FabSwingers.com forum: Meet parameters

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Similar to the post "Social Meets" is it a trend where meets magically change to something you didn't agree to?

I've had two meets where a "social meet" ended up being s fuck and go meet, AND...

safe sex listed on their profile but ends up being bareback

They must've thought I'd change my mind at last minute but they were wrong.

I only do a strictly social neet pm neutral ground..eg a pub!

No expectations to play. I don't want any dodgy people knowing where I live and getting to the point where I'm not keen on them seeing my car's reg plate incase they spot me somewhere and approach me.

So is this a common thing too? Changing meet parameters that is

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By *lueDressWoman
over a year ago

Bath

Ive only had social meets due to not feeling aroused/attracted to the other people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you’re meeting socially at a pub, unless they’re holding you against your will in some secluded or private part of the pub, how did it become a fuck and go?

I’ve never had a social meet turn into more. There’s been desire for more, mutually, but that’s what future meets are for. If the person tried to push for more, I’d leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wait, is this a guy complaining about women wanting sex and BAREBACK??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Wait, is this a guy complaining about women wanting sex and BAREBACK??

Hmmmm.. some join the dots needed again...

It's s guy..(me) agreeing to safe sex but when I meet, they wanted unprotected.. Which.. if take a peek at my profile I think that explains plainly.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I've had pressure. But I've never had that pressure go anywhere

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you’re meeting socially at a pub, unless they’re holding you against your will in some secluded or private part of the pub, how did it become a fuck and go?

I’ve never had a social meet turn into more. There’s been desire for more, mutually, but that’s what future meets are for. If the person tried to push for more, I’d leave. "

I used to meet at their places

Fuck and go is mot for me, but social Meets at their places suddenly changed to fuck and go.

Strictly pub or café meets from now on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you’re meeting socially at a pub, unless they’re holding you against your will in some secluded or private part of the pub, how did it become a fuck and go?

I’ve never had a social meet turn into more. There’s been desire for more, mutually, but that’s what future meets are for. If the person tried to push for more, I’d leave. "

I was once "held against my will in a a secluded & private part of a pub"....

How I managed to escape his grip & hold I'll never know.... I had to dig my stiletto heel into his foot....& he loosened his grip....Did I run for my life....Yes

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Are others experiencing more of this?

One couple I thought were ok so have them my mobile number won't chat on the phone but text me..

Nothing for three weeks then a message

"Breeding her on weekend"

Replied "ok, she ovulating?" thinking he meant him wanting to get her pregnant and not meeting anyone

He then said he wanted help.

I haven't replied and won't be either

I'm a bit feked off cos I thought they were a decent promising couple..

And yes I'm aware they might read this but not bothered.

Back to original post..are the experienced swingers noticing this bareback fuck now trend?

I'm following the other thread posted to see feedback

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I don't meet anyone without chatting for weeks or even months.

I don't meet anyone without a social in a coffee shop and it's made very clear beforehand that it will not go beyond a social.

I have refused a number of meets with well verified women who insisted on only meeting in their own home.

In my opinion if they had so little concern for their personal safety that they were prepared to invite me as a complete stranger into their home, they weren't people I wanted to know.

The only time I've had people attempt to change the parameters was with couples where all the initial chat was with the woman and dates and location of the coffee shop agreed on, only for her other half to suddenly get involved and tell me to book an hotel near the coffee shop or we wouldn't be meeting.

That was fine with me and we didn't meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you’re meeting socially at a pub, unless they’re holding you against your will in some secluded or private part of the pub, how did it become a fuck and go?

I’ve never had a social meet turn into more. There’s been desire for more, mutually, but that’s what future meets are for. If the person tried to push for more, I’d leave.

I was once "held against my will in a a secluded & private part of a pub"....

How I managed to escape his grip & hold I'll never know.... I had to dig my stiletto heel into his foot....& he loosened his grip....Did I run for my life....Yes

OMG Louise! That's horrible and shoking!!!

I hope and pray your alright! That's awful.

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