FabSwingers.com forum: Do I stay or do I go?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have owned my own conpany worked for myself for many years since leaving the military and I'm knackered.

Is life easier just working for someone else? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope!!!

Stay your own boss ......... much much easier

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon

Yes I think it's easier to work for someone else. At the end of the day you can go home and forget about work until the next day. When you have your own business is so hard to switch off.

But...how can you go back to working for someone else when you've been your own boss, I know I couldn't.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

was self emplyed since leaving school an its bloody hard work. iv since worked for a company for the last 13/14 yrs an yes its easyer ie if its what you want leave your brain in a box out side on the way in but by feck the bosses are knobs to the highest level. its a case of pros an cons mate an if you can deal with not being your own boss. best of luck mate

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nope!!!

Stay your own boss ......... much much easier

Is it? I've never worked "for someone" and get offers every week. A total stress free existence sounds pretty appealing right now

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By *eal_Dick_TurpinMan
over a year ago

Exeter

"I have owned my own conpany worked for myself for many years since leaving the military and I'm knackered.

Is life easier just working for someone else? X"

Actually, having BEEN self employed / run your own company is one of the absolute WORST things you can put on a CV for an employer... re-write it as "contracting for Acme Ltd" and not owned and operated Acme Ltd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Given the choice I'd work for myself, at least then I would only have my rules and standards to work to instead of other peoples. Which in my case drives me mad as I feel I cannot do my job because of their restrictions or refusal to change but then it is a much bigger machine than just a small company.

If you can find the right place with the right pay and you can adapt to their way of working .... excellent then go for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have someone telling me what to do ? Never !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have owned my own conpany worked for myself for many years since leaving the military and I'm knackered.

Is life easier just working for someone else? X

You used to make Wiley coyotes gadgets? How cools that, weren't the best at catching that fucking smarmy road runner though were they

I do get what you mean

I'm not actually looking but I get offered a lot and just wondered what it would be like to work for someone else. Pro's and cons sort of thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have owned my own conpany worked for myself for many years since leaving the military and I'm knackered.

Is life easier just working for someone else? X"

Stay your own boss mate, answer to no one but yourself.

Wish I had done it sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im only 24 worked since I was 16 and hate working for other people and always feeling undervalued. I really want to go out and work for my self. Least that way I mite enjoy work more.

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By *ouldyou2Man
over a year ago

west Midlands

"Nope!!!

Stay your own boss ......... much much easier

Is it? I've never worked "for someone" and get offers every week. A total stress free existence sounds pretty appealing right now

x"
oh no it's not stress free esp in sales but if you're good it's recognised and you're left alone !

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

Come and work for me for few weeks, you will soon want to stay self-employed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop moaning and get back to it!!!

Its not always as cut and dry as switching off sometimes work can bug you even if you work for someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You said you was in the military and you've never worked for anyone since so working for a civvy boss is a challenge in itself not to mention you've spent years doing it your way. Itd be a shame to give up on a company you've built yourself, but if its killing you to keep it going then you've got to put your own happiness first. But you don't get rich digging another mans ditch

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By *eal_Dick_TurpinMan
over a year ago

Exeter

You used to make Wiley coyotes gadgets? How cools that, weren't the best at catching that fucking smarmy road runner though were they

lol...

there are however some things you just need to be an employee to learn, for example some of the stuff you learned in the services, no self employed civvy can afford the training.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You said you was in the military and you've never worked for anyone since so working for a civvy boss is a challenge in itself not to mention you've spent years doing it your way. Itd be a shame to give up on a company you've built yourself, but if its killing you to keep it going then you've got to put your own happiness first. But you don't get rich digging another mans ditch "

Your totally right Mr Goodfuck. I very much doubt I could take an order off a mere mortal

but I do wonder if its easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah it would be easier but when your self employed you can pay whatever taxes your creative accountant wants you to and finish early on a friday. I work both do 4 on 4 off and work for myself when I'm off. Iv gotta fund this rock n roll lifestyle somehow ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't work for anybody else, enjoy my lifestyle to much.

MrJD

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yeah it would be easier but when your self employed you can pay whatever taxes your creative accountant wants you to and finish early on a friday. I work both do 4 on 4 off and work for myself when I'm off. Iv gotta fund this rock n roll lifestyle somehow ha"

I INVENTED THE ROCK AND ROLL LIFESTYLE

(if that means being in bed at 9 totally exhausted) Keith Richards has nothing in me. Fact

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I INVENTED THE ROCK AND ROLL LIFESTYLE

(if that means being in bed at 9 totally exhausted) Keith Richards has nothing in me. Fact

In me

. On me (that was meant to say) what is it they call it? A Freudian slip? Hahaha IF YOU'RE IN EAT KEITH IT WAS A TYPO OK

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No its the other one where you stay out till 9pm the following night then spend two days in the foetal position on the couch, crying and saying never again. Minus your wallet, phone and self respect haha

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"Nope!!!

