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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Where you thought you'd be in life?

I've watched the Robbie Williams documentary, he was my Ryan before Ryan was my Ryan.

It just reminds me of how I was back then, what I thought my life would be. How different it actually is, how different I am.

Are you where you're meant to be?

Where you'd hoped to be?

* I seem to have a thing for guys whose name begins with R...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely not, I’m about the polar opposite from where I’d hoped I was gonna be by now.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

And you chose a username starting with 'R'.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"And you chose a username starting with 'R'."

This one. There have been others... Many others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're all where we're supposed to be, it's just not maybe what we'd hoped.

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By *ake_or_deathMan
over a year ago

Manchester

No, although I've just got a new job so maybe things might be about to change a little. But overall, no. Not at all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"And you chose a username starting with 'R'."

Ooohhhh. R is the magic letter

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Not even a little. Life has taken me on an unexpected roller coaster ride and I'm not sure how I got to where I am.

But hey ho. It's chilly here, but OK mostly

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By *andadbodMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Who’s Ryan?

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

I'm where I thought I'd be, but not by the route that I thought I'd take!

I hope I don't get too much FOMO about unrealised plans though!

Gbat

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"Who’s Ryan?"

Air

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We're all where we're supposed to be, it's just not maybe what we'd hoped."

This is very profound.

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

"Who’s Ryan?"

Ryan?

Who the fuck is Ryan?

Gbat

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Hmm. Living with my mutt in a house I own, holding down an actual well paying proper job, and with a small amount of people who mean the absolute world to me?

Definitely did not picture myself getting my life this in order at any point in my youth.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not even a little. Life has taken me on an unexpected roller coaster ride and I'm not sure how I got to where I am.

But hey ho. It's chilly here, but OK mostly

Chilly is good. I like chilly.

Things happen for a reason right?

Right??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Who’s Ryan?"

Who's Ryan??

WHO'S RYAN!!???

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By *inky ChefMan
over a year ago

Norwich

I thought I would be playing in a semi famous band at this age.

***Rock & Roland***

Maybe would have my own biker club.

***Hairy Davidsons***

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By *apidaryMan
over a year ago

Chipping Norton

Mainly, I could never have imagined myself being anything other than young.

I miss how well I used to sleep, but otherwise I'm delighted to find I've grown up. Much happier, too, which more than makes up for the lack of strongly anticipated fame & riches.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

Out!

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Bruce's middle name begins with R... It's meant to be!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We're where we wanted and are meant to be. Both of us are frequently amazed by this because we never imagined we would achieve it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are where we are largely by our own choices. Some will have just had shit luck...

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

"Bruce's middle name begins with R... It's meant to be!"

Do you want to watch us fuck or something?

Get over it!

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By *odevilWoman
over a year ago

exeter

I am a million miles away from where I thought I'd be by now.

Thank god!

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Absolutely no idea if I'm where I'm meant to be... It could all change very drastically in the new year, so maybe that's a sign that I'm not?

I thought I'd be the married with kids type... But obviously not.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

"I am a million miles away from where I thought I'd be by now.

Thank god! "

Now this one has caught my attention

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Bruce's middle name begins with R... It's meant to be!

Do you want to watch us fuck or something?

Get over it!

I just want you both to get laid, I'm trying to help

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I am a million miles away from where I thought I'd be by now.

Thank god!

Now this one has caught my attention "

Remind you of anyone

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Bruce's middle name begins with R... It's meant to be!

Do you want to watch us fuck or something?

Get over it!

I just want you both to get laid, I'm trying to help

I'm pretty sure brucey needs no help in that department and I'll sort it when I can be arsed to shave and stuff.

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

Wrote two long paragraphs but deleted it

Back in the early nineties yes I thought my life would be different but present day I’m happy where I am, life will never be perfect but I’ve got a lot to be thankful for

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By *odevilWoman
over a year ago

exeter

"I am a million miles away from where I thought I'd be by now.

Thank god!

Now this one has caught my attention

Remind you of anyone

Mistaken identity?

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"I am a million miles away from where I thought I'd be by now.

Thank god!

Now this one has caught my attention "

I wish you luck with this one Brucey

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

Manchester(ish).

I took a few fruitless wrong turns in my 20s and 30s. Mainly because I'm was trying to please societal norms and live up to other people's expectations.

Now I'm doing what i want. I'm happy. Not where I thought I'd be and I'm ok with that.

