FabSwingers.com forum: Staying the night...

By *imi_Rouge OP Woman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Off the back of the how long your meets last.

Who does or doesn't do over night stays?

If you do or don't, why?

Does it feel too much like "relationship privileges"?

I can't actually remember the last time I spent the night with someone, I either send them home or I leave to go home. Or we do a daytime meet. I don't always sleep well and I'm not a morning person, plus I don't want to be pestered for sex during the night or first thing. I think I'd have to REALLY like someone to actually sleep with them.

What say you?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I did a few overnight meets but generally not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally, get out!

I think there's very few guys I'd be comfortable staying the night with and not in a cuddly way, there's definitely

a pillow wall been built. Just in a I know them way so I aren't bothered if they see me looking scary as hell first thing on a morning.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I quite like overnighters. No, that's an utter lie, anyone who knows me will know that. I adore them. I love relaxing into another's company, enjoying and savouring time with another. Falling asleep entwined in them but our lives not being entwined after that.

However... I've been saying no to staying over recently. I'm just... not there. The there I think he wants me to be. So I don't want to complicate things further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to, but don't think I will in future - it muddies the waters for me

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By *ake_or_deathMan
over a year ago

Manchester

People have stayed the night. It's fine as long as the lady understands what we are and aren't doing. The biggest issue for me is that it makes it more difficult for me to sleep as I'm not used to sleeping next to someone anymore

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I don’t. I have to get back for my three dogs, the kids and my mam.

For casual sex I would prefer not to stay the night anyway. It’s a bit intimate. Nobody needs to see my bed head hair unless they’re fond of me.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Overnighters have always worked well for me as I can only be into one guy at a time and I’m shameless about the crazy bed head look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love them.

The cuddles intertwining us together.

Their body heat keeping me warm.

The middle of the night hard-ons waking me up.

The early morning licking, sucking, fucking.

The ability to feel comfortable with someone to be able to do this is rare. It’s not just doing it, it’s the doing it without muddying the waters.

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By *ictoria_1976TV/TS
over a year ago

Cirencester

Done a couple of overnights in hotels on neutral ground but don't think do it at mine or someone else's place...

....well, unless they were really hot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Off the back of the how long your meets last.

Who does or doesn't do over night stays?

If you do or don't, why?

Does it feel too much like "relationship privileges"?

What say you?

Certainly not the first time but who is to say what happens if you start a regular thing

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

We have people stay overnight but they get their own rooms and bathrooms to retire to so no bed hair needs to be witnessed.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We usually have overnight stays or even weekend stays.

This works perfectly with singles.

A couple of times we’ve shared a bed but other times we’ve been in separate beds.

Play has been relaxed due to having extended time but it’s better as we’ve built a good connection.

This makes our relationship stronger.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I much prefer overnight meets. It makes me feel better knowing the man is wanting my company and not just a shag.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

In our early meets we stayed over night but found it awkward in the morning and never really slept well so if close enough we always come home now.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I like my space, my home, my own, mine.

But, I can accept someone I care about sharing that space for a night or two if it means we get to spend more time together.

Fuck buddies and casuals, absolutely no to overnights with those.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The last time I did, he got really angry in the middle of the night. So I'm quite anxious about doing it again although I'd like to.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"The last time I did, he got really angry in the middle of the night. So I'm quite anxious about doing it again although I'd like to. "

Did you steal the duvet?

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

Bit too lovey dovey for me.

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By *appy HoHolly DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

I absolutely love overnight hotel stays on neutral ground. It’s my luxury after a stressful week and especially when I know I can be totally relaxed with someone and get all the attention I want.

And all the morning sex, of course.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I prefer overnights. The end not focusing on an orgasm or a hard limit, but can linger on with breakfast, flirting, maybe round two (or four, who's counting?). It's not something I'd do unless I'm really comfortable with you, particularly if it isn't a hotel situation. But it's a better way to have the friendship be part of the meeting, not just the fucking.

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

I used to be happy to accommodate overnight but not any more, after some not so good experience. Also, I much prefer to sleep on my own.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Yeah prefer it. Usually do overnights or whole weekends. Also grab half hour on his way home from work too. Depends who it is. Someone new I probably wouldn’t stay overnight with for a while.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"Bit too lovey dovey for me."

No lovey dovey stuff for me. Just two adults enjoying each others company and having a laugh.

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By *hiregirl76Woman
over a year ago

Scotland

Are we talking first meets or someone you've built a connection with? The former hell no the latter possibly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really depends on the situation, person and vibes.

Given the choice between the above though? Definitely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Currently I don’t think I’d even be sleeping with someone if I wasn’t comfortable enough to have them stay over

Sure years ago I’d want to kick them out after, but I’ve grown up

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

I love overnights either to keep or stay. No time pressure, bit of cuddles and morning coffee with pinch of flirt always a good start of the day.

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By *obyn GravesTV/TS
over a year ago

1127 walnut avenue

Done quite a few.. infact on longer trips done a whole weekend with them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bit too lovey dovey for me."

