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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When it comes to the kiss?

A date and I were talking about it last night. He mentioned the 90/10 lean, where one person goes in 90% of the way and the other person meets them for the last 10%.

I said I like it as 50/50, you’re both leaning in together and meeting in the middle together, before your lips touch for that first time..

So are you the leaner? The leanee?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did he lean in and just stop 90% of the way instead of committing to the act?

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

lean in together,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thinking back, I've always gone for the kiss first. Sometimes guys talk and I get a little mesmerized by their mouths and voices and I just can't help it.

But not a long kiss, then I pull back a bit, I look at him, he looks at me, then his hand is around my neck pulling me to him.

And bam. Penis is mine.

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By *tanley FunseekerMan
over a year ago

stanley

"When it comes to the kiss?

A date and I were talking about it last night. He mentioned the 90/10 lean, where one person goes in 90% of the way and the other person meets them for the last 10%.

I said I like it as 50/50, you’re both leaning in together and meeting in the middle together, before your lips touch for that first time..

So are you the leaner? The leanee?

With you, I’d take a risk and be the leaner

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

I usually use the standardised rulse of joust, lean in fully, commit, with intention to splinter or break the opposition's exposed lance for the point.

Dead good at kissing, me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I usually use the standardised rulse of joust, lean in fully, commit, with intention to splinter or break the opposition's exposed lance for the point.

Dead good at kissing, me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thinking back, I've always gone for the kiss first. Sometimes guys talk and I get a little mesmerized by their mouths and voices and I just can't help it.

But not a long kiss, then I pull back a bit, I look at him, he looks at me, then his hand is around my neck pulling me to him.

And bam. Penis is mine.

Would you consider vagina

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

I never lean in , mostly because I'm thinking that they are thinking " wtf is she doing" so to spare myself any embarrassment I don't do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thinking back, I've always gone for the kiss first. Sometimes guys talk and I get a little mesmerized by their mouths and voices and I just can't help it.

But not a long kiss, then I pull back a bit, I look at him, he looks at me, then his hand is around my neck pulling me to him.

And bam. Penis is mine.

Would you consider vagina

I'm not particularly fond of my own so I'd have to say no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'd have to be very confident to go 90%.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"Thinking back, I've always gone for the kiss first. Sometimes guys talk and I get a little mesmerized by their mouths and voices and I just can't help it.

But not a long kiss, then I pull back a bit, I look at him, he looks at me, then his hand is around my neck pulling me to him.

And bam. Penis is mine."

^ This. What she said.

With the genders reversed, and with the penis in my case already being mine. But otherwise bang on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When it comes to the kiss?

A date and I were talking about it last night. He mentioned the 90/10 lean, where one person goes in 90% of the way and the other person meets them for the last 10%.

I said I like it as 50/50, you’re both leaning in together and meeting in the middle together, before your lips touch for that first time..

So are you the leaner? The leanee?

If there is no resistive force in the separating space then Newton’s 6th law of motion suggests there should be no leaning involved. It’s called magnetic attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thinking back, I've always gone for the kiss first. Sometimes guys talk and I get a little mesmerized by their mouths and voices and I just can't help it.

But not a long kiss, then I pull back a bit, I look at him, he looks at me, then his hand is around my neck pulling me to him.

And bam. Penis is mine.

Would you consider vagina

I'm not particularly fond of my own so I'd have to say no. "

Lol you know I was joking right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When it comes to the kiss?

A date and I were talking about it last night. He mentioned the 90/10 lean, where one person goes in 90% of the way and the other person meets them for the last 10%.

I said I like it as 50/50, you’re both leaning in together and meeting in the middle together, before your lips touch for that first time..

So are you the leaner? The leanee?

Leanee, I don't know its gonna happen til they pounce

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

I think I'm the leaner.

I need to stop being so forward with my lips.

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

"I think I'm the leaner.

I need to stop being so forward with my lips.

I also suffer from this

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

I also think that there should be a lean leader, so the 90/10 or 80/20 principle definitely resonates

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By *tanley FunseekerMan
over a year ago

stanley

"I think I'm the leaner.

I need to stop being so forward with my lips.

I also suffer from this

Don’t do it, press either sets of lips forward in this direction lol

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By *ony MannMan
over a year ago

Las Gaviotos, Fuerteventura

"I never lean in , mostly because I'm thinking that they are thinking " wtf is she doing" so to spare myself any embarrassment I don't do it "

I have never thought about it, and only recall who leaned in once. The rest of the time it just felt right.

I met a woman this year at a club. We had been talking and I asked "Do you kiss?"

She said yes and we leaned in together.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"I also suffer from this

I wouldn’t say ‘suffer’. More that you *celebrate* it …

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"I never lean in , mostly because I'm thinking that they are thinking " wtf is she doing" so to spare myself any embarrassment I don't do it

I have never thought about it, and only recall who leaned in once. The rest of the time it just felt right.