Stay your own boss ......... much much easier

Is it? I've never worked "for someone" and get offers every week. A total stress free existence sounds pretty appealing right now

Stress free?? I wish.....not only my companys board but the parent company's board breathing down our necks daily telling us how to do our jobs better than we are despite meeting each and every single target we are set.

And always with the threat of redundancy hanging over us.....

Stress free exists possibly but might suggest that comes without some of the trappings....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No its the other one where you stay out till 9pm the following night then spend two days in the foetal position on the couch, crying and saying never again. Minus your wallet, phone and self respect haha"

I HAVE NO SELF RESPECT

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its over rated anyways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have owned my own conpany worked for myself for many years since leaving the military and I'm knackered.

Is life easier just working for someone else? X"

I'm in the same situation I'm a joiner and work for myself. And it just feels like I'm grafting my bollocks off for nothing!! Dealing with customers that think I can just wait weeks for my money. I normally have a few grand float to keep me going but that's dissapeard. I'd be better off flogging my van and tools and getting a job stacking shelves in tesco...seriously. At least you'd get holiday pay maybe a company van/car tax and ni paid for so you doing have a big bill at the end of the year. I know I've seriously lost heart with it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have owned my own conpany worked for myself for many years since leaving the military and I'm knackered.

Is life easier just working for someone else? X

It's super tough working for yourself but really doubt I'd get any satisfaction from working for someone else. It does grind you down but for me being my own man is worth the hardship if that makes sense. Nothing wrong with stacking shelve in tesco but if you've worked hard to get your trade and clients then that's sonething to be applauded and proud of I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have owned my own conpany worked for myself for many years since leaving the military and I'm knackered.

Is life easier just working for someone else? X"

If you are something like a window cleaner it won't make a lot of difference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah well thanks I appreciate that. I suppose We don't have to answer to anybody and please our selves. I'm just having doubts wether it's worth the stress. I don't even want to be rich, I just want to be comfortable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have owned my own conpany worked for myself for many years since leaving the military and I'm knackered.

Is life easier just working for someone else? X"

The grass is always greener !!!!!! Or not as I found out....

Worked for myself for years and seemed to be wearing me down so sold out to a larger companie.......

Worked just as hard, as many hours and still ended up stressing about it because I wanted to give the same service I alwas had !!!!

but it was all to line someone else's pocket!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Working for myself again much happier

Ps, having someone as a boss is very hard if you have worked for yourself ......

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ah well thanks I appreciate that. I suppose We don't have to answer to anybody and please our selves. I'm just having doubts wether it's worth the stress. I don't even want to be rich, I just want to be comfortable"

I am a firm believer that if you work hard it will come together sooner or later. You just gotta grin and bear the stress and concerntrate on upsides I suppose. Chin up chippy dude

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have owned my own conpany worked for myself for many years since leaving the military and I'm knackered.

Is life easier just working for someone else? X

The grass is always greener !!!!!! Or not as I found out....

Worked for myself for years and seemed to be wearing me down so sold out to a larger companie.......

Worked just as hard, as many hours and still ended up stressing about it because I wanted to give the same service I alwas had !!!!

but it was all to line someone else's pocket!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Working for myself again much happier

Ps, having someone as a boss is very hard if you have worked for yourself ......

I think you're totally right. I very much doubt I could handle having a boss. I need to actually think about this ( which is strange as I'm not renouned for my in depth thinking of anything)

thanks for advice though.

Annnnd great beard, I have the beard envy about that fine specimen

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Working for someone else is of course a lot easier, you must surely know that your working day as an owner of a company rarely ends when you leave your workplace.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My day has been going on for years and never seems to end xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You used to make Wiley coyotes gadgets? How cools that, weren't the best at catching that fucking smarmy road runner though were they

Its quite sad that Wile E is best remembered for failing to catch road runner and not his brilliantly realistic paintings of tunnels.

I've been self employed for 25 years. Not only wouldn't I work for someone else, I couldn't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You used to make Wiley coyotes gadgets? How cools that, weren't the best at catching that fucking smarmy road runner though were they

Its quite sad that Wile E is best remembered for failing to catch road runner and not his brilliantly realistic paintings of tunnels.

I've been self employed for 25 years. Not only wouldn't I work for someone else, I couldn't."

Don't forget his hole in the ground renderings. I personally that was some of his finest work

I'm coming round to the thinking I couldn't have a boss either xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having worked for others for 25 years I've decided to work for myself and in the process of setting up my own business

The motivation is to get the rewards for all my hard work and get away from office politics and bosses who take credit for my efforts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess it depends on the other options really. I'm self employed but before that I worked for a big company, in that job I was never able to switch off when leaving work so the fact I can't now doesn't bother me really. Yeah I work a stupid amount of hours a week and turn out taking calls and writing emails when I shouldn't be working but at least I can make myself believe its on my own terms not for someone else.

I do the odd contract where I technically work for someone else but I don't think I'd be able to go back to working for someone else full time.

