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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

No guys, not your meat and two veg, get your minds out of your pants for five minutes! I’m talking about something that people know you for or associate you with, something that is your ‘in’ with people.

This has come about because at a recent event I overheard someone talking about how disadvantaged guys are unless you’re rich, good looking, have the body of a Greek god or a giant cock, so they rely on handing out shots as their ‘thing’.

This has led me to wonder; guys, do you need that? Do you agree? Would no one talk to you if you didn’t have the daft comic aside or promise of cake? Thoughts folks

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By *use and wolfCouple
over a year ago

angus

i don't like people being uncomfortable and pretty decent at reading situations, i will speak or not depending on the situation but have been known to have conversations with complete strangers.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I know sone of them. I put it in the same category as being ‘nice’. It gets them all the kind of attention that they don’t really want

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Umm.

I rely on being the unapproachable goth amazon princess mostly

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

I suppose seeing as I’m a witless gargoyle of a being then it must be my rather attractive penis.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

I suppose it could work well as an icebreaker. If it makes someone feel more confident to initiate a conversation when they feel intimidated. But if your thing is your only thing it's not going to get you far.

J

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester


"Umm.

I rely on being the unapproachable goth amazon princess mostly "

Unapproachable doesn't seem to be working, try harder, maybe growl at people that come near you

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

Not sure what our thing is, but whatever it is we seem to be doing OK

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve got a thing. It’s in my pocket if anyone would like to put their hand in and find out what it is…

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

We've inadvertently got a "thing".

It's a case we take to clubs, full of everything kink. We take it for ourselves but it's become a talking point and will often just be open on a table for people to explore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t have a “thing” I don’t think. Not that I’m conscious of. I’ve tried to think of what it might be, if I had one, but can’t.

Which is kind of scary because it’s made me realise I’m essentially very dull.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"Umm.

I rely on being the unapproachable goth amazon princess mostly

Unapproachable doesn't seem to be working, try harder, maybe growl at people that come near you "

It works pretty well in person.

The amount of times people reach out on here and the other site saying they saw me at x event but didn't feel like they could come say hi is huge

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Umm.

I rely on being the unapproachable goth amazon princess mostly

Unapproachable doesn't seem to be working, try harder, maybe growl at people that come near you

It works pretty well in person.

The amount of times people reach out on here and the other site saying they saw me at x event but didn't feel like they could come say hi is huge "

*whispers*

I got a hug!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Umm.

I rely on being the unapproachable goth amazon princess mostly

Unapproachable doesn't seem to be working, try harder, maybe growl at people that come near you

It works pretty well in person.

The amount of times people reach out on here and the other site saying they saw me at x event but didn't feel like they could come say hi is huge "

I’d say yes to a smooch. I’d have to find a chair to stand on or possibly get away with it on my tiptoes, but hell, I’d give it a try for a gorgeous lady such as you.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

My "thing" if you want to call it that on here is none of what you describe. I don't approach people, they approach me because they can see by by engagement here that I often go against the grain and don't spend my time kissing arse.

It's the same irl.

People who know me or who want to get to know me can see that I am approachable and they feel safe in my presence even if that is just a virtual presence.

My "thing" isn't manufactured either. It's genuine without having to use that term and to many, that is as big if not a bigger attraction as a huge penis or an expense account.

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London | Belfast

Not everyone needs their own thing, but it certainly is good to have something you're recognised for. Makes you more individual, and it feels like an accomplishment.

I got a few things that people associate me with, which is cool. I am a travelling man, a sailor, a self taught coder, I smoke cigars, I play poker, among other things.

People always remember me for something like that, of one of the many things I do.

It often happens, but just recently I was in a pub smoking a cigar and drinking beer on my own, just waiting for someone really, when a girl approaches me and is all flirty. "Hey, I recognised you from last time you were here. How could I forget about the cigar? You gave me a light last time". Must have been at least 3 weeks.

Didn't remember her at all, but she's pretty and we talked on and off all evening.

Someone else HEARD about me. Turns out we have a mutual friend, who talked about me, and described me so well, a stranger to me recognised me on a night out and approached me. Apparently the boots and the ring were a dead give away.

So guess those are my things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No guys, not your meat and two veg, get your minds out of your pants for five minutes! I’m talking about something that people know you for or associate you with, something that is your ‘in’ with people.

This has come about because at a recent event I overheard someone talking about how disadvantaged guys are unless you’re rich, good looking, have the body of a Greek god or a giant cock, so they rely on handing out shots as their ‘thing’.

This has led me to wonder; guys, do you need that? Do you agree? Would no one talk to you if you didn’t have the daft comic aside or promise of cake? Thoughts folks"

Wow is this really a thing.

I turn away or maybe block anyone that sends a photo with their car, and I do the same if they drop job titles. And also if they own a big cock. If they make a point of mentioning how much they earn or drop names to show status it's the same story.

I go for a nice face but it's not based on being good looking. It has to not show something in particular. I know that's ambiguous but I've learned how and why I pick men out.

So I'm shocked that guys think that is what gets men places.

My thing.....fuck knows what that is. I've even called an enigma so many times now I can't even work myself out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has a thing. Some people have a negative thing. Some things come from trauma, other things come from arrogance or attention seeking. Some things are easier to spot than others but we all have a thing. Sometimes you might think your thing is a thing but if you ask people who know you they’d say your thing is something else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No guys, not your meat and two veg, get your minds out of your pants for five minutes! I’m talking about something that people know you for or associate you with, something that is your ‘in’ with people.

