

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By *ora the explorer OP Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Isn’t it usually something thrown out when those demands exclude someone?

This is what I’m thinking

I mean like you’re so entitled! So demanding.

Not liking beards ffs!

I used to like you until I knew that.

. I wish I did!

Wait...Nora we're going to have to compromise a little here

How long is it

3-4mm

This is definitely the beard right?

I can cope with that. I just can’t do bushy long ones

You never did get round to measuring it"

Oh yeah! I forgot about that

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By *inkygentkentMan
over a year ago

Maidstone

I don't think sharing preferences is demanding or entitled but I do think that not giving consideration to anyone else's and just expecting them to fit with yours is"

Yes - the "make your first message interesting" makes the first message tricky. I just tell them my unusual kinks - a bit like throwing in a hand grenade

But I'd never demand someone do anything - at the most it is a request to consider it.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"If it's listed on a profile it's a preference.

If it's listed in an opening message it's entitled or demanding.

Some examples of demands I have received....

Lose the beard or you won't fuck my wife.

You're too old and too straight to be any good to anyone here so agree to play bi and bring a sexy lady and we might consider adding you to our to-do list.

Your profile is a load of bs. We know it's only for show.Book an hotel room and you might get to play with us tomorrow.

They may be preferences to them but not in that context especially when they are the ones contacting me.

Oh wow! Those messages are terrible! That is demanding. I wonder if men get more demanding messages than women. I’ve never had anything like that. "

The funny thing is though when I ask these profiles who are all extremely well verified with 80-100 verifications if this approach has ever worked for them before, invariably they say yes, every time.

I've refused every offer like that and in some cases the response to my refusal has been even more entitled.

I've been told a number of times that I'm an idiot for turning them down, asked if I didn't know who they were and their standing in the community and told they could end my fab journey with just a few messages.

Women probably receive a greater number of nasty messages but I would say that men get a lot more demanding or hoop jumping ones.

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By *ora the explorer OP Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"If it's listed on a profile it's a preference.

If it's listed in an opening message it's entitled or demanding.

Some examples of demands I have received....

Lose the beard or you won't fuck my wife.

You're too old and too straight to be any good to anyone here so agree to play bi and bring a sexy lady and we might consider adding you to our to-do list.

Your profile is a load of bs. We know it's only for show.Book an hotel room and you might get to play with us tomorrow.

They may be preferences to them but not in that context especially when they are the ones contacting me.

Oh wow! Those messages are terrible! That is demanding. I wonder if men get more demanding messages than women. I’ve never had anything like that.

I've refused every offer like that and in some cases the response to my refusal has been even more entitled.

Women probably receive a greater number of nasty messages but I would say that men get a lot more demanding or hoop jumping ones. "

Wow. Can’t believe what some people are like. Even more that people will fall for it! That’s proper entitled. Do you not know who I am? Haha. Wtf

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We specifically set up our profile without any demands or hoops for people to jump through.

But I can see why FAB shapes you to put certain things in at times

Some are completely outlandish but if anything profiles are set up to try and attract like for like so they are a great filter before you’ve even started a conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it's listed on a profile it's a preference.

If it's listed in an opening message it's entitled or demanding.

Some examples of demands I have received....

Lose the beard or you won't fuck my wife.

You're too old and too straight to be any good to anyone here so agree to play bi and bring a sexy lady and we might consider adding you to our to-do list.

Your profile is a load of bs. We know it's only for show.Book an hotel room and you might get to play with us tomorrow.

They may be preferences to them but not in that context especially when they are the ones contacting me.

They are not preferences that's just awful. I do find that couples seem to be more what I would call demanding than single guys in my experience.

Ah I have couples blocked. Maybe that’s why I haven’t had any like that. "

Ha maybe so.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Entitled to what sex i guess some would say thats what we are here for but the thing is if you don't approach people with sex in mind surely you're never viewed as entitled

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By *ORBCouple
over a year ago

Dundalk

Jumping swiftly across from my comments above to our couples profile here we have worded our bio in a way that may but some people off but that's the idea behind it.

It's said in a humourous way to ward off one line messages or meet now approaches.

On both our single profiles we don't meet anyone without chatting for a while and getting to know people and that principle applies to this profile also.

We don't ask anyone to be anything other than themselves and to have the ability to hold a normal conversation that doesn't involve sexting.

Those are our preferences and in our opinion are only demanding to those who don't read and attempt to force their interpretation of our preferences upon us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It all depends on who they are to me

If my niece asks me for something, I’m gonna have a much different opinion than if a strangers asked me for the same thing

Same on here, when a woman/couple with a very low effort profile, low effort pics and low effort replies expects high effort from me, that’s demanding/entitled

We should all be interested in putting our best forward. Offering less then you are requesting is entitlement because it says “I think I’m inherently worth more then you, which is why I get to make the demands”

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

I think there’s a big difference between peoples preferences and people making demands.

We we’re talking to a couple once and they had a long list of things they wanted including on our way to meet them stopping off at a shop and buying them some alcohol and food we are not deliveroo and we are here for fun we have no issues with grabbing stuff for friends on way to theirs but definitely not random people I just think that’s cheeky..

We do find couples can be more hard work with their demands .

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I suppose we are demanding because we insist on a face pic being attached to the first message. Guys tend to be a bit more considered in their approach when they have put a face to their words - as such we've never had any abuse or rude messages, and very rarely receive cock pics. So I would encourage everyone to be as demanding as necessary in order to obtain the fab experience they desire. K.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see it as demanding or entitled when the person is complaining that they can’t have what they want.

Sure everyone can seek out who they wish. That doesn’t mean that those who they desire have to feel the same way in return

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