FabSwingers.com forum: Sex lives of the normal folk...

By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

When it comes to sex, are you quite a private person?

Would you happily discuss with anyone the more... intimate details of what you're into? Who you've met etc?

Are there some conversations you'll only have with people once that connection is made or are you happy to work out sexual compatibility quite early on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely there are some things I wouldn’t discuss with “normal” friends. Maybe drop a few hints after a few drinks and see reactions.

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By *ickedwillyCouple
over a year ago

Bangor

With close friends we do share some of our sexual desires.

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

I can be both private and open. It really just depends on who I am talking to and what I'm willing to share with them

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I don't really discuss sex with anyone...even the people I do it with. I don't see a need

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I wouldn't discuss my sex life with anyone other than on here. It's none of their business and talking about sex apart from here bores me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never discuss my intimate life with friends. I'm considered the most private person actually

We do discuss sexual things, but it's only general comments/innuendos from me

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I don't like it when a complete stranger asks me very personal questions but once we have got to know each other then I'm very open. With my fwbs I'm as open as they want me to be. Some love hearing about all my adventures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never discuss my intimate life with friends. I'm considered the most private person actually

We do discuss sexual things, but it's only general comments/innuendos from me

We both have open conversations with potential meets on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Noooo, definitely not. The only people I talk to are family, and they certainly do not need to know my ‘ins n outs’

I’ll discuss openly here though.

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By *ake_or_deathMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"When it comes to sex, are you quite a private person?

Would you happily discuss with anyone the more... intimate details of what you're into? Who you've met etc?

Are there some conversations you'll only have with people once that connection is made or are you happy to work out sexual compatibility quite early on?"

My 'normal folk' friends don't know I'm on here or indeed any info about my sex life - as far as they are concerned I could be utterly celibate.

Then I have friends who are themselves very open sexually and they tend to know a little more about me - maybe not details of what I'm into but that I'm open to casual sex and when I'm getting it. I might tell them a few details but only because they don't know the person I'm talking about - I wouldn't tell them things about mutual acquaintances.

Then there are the friends who I have had sex with in the past. A number of my friends are women I met through dating, we slept together a few times, had fun, but decided to go platonic. Obviously they know more about my tastes and what I'm into.

Overall I'm quite a shy, private person and it takes a lot for me to totally open up to someone about my sexual desires. It only tends to happen with people who make me feel very comfortable. Those people are relatively rare and I am grateful for and to them for giving me the chance to express myself fully as a rounded, sexual being.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I don't have any interest in someone else's love life and I'm pretty sure they have no interest 8b mine. Most people have sex

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

I just circulate the rumours of my sex life, it makes me seem more weird and interesting.

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By *esafinadOHolyNightMan
over a year ago

Belfast

No no no, this is for me and me alone. My friends and family know that I'm single, they need know nothing more than that. Sometimes they try to set me up, "you've been single too long and I know the perfect woman". I have to deflect and say it's just not the right time in my life to find someone. I'll settle again eventually but no plans to anytime soon.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Definitely there are some things I wouldn’t discuss with “normal” friends. Maybe drop a few hints after a few drinks and see reactions.

Yes, normal friends I can understand. Family. But on Fab in particular, are there differing levels of openness?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dropped in a remark about being airtight on Saturday and it just sailed through

there was an hilarious throwaway comment someone made about sucking a frube yogurt on a hike a while that spread hysteria amongst the group

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

It depends. Either it naturally emerges in the flow of conversation or it is requested.

It's not something I usually open a conversation with. E.g. Good morning, how are you doing? I'd love to belt your arse. Did you take your hamster to the vet?

Maybe though: depends on the dynamic we have established.

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By *ake_or_deathMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Definitely there are some things I wouldn’t discuss with “normal” friends. Maybe drop a few hints after a few drinks and see reactions.

Yes, normal friends I can understand. Family. But on Fab in particular, are there differing levels of openness?"

For me there is. I've been a little more open on the forums this weekend about a couple of things, but there was one thing I mentioned almost in passing that I'm really into, and you wouldn't realise how into it I am unless we were having a private conversation with you and I felt comfortable enough to tell you.

Also I don't discuss who I'm chatting to or have met without their permission (or if they'd written me a veri) as that's not entirely my story to tell and I respect their privacy.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I don't really discuss sex with anyone...even the people I do it with. I don't see a need "

Ah that's fair enough! I don't think it has to be discussed, it depends on how people view it. No right or wrong really with regards to that.

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By *iFunMale_southMan
over a year ago

Reading

It's why I enjoy chatting on fab. You can talk about your secrets...

