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"Why are you not allowed to name and shame time wasters as maybe if we could it make poeple think" You can report them to admin | |||
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"You can report them via the site, no idea what is done with that report tho. I guess a few might see us as trolls me wasters, but it clearly says on our profile we aren’t playing atm, but still people pursue and push for more than chat and inevitably get no where and stop talking to As a couple it's probably even harder but I sure we should be able to do itus" | |||
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"Because most people think not replying makes you a timewaster.. so it wouldn't be fair to name and shame those who don't respond to a only a message. It should only be for those who ghost and don't turn up for a meet who should be classified a timewaster " Yer we have multiple unsolicited friend requests we haven’t responded to or accepted, but we assume they just want to see friends only pics (which are virtually the same as our public ones without blurred faces). | |||
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"What do you class as a time waster? " Someone who agreed to meet you time and venue. then doesn't turn up and doesn't tell you they've changed their mind etc... | |||
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"What do you class as a time waster? Someone who agreed to meet you time and venue. then doesn't turn up and doesn't tell you they've changed their mind etc..." That’s what our definition of a time waster would be, time & place discussed and agreed on, then they pull out. Though we have gone to a couples house to play, over an hours drive, also we drank which kept us from leaving, but the couple had a domestic that when right into early morning so we quietly went to bed, the husband then came into bedroom at 3am to try and start play with Mrs (I was asleep) creepy af | |||
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"What do you class as a time waster? Someone who agreed to meet you time and venue. then doesn't turn up and doesn't tell you they've changed their mind etc... That’s what our definition of a time waster would be, time & place discussed and agreed on, then they pull out. Though we have gone to a couples house to play, over an hours drive, also we drank which kept us from leaving, but the couple had a domestic that when right into early morning so we quietly went to bed, the husband then came into bedroom at 3am to try and start play with Mrs (I was asleep) creepy af " You can report them to admin. Keep your messages Incase they block you then you can report via the messges in your inbox. Not the sent messages though | |||
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"What do you class as a time waster? Someone who agreed to meet you time and venue. then doesn't turn up and doesn't tell you they've changed their mind etc... That’s what our definition of a time waster would be, time & place discussed and agreed on, then they pull out. Though we have gone to a couples house to play, over an hours drive, also we drank which kept us from leaving, but the couple had a domestic that when right into early morning so we quietly went to bed, the husband then came into bedroom at 3am to try and start play with Mrs (I was asleep) creepy af You can report them to admin. Keep your messages Incase they block you then you can report via the messges in your inbox. Not the sent messages though" We just blocked them and warned off friends in the lifestyle, pretty sure they didn’t plan to have a d*unken argument for several hours, but know when you can see things turning and you think, ffs  | |||
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"Night started great, girls showered together to prepare to go out and the guy was just running her down behind her back to me , I should’ve pulled the plug there and then " I was just ghosted and left sitting in a café. | |||
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"We getting away from why we can post them name n shame " Sozz.. it's something that can be abused maliciously I think | |||
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"Night started great, girls showered together to prepare to go out and the guy was just running her down behind her back to me , I should’ve pulled the plug there and then I was just ghosted and left sitting in a café. " That sucks, but wouldn’t take it personally | |||
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"Think you two better start having a private conversation as it's nothing about the question I asked why we not allowed to name n shame " Could keep the messages and when negative reporting keep the evidence for admin to decide. You seem annoyed. Have you been ghosted or stood up? Sorry your having a shit time if so. | |||
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"We getting away from why we can post them name n shame Sozz.. it's something that can be abused maliciously I think" Absolutely. I’ve been called a time waster. I laughed my ass off. (Never let anyone down!!) Also, one persons time waster is another persons flakey, and anothers “they’re allowed to change their mind!’  | |||
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"We getting away from why we can post them name n shame Sozz.. it's something that can be abused maliciously I think Absolutely. I’ve been called a time waster. I laughed my ass off. (Never let anyone down!!) Also, one persons time waster is another persons flakey, and anothers “they’re allowed to change their mind!’ "If they change their minds then fair enough but would be nice to tell you so your not sitting around | |||
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"You can report them via the site, no idea what is done with that report tho. I guess a few might see us as trolls me wasters, but it clearly says on our profile we aren’t playing atm, but still people pursue and push for more than chat and inevitably get no where and stop talking to us " If you delete everything off your Looking For list it takes you off the searches.  | |||
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"Why are you not allowed to name and shame time wasters as maybe if we could it make poeple think" Anyone could say you arranged a meet with them but you didn't turn up. | |||
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"We getting away from why we can post them name n shame Sozz.. it's something that can be abused maliciously I think Absolutely. I’ve been called a time waster. I laughed my ass off. (Never let anyone down!!) Also, one persons time waster is another persons flakey, and anothers “they’re allowed to change their mind!’
If they change their minds then fair enough but would be nice to tell you so your not sitting around
Haha. You’d think any self respecting person would. But this website promotes, no reply is an answer/polite no etc.
And people are so far up their own ass, they think ghosting is okay. I am with the op, it’s a shitty thing to happen.