This has come about because at a recent event I overheard someone talking about how disadvantaged guys are unless you’re rich, good looking, have the body of a Greek god or a giant cock, so they rely on handing out shots as their ‘thing’.

This has led me to wonder; guys, do you need that? Do you agree? Would no one talk to you if you didn’t have the daft comic aside or promise of cake? Thoughts folks

Wow is this really a thing.

I turn away or maybe block anyone that sends a photo with their car, and I do the same if they drop job titles. And also if they own a big cock. If they make a point of mentioning how much they earn or drop names to show status it's the same story.

I go for a nice face but it's not based on being good looking. It has to not show something in particular. I know that's ambiguous but I've learned how and why I pick men out.

So I'm shocked that guys think that is what gets men places.

My thing.....fuck knows what that is. I've even called an enigma so many times now I can't even work myself out. "

I agree with this, showing off as a thing is on the whole deeply unattractive

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

The only 'thing' I have is the ·leap of faith· that I took to join this confounded place and where I have made an assortment of friends, from the zany, the sexy, the kindly and the beatniks.

I have no thing other than that. It doesn't figure in my thoughts if I'm honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If being a nerdy dufus is a “thing” then that’s def my “thing”

Parting x

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Totally disagree, size, muscles etc doesn't bother me or appeal in the slightest.

The person is what I'll be attracted to the physical after that, if I like the person I'll like the body.

To me it's face that I am most attracted to, personality, humour the rest I don't really care.

This is one reason I could never look for blokes on here the majority don't seem to understand some women need more than a cock and a chest to form an attraction.

Mrs

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By *archelCouple
over a year ago

A field somewhere


"No guys, not your meat and two veg, get your minds out of your pants for five minutes! I’m talking about something that people know you for or associate you with, something that is your ‘in’ with people.

This has come about because at a recent event I overheard someone talking about how disadvantaged guys are unless you’re rich, good looking, have the body of a Greek god or a giant cock, so they rely on handing out shots as their ‘thing’.

This has led me to wonder; guys, do you need that? Do you agree? Would no one talk to you if you didn’t have the daft comic aside or promise of cake? Thoughts folks"

Rock climbing is my thing, but not for long, people soon get bored because there's not much to say after the tales of near death adventures and derring do.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"By who?!

Because I'm with fluffy it's an instant block!

Mrs "

Hush Mrs Knight. Everyone knows we're all driven by the material, and all this weird virtue signalling and pretending it's about actual chemistry and compatibility is all part of the global feminist conspiracy

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else


"By who?!

Because I'm with fluffy it's an instant block!

Mrs

Hush Mrs Knight. Everyone knows we're all driven by the material, and all this weird virtue signalling and pretending it's about actual chemistry and compatibility is all part of the global feminist conspiracy "

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I don't go for materialist stuff. But I think most people have that thing that makes them feel special when they talk about it. And I kind of like that be it the music they like or geology. I find it endearing.

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

I know no thing, have no thing and be no thing

Although since moving south of the wall if people hear my accent they often initiate conversation based on that - so maybe I do have a thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No guys, not your meat and two veg, get your minds out of your pants for five minutes! I’m talking about something that people know you for or associate you with, something that is your ‘in’ with people.

This has come about because at a recent event I overheard someone talking about how disadvantaged guys are unless you’re rich, good looking, have the body of a Greek god or a giant cock, so they rely on handing out shots as their ‘thing’.

This has led me to wonder; guys, do you need that? Do you agree? Would no one talk to you if you didn’t have the daft comic aside or promise of cake? Thoughts folks

Wow is this really a thing.

I turn away or maybe block anyone that sends a photo with their car, and I do the same if they drop job titles. And also if they own a big cock. If they make a point of mentioning how much they earn or drop names to show status it's the same story.

I go for a nice face but it's not based on being good looking. It has to not show something in particular. I know that's ambiguous but I've learned how and why I pick men out.

So I'm shocked that guys think that is what gets men places.

My thing.....fuck knows what that is. I've even called an enigma so many times now I can't even work myself out.

I agree with this, showing off as a thing is on the whole deeply unattractive "

I agree with it being unattractive and in the past I've had it used over me and been belittled by a high earner so naturally I'll not risk it again. So they get binned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My thing is that I am 100% non judgemental (so long as it’s legal!!).

Literally people can tell me they are into whatever and I’m like “cool…how does that make you feel”.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

I love this question!

It's not something I think consciously about. I'm generally very chatty in person and try to put people at ease, I guess. I also get told a lot that I have a very innocent face. Maybe that's my thing?

What's your thing, OP?

Mrs TMN x

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I'd agree with the ladies, material things like cars, boats, watches, jewellery really aren't what makes someone popular, it's a bit sad if they think they need that as a "thing".

I'm more likely to remember something for a physical attribute like great hair, pretty eyes, nice smile or their passion for something like a hobby or interest. Or the way they've been towards me.

I have no idea what my thing is... different people would say different things.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

My thing is bdsm and getting into a conversation on those lines really gets interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"By who?!

Because I'm with fluffy it's an instant block!

Mrs

Hush Mrs Knight. Everyone knows we're all driven by the material, and all this weird virtue signalling and pretending it's about actual chemistry and compatibility is all part of the global feminist conspiracy "

Is this why we're unapproachable? This demanding respect nonsense?

(I say we. I relate.)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm open for some "things" been thrown my way.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I'm pretty fucking obvious, in the bright red wheelchair. Kinda can't separate that from myself though, so I think the association will endure!! Some people find it awkward, it puts some people off etc. Meh *shrugs*

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