New chapter next year. Can't wait.

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By *odevilWoman
over a year ago

exeter

"I am a million miles away from where I thought I'd be by now.

Thank god!

Now this one has caught my attention

I wish you luck with this one Brucey

This one?

Who's she? The cats mother?

Oh. Wait...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I am a million miles away from where I thought I'd be by now.

Thank god!

Now this one has caught my attention

Remind you of anyone

Mistaken identity? "

Nah never.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never really planned where I’d be, so never really had a plan,

My only real sub conscious plan was to get past 47 as that was the age my old man died.

I’ve passed that so now I’m just planning on watching my daughter grow into a beautiful adult.

Where did you hope to be? And how as it differed if that’s ok to ask?

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Bruce's middle name begins with R... It's meant to be!

Do you want to watch us fuck or something?

Get over it!

I just want you both to get laid, I'm trying to help

I'm pretty sure brucey needs no help in that department and I'll sort it when I can be arsed to shave and stuff.

I'm gonna go catch a squirrel, so you can have that chat

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

I never thought about the future much and I still don't now.

Though if 17 year old me saw what life has been like in the last 10 years, he wouldn't be that thrilled with what it's become.

There are areas that are good, but there are more area's that raise concerns.

But fuck it... what are you going do?

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By *aissez-faireMan
over a year ago

Right behind you…. Boo

It takes an immeasurable amount of autism to stay on a specific life track. Most people roll with the waves and make the best of the good weather.

When you’re young (and mostly selfish) life seems easy and you’re invincible. If you’re lucky enough to have children however your life is never really yours for several decades.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

"I am a million miles away from where I thought I'd be by now.

Thank god!

Now this one has caught my attention

I wish you luck with this one Brucey

This one?

Who's she? The cats mother?

Oh. Wait...

Oh shit now I feel like I'm walking into a trap.

I like cats but...who are you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Bruce's middle name begins with R... It's meant to be!

Do you want to watch us fuck or something?

Get over it!

I just want you both to get laid, I'm trying to help

I'm pretty sure brucey needs no help in that department and I'll sort it when I can be arsed to shave and stuff.

I'm gonna go catch a squirrel, so you can have that chat "

A chat with a squirrel?

Last time I did that it did not end well.

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

"We're all where we're supposed to be, it's just not maybe what we'd hoped."

I like that

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"I am a million miles away from where I thought I'd be by now.

Thank god!

Now this one has caught my attention

I wish you luck with this one Brucey

This one?

Who's she? The cats mother?

Oh. Wait...

Oh shit now I feel like I'm walking into a trap.

I like cats but...who are you?

Trouble. So much trouble

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

"I am a million miles away from where I thought I'd be by now.

Thank god!

Now this one has caught my attention

I wish you luck with this one Brucey

This one?

Who's she? The cats mother?

Oh. Wait...

Oh shit now I feel like I'm walking into a trap.

I like cats but...who are you?

Trouble. So much trouble"

Oh no I don't do well with that.

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

"We're all where we're supposed to be, it's just not maybe what we'd hoped."

That somehow feels worse to me. Like we maybe weren't deserving of our hopes for ourselves. I might be overthinking it!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Not sure where I thought I'd be but it wasn't here

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"We're all where we're supposed to be, it's just not maybe what we'd hoped.

That somehow feels worse to me. Like we maybe weren't deserving of our hopes for ourselves. I might be overthinking it!"

No you are right. But so is that statement. It really is a "nice" philosophical way of saying "shit happens, now deal"

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Nope. Never thought I'd be so reliant on other people, so incapable of doing things I want to do, so pathetically vulnerable in the eyes of others.

I was going to be James Herriot, yomping over hills and dales to save the lives of cows and horses, come rain or shine. I am not doing that. I'd be incapable of doing that now anyway.

I can't believe I'm only 38 this month. I feel 98.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

"We're all where we're supposed to be, it's just not maybe what we'd hoped.

That somehow feels worse to me. Like we maybe weren't deserving of our hopes for ourselves. I might be overthinking it!

No you are right. But so is that statement. It really is a "nice" philosophical way of saying "shit happens, now deal" "

But make a thread about it first!

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

"We're all where we're supposed to be, it's just not maybe what we'd hoped.

That somehow feels worse to me. Like we maybe weren't deserving of our hopes for ourselves. I might be overthinking it!"