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"Why are you not allowed to name and shame time wasters as maybe if we could it make poeple think Anyone could say you arranged a meet with them but you didn't turn up. " Outsider left me waiting by the Clement Attlee statue in the pouring rain and blocked me when I asked her ETA. | |||
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"Mrs has been stood up by women a lot, she’s plays with girls while I’m at sea. Tries to play with girls I should say " Hello, sailor. | |||
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"Why are you not allowed to name and shame time wasters as maybe if we could it make poeple think Anyone could say you arranged a meet with them but you didn't turn up. Outsider left me waiting by the Clement Attlee statue in the pouring rain and blocked me when I asked her ETA."  | |||
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"Mrs has been stood up by women a lot, she’s plays with girls while I’m at sea. Tries to play with girls I should say " If she's getting stood up we are all fooked | |||
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"Mrs has been stood up by women a lot, she’s plays with girls while I’m at sea. Tries to play with girls I should say " He likely finished his wank.  | |||
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"Why are you not allowed to name and shame time wasters as maybe if we could it make poeple think Anyone could say you arranged a meet with them but you didn't turn up. Outsider left me waiting by the Clement Attlee statue in the pouring rain and blocked me when I asked her ETA." You didn't put a smiley face to indicate that you were taking the proverbial. Now people will believe you (or you'll be put on the naughty step for naming and shaming). Either way you are a bad person  | |||
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"Why are you not allowed to name and shame time wasters as maybe if we could it make poeple think Anyone could say you arranged a meet with them but you didn't turn up. Outsider left me waiting by the Clement Attlee statue in the pouring rain and blocked me when I asked her ETA. You didn't put a smiley face to indicate that you were taking the proverbial. Now people will believe you (or you'll be put on the naughty step for naming and shaming). Either way you are a bad person "Well, I do apologise, Outsider didn't actually leave me waiting in the rain. I feel bad that it has made me a bad person, though.  | |||
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"Why are you not allowed to name and shame time wasters as maybe if we could it make poeple think Anyone could say you arranged a meet with them but you didn't turn up. Outsider left me waiting by the Clement Attlee statue in the pouring rain and blocked me when I asked her ETA. You didn't put a smiley face to indicate that you were taking the proverbial. Now people will believe you (or you'll be put on the naughty step for naming and shaming). Either way you are a bad person
Well, I do apologise, Outsider didn't actually leave me waiting in the rain. I feel bad that it has made me a bad person, though. "I knew it was a lie cos you mentioned rain and this is Brexit Britain, with nothing but sunny uplands.  | |||
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"Why are you not allowed to name and shame time wasters as maybe if we could it make poeple think Anyone could say you arranged a meet with them but you didn't turn up. Outsider left me waiting by the Clement Attlee statue in the pouring rain and blocked me when I asked her ETA. You didn't put a smiley face to indicate that you were taking the proverbial. Now people will believe you (or you'll be put on the naughty step for naming and shaming). Either way you are a bad person
Well, I do apologise, Outsider didn't actually leave me waiting in the rain. I feel bad that it has made me a bad person, though.
I knew it was a lie cos you mentioned rain and this is Brexit Britain, with nothing but sunny uplands. "Do you think the moderators will see through my lies and grant me clemency? | |||
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"Why are you not allowed to name and shame time wasters as maybe if we could it make poeple think" The problem is, that anyone can "Claim" anything about anyone. There is no way to verify anything that people say is true. Cal | |||
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"Why are you not allowed to name and shame time wasters as maybe if we could it make poeple think" Because it would be open to abuse and very unfair that is why. One person's idea of time wasting will differ vastly from another. Also if you get to a meet and feel unsafe, it's quite okay to bail on that meet. Members of Fab are not providing paid services. You already have the option to report a no show to admin. | |||
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"Why are you not allowed to name and shame time wasters as maybe if we could it make poeple think The problem is, that anyone can "Claim" anything about anyone. There is no way to verify anything that people say is true. Cal" You haven't even considered asking for a face picture before the statement was made, and another after to compare the size of the nose. | |||
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"Why are you not allowed to name and shame time wasters as maybe if we could it make poeple think Anyone could say you arranged a meet with them but you didn't turn up. Outsider left me waiting by the Clement Attlee statue in the pouring rain and blocked me when I asked her ETA. You didn't put a smiley face to indicate that you were taking the proverbial. Now people will believe you (or you'll be put on the naughty step for naming and shaming). Either way you are a bad person
Well, I do apologise, Outsider didn't actually leave me waiting in the rain. I feel bad that it has made me a bad person, though.
I knew it was a lie cos you mentioned rain and this is Brexit Britain, with nothing but sunny uplands.
