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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all hope you're all well,I can't be alone here or can I when I come to the realization that this site along with dating sites are just soul destroying,I don't by any stretch of the imagination thing I look like a Greek god,but on the other hand I don't think I look like the back end of a bus,you just can't win on here these days or the dating sites unless you've got the full package and by that I mean the Instagram body

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By *esafinadOHolyNightMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"Hi all hope you're all well,I can't be alone here or can I when I come to the realization that this site along with dating sites are just soul destroying,I don't by any stretch of the imagination thing I look like a Greek god,but on the other hand I don't think I look like the back end of a bus,you just can't win on here these days or the dating sites unless you've got the full package and by that I mean the Instagram body "

I don't think it's quite as straight forward as looks. I'd actually say if you put your personality across here and get involved in the threads that you might have more luck with the sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In order of difficulty it goes fabs dating apps real life

If one isn’t working, do the other one

If it works in real life then it isn’t your fault online

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's 'soul destroying' because men allow it to be. Too many men let women have the control, jump through too many hoops and justify entitled behaviour to get sex. This site would be a lot easier for men if they knew their worth, acknowledged what they bring to the table, only approached people they genuinely feel they match with and didn't let a pair of tits dictate their self esteem. If a website makes you feel bad, it's time to take a break and work on yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's 'soul destroying' because men allow it to be. Too many men let women have the control, jump through too many hoops and justify entitled behaviour to get sex. This site would be a lot easier for men if they knew their worth, acknowledged what they bring to the table, only approached people they genuinely feel they match with and didn't let a pair of tits dictate their self esteem. If a website makes you feel bad, it's time to take a break and work on yourself."

What she said but far more eloquently than I could.

I’m loving my fab time.

Or maybe I don’t have a soul to be destroyed.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT


"It's 'soul destroying' because men allow it to be. Too many men let women have the control, jump through too many hoops and justify entitled behaviour to get sex. This site would be a lot easier for men if they knew their worth, acknowledged what they bring to the table, only approached people they genuinely feel they match with and didn't let a pair of tits dictate their self esteem. If a website makes you feel bad, it's time to take a break and work on yourself."

Never a truer word spoken

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"It's 'soul destroying' because men allow it to be. Too many men let women have the control, jump through too many hoops and justify entitled behaviour to get sex. This site would be a lot easier for men if they knew their worth, acknowledged what they bring to the table, only approached people they genuinely feel they match with and didn't let a pair of tits dictate their self esteem. If a website makes you feel bad, it's time to take a break and work on yourself."

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By *astyfella999Man
over a year ago

newcastle


"Hi all hope you're all well,I can't be alone here or can I when I come to the realization that this site along with dating sites are just soul destroying,I don't by any stretch of the imagination thing I look like a Greek god,but on the other hand I don't think I look like the back end of a bus,you just can't win on here these days or the dating sites unless you've got the full package and by that I mean the Instagram body "

You’re so right. Iv been on here 10 years. And not even close to meeting anyone God I’m surly at that ugly

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By *enSiskoMan
over a year ago

Cestus 3


"It's 'soul destroying' because men allow it to be. Too many men let women have the control, jump through too many hoops and justify entitled behaviour to get sex. This site would be a lot easier for men if they knew their worth, acknowledged what they bring to the table, only approached people they genuinely feel they match with and didn't let a pair of tits dictate their self esteem. If a website makes you feel bad, it's time to take a break and work on yourself."

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By *Cups32Woman
over a year ago

Colne

I'm on both dating sites and here and it's more frustrating than soul destroying for me as dating has changed so much.

Back in 2014, I could go on a date every week, sometimes multiple. Now, I've had 3 dates this year. I recently got asked on a date after really hitting it off with the guy, only to be ghosted 24 hrs later. I currently have 174 matches on Tinder and none of them have potential to turn into dates - yes I do message first only to get unmatched or ignored.

Fab however is a different story... I can get can get meets like I could get dates back in 2014.

It is what it is. Fab fills the void until something more permanent comes along.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"It's 'soul destroying' because men allow it to be. Too many men let women have the control, jump through too many hoops and justify entitled behaviour to get sex. This site would be a lot easier for men if they knew their worth, acknowledged what they bring to the table, only approached people they genuinely feel they match with and didn't let a pair of tits dictate their self esteem. If a website makes you feel bad, it's time to take a break and work on yourself."

Very well said..

Op, just be you..

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Hi all hope you're all well,I can't be alone here or can I when I come to the realization that this site along with dating sites are just soul destroying,I don't by any stretch of the imagination thing I look like a Greek god,but on the other hand I don't think I look like the back end of a bus,you just can't win on here these days or the dating sites unless you've got the full package and by that I mean the Instagram body "

Sorry totally disagree, may women don't care if you have the body of a Greek God, they want personality and conversation, someone to feel comfortable with and obviously attracted too.

Now I can be attracted to most body types as long as the personality is great.

What I hate about here is a lot (not all) men it's all about the cock & body - the here's my cock sit on it attitude stinks hardly makes me wanna drop my knickers.

