FabSwingers.com forum: Demands

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Where do you draw the line on demands or requests that people make on here:

Send me a face pic or you’ll be blocked - but they have none

Send me code for membership

I had one ask me for money for a sofa as they were a hundred pounds short if I wanted to continue talking to them

I also had one recently telling me that I was not allowed to talk to anyone else as we were talking, we had not even met

How much more tolerant are we thinking it may get us a meet? Is it because people feel they can get away with it

For me everything is mutual. I treat people with respect and hope for the same back, hope not demand

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Firstly if anyone asks for money or gifts report them.

We don't accede to unreasonable demands and don't issue them. We're really not important enough

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I've never received a demand for anything.

Actually, there was this one time when, after exchanging ³ messages, she pressured me for my phone number. I told her "no thank you". I'm a slow burn...

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Simply don't do anything you don't want to.

If you aren't happy with someones request, simply move on. Why tolerate something you don't have to?

MrsAbz

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Demands? Nah. I don’t respond well to them.

Unless I know someone and it’s part of the fun. That’s different.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Someone asked for money for a sofa?! Wtf

Folk are weird.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a profile makes demands I think unreasonable I hit the back button and move on

Not been asked for money

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I believe that people not only think they can get away with it but they also mostly feel there is nothing wrong with it. Heh.

You might as well pay for someone's trains and hotels to come and see you or meet others, but they can still spend that money to go elsewhere or simply carry on with their life. Just don't expect anything. Otherwise it would be more like an es*cort service/website right? Best to assume that they owe you nothing but thank you for your naivety/kindness.

It's a shocking world out there full of transactional 'friendships'.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

You don't have to meet anyone's demands. That's completely your choice.

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"Someone asked for money for a sofa?! Wtf

Folk are weird. "

You should see my new sofa though

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

In seven years I've never once been asked for money or favours.

In regards to demands on profiles I just don't engage with them at all.

If you are continually getting demands from those you are chatting to maybe it's time you reviewed how you vet those you interact with.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Someone asked for money for a sofa?! Wtf

Folk are weird.

You should see my new sofa though

i don’t think I’m that good that I’d be worth a new sofa!

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We aren’t here to jump through hoops.

The only request we ask is that if a couple message and there’s only pics of Mrs on the profile, that they send a couple of Mr.

Seems reasonable if they are both wanting to play but some times seems that we’ve asked for their bank details

Everything on here is a filtering tool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are continually getting demands from those you are chatting to maybe it's time you reviewed how you vet those you interact with.

This. You don't need many friends/fwb. You just need a few loyal ones.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

It's up to you if you let them get away with it. Just skip the profiles with to high demands

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields

Literally no tolerance at all, no 2nd chances etc.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

If you are continually getting demands from those you are chatting to maybe it's time you reviewed how you vet those you interact with.

This. You don't need many friends/fwb. You just need a few loyal ones.

That's very demanding of you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are continually getting demands from those you are chatting to maybe it's time you reviewed how you vet those you interact with.

This. You don't need many friends/fwb. You just need a few loyal ones.

That's very demanding of you

Haha I meant - do not clutch at all the straws

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Firstly if anyone asks for money or gifts report them.

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I used to do this. There’s far too much of it now, it’s impossible. it would be a full time job for a guy..

Joking aside, it’s ridiculous, I’ve had it at least three times since I’ve been back. I draw the line at this op.

Alf lots of others you mentioned in your opening post. The hypocrisy is high amongst a lot of profiles in here.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Firstly if anyone asks for money or gifts report them.

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I used to do this. There’s far too much of it now, it’s impossible. it would be a full time job for a guy..

Joking aside, it’s ridiculous, I’ve had it at least three times since I’ve been back. I draw the line at this op.

Alf lots of others you mentioned in your opening post. The hypocrisy is high amongst a lot of profiles in here. "

Is this because I asked for a tenner to wank you off behind Aldi?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What does one have to do, or be to get some of these demands? I’ve never had any so I’m getting big FOMO.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They only ask because some people will pay it.

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

Money for a sofa lol that's original.

I see people asking for site support on status all the time.

