FabSwingers.com forum: alcohol spoils meet

By *ensible lady 1960 OP Woman
over a year ago

Near Bishop Auckland.

i arranged to have a meet tonight with a guy.but a few hours later he told me he had been to pub and therefore coudnt meet.no second chance.am i being harsh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i arranged to have a meet tonight with a guy.but a few hours later he told me he had been to pub and therefore coudnt meet.no second chance.am i being harsh?"

Definitely not.

I think you did the right thing.

High five from me.

There's all sorts of wrong with that

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

"i arranged to have a meet tonight with a guy.but a few hours later he told me he had been to pub and therefore coudnt meet.no second chance.am i being harsh?"

Absolutely not. That's not alcohol spoiling it, that's they're shitty attitude

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope not harsh. You have to think of your safety and so does he

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i arranged to have a meet tonight with a guy.but a few hours later he told me he had been to pub and therefore coudnt meet.no second chance.am i being harsh?"

Nope

I’d do exactly the same

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By *imisugarWoman
over a year ago

Rugby

Not harsh.

Your boundaries are what's appropriate for you.

I personally think you've done the right thing and commend how you've valued yourself and your time.

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By *ugehandsMan
over a year ago

Fife/ Newcastle

Sounds like he made his priority pretty clear. Block and move on, there are some good guys on here.

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By *ackandJill1Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

I don't think so, they've shown you where their priorities are, you are justified in your reaction to them. So many lovely ppl on here, no need for you to waste your time on those that aren't quite so lovely x

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Nope, well within your rights op

He chose to drink and not meet, I'd do the same.

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By *ld StrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Telford

It's something that's stayed with me from when I was a sex worker.. do not drink alcohol on a meet. I'd rather be engaged and aware.

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By *hriscooperMan
over a year ago

Warrington

What a loser, block him if that's his preference..

I hate time wasters.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

If it didn’t feel right it probably wasnt

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's the wrong attitude that he had. I'd have given no further chance. Maybe he'll learn?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i arranged to have a meet tonight with a guy.but a few hours later he told me he had been to pub and therefore coudnt meet.no second chance.am i being harsh?"

I live by "No second chances at a first impression" and that's a pretty shitty one he chose to give of himself. If he's that unreliable before you even meet... Nope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pub or a meet with you and he choice the pub guys an idiot more than anything else hahaa

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By *xcited And CuriousCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

A couple of drinks to help manage nerves turned into too many drinks?

Poor show on his part...

Or...

He realised he'd d*unk too much and thought it best to abort rather than arrive in a state that would make you uncomfortable?

I (Mr) don't drink, and am of the opinion that drink is a destructive menace. In my experience and observation, drink invariably has more negative consequences than positive. Not preaching - just sharing an opinion.

If a woman agreed to meet with me, I wouldn't disrespect her and squander an opportunity.

Dust it off and move on.

Second chance? Surely there are guys out there who wouldn't blow the chance to connect with a woman?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely not too harsh.

I don't drink when engaging with anything sex related ha I like to be aware.

Block him and move on, you don't arrange to meet then blow that person off to get pissed lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i arranged to have a meet tonight with a guy.but a few hours later he told me he had been to pub and therefore coudnt meet.no second chance.am i being harsh?"

What an idiot if he knows he's gonna meet someone for 1st tike he shouldn't go to the 0ub you never know what risk he posed. You done right thing OP block him and move on

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By *cunnylassCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

We had a guy cancel a meet with us because he got d*unk at a wake.We didn't give him a second chance!

M and M

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope.

You did the right thing.

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By *r Looking 69Man
over a year ago

north

"i arranged to have a meet tonight with a guy.but a few hours later he told me he had been to pub and therefore coudnt meet.no second chance.am i being harsh?"

Absolutely not . He made his choice. His loss. Forget him and move on x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never drink alcohol before or during a social or meet…… more fool him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block and move on. He will be the type of idiot that will be posting on here soon saying why can't he get a meet

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By *eorgesdad69Man
over a year ago

nottingham

"i arranged to have a meet tonight with a guy.but a few hours later he told me he had been to pub and therefore coudnt meet.no second chance.am i being harsh?"

All too often guys cancel last minute so No you are not being too harsh x

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By *tephanie63Woman
over a year ago

BRIDGWATER

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By *a1970Man
over a year ago

East cork

Perfect call.. Well done you.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

I suppose at least he was honest.

But definitely wouldn't be arranging another meet if it was us.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I’d be pretty annoyed. It would be a definite no thanks.

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By *_the_impalerMan
over a year ago

canterbury

Not at all

I wouldn’t be comfortable playing with someone who was under the influence of anything at a meet ! When he started drinking so early he messed up

If it was the other way around and I was meeting a girl that had clearly d*unk too much I wouldn’t be doing more than getting her home safe

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By *ensible lady 1960 OP Woman
over a year ago

Near Bishop Auckland.

just to let you all know.thank you for all your positive feedback. I wont be giving him a second chance.

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By *ouplewithKinks23Couple
over a year ago

Walsall

Definitely not harsh. Simple really, you make the meet a priority not go to the pub. Good on you we say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you told him you don’t like drinkers or u don’t drink ur self then nothing wrong with it but he may of just needed some courage who knows but every one has a rite to refuse a meet no harm done

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Not at all, that's really inconsiderate. I've had someone turn up d*unk before, it's not pleasant!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That type of action just makes me think they didn’t give a shit about anyone but themselves right then. Nothing to do with alcohol spoiling things. He did.

I actually have a kink with sparkling wine, it can be fun.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

That's the delightful thing about getting brewers droop quite easily, if I know something sexy is on the cards I may have one singular drink or two, but never any more than that. And I don't get d*unk easily, it's just my dick that CBA if I drink too many.

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

He knew the meet was arranged.

He chose to drink instead.

No. No second chances. Block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's the delightful thing about getting brewers droop quite easily, if I know something sexy is on the cards I may have one singular drink or two, but never any more than that. And I don't get d*unk easily, it's just my dick that CBA if I drink too many."

I have the whatever the female version of brewers droop is. Alcohol turns off all the fun

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By *armandwet50Couple
over a year ago

Far far away

You have every right to do as you please.

It sounds to me as though he was at least trying to be honest, could have been worse, he could have turned up d*unk, or not at all.

We all have a life outside to swinging

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Another no. I would have reacted the same.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Not harsh but at least he let you know

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

More than possible that he went to the pub on his way to you then nerves got the better of him or he just changed his mind.

You can get soft drinks in pubs so it didn’t have to be alcohol related.

At least he told you which is something

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By *hy Essex GuyMan
over a year ago

North Essex

Absolutely not. Big red flag right there.

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

I'm amazed he gave you the real reason why he couldn't make it.

I suspect a lot of guys would have made a completely different, not my fault excuse.

You were right to block.

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