Do you think the moderators will see through my lies and grant me clemency?"No, I think you will be placed on the naughty step for a very long time and may never be allowed back in to the Forum. Not only did you suggest that Outsider was a time waster (which we all know cannot be true as her profile tells us she is fabulous), but you also said she failed to meet you at the Clement Atlee statue, and quite clearly she did not stand you up, but rather was still on the long march from the NW to Mile End, so was running a tad late. Finally, to paint our glorious country in a negative light, casting aspirations by saying it was raining, clearly showed how dark your heart is, that you should stoop so low as to suggest that not all is right with the world after 13 years of Tory government is the kind of thing that will get you on the first flight to Rwanda in 2024. It does not rain in England, that is a foreign slander. | |||
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"Why are you not allowed to name and shame time wasters as maybe if we could it make poeple think Because it would be open to abuse and very unfair that is why. One person's idea of time wasting will differ vastly from another. Also if you get to a meet and feel unsafe, it's quite okay to bail on that meet. Members of Fab are not providing paid services. You already have the option to report a no show to admin. "  | |||
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"Why are you not allowed to name and shame time wasters as maybe if we could it make poeple think Anyone could say you arranged a meet with them but you didn't turn up. Outsider left me waiting by the Clement Attlee statue in the pouring rain and blocked me when I asked her ETA. You didn't put a smiley face to indicate that you were taking the proverbial. Now people will believe you (or you'll be put on the naughty step for naming and shaming). Either way you are a bad person
Well, I do apologise, Outsider didn't actually leave me waiting in the rain. I feel bad that it has made me a bad person, though.
I knew it was a lie cos you mentioned rain and this is Brexit Britain, with nothing but sunny uplands.
Do you think the moderators will see through my lies and grant me clemency?
No, I think you will be placed on the naughty step for a very long time and may never be allowed back in to the Forum.
Not only did you suggest that Outsider was a time waster (which we all know cannot be true as her profile tells us she is fabulous), but you also said she failed to meet you at the Clement Atlee statue, and quite clearly she did not stand you up, but rather was still on the long march from the NW to Mile End, so was running a tad late.
Finally, to paint our glorious country in a negative light, casting aspirations by saying it was raining, clearly showed how dark your heart is, that you should stoop so low as to suggest that not all is right with the world after 13 years of Tory government is the kind of thing that will get you on the first flight to Rwanda in 2024. It does not rain in England, that is a foreign slander."It appears I've truly fucked it for myself and there's no sign of redemption in my future. | |||
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" It appears I've truly fucked it for myself and there's no sign of redemption in my future." I sense there may be a hint of irony in that comment and that you have not truly reflected on the harm that you have done to the impeccable reputation of Outsider. You have besmirched her. There is no redemption for you. (BTW, have I veered slightly off topic?) | |||
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" It appears I've truly fucked it for myself and there's no sign of redemption in my future. I sense there may be a hint of irony in that comment and that you have not truly reflected on the harm that you have done to the impeccable reputation of Outsider. You have besmirched her. There is no redemption for you. (BTW, have I veered slightly off topic?)" I forgive you both. | |||
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" It appears I've truly fucked it for myself and there's no sign of redemption in my future. I sense there may be a hint of irony in that comment and that you have not truly reflected on the harm that you have done to the impeccable reputation of Outsider. You have besmirched her. There is no redemption for you. (BTW, have I veered slightly off topic?)" Dunno, maybe I really did need to be put in my place. | |||
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" It appears I've truly fucked it for myself and there's no sign of redemption in my future. I sense there may be a hint of irony in that comment and that you have not truly reflected on the harm that you have done to the impeccable reputation of Outsider. You have besmirched her. There is no redemption for you. (BTW, have I veered slightly off topic?) Dunno, maybe I really did need to be put in my place." Where's that? Atop the Clement Atlee statue? | |||
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" It appears I've truly fucked it for myself and there's no sign of redemption in my future. I sense there may be a hint of irony in that comment and that you have not truly reflected on the harm that you have done to the impeccable reputation of Outsider. You have besmirched her. There is no redemption for you. (BTW, have I veered slightly off topic?) I forgive you both. "FAO moderators. | |||
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"We named and shamed an abusive person and had the ability to update our status taken away ? Numerous messages to the Fab admins have been ignorwd. "  | |||
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"A time wasters is a person who arranges a meeting agree a time exchange numbers and a time message before meet then blocked no reason why but asked to accepted friends invite still chatting then ask how long when said set out the see the moving away that not fake had the wank time to move on yes you can report it all depends if they block the IP address " You exchange numbers..but do you actually speak to them or just message..?..I find saying we need to chat first is a really good way of filtering the wasters out..they tend to very quickly disappear.. | |||
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"Why are you not allowed to name and shame time wasters as maybe if we could it make poeple think" Because what some consider time wasting is usually people changing their mind which is absolutely fine. People would name everyone and anyone. Mrs | |||
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"Definitely should be a section for that! Or a negative verification section " agree with that, admin could introduce a simple "thumbs up" or "thumbs down" symbol that way, no nasty things could be said yet you can see the amount of ups or downs?. Peace and love all. | |||
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"It would be abused. I could accuse you OP of being a time waster, without ever having spoken. See what I mean?" Exactly this. How many times do we see threads from people moaning about not being able to get a meet. What if those same people took to naming people who don't reply to messages as time wasters? | |||
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