Deserving is a strong word.

I hoped the bus would be on time earlier and it wasn't... that doesn't mean I was undeserving of getting to work on time.

You're hopes are based on things that you can't really control; you can nudge things in the right direction as best you can and you have agency over your plans and how you act upon them...

But life is what happens to you when you're busy making plans

Fate has it's own plan.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am where I chose to be.

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

"We're all where we're supposed to be, it's just not maybe what we'd hoped.

That somehow feels worse to me. Like we maybe weren't deserving of our hopes for ourselves. I might be overthinking it!

Deserving is a strong word.

I hoped the bus would be on time earlier and it wasn't... that doesn't mean I was undeserving of getting to work on time.

You're hopes are based on things that you can't really control; you can nudge things in the right direction as best you can and you have agency over your plans and how you act upon them...

But life is what happens to you when you're busy making plans

Fate has it's own plan.

*your (sorry everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We're all where we're supposed to be, it's just not maybe what we'd hoped.

That somehow feels worse to me. Like we maybe weren't deserving of our hopes for ourselves. I might be overthinking it!"

I think it's more about expectations than being undeserving, but I guess it's up to us all to decide that individually.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"We're all where we're supposed to be, it's just not maybe what we'd hoped.

That somehow feels worse to me. Like we maybe weren't deserving of our hopes for ourselves. I might be overthinking it!

Deserving is a strong word.

I hoped the bus would be on time earlier and it wasn't... that doesn't mean I was undeserving of getting to work on time.

You're hopes are based on things that you can't really control; you can nudge things in the right direction as best you can and you have agency over your plans and how you act upon them...

But life is what happens to you when you're busy making plans

Fate has it's own plan.

Fate suggests that everything is preordained. That there's no free will or randomness. Which I think is, politely, total bollocks.

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

"We're all where we're supposed to be, it's just not maybe what we'd hoped.

That somehow feels worse to me. Like we maybe weren't deserving of our hopes for ourselves. I might be overthinking it!

Deserving is a strong word.

I hoped the bus would be on time earlier and it wasn't... that doesn't mean I was undeserving of getting to work on time.

You're hopes are based on things that you can't really control; you can nudge things in the right direction as best you can and you have agency over your plans and how you act upon them...

But life is what happens to you when you're busy making plans

Fate has it's own plan.

Sure, I get that. But there will be some people's hopes who have not been met by sheer circumstances out of their control.

I'm sure most "make the best of it" but they might not be "where they're supposed to be either". I think the 'supposed' jarred with me.

But as Lib said, I guess we read into that what we want to. I absolutely agree we all need to deal with the cards we're dealt as best we can.

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

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By *odevilWoman
over a year ago

exeter

"I am a million miles away from where I thought I'd be by now.

Thank god!

Now this one has caught my attention

I wish you luck with this one Brucey

This one?

Who's she? The cats mother?

Oh. Wait...

Oh shit now I feel like I'm walking into a trap.

I like cats but...who are you?

Trouble. So much trouble

Oh no I don't do well with that."

Best you stay in the kitchen then love

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Yes

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

"I am a million miles away from where I thought I'd be by now.

Thank god!

Now this one has caught my attention

I wish you luck with this one Brucey

This one?

Who's she? The cats mother?

Oh. Wait...

Oh shit now I feel like I'm walking into a trap.

I like cats but...who are you?

Trouble. So much trouble

Oh no I don't do well with that.

Best you stay in the kitchen then love

Oh no fuck this I like this one!

I can't hear you from the garage where I'm lubricating my TOOLS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure where i expected to be but would say no am not but there is good and bad to that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really, no.

I would have liked for a few things to be different but for the most part I’m happy with where my life is now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well mine is doing a lot better than could have been expected, but I am literally thousands of miles from where I wanted to be.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"Not really, no.

I would have liked for a few things to be different but for the most part I’m happy with where my life is now. "

You are welcome!

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Most certainly not as everything happened unexpectedly not planned by myself. But keeping my spirit's up so it can be one day.... Long overdue

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Yeah. To cut a long story short I didn't think I'd still be here - thirty at a push.

To be here and thriving? Learning more about myself every day, living and enjoying it? I think I'm doing better than I could ever hoped.

I did want to be a lawyer when I was little. And then a foreign correspondent. Neither happened and I'm glad they didn't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yeah. To cut a long story short I didn't think I'd still be here - thirty at a push.