Only you can decide what's best, but whenever I've been in a position like yourself I've always talked it over with as many other people I can (well those who I respect the opinion of) as they can often put a different spin on things.

Good luck with whatever you decide x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Having worked for others for 25 years I've decided to work for myself and in the process of setting up my own business

The motivation is to get the rewards for all my hard work and get away from office politics and bosses who take credit for my efforts "

Good luck me old shipmate

i really mean that. It takes balls like balloons to do what your doing. Hope it goes well for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I guess it depends on the other options really. I'm self employed but before that I worked for a big company, in that job I was never able to switch off when leaving work so the fact I can't now doesn't bother me really. Yeah I work a stupid amount of hours a week and turn out taking calls and writing emails when I shouldn't be working but at least I can make myself believe its on my own terms not for someone else.

I do the odd contract where I technically work for someone else but I don't think I'd be able to go back to working for someone else full time.

Good luck with whatever you decide x "

Thank you Ma'am

I think it was just a bad day and a long few months and a job offer this morning that got me thinking about it. But I know I'm to supercool to work for some bellend I wouldn't be able to respect. I'd be sacked within a week. Fact

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Could you do both for a while to test the ground? Take on one of the offers as a contract for 9 months to a year?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Could you do both for a while to test the ground? Take on one of the offers as a contract for 9 months to a year?"

I already sort of do. I take on short term contracts with a few companies. (These are the ones that want me to work solely for them ) It means I'm a lot busier as I'll have more than one job in multiple countries running at the same time. If I took a "job" then I'd have a lot more time to myself. Not sure that made any sense lol

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Could you do both for a while to test the ground? Take on one of the offers as a contract for 9 months to a year?

Do you have staff to pick up on some of the other jobs? Clients may want you but they would also want to know that they won't be left in the lurch if anything happened to you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being self employed ,running your own business is harder but more rewarding.

My advise to you is do what earns you most and is easiest to do.

Try getting a happy medium .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was self employed for about 7 years then decided to take employment with the company to which I'd previously been a sub-contractor.

I managed 12 months and guess what ?

I'm self employed again but sub-contracting to the same company.

I took very badly with not having the freedom to come and go as I pleased. I thought I'd get used to it but I never did, so self employed it is for me

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Is life easier just working for someone else? X"

Depends on the job and who you work for.

I have started my own business, and after a lot of investment and hard work, it is slowly starting to starting to pay off.

Independence is a key factor in the long run.

Effort and hard work usually yield rewards that you cannot expect when toiling for someone else's benefit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess it depends on how much you like what you do.

i'm self employed, absoloutely love what i do and all the stresses, headaches etc are all worth it because i'm passionate about what i do, so the good outweighs the bad.

But if the headaches and stress mean you don't enjoy it, maybe it is time for a change, not neccesarily the self employed bit, but the work you do??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all the great advice guys

and it's really good to see so many of you making a go of it for yourselves. It's not easy and mucho respect to each and every one of you.

Today was just a blip, with thoughts of is the grass greener.

But my world conquering empire will continue with me at the helm

God bless her and all that sails in her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been too busy in work to give my two penny worth, but do what makes you happy.

Nice tats by the way... Yes I perved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think it is easier to work for someone else as in this current economic climate most employers have adopted the 'victorian workhouse' mentality and treat their staff accordingly.I work for a Charity and theres no Charity shown to us employees!

Be proud of all you've achieved and dont give it up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have owned my own conpany worked for myself for many years since leaving the military and I'm knackered.

Is life easier just working for someone else? X

The grass is always greener !!!!!! Or not as I found out....

Worked for myself for years and seemed to be wearing me down so sold out to a larger companie.......

Worked just as hard, as many hours and still ended up stressing about it because I wanted to give the same service I alwas had !!!!

but it was all to line someone else's pocket!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Working for myself again much happier

Ps, having someone as a boss is very hard if you have worked for yourself ......

I think you're totally right. I very much doubt I could handle having a boss. I need to actually think about this ( which is strange as I'm not renouned for my in depth thinking of anything)

thanks for advice though.

Annnnd great beard, I have the beard envy about that fine specimen

never had beard envy, thanks

Lots of good advice on here..only you can make the decision ! Good luck x

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

work for yourself please yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have owned my own conpany worked for myself for many years since leaving the military and I'm knackered.

Is life easier just working for someone else? X"

Only downside to being your own boss, is when you call in sick you know you are lying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have owned my own conpany worked for myself for many years since leaving the military and I'm knackered.

Is life easier just working for someone else? X"

The trick is to raise your charges if you are in demand. Enabling you to work less and control demand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have owned my own conpany worked for myself for many years since leaving the military and I'm knackered.

Is life easier just working for someone else? X

It's your own fault. Deal with it, put measures in place. 50% halfway through and the other on completion. Stick to it and if they don't like it don't deal with them. If you are good it won't hurt your business.

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