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By *tsMyPleasure. OP   Man
over a year ago

near Stirling

Having been around a while, I remember when Fab was a relatively polite and respectful place and people wanted to get to know each other before progressing to the bedroom. Recently I feel that it’s mainly either time wasters, fake profiles or people wanting quick and meaningless sex.

Does anyone still do things the old way, or am I the last of a dying breed?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Think there's plenty of people who like a social first

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By *tsMyPleasure. OP   Man
over a year ago

near Stirling

There certainly used to be - they seem to be few and far between these days. Up here, at any rate!

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By *evoncouple4funCouple
over a year ago

Near Andover

Think you are probably right

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By *red and daphneCouple
over a year ago

in the middle

We're all about the social, if there's no 'click' then we don't take it any further than friendship.

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By *agnar73Man
over a year ago

glasgow-ish

A coffee and a chat would be welcome, it is what it is though and can only keep trying.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

It's stated very clearly in my profile that I insist on a social.

Anyone seeking to bypass that or feel that it doesn't apply to them can move along.

There are many people on here who don't meet without a social first.

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By *tsMyPleasure. OP   Man
over a year ago

near Stirling


"We're all about the social, if there's no 'click' then we don't take it any further than friendship."

Yes, that’s partly what I mean. There has to be some interest there on a physical or cerebral level to make the sex worthwhile for me, but even if there’s no sexual attraction it doesn’t mean that we can’t be friends. It would be nice to get to know more people in the swinging scene, regardless of whether it’s going to lead to more or not!

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Part of a dying breed like us !! and just a sex site nowadays where no one seems to have sex though ?? going by our local updates ( all great and excited friday/saturday BUT come sunday/monday ) and full of lots and lots of promises of free sex on a plate ? but as you say mostly fake/timewasters or couples where the fem has no idea she's on here arranging to meet up ( but her hubby/partner is wanking himself blind at the thought of ??) all rather sad really xxx

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I wouldn't meet anybody who doesn't do a social first.

I the past I've had people try and get me to meet without one, I always stopped chatting then.

I like them both for my safety & so we can see if there's a mutual attraction and connection.

It would pretty damn awkward to meet to get straight to it and find there's not enough attraction on one side.

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By *red and daphneCouple
over a year ago

in the middle


"We're all about the social, if there's no 'click' then we don't take it any further than friendship.

Yes, that’s partly what I mean. There has to be some interest there on a physical or cerebral level to make the sex worthwhile for me, but even if there’s no sexual attraction it doesn’t mean that we can’t be friends. It would be nice to get to know more people in the swinging scene, regardless of whether it’s going to lead to more or not!"

This

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Give me the quick and meaningless sex any day

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I only do social. I’m doing it allllll wrong

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By *eronicaExplorerWoman
over a year ago

London

I feel the same, like the last dinosaur here.

Even when somebody agrees to a social, suggests it should happen in the bar of the hotel with the room key in his pocket.

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By *eronicaExplorerWoman
over a year ago

London


" Part of a dying breed like us !! and just a sex site nowadays where no one seems to have sex though ?? going by our local updates ( all great and exciting Friday/Saturday BUT come Sunday/Monday) and full of lots and lots of promises of free sex on a plate? but as you say mostly fake/timewasters or couples where the fem has no idea she's on here arranging to meet up ( but her hubby/partner is wanking himself blind at the thought of ??) all rather sad xxx "

So true. A few hubbies have written to me faking they are their wives.

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By *tephanie63Woman
over a year ago

BRIDGWATER

I like a nice social... I have to be attracted to the person to have sex..and visa Versa....x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I only do social first. Look someone in the eye and confirm they're probably not an axe murderer first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like a nice social... I have to be attracted to the person to have sex..and visa Versa....x"

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Allways a social first x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a social only just yesterday, it was brilliant.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Always socials 1st here.

Catfished on our 1st meet taught us some valuable lessons.

Plus i struggle to gauge via text if I'm into someone or not I need a face and personality.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always social first. If they start hinting that something sexual might happen on the social I just cancel it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always felt like I was born in the wrong era, now I feel like I missed the good part of fab.

Love a social first but finding guys don't want to do that and want to cut to the chase instead and not even have a conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always socials 1st here.

Catfished on our 1st meet taught us some valuable lessons.

Plus i struggle to gauge via text if I'm into someone or not I need a face and personality.

Mrs "

Same. Social within a couple of weeks chatting, no point wasting time chatting for ages if we don't get on in person.

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By *hristopherd999Man
over a year ago

Brentwood

I'd rather have a social first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it would have to be a social meet in the first instance. That's when it'll be completely apparent if there's a definite chemistry between myself and the other person to determine if its going to go any further. If not, hopefully nice chat +/- making a new friend

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By *teve691000Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

For me a social is very important, need to see if there is mutual attraction etc. then take it from there.

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

Cant arrange a social meet with anyone when people are not interested

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Social please, even at a club there's an element of social interaction before anything else

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By *ixiePoisonWoman
over a year ago

Darlington

I insist on a social first..