Gotta ask yourself how gullible people are to pay thinking they will get something out of it

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
over a year ago

Around the Midlands

It's crazy that people would ask you to pay for their sofa because they were short. What a cheek!

We've seen a lot of the site supporter pass status updates which we find odd as well.

We treat people how we would want to be treated.

Like others have said, block and move on. You've probably dodged a bullet OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi OP, yes I've heard that before....women expecting men not to chat to anyone else if they are chatting & going berserk if they do....that's bunny boiler sh*t....

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

If you are stupid enough to be worried about those kinds of demands then it screams desperate... Why are you bothered... Stop messaging and move on

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"Yes, I believe that people not only think they can get away with it but they also mostly feel there is nothing wrong with it. Heh.

It's a shocking world out there full of transactional 'friendships'.

T. "

It seems to me that’s what a lot of site users think this is.

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By *ravelling_WilburyMan
over a year ago

Beverley

Demands on here can get stuffed. Never come across it as far as I can recall

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"Firstly if anyone asks for money or gifts report them.

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I used to do this. There’s far too much of it now, it’s impossible. it would be a full time job for a guy..

Joking aside, it’s ridiculous, I’ve had it at least three times since I’ve been back. I draw the line at this op.

Alf lots of others you mentioned in your opening post. The hypocrisy is high amongst a lot of profiles in here.

Is this because I asked for a tenner to wank you off behind Aldi?"

*howls with laughter*

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

Seriously though. NO ONE should be asking for money.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

I have no capacity for demands. I'm not very good with authority. Requests I can consider. Requests for pics from some people will be gladly met. Beyond that... i don't think anyone has ever requested anything else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve not received any demands. Now I feel like there’s some shadowy underworld of fab im not privy too and the whole thing is making me ambivalent in a way only a dfs sofa sake usually can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Firstly if anyone asks for money or gifts report them.

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I used to do this. There’s far too much of it now, it’s impossible. it would be a full time job for a guy..

Joking aside, it’s ridiculous, I’ve had it at least three times since I’ve been back. I draw the line at this op.

Alf lots of others you mentioned in your opening post. The hypocrisy is high amongst a lot of profiles in here.

Is this because I asked for a tenner to wank you off behind Aldi?"

Oh!!! Ffs, I thought you said behind Alfie!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need to be more demanding

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

Surely you know what to do. Block and report if warrants it or just block and move on.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen

"Someone asked for money for a sofa?! Wtf

Folk are weird. "

Especially when there is enough money down the back of a sofa to pay for a new one. Plus lids, the odd Malteser and other necessary things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like a new phone.

Will exchange for boobs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't demand anything and I wouldn't tolerate people being demanding.

They can ask for what they want and vice versa but demands absolutely not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couples tend to be the more demanding I've found.

It's better than the threats and abuse from men though ..meh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I need to be more demanding "

Hahaha. Hahaha

……

Hahaha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone asked for money for a sofa?! Wtf

Folk are weird.

Especially when there is enough money down the back of a sofa to pay for a new one. Plus lids, the odd Malteser and other necessary things."

I'd love some chocolate right now! Brb

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not been asked for money but I am a tad demand on face pics. But I can't agree to sex with someone without seeing their face so I'm screwed really aren't I, or not as the case may be.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Someone asked for money for a sofa?! Wtf

Folk are weird. "
well i think its quite reasonable they would have had to ask their guest to sit on the floor otherwise

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By *tanley FunseekerMan
over a year ago

stanley

"Demands? Nah. I don’t respond well to them.

Unless I know someone and it’s part of the fun. That’s different. "

Coffee , milk and one sugar, serve wearing nothing but a smile.

Have I cracked this “dom” malarkey then? Lol

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I don't deal with demands at all.

A polite request I might consider, but fuck anyone who thinks I have to jump through hoops for them. Or, more precisely, don't

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By *asques and boxersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford and dept16

"We aren’t here to jump through hoops.

The only request we ask is that if a couple message and there’s only pics of Mrs on the profile, that they send a couple of Mr.

Seems reasonable if they are both wanting to play but some times seems that we’ve asked for their bank details

Everything on here is a filtering tool

exactly this if they seem wrong they probably are.

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