Gotta feed the cat right!

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I avoid them as I have a sleepless night. I do daytime meets on the whole with the odd weekend away.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

I have and do, but it is not random people, since it's closer to a friend situation, it's no different than staying at any other friend's place, or with a friend in a hotel... Just in the same bed... After sex. But it's not really that big of a deal.

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By *urious couple22Couple
over a year ago

Derby

Only newish to meeting on my own its something I would consider I guess it depends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People have stayed the night. It's fine as long as the lady understands what we are and aren't doing. The biggest issue for me is that it makes it more difficult for me to sleep as I'm not used to sleeping next to someone anymore

Last part very true for me too. I do not believe I would whether the storm. The hassle of clean sheets, food, my electricity and so on and so on.. Plus snorers plus I be awake and yes, not on a first night or any night.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

I like them a lot tbh ..

Doesn't have to mean anything more than friends but I've never got this notion that anything more has to come from it than good friends...

Friends can still show affection and cuddles and still fuck !!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I like them a lot tbh ..

Doesn't have to mean anything more than friends but I've never got this notion that anything more has to come from it than good friends...

Friends can still show affection and cuddles and still fuck !! "

Don’t be silly. Feelings and affection are taboo on here. They’re too scary and not allowed!

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"I like them a lot tbh ..

Doesn't have to mean anything more than friends but I've never got this notion that anything more has to come from it than good friends...

Friends can still show affection and cuddles and still fuck !!

Don’t be silly. Feelings and affection are taboo on here. They’re too scary and not allowed!"

I'll join you for the night if you promise not to fall in love Nora x

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I like them a lot tbh ..

Doesn't have to mean anything more than friends but I've never got this notion that anything more has to come from it than good friends...

Friends can still show affection and cuddles and still fuck !!

Don’t be silly. Feelings and affection are taboo on here. They’re too scary and not allowed!

I'll join you for the night if you promise not to fall in love Nora x"

I’ll try but I do kinda love the people I’ve met. Doesn’t mean I wanna lock them in the attic and have their babies though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The last time I did, he got really angry in the middle of the night. So I'm quite anxious about doing it again although I'd like to.

Did you steal the duvet?"

That's a really unpleasant response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok, given the context I'll raise the room this:

If you're not happy to sleep next to the person it was purely mechanical.

I understand this will exclude couples, but the sentiment remains. And there's nothing wrong with that either, just not for me personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only tried twice and both times I gave up at about 3am and said I needed my own space.

Lesson learnt never again.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Ok, given the context I'll raise the room this:

If you're not happy to sleep next to the person it was purely mechanical.

I understand this will exclude couples, but the sentiment remains. And there's nothing wrong with that either, just not for me personally."

I agree. It’s not for me either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So this can accomodate.. Means have your fun and leave. No putting them up for night. Yes, a bed for debauchery but I need my bed and it is not up for debate about staying the night.

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By *luefire2Couple
over a year ago

just somewhere around here

We never stay over, one because we want to get back to our bed and two because we have dogs that can't be left all night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Staying over night isn’t for me. Not just because it feels too much like relationship privileges but I genuinely don’t enjoy staying away from home. I like my own comforts. I don’t think I’d be able to fully relax and enjoy the night like I should.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

I’ll do an overnight hotel with 2/3 guys off here who I know well- but it’s only because we don’t live close and when travel to a club.

I don’t do overnight other than that. Even if I book a hotel I expect them to leave (communicated before hand) x

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

"The last time I did, he got really angry in the middle of the night. So I'm quite anxious about doing it again although I'd like to.

Did you steal the duvet?

That's a really unpleasant response "

Perhaps he got angry at your unpleasant response

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Give me an overnight/weekend meet over a couple of hours in a hotel anytime.

It means it's not just about the sex. It involves conversation, 'normal life' stuff, company and connection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on the person for me and how strong the connection is as like others have said the waters can be muddied over time as it feels like relationship privileges. With some it just feels like 2 mates sharing a bed and others a little more so you need to tread carefully so you don’t ruin a good thing

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

We spend the whole weekend together and have the partners experience, but we have been spending time with each other for over 4 years now and are very comfortable in our relationship

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

It wouldn't be for me, but then I really like my own space.

My partner has done overnight meets though in the past.

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By *hilledGuyClactonMan
over a year ago

Little clacton

Can never do overnight.

I've to have a fan on every night of the year (otherwise cannot sleep)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done full weekends with someone after jumping on a plane to see them, after chatting to them for a while.

Got everything we both wanted from it, plus the company, managed some sightseeing,food out and just enjoyed the relaxing time away somewhere different.

Still friends now,chat often so no harm in it with the right person.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"I like them a lot tbh ..

Doesn't have to mean anything more than friends but I've never got this notion that anything more has to come from it than good friends...

Friends can still show affection and cuddles and still fuck !!

Don’t be silly. Feelings and affection are taboo on here. They’re too scary and not allowed!"