Mrs

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

It's only "soul destroying" if you allow it to be. I guess both here and on dating sites there are more men then women. Therefore, you do have to stand out, one way or another. Some rely on looks, others put effort into their profiles, get out in real life, attend socials or events.

But also, OP, look at it from the woman's point of view. How am I supposed to know whether I am interested in the person when all their profile is saying "here to meet x, y, z", "looking to explore" or similar, with absolutely zero personality? I'd rather just move on to someone who has made an effort, put some info in their profile, something that shows me we may have something in common.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

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By *ecretescapeCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

Knowing an amazing single 39 year old man on here who has amassed 14 incredible verfications in 8 months I have to disagree.He does not even have a six pack/Instagram bod.The OP's profile is completely dull and shows no effort and would be an instant no from me.

The man I met wrote me a brilliant respectful first message and his profile is excellent.

I love the fact that men have to make an effort here rather than relying on looks.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think fab and dating sites give an unrealistic view of the number of people you're likely to be compatible with. Pre internet you'd go out for the evening and maybe spot one or two people you liked the look of. Chances were they'd both be uninterested but you'd be with friends who could soften the blow. On the net you're faced with tens or even hundreds of seemingly compatible people, your sole purpose is to link up with them and you're probably on your own while surfing. No mate to buy you a consoling beer and chat to. In short meeting potential partners wasn't the sole purpose of a night out or any social situation usually you weren't alone , now it seems to be a solo occupation and any rejection has to be dealt with in your own. The entire purpose of being on certain web sites is to meet someone and if you don't you feel you've failed.

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By *ecretescapeCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

Oh and what I want is that to feel special(like he chose me for a reason) and respected, even though it's "only" a sex site.

Its literally the most intimate thing we do with someone!!!!

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By *ecretescapeCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire


"It's 'soul destroying' because men allow it to be. Too many men let women have the control, jump through too many hoops and justify entitled behaviour to get sex. This site would be a lot easier for men if they knew their worth, acknowledged what they bring to the table, only approached people they genuinely feel they match with and didn't let a pair of tits dictate their self esteem. If a website makes you feel bad, it's time to take a break and work on yourself.

Very well said..

Op, just be you.. "

And continue to get no meets

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"Knowing an amazing single 39 year old man on here who has amassed 14 incredible verfications in 8 months I have to disagree.He does not even have a six pack/Instagram bod.The OP's profile is completely dull and shows no effort and would be an instant no from me.

The man I met wrote me a brilliant respectful first message and his profile is excellent.

I love the fact that men have to make an effort here rather than relying on looks."

He's been on here for 3 months, so his profile regardless that he wasn't asking for it to be critiqued can be worked on..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer clubs and socials now ,I just cannot be bothered with trying to arrange private meets using fab solely for that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met Mrs on Tinder about 18 months ago and definitely don't have the gym fit body.

Perseverance and being in it for the long game is key. I believe there's someone out there for everyone.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

You need to chat in the forums and cam room.s Get noticed that way is probably best. Women and couples get a lot of messages daily and cannot deal with them all. Good luck op!

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"Hi all hope you're all well,I can't be alone here or can I when I come to the realization that this site along with dating sites are just soul destroying,I don't by any stretch of the imagination thing I look like a Greek god,but on the other hand I don't think I look like the back end of a bus,you just can't win on here these days or the dating sites unless you've got the full package and by that I mean the Instagram body "

That’s really not true on the full package and Instagram body - I’m living proof. But confused as you have a good recent veri from a social so you’ve got somewhere - more than many - and that will help meeting others. Do you think your profile is doing you justice? Perhaps your negative mind set is coming across in messages?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd also agree with a little bit of work on your profile mate. It tell me little about what you're looking for or what you can bring the table. Not being critical, just some friendly advice. Mr

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria

I think sometimes people forget that when they engage with a profile on fab or a dating site it’s not a computer game, there is a real person on n the other end. Talk to people as you would in a cafe or a supermarket, rather than a brothel. The way we meet people has changed really dramatically but the people haven’t, they still want to feel special, to be treated with kindness and respect, and to have that spark.

You wouldn’t walk up to someone in a cafe, say “fancy a fuck?” and expect them to react well to it, so why would they do so on the internet?

Mr DD

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By *rs Butterfly.Woman
over a year ago

Never NeverLand


"I think sometimes people forget that when they engage with a profile on fab or a dating site it’s not a computer game, there is a real person on n the other end. Talk to people as you would in a cafe or a supermarket, rather than a brothel. The way we meet people has changed really dramatically but the people haven’t, they still want to feel special, to be treated with kindness and respect, and to have that spark.

You wouldn’t walk up to someone in a cafe, say “fancy a fuck?” and expect them to react well to it, so why would they do so on the internet?

Mr DD"

Totally agree.I find it amazing the messages I get from men expecting a response.

If message consist of more that 5 words its a miracle.

If that's what's you say to a person in a bar then you will get nowhere with me.

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