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I don't like it when a complete stranger asks me very personal questions but once we have got to know each other then I'm very open. With my fwbs I'm as open as they want me to be. Some love hearing about all my adventures."

Yes. Strangers are a big no for me. I don't really receive many (like maybe a couple every few months or so) asking what I'm in to etc. I think once there's that dynamic in place it's slightly different. I'm happy talking about some things on the fora. Others I'd say I actively avoid discussing unless I have that dynamic. It's an interesting one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, I'm a colossal prude. There, I said it. On a forum for sex people.

My ex sister-in-law would occasionally try to talk to me about what she gets up to with her husband (apparently that's what female friends do!) and I'd turn inside out with embarrasment.

My close friends are aware I've been here on and off for 8 years, but they know no more than that. The only people I like talking about sex with are the ones I'm doing it on.

Nell

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I just circulate the rumours of my sex life, it makes me seem more weird and interesting.

Interesting? Naaaah.

You are weird though.

Ohhhhh. Dusk... it could be time for the sequel in a few weeks! That's a rather thrilling prospect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have normal friends for this exact reason. All of my friends know about my private life. Most have probably seen me being fucked.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've never had a conversation with friends about their sex lives or mine. It's not a subject that is open for discussion.

On here I don't discuss it with people I've never met and anyone starting those conversations are not on the same wavelength so I well let those chats fizzle out.

I don't even join threads asking for likes and dislikes because it's no one's business apart from mine and anyone I'm meeting sexually.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"I dropped in a remark about being airtight on Saturday and it just sailed through

This made me giggle more than it probably should have.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"When it comes to sex, are you quite a private person?

Would you happily discuss with anyone the more... intimate details of what you're into? Who you've met etc?

Are there some conversations you'll only have with people once that connection is made or are you happy to work out sexual compatibility quite early on?"
Yes i discuss it with my partner but its not an often thing, you are either horny or not and when you're horny its the doing that counts

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I am with some of my friends, generally the ones I've had since school. We will discuss sex perhaps not all the details but am open on the vanilla side. It's good I think, we've all at some time or another asked the is it normal....

The last conversation was from a friend who'd just come out of a long term relationship about vibrators. As her ex wouldn't allow her one, needless to say the majority of us said we owned ones and used them with our partners. And we all suggested she should get to know her own body and how it ticks.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Nope, I'm a colossal prude. There, I said it. On a forum for sex people.

My ex sister-in-law would occasionally try to talk to me about what she gets up to with her husband (apparently that's what female friends do!) and I'd turn inside out with embarrasment.

My close friends are aware I've been here on and off for 8 years, but they know no more than that. The only people I like talking about sex with are the ones I'm doing it on.

Nell"

You're not a prude Nell! Far from it. You know what you're comfortable with and what you're not. I don't even think it's about comfort levels. It's more, that's who you are.

I do have to refrain from giving you a second by second recount of things but that's okay. You don't need to hear about my quim in such a graphic way. We can still be friends.

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By *apybarasCouple
over a year ago

High Lighthouse!

I see no reason not to be open about what is an important part of who I am. However, it's very much a time, place and mood thing.

I don't often chat to the lady in Gregg's about it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope, I'm a colossal prude. There, I said it. On a forum for sex people.

My ex sister-in-law would occasionally try to talk to me about what she gets up to with her husband (apparently that's what female friends do!) and I'd turn inside out with embarrasment.

My close friends are aware I've been here on and off for 8 years, but they know no more than that. The only people I like talking about sex with are the ones I'm doing it on.

Nell

You're not a prude Nell! Far from it. You know what you're comfortable with and what you're not. I don't even think it's about comfort levels. It's more, that's who you are.

I do have to refrain from giving you a second by second recount of things but that's okay. You don't need to hear about my quim in such a graphic way. We can still be friends.

Oh, I know I'm not a prude when it comes to doing the sex stuff. I just get all flustered and pearl-clutchy when people I'm NOT having sex with start reeling off the graphic details of their most recent finger-blasting in the back of a Ford Cortina from Derek who lives down the road.

Anyways, I'm glad we can still be friends

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Transsexual Transylvania

Oh god no! I don't discuss any details of my sex life with people (fab is different - there's a level of abstraction).

It's just not their business.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"It depends. Either it naturally emerges in the flow of conversation or it is requested.

It's not something I usually open a conversation with. E.g. Good morning, how are you doing? I'd love to belt your arse. Did you take your hamster to the vet?

Maybe though: depends on the dynamic we have established."