Oh yes .. Must avoid

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"I've done full weekends with someone after jumping on a plane to see them, after chatting to them for a while.

Got everything we both wanted from it, plus the company, managed some sightseeing,food out and just enjoyed the relaxing time away somewhere different.

Still friends now,chat often so no harm in it with the right person.

Exactly how it should be

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By *ixenitedWoman
over a year ago

Here or There abouts

"Off the back of the how long your meets last.

Who does or doesn't do over night stays?

If you do or don't, why?

Does it feel too much like "relationship privileges"?

What say you?

I let a fb stay over mine once a long time ago as we'd met up late did his washing as he came from work, he works with his hands so tends to get very dirty, then got straight on my knees an gave him a blowjob to kick off our night of fun, after he flung me round the bedroom we stuck a movie on and snuggled an fell asleep in eachothers arms, it was nice, though i woke up in the night as I tend to do and found that having another human in my bed during my supposed sleeping hrs felt so wrong so dirty lol

Never say never to overnight stays with a fb freind but sleeping is something I preffer to do alone as I'm normally up an down all night tossing and turning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Biggest issue for me is I tend to end up not sleeping

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By *isterE ManMan
over a year ago

Taunton

It's a no from me.

One of the aggreements with my wife, no overnights. I can stay until whenever. But no sleeping.

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Only had one was best 24 hours of my life but we were close at the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to a lot but they don't interest me now. Overnights bring feelings in my opinion which in turn can bring drama.

I want just straight forward good sex with a nice goodbye at the end until the next time

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By *imi_Rouge OP Woman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Lots of very interesting answers! Thanks people

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By *imi_Rouge OP Woman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Bit too lovey dovey for me."

Day room for you and Raven then... Noted.

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By *imi_Rouge OP Woman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Only tried twice and both times I gave up at about 3am and said I needed my own space.

Lesson learnt never again.

I think this would be my issue, I'm usually awake around 3/4am. Get up, wonder round, have a drink, go to the loo.

My biggest pet peeve is people who snore too... Maybe if I knew they didn't, it would be ok.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I generally need and prefer the sleep. I prefer to load the sex during other parts of the day.

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By *ilfCrumpet9Man
over a year ago

Wirral

Used to see a couple and always stayed the night. Also had meets where I have stayed the and enjoyed breakfast in bed the following morning

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By *oJo pornstarMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

In the early days of fab I meet a girl on a Friday night of a bank holiday weekend, we stayed until Monday night and we fucked like rabbits, took her home Monday night and i stayed at hers, we were together for over 5 years before splitting but we are still good friends to this day.

So no, no overnights, once the clingons sink their claws into you it can be a job and a half trying to get rid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends. I like someone staying overnight as its leisurely and a nice end to a day, but with most it has not been overnight and I have only stayed away once.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Over night has been quality time spend shaggin then time to relax and chill chatting

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

Yes I have.

Have had some great times with lovely people.

It depends on circumstances etc

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

"Love them.

The cuddles intertwining us together.

Their body heat keeping me warm.

The middle of the night hard-ons waking me up.

The early morning licking, sucking, fucking.

The ability to feel comfortable with someone to be able to do this is rare. It’s not just doing it, it’s the doing it without muddying the waters. "

Precisely this, but from the guy's perspective. I love overnighters and weekenders even better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only ever spent overnight with one person. Not something they usually did so I felt really privileged to wake up beside them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've spent overnight with someone, but that was mainly because of the distance between us that wouldn't have made it feasible so meet and then leave. It never felt like a relationship thing to me

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Off the back of the how long your meets last.

Who does or doesn't do over night stays?

If you do or don't, why?

Does it feel too much like "relationship privileges"?

What say you?

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I'm a meet and leave person too fussy to stay all night unless in a relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love an overnighter, especially if you don't end sleeping much.

Some I will and some I won't and depends on the dynamic.

Although now I'm a hell of a lot more cautious about an overnighter when I've had someone read into it more than they should have done and another that hid me.

Some people like the snuggles after sex and waking up in the morning for more. Others don't. I'm fine with it either way if they treat me right.

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

We don’t have many rules for each other when we fly solo, but no overnighters is one of them. Going home helps keep the primacy of our marriage Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only if it doesn't involve actually sleeping.

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By *exycarlashane181Couple
over a year ago

Leamington Spa

We have had people overnight but they stay in a separate room when we finish playing

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

gretna

Have my little dog to look after so everything firs round her needs - I didn’t rescue her to leave her on her own … even if i never get a shag again - its all about her

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

I don’t do overnight sleepovers unless meeting a couple & we really click.

Stayed the night at a London lass’s place only for her supposed ex to show up at 7:30 next morning & he’s banging the bedroom door to get in!

I’ve let 1 person sleepover as we had fucked all night like rabbits & was scared she would fall asleep behind the wheel

I was such a gentleman that day haha

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Its not my thing. Prefer daytime meets mostly because i have trouble sleeping.

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