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By *teve691000Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

If there’s no zing there definitely won’t be any zang

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Always social first, no exceptions, and always as soon as possible, even if only for a quick coffee to see if there’s mutual attraction.

Works very well for me so far.

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By *errocaWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire

Social meet always... Now matter how much you chat or how many pics you see, it's not until you've met in the flesh, that you know if there's chemistry and you want to actually get naked.

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By *iftyshadesofbrownMan
over a year ago

coventry

Personally I like having a social meet, I see it as important that I’m compatible with the other person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've given up on private meets now .

I'm only intersted in coming across people at my local club, so much easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first always for me too.

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

We prefer a social unless we meet at a club & even then we have decent conversation in advance

J x

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent


"I feel the same, like the last dinosaur here.

Even when somebody agrees to a social, suggests it should happen in the bar of the hotel with the room key in his pocket. "

You’re not the last dinosaur. Wether as a couple or singles, social meets are very much part of the journey for us, with no expectations of anything to follow x

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I always social first, I wouldn't feel safe going straight in for a meet.

People can often be very different in real life from messages and it sometimes takes me a minute to make my mind up about them.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"I feel the same, like the last dinosaur here.

Even when somebody agrees to a social, suggests it should happen in the bar of the hotel with the room key in his pocket. "

Or in their car...

Or they try and invite themselves round after

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By *OMKRAVMan
over a year ago

Stockport

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By *OMKRAVMan
over a year ago

Stockport

It's bitter sweet as a newbie to read this thread. I've only been meeting in clubs since I started as I like the chemistry too much. I'm also old skool in the sense I prefer phone calls than messages. Barely knowing their name makes it feel too much like a transaction. I would like to see more social events in the North West for the same reasons you've already said. No social, no point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often think I’d love a social at lunch in the city etc. never happens. I think soo much choice leads to last minute change of plans / better offers. But then I see lots of fakes / let downs etc.

Not sure I know the answer.. but I would have thought socials would have been easier.

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By *tsMyPleasure. OP   Man
over a year ago

near Stirling


"I only do social first. Look someone in the eye and confirm they're probably not an axe murderer first "

“Probably” lol

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By *tsMyPleasure. OP   Man
over a year ago

near Stirling


"Always socials 1st here.

Catfished on our 1st meet taught us some valuable lessons.

Plus i struggle to gauge via text if I'm into someone or not I need a face and personality.

Mrs "

Exactly - if there’s no personality there, then things aren’t really going to go very far!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social meet ALL THE TIME

I've had some horrible experiences and thank feck I met em socially on neutr ground Before they knew where live., Or get into an awkward predicament at their place

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By *tsMyPleasure. OP   Man
over a year ago

near Stirling


"I've always felt like I was born in the wrong era, now I feel like I missed the good part of fab.

Love a social first but finding guys don't want to do that and want to cut to the chase instead and not even have a conversation."

Totally, and it’s a shame that you missed out on how things used to be. It’s changed a lot since then, and just because you meet someone e doesn’t mean that it HAS to lead to sex. You can still have a great time with someone without wanting to jump into bed with them!

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By *tsMyPleasure. OP   Man
over a year ago

near Stirling


"Social meet always... Now matter how much you chat or how many pics you see, it's not until you've met in the flesh, that you know if there's chemistry and you want to actually get naked."

Yes - but you can still get on well with someone socially and want to see them again, without necessarily wanting to get physical?

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By *hortishblondeWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"Social meet always... Now matter how much you chat or how many pics you see, it's not until you've met in the flesh, that you know if there's chemistry and you want to actually get naked.

Yes - but you can still get on well with someone socially and want to see them again, without necessarily wanting to get physical?"

So true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't meet with out a social first but then I'm not into one offs

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

I always have a social first OP. And I never rush around for anyone

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By *tsMyPleasure. OP   Man
over a year ago

near Stirling


"I always have a social first OP. And I never rush around for anyone "

Glad to hear it!

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By *evonNewbiesCouple
over a year ago

Paignton

We are definitely a social first couple. Love getting to know another couple and also enjoy a cocktail so win win lol x

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By *andyman4uanddiscreetMan
over a year ago

oxford

Yes too many fakes and fantasists on here i have posted many social only meets with no expectations just to chat and meet like minded adults to no avail

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By *neforutoMan
over a year ago

Fantasy land in the SW

When I first started on this scene in my 20's, seems so long ago now, the social was very much expected and the attraction was either there or not. I find on here, as a married guy playing alone, the odds are doubly stacked against me an doffering for a social first leads to me being blocked (or maybe Im just a minger ). In short its a social for me first and then you can ask me anything you want

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By *olf and RedCouple
over a year ago

Nr Cardiff or at Chams Darlaston

We like a social first. We’ve been enjoying going to large organised social events recently. We have a good time and have made some good friends that way.

Red

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

Guess Im too ugly for women why they dont want to even meet me for dinner and drinks

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