I met a woman this year at a club. We had been talking and I asked "Do you kiss?"

She said yes and we leaned in together. "

Fair enough... i just have crippling self doubt...

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I'm the leanee usually.

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

"I also suffer from this

I wouldn’t say ‘suffer’. More that you *celebrate* it …

What can I say, I enjoy the celebrating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I'm definitely the leanee. No chance am I risking making a tit of myself leaning in for a kiss only for them to turn away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This makes me think of the "nose avoidance" skit on coupling for those who remember that

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By *igboobstCouple
over a year ago

barrow

Him normally but we both pretty much mutual leaners tbf

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"Oh I'm definitely the leanee. No chance am I risking making a tit of myself leaning in for a kiss only for them to turn away

Snap !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thinking back, I've always gone for the kiss first. Sometimes guys talk and I get a little mesmerized by their mouths and voices and I just can't help it.

But not a long kiss, then I pull back a bit, I look at him, he looks at me, then his hand is around my neck pulling me to him.

And bam. Penis is mine.

And they say romance is dead!

Never mind, I'll settle for lust...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thinking back, I've always gone for the kiss first. Sometimes guys talk and I get a little mesmerized by their mouths and voices and I just can't help it.

But not a long kiss, then I pull back a bit, I look at him, he looks at me, then his hand is around my neck pulling me to him.

And bam. Penis is mine.

^ This. What she said.

With the genders reversed, and with the penis in my case already being mine. But otherwise bang on."

We're gonna end up a serious head injury

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan
over a year ago

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Following to see who has seen Hitch.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Following to see who has seen Hitch. "

What’s Hitch?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100 percent. I lean in.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

Leanée.

Always the leanée.

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan
over a year ago

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"Following to see who has seen Hitch.

What’s Hitch?

Blockedt.

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan
over a year ago

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I go 90 and you go 10. You don’t go the whole hundred!????!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I go 90 and you go 10. You don’t go the whole hundred!????!!!!!"

You made me go 90.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't ever think about it in those terms. Just happens. I can't even recall who did what first when I am overtaken by the sensation.

Someone should film it and show me for scientific purposes.

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
over a year ago

Norwich

Quickly offer the cheek to avoid the embarrassment of blurting out “whoa, what the fuck are you doing?”

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

I also need to be careful of other glasses wearers, nothing worse than clashing spectacles lol

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

Poor from you Steven.

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan
over a year ago

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"Poor from you Steven."

I saw your comment. I know you’ve seen hitch. You know the vibes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I go 90 and you go 10. You don’t go the whole hundred!????!!!!!"

I’ve gone 130…. When they are pulling away.

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

I'm 50...Ive been snogging and kissing etc for 37 years. I think I've done all the percentages of leans.

My fave at the minute is to go all in..Im very happy in my thirst for kisses and want my people to know that I'm all in for them! Maybe 90%..so they have 10% choice of refusal ha!

I'm sure it will change again at some point.

There's something nice about meeting halfway.

All the possibities.

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan
over a year ago

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https://youtu.be/DSpJQlBJCzA?si=ZwTQQAGUbL9XhxEY

Great film. Great scene.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

"Poor from you Steven.

I saw your comment. I know you’ve seen hitch. You know the vibes "

Before Jada really took that mans sole

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to make sure they have something solid behind them like a wall, so when I go in for a hot passionate wild kiss, they can't run away!

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

"Leanée.

Always the leanée.

Mind you, there were a few times I felt like being a leaner at the last social, but didn’t dare to.

back to a first proper social in 2 years, so need to pace myself.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

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By *ony MannMan
over a year ago

Las Gaviotos, Fuerteventura

"I tend to make sure they have something solid behind them like a wall, so when I go in for a hot passionate wild kiss, they can't run away!

Would a moderately firm bed be exceptable?

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan
over a year ago

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"Leanée.

Always the leanée.

Mind you, there were a few times I felt like being a leaner at the last social, but didn’t dare to.

back to a first proper social in 2 years, so need to pace myself.

*clears throat* *nods*

Hey

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

As a 21st century man I am absolutely the leanee unless I have had enthusiastic consent that a kiss is welcomed. I'm too shy to ask and she would need to go to 99 because I'm too dumb to pick up any signals as subtle as going 90

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tend to make sure they have something solid behind them like a wall, so when I go in for a hot passionate wild kiss, they can't run away!

This is a very solid advice. The first time M. Kissed me I almost dented the side of the car..

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan
over a year ago

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"As a 21st century man I am absolutely the leanee unless I have had enthusiastic consent that a kiss is welcomed. I'm too shy to ask and she would need to go to 99 because I'm too dumb to pick up any signals as subtle as going 90

Trust me, B, you know when someone is even going 60%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tend to make sure they have something solid behind them like a wall, so when I go in for a hot passionate wild kiss, they can't run away!

