FabSwingers.com forum: Green Fab Flags?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We see a lot of posts about what not to message, what annoys us etc. So how about a positive spin on it to brighten up hump day?

What are your green fab flags?

In a first message?

On a bio?

On a first meet (social)?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

One of mine is signs of being both selective and intentional e.g. Expressing specific interests, kinks or desires on their bio.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Someone who has taken the time to read my profile and referenced so thing in it.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

When a woman contacts me and I can quickly glean from her opening message that she bears all the hallmarks of being able to handle a conversation better than most people can handle a cock, that's a p+sitive green flag for me.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

Decent spelling is nice.

And seeing that someone knows how to press return and separate paragraphs.

(I get quite out of breath trying to read some of the endless run-on sentences in my inbox that don’t have any breaks or anywhere to pause for a second or anything …)

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By *omblingFreeCouple
over a year ago

The Village

a well developed sense of humour

Mr & Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wise enough to know they're not everyone's type.

Mature enough to value thier desires over the option of quick satisfaction.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

The ability to have a conversation online. I find many either ask me generic questions or it's really one sided. I find I loose interest really easily. Think there is an art to getting to know someone online.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

In a profile, consistency with text, pics and veries.

In a message, the ability to speak to me as an equal rather than a number.

In person, they wouldn't have reached that point without any of the above.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Consistency and communication are the only green flags to follow. Everything else can be faked by anyone.

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By *zeroMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Sense of humour, verifications and a profile that isn't a list of complaints or just "I'll fill this in later"

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By *ddie1966Man
over a year ago

Paper Town Central, Essex.

How attentive a person is. If they remember something you mentioned half a dozen messages ago, then that's a sure sign they are genuine and interested in you as a person. Not just a piece of meat to be dallied with.

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

We like to know why the person has messaged us and what they are looking for.

Bonus points if they are letting us know why they like playing with married couples.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

A sense of humour, self aware, in possession of their own sexuality. Finding me funny.

The last one is a stretch

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Tasteful, varied and interesting pictures. A well written & informative profile bio. Bonus points for humour.

Messages wise. Make me laugh or find some common ground. Make an effort, use punctuation.

Leave me aching for more (this does not apply to subsequent meets

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
over a year ago

Markfield

"A sense of humour, self aware, in possession of their own sexuality. Finding me funny.

The last one is a stretch"

Funny haha or funny peculiar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The ability to have a conversation online. I find many either ask me generic questions or it's really one sided. I find I loose interest really easily. Think there is an art to getting to know someone online. "

This definitely this.

So many people really don't seem to know how to converse online at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mixing blue and yellow paint, then applying to a triangle piece of cloth

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Honesty, the honest profiles always stand out.

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

Jesus I'm a walking red flag after reading most of these

Greens I'd say would be - give me something to think about. Whether that's from the profile, opening message or comment on a thread. If I'm spending my spare time thinking of you then that's not a bad start

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Having not only read my profile but fit the criteria.

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

"A sense of humour, self aware, in possession of their own sexuality. Finding me funny.

The last one is a stretch"

Can I get a lil' foreplay before the stretch please thankyou mister Tea man, thanks.

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

This definitely this.

So many people really don't seem to know how to converse online at all. "

This is a tough one though. Is it not two sided? Do general questions need to be asked to find a common interest?

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By *cnugatugMan
over a year ago

Chatham

Taking the time to read my carefully worked on profile and actually complimenting something about it and also being direct with me I hate all the chitchat that seems to be endless

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"A sense of humour, self aware, in possession of their own sexuality. Finding me funny.

The last one is a stretch

Funny haha or funny peculiar

Bit of both

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Personality in profile, pictures, or message. Thoughtfulness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A message longer than a few words.

Tasteful gallery.

Obvious sense of humour.

Good grammar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty penis

Tattoos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This definitely this.

So many people really don't seem to know how to converse online at all.

This is a tough one though. Is it not two sided? Do general questions need to be asked to find a common interest?"

Ah have we not found our common interest yet? Is that problem?

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"Consistency and communication are the only green flags to follow. Everything else can be faked by anyone."

Pretty much this!

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

-They have a friendly, inviting well written profile

-They can compose an interesting more than ‘one word message’

-They have recent & full length pictures (so you don’t feel catfished)

-Conversation flows naturally like you talking to a friend you’ve known for ages

-They put in as much effort/ show enthusiasm as you do in chatting & planning a meet

-They happy to FaceTime/ meet for social 1st (us blokes like to feel safe too with who we meeting).

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By *annybrowneyesMan
over a year ago

Waterloo

That she appears to have a pulse and doesn't look or give the impression that her name is really Dave who lives at home with his mum and wants to put a pringle can up his bum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That she appears to have a pulse and doesn't look or give the impression that her name is really Dave who lives at home with his mum and wants to put a pringle can up his bum"

Any particular flavour?

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

"That she appears to have a pulse and doesn't look or give the impression that her name is really Dave who lives at home with his mum and wants to put a pringle can up his bum

Any particular flavour?"

If it's not BBQ, would it even count?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That she appears to have a pulse and doesn't look or give the impression that her name is really Dave who lives at home with his mum and wants to put a pringle can up his bum

Any particular flavour?

If it's not BBQ, would it even count?"

I'm more a sour cream person.

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By *annybrowneyesMan
over a year ago

Waterloo

"That she appears to have a pulse and doesn't look or give the impression that her name is really Dave who lives at home with his mum and wants to put a pringle can up his bum

Any particular flavour?"