To be here and thriving? Learning more about myself every day, living and enjoying it? I think I'm doing better than I could ever hoped.

I did want to be a lawyer when I was little. And then a foreign correspondent. Neither happened and I'm glad they didn't."

I wanted to be a lawyer! Then I found penis.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Yeah. To cut a long story short I didn't think I'd still be here - thirty at a push.

To be here and thriving? Learning more about myself every day, living and enjoying it? I think I'm doing better than I could ever hoped.

I did want to be a lawyer when I was little. And then a foreign correspondent. Neither happened and I'm glad they didn't.

I wanted to be a lawyer! Then I found penis.

Yeah. I found happipenis too. Darn peni.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah. To cut a long story short I didn't think I'd still be here - thirty at a push.

To be here and thriving? Learning more about myself every day, living and enjoying it? I think I'm doing better than I could ever hoped.

I did want to be a lawyer when I was little. And then a foreign correspondent. Neither happened and I'm glad they didn't.

I wanted to be a lawyer! Then I found penis.

I wanted to save the world but then I had kids. End of the dream (and arguably a complete waste of time), now Where's thar red wine.

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By *odevilWoman
over a year ago

exeter

"I am a million miles away from where I thought I'd be by now.

Thank god!

Now this one has caught my attention

I wish you luck with this one Brucey

This one?

Who's she? The cats mother?

Oh. Wait...

Oh shit now I feel like I'm walking into a trap.

I like cats but...who are you?

Trouble. So much trouble

Oh no I don't do well with that.

Best you stay in the kitchen then love

Oh no fuck this I like this one!

I can't hear you from the garage where I'm lubricating my TOOLS

Don't lie. Everyone knows you only have one tool. And it doesn't take that long to lubricate.

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By *ake_or_deathMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Yeah. To cut a long story short I didn't think I'd still be here - thirty at a push.

To be here and thriving? Learning more about myself every day, living and enjoying it? I think I'm doing better than I could ever hoped.

I did want to be a lawyer when I was little. And then a foreign correspondent. Neither happened and I'm glad they didn't.

I wanted to be a lawyer! Then I found penis.

Yeah. I found happipenis too. Darn peni."

Reminds me of that famous apocryphal story about the French actress (a different one depending on who tells it) who, when asked what the most important thing to have in life was, responded 'A penis.' Cue confused dinner guests until someone realised she'd actually said 'Happiness'.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

"I am a million miles away from where I thought I'd be by now.

Thank god!

Now this one has caught my attention

I wish you luck with this one Brucey

This one?

Who's she? The cats mother?

Oh. Wait...

Oh shit now I feel like I'm walking into a trap.

I like cats but...who are you?

Trouble. So much trouble

Oh no I don't do well with that.

Best you stay in the kitchen then love

Oh no fuck this I like this one!

I can't hear you from the garage where I'm lubricating my TOOLS

Don't lie. Everyone knows you only have one tool. And it doesn't take that long to lubricate.

Who are you?! I'm all Peter Andre about this situation now. I wanna get close to you

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Not even a little. Life has taken me on an unexpected roller coaster ride and I'm not sure how I got to where I am.

But hey ho. It's chilly here, but OK mostly

Chilly is good. I like chilly.

Things happen for a reason right?

Right??"

That's what they say...

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By *esafinadOHolyNightMan
over a year ago

Belfast

No, far from it. I thought I would be settled down with someone, house, kids, career, etc. Instead I change jobs regularly, I move about the uk living in different places short term, and my longest relationship lasted 6 months and was maybe 15 years ago. I'm not unhappy though

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By *aggonerMan
over a year ago

for a penny

The fact that people are where they are is a clear indication that they were/are meant to be there.

Whether they expected/intended/ hoped to be there is the variable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am alive. That is always a bonus. Any selfish knuts who want more, well ... Bless you.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Divorced, broke, broken.. not really. But I have faith that I’m where I need to be right now and shit will get better. Despite everything I’m weirdly happy. That’ll do

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

No i lived a dream but that dream wasnt meant to be real thanks to china and there trampy food storage methods and the world flipping up its own arse

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Broadly. Maybe 5 years behind plan - breakups are expensive! I think having the right partners helps, makes it easier to work hard and look after your health.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Standing right where I am supposed to be. Had a few setbacks no plans are perfectly executed. I am proud of what I accomplished on my own and with my loved ones. Wouldn't change anything.