This is a very solid advice. The first time M. Kissed me I almost dented the side of the car..

You do make me laugh ...

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Always the leanee. I can’t read people at all so would never go first.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"We're gonna end up a serious head injury "

It’ll be so worth it.

If you bust my glasses it’s all over though. Total mood killer.

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"When it comes to the kiss?

A date and I were talking about it last night. He mentioned the 90/10 lean, where one person goes in 90% of the way and the other person meets them for the last 10%.

I said I like it as 50/50, you’re both leaning in together and meeting in the middle together, before your lips touch for that first time..

So are you the leaner? The leanee?

If there is no resistive force in the separating space then Newton’s 6th law of motion suggests there should be no leaning involved. It’s called magnetic attraction."

You can’t go straight to 6th law.

Kissing is 1st law surely? That there needs to be an outside force (therefore leaning). Definitely not wanting 3rd law because then there would be leaning followed by slapping

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When it comes to the kiss?

A date and I were talking about it last night. He mentioned the 90/10 lean, where one person goes in 90% of the way and the other person meets them for the last 10%.

I said I like it as 50/50, you’re both leaning in together and meeting in the middle together, before your lips touch for that first time..

So are you the leaner? The leanee?

Lean in.. I am not necking nor into love bites. Nor tower of pizza.. I do not kiss folk who are not my type either.

It does not mean I love them either.

Not sure I want to kiss anyone

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"Definitely not wanting 3rd law because then there would be leaning followed by slapping

Some people might want that. No kink shaming here, even amongst physicists.

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex

And to answer the question…

Generally I wouldn’t say I lean. I’m definitely the leanee. Playing it cool…

I apologise wholeheartedly to the poor innocent fella on Friday who I disproved that rule to

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

Trust me, B, you know when someone is even going 60%"

This sprung to mind as I read this

https://youtu.be/UsPbfP2OYpc?si=RLsRHmB-_M-b4fc3

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"I think I'm the leaner.

I need to stop being so forward with my lips.

Absolutely not. Never. Beautiful lips

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

"Thinking back, I've always gone for the kiss first. Sometimes guys talk and I get a little mesmerized by their mouths and voices and I just can't help it.

But not a long kiss, then I pull back a bit, I look at him, he looks at me, then his hand is around my neck pulling me to him.

And bam. Penis is mine.

Well there you go. Boom boom

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

Trust me, B, you know when someone is even going 60%

This sprung to mind as I read this

https://youtu.be/UsPbfP2OYpc?si=RLsRHmB-_M-b4fc3"

Omg that one is awful

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think I'm the leaner.

I need to stop being so forward with my lips.

Absolutely not. Never. Beautiful lips

You leaned in first on Friday.

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By *hortishblondeWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I think more the leaner well if feels like it most of the time ..

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"I think I'm the leaner.

I need to stop being so forward with my lips.

Absolutely not. Never. Beautiful lips

You leaned in first on Friday.

I have to be honest I offer free snogs. It’s just my way of getting to know someone better. You didn’t lean away

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

Trust me, B, you know when someone is even going 60%

This sprung to mind as I read this

https://youtu.be/UsPbfP2OYpc?si=RLsRHmB-_M-b4fc3

Omg that one is awful

I feel like that dude is me but oblivious not to be shady.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

These days, in my advancing years and upwardly spiralling confidence, I have become the leaner. I usually instigate the kiss/es. The impetus has to be there though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thinking back, I've always gone for the kiss first. Sometimes guys talk and I get a little mesmerized by their mouths and voices and I just can't help it.

But not a long kiss, then I pull back a bit, I look at him, he looks at me, then his hand is around my neck pulling me to him.

And bam. Penis is mine.

" And bam. Penis is mine."

I love it!

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By *esafinadOHolyNightMan
over a year ago

Belfast

It's that moment of lingering eye contact where you're thinking, "does she want me to kiss her?, should I go for this?". Then I'll inch my face a little closer (not too close though so as to be able to smile and inch back again without looking too much the fool if I think I've read it wrong) and pause, if she moves in herself then we're on

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

I leaned once, he stepped back, oh the embarrassment.

Never again.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

I lean AWAY, and try to look as appalled as possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I feel a connection then I tend to just lean in as soon as appropriate.

Quite often you can tell within moments if a spark exists and you can feel the sexual tension building.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I don't know. I've never really thought about it. I guess it depends?

I'm quite cautious when it comes to potentially having my erm, advances, rejected so possibly more the leanee? Sounds right.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

Me!

I've been rejected too many times. Damn my arrogance! I usually tell them I'm about to try though.

I think I'm gonna kiss you now...

Works a charm

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

It has to be the lady first or we both lean in at the same time. I never lean in first.

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