Paprika. That would be a roller coaster of emotions

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

The most important one for me is a profile picture that doesn't make me shudder. A close up of cock or flaps does not make me want to chat.

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

This definitely this.

So many people really don't seem to know how to converse online at all.

This is a tough one though. Is it not two sided? Do general questions need to be asked to find a common interest?

Ah have we not found our common interest yet? Is that problem?

I thought it was my penis?

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

This definitely this.

So many people really don't seem to know how to converse online at all.

This is a tough one though. Is it not two sided? Do general questions need to be asked to find a common interest?"

To me there is a big difference between generic and general questions? Generic to me feels as though they have a set list of questions they ask. General is good if it's a starting point to see if you have things in common. Which you then use to ask further questions.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"A sense of humour, self aware, in possession of their own sexuality. Finding me funny.

The last one is a stretch"

Pretty much this! I find myself hilarious, so if you don't, it's probably not gonna happen. I'll add talking to me like a person, not a fantasy made flesh. At least to start with

Mrs TMN x

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By *KTim61Man
over a year ago

Tipton

"Someone who has taken the time to read my profile and referenced so thing in it.

That's what I tend to do when I reply but doesnt always work !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Mixing blue and yellow paint, then applying to a triangle piece of cloth

There's always one

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A sense of humour, self aware, in possession of their own sexuality. Finding me funny.

The last one is a stretch

Pretty much this! I find myself hilarious, so if you don't, it's probably not gonna happen. I'll add talking to me like a person, not a fantasy made flesh. At least to start with

Mrs TMN x"

Absolutely! All of this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A nice message relating to our profile as proof it's been read.

Some nice verifications stating more than just "he hammered me like a tent peg".

A bit about themselves in their bio.

Some nice pictures

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Have shown interest

Have seen something interesting which has caught them playing with themselves most likely.

Eager to get this inch scratched

hands free

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Have shown interest

Have seen something interesting which has caught them playing with themselves most likely.

Eager to get this inch scratched

hands free "

itch bloody typo

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The most important one for me is a profile picture that doesn't make me shudder. A close up of cock or flaps does not make me want to chat.

I don't even open messages from disembodied penises. Some creative angles and a bit more flesh is appreciated for sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What are your green fab flags?

In a first message?

On a bio?

On a first meet (social)?

I’m keeping these cards close to my chest….

If I posted here, it’s like giving them the password to my secret sexy box of goodies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This definitely this.

So many people really don't seem to know how to converse online at all.

This is a tough one though. Is it not two sided? Do general questions need to be asked to find a common interest?"

Oh absolutely agree with that.

I think it is more when they merely respond and don't ask anything you know it is all very one sided.

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By *handlerMonicaCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

An articulate message is always good, regardless of length. And a veri from someone we know personally immediately confirms them as genuine, which although not necessarily a green flag, it means its definitely not red!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Varies by the individual.. as a general rule

Looking for similar things,interests as denoted in their profile ..gets a green tick..

after that messaging more the words used in those can be a green tick

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

Their messages and profile convey confidence but not arrogance. They are respectful. They have interesting things to say. Quiet dignity is a huge turn on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"... Quiet dignity is a huge turn on."

Absolutely!

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By *use and wolfCouple
over a year ago

angus

Interest in "SM" as Fab puts it. Pics displaying bondage, latex or leather, especially gloves.

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal

Prefer honestly x

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By *ose and her beastCouple
over a year ago

Watford

When the first message isn't your fit wanna fuck putting what you guys are like as people in the bio not having a shopping list of wants and needs

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

"Mixing blue and yellow paint, then applying to a triangle piece of cloth

There's always one

Aren't triangular ones called 'pennants'?

..and I don't want any giving me an N sign for being a pedant.

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By *ravelling_WilburyMan
over a year ago

Beverley

I like a nice gallery and a sarcastic profile. I also like big boobies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm.. To be opened it starts with the profile name, then picture and a hint of intriguing text. Then a thoughtful profile

To continue it has intelligent conversation

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

"... Quiet dignity is a huge turn on.

Absolutely! "

Quiet dignity. So rare to hear these words on Fab, but oh so relevant to the subject of attraction. At least in our little corner of the interweb x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mixing blue and yellow paint, then applying to a triangle piece of cloth

There's always one

Ha ha couldn't help myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read the title as 'green fish fingers' and was mildly intrigued.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Anybody that sends an actual sentence. Starting with a capital letter. Finishing with a full stop. Less than that and the conversation doesn’t go anywhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the message is interesting then that's probably going to be the biggest green flag I can think of. I would be happy never getting a message again if it means I get to miss out on the "meet now" and "you're so cute" messages. Getting complimented has never been more depressing.

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

A vagina the size of shelobs cave and a smile

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By *elshcouple18Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

A little cheeky banter always good with us.. Nice pics, nothing overly crude.. clean backgrounds in pics..

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Moon sized norks designed to smush heads into powder on demand

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Anybody that sends an actual sentence. Starting with a capital letter. Finishing with a full stop. Less than that and the conversation doesn’t go anywhere. "

This is a surprisingly high bar to set around here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If the message is interesting then that's probably going to be the biggest green flag I can think of. I would be happy never getting a message again if it means I get to miss out on the "meet now" and "you're so cute" messages. Getting complimented has never been more depressing."

If only there was a filter for that!

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