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By *hiteWitchXXXWoman
over a year ago

North Wales

I'm not where I thought I'd be but I'm exactly where I'm supposed to be.... I'm completely fine with that

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
over a year ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

I've kind of winged it and it's kind of worked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely expected to be working a minimum wage job for the rest of my life in a dead end office. Want expecting to be looking to retire by about 45 at this rate

Right place, right time

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

Professionally, I knew exactly where I wanted to be. It is rarefied and exulted position that less than 1% ever make it to. I was off to a brilliant start, but my chances were wilfully and deliberately destroyed by someone. I spent a long time reeling from that, and a longer time trying to work my way back. I might still make it. Time will tell. Everything else, where I am now is better than I thought it would be x

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By *ylonseeker2023Man
over a year ago

Harwich

No, I am not where I had hoped I would be... not for lack of achievement alone.

Whilst on course I have had some setbacks like most of us but things seemed to square up again in equally unexpected strokes of good fortune as the setbacks.

The thing being the world has evolved so much faster than I could ever have imagined and where I wanted to be simply doesn't exist anymore... it has been overtaken by the crazy pace of life..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In some aspects yes but I thought it would be better than this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably

I could go into details but then I'll wallow in self pity.

Are you telling me Rami, Rupert, Rob, Rolf and Ronaldo all get to jump the queue?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No my life looks very different to what I had planned but I am actually conent. Things don't always pan out the way we hope but sometimes different is good.

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By *use and wolfCouple
over a year ago

angus

Where you thought you'd be in life?

No, several times over (fresh starts, new ventures, roots planted etc. none turned out the way i worked hard to accomplish

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Yes I'm family orientated, so kids was always on the agenda, I managed to have a successful career and party lifestyle first, before settling down broody

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By *929Man
over a year ago

newcastle

No I never thought I’d find myself a single dad at 40 having invested 15 years into a relationship only for it to be an absolute failure

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Never imagined i would be having such an adventurous sex life that's for sure.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No

Probably

I could go into details but then I'll wallow in self pity.

Are you telling me Rami, Rupert, Rob, Rolf and Ronaldo all get to jump the queue?"

Rodger

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By *andadbodMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Who’s Ryan?

Who's Ryan??

WHO'S RYAN!!???"

Well, scrolled all the way down and you never answered, still none the wiser im afraid.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

No, absolutely not.

I was but then I had children and a lot went tits up because of health, childcare costs etc.

To be honest though I'm not sure now a few years later that it matters all that much.

I have a great little family a roof over my head, food in the cupboards and a successful small business, it may not be what I'd planned or hoped for or even worked towards but it works & I'm greatful.

Mrs

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By *ilver2000Man
over a year ago

South West

Life has many unexpected twists and turns and curved balls to be thrown at you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I'm not. Ofttt if only I knew then what I know now

Mrs C

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely not, I've lost everything I thought was my future this year so starting life all over again at 31. I do believe we are where we should be though, even if it didn't go as we hoped it would.

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

"Absolutely not, I've lost everything I thought was my future this year so starting life all over again at 31. I do believe we are where we should be though, even if it didn't go as we hoped it would. "

Oh my

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

My first reaction is to say “Absolutely not!” but then I think maybe, just maybe, what if I’m exactly where I need to be and it’s thought provoking.

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

I’m in similar position but two decades older.

But still, I do believe it too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Done this, and now I'm glad it happened!

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

I never imagined I'd be where I am now, and every now and then I think about the random things that have happened to lead me here. I'm grateful for everything, mistakes and all, because without them I wouldn't be where I am now, which is way better than anything I could have imagined for myself in the past.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

I am pretty chuffed with where I am considering what life has thrown at me.

Hoping to retire early which was a plan from an early age. So that parts panning out nicely.

In fact pat on the back to me

I have done good so far.

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By *odders88Man
over a year ago

Northampton

"Where you thought you'd be in life?

I've watched the Robbie Williams documentary, he was my Ryan before Ryan was my Ryan.

It just reminds me of how I was back then, what I thought my life would be. How different it actually is, how different I am.

Are you where you're meant to be?

Where you'd hoped to be?

* I seem to have a thing for guys whose name begins with R..."

Rodders

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

40 years ago, then no.

30 years ago, still no.

20 years ago, fuck it, pretty much.