I really don't know why you wouldn't open a conversation like that. You're clearly not living Hans.

Yes, organic emergence is great isn't it? I kind of clam up when it feels expected, I like it when it's more free-flowing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m in a relatively knew situation with this. I’m not long out of a long term relationship (over 10 years) where sex was pretty much non-existent so talking about it wasn’t something I’d do.

I’ve made a new connection with someone and it’s on fire. I’ve been able to explore my long held kink desires. We’ve talked about it so much to set boundaries, safe-words and things we’d like to try. It’s such a healthy place to be and I feel free. I’ve started to talk to a couple of friends about it all. I’m still cautious and mindful of what people might and might not want to hear though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

New not knew

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By *ilBWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

"Nope, I'm a colossal prude. There, I said it. On a forum for sex people.

My ex sister-in-law would occasionally try to talk to me about what she gets up to with her husband (apparently that's what female friends do!) and I'd turn inside out with embarrasment.

My close friends are aware I've been here on and off for 8 years, but they know no more than that. The only people I like talking about sex with are the ones I'm doing it on.

Nell

You're not a prude Nell! Far from it. You know what you're comfortable with and what you're not. I don't even think it's about comfort levels. It's more, that's who you are.

I do have to refrain from giving you a second by second recount of things but that's okay. You don't need to hear about my quim in such a graphic way. We can still be friends.

Anyways, I'm glad we can still be friends

Incoming message about my latest finger blasting.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

There are no normal folk. They are all fucked up like the rest of us

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Oooo ney, ney and thrice ney; I’m a very private person.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

"There are no normal folk. They are all fucked up like the rest of us"

You ok Hun?

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

"Nope, I'm a colossal prude. There, I said it. On a forum for sex people.

My ex sister-in-law would occasionally try to talk to me about what she gets up to with her husband (apparently that's what female friends do!) and I'd turn inside out with embarrasment.

My close friends are aware I've been here on and off for 8 years, but they know no more than that. The only people I like talking about sex with are the ones I'm doing it on.

Nell

You're not a prude Nell! Far from it. You know what you're comfortable with and what you're not. I don't even think it's about comfort levels. It's more, that's who you are.

I do have to refrain from giving you a second by second recount of things but that's okay. You don't need to hear about my quim in such a graphic way. We can still be friends.

Anyways, I'm glad we can still be friends

Incoming message about my latest finger blasting. "

Damn your latest snap is distracting!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope, I'm a colossal prude. There, I said it. On a forum for sex people.

My ex sister-in-law would occasionally try to talk to me about what she gets up to with her husband (apparently that's what female friends do!) and I'd turn inside out with embarrasment.

My close friends are aware I've been here on and off for 8 years, but they know no more than that. The only people I like talking about sex with are the ones I'm doing it on.

Nell

You're not a prude Nell! Far from it. You know what you're comfortable with and what you're not. I don't even think it's about comfort levels. It's more, that's who you are.

I do have to refrain from giving you a second by second recount of things but that's okay. You don't need to hear about my quim in such a graphic way. We can still be friends.

Anyways, I'm glad we can still be friends

Incoming message about my latest finger blasting. "

You don't count 'cos I've licked your nipple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When it comes to sex, are you quite a private person?

Would you happily discuss with anyone the more... intimate details of what you're into? Who you've met etc?

Are there some conversations you'll only have with people once that connection is made or are you happy to work out sexual compatibility quite early on?"

Private.. Never up for discussion.

Connection.. What is that op?

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Nope, I'm a colossal prude. There, I said it. On a forum for sex people.

My ex sister-in-law would occasionally try to talk to me about what she gets up to with her husband (apparently that's what female friends do!) and I'd turn inside out with embarrasment.

My close friends are aware I've been here on and off for 8 years, but they know no more than that. The only people I like talking about sex with are the ones I'm doing it on.

Nell

You're not a prude Nell! Far from it. You know what you're comfortable with and what you're not. I don't even think it's about comfort levels. It's more, that's who you are.

I do have to refrain from giving you a second by second recount of things but that's okay. You don't need to hear about my quim in such a graphic way. We can still be friends.

Anyways, I'm glad we can still be friends

Incoming message about my latest finger blasting. "

Aherm I've been so excited since this morning. So excited. Just waiting.

Please also share your finger blasting with me thank you.

P.S Your face looks very pretty.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I'm quite open among my friends, I don't see it as a taboo subject at all.

To random strangers not so much, they have no need to know about my sex life.

Meets I do like to get an idea of what their into and not fairly early, see if we are compatible or not.

Mrs

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