Your expectations change with your reality…

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I don't think I ever gave my future life too much thought when I was younger and I'm probably still the same now

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
over a year ago

Maidstone

No. Starting over at 50. I'm a bit broken and I don't think I have the energy or the time to get it back to where I want to be.

Plan b: crazy cat lady it is.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

I never think this deep about life to be honest. I give myself little goals often but in the grand scheme I just try to be as happy as possible.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

I'm not sure, certainly happy with ones lot and if we look at what we need in life rather than think we want or must have to be happy then yes very ok..

Was never a dreamer back then and only looked ahead short term if at all..

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"Where you thought you'd be in life?

I've watched the Robbie Williams documentary, he was my Ryan before Ryan was my Ryan.

It just reminds me of how I was back then, what I thought my life would be. How different it actually is, how different I am.

Are you where you're meant to be?

Where you'd hoped to be?

* I seem to have a thing for guys whose name begins with R..."

In some ways, yes. In other ways, no. As a wise man being with "R" once said "Life is a rollercoaster, you just gotta ride it"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh mate, don't ask that question

But, no. I don't think I am. Growing up I thought I'd do the traditional "go uni, get a job, get married, have kids, live happily ever after" before I turn 30. It really doesn't look like that's going to happen as I never went to uni and although I haven't given up hope of finding a long term partner, the thought of marriage and kids is very much up in the air.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I never think this deep about life to be honest. I give myself little goals often but in the grand scheme I just try to be as happy as possible. "

This comes across

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh mate, don't ask that question

You're 28! 28!!!

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

"Oh mate, don't ask that question

You're 28! 28!!!

He can't complete uni before 30 now silly!

Or the other stuff it sounds like. Don't worry beans it's called flirty 30s for a reason!

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

"Oh mate, don't ask that question

You got time my friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m maybe not where I wanted to be but I do think I’m probably where I’m meant to be.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Some elements of it, yes. Others not so much but I’ll get back there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh mate, don't ask that question

You're 28! 28!!!

He can't complete uni before 30 now silly!

Or the other stuff it sounds like. Don't worry beans it's called flirty 30s for a reason!"

Yeah, that's what I meant

but cheers Brucey, one thing about getting older is realising that you don't have to accomplish everything straight away and it's not a race with others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh mate, don't ask that question

You got time my friend. "

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

"Oh mate, don't ask that question

You're 28! 28!!!

He can't complete uni before 30 now silly!

Or the other stuff it sounds like. Don't worry beans it's called flirty 30s for a reason!

Yeah, that's what I meant

but cheers Brucey, one thing about getting older is realising that you don't have to accomplish everything straight away and it's not a race with others

It really isn't. We all have our paths and are gonna fuck up and not be where others are. I think even celebs feel like that. Just do what makes you happy!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh mate, don't ask that question

You're 28! 28!!!

He can't complete uni before 30 now silly!

Or the other stuff it sounds like. Don't worry beans it's called flirty 30s for a reason!

Yeah, that's what I meant

but cheers Brucey, one thing about getting older is realising that you don't have to accomplish everything straight away and it's not a race with others

It really isn't. We all have our paths and are gonna fuck up and not be where others are. I think even celebs feel like that. Just do what makes you happy!"

I'm feeling the bromance

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By *hawn ScottMan
over a year ago

london Brixton

To be honest I never thought I'd live this long!

Then this ebony bird beguiling my sad fancy into smiling,

By the grave and stern decorum of the countenance it wore,

“Though thy crest be shorn and shaven, thou,” I said, “art sure no craven,

Ghastly grim and ancient Raven wandering from the Nightly shore—

Tell me what thy lordly name is on the Night’s Plutonian shore!”

Quoth the Raven “Nevermore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. Starting over at 50. I'm a bit broken and I don't think I have the energy or the time to get it back to where I want to be.

Plan b: crazy cat lady it is. "

Just keep them off the kitchen worksurface (says he who could never keep his cat off the dining room table - she's gone now, so all I have to contend with is a dog that can reach up and steal fruit from the sideboard!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never think this deep about life to be honest. I give myself little goals often but in the grand scheme I just try to be as happy as possible.

This comes across"

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I've kept a diary/journal for nearly 14 years. A few years ago I wrote where I hoped to be now. I reached that point so all good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Where you thought you'd be in life?

I've watched the Robbie Williams documentary, he was my Ryan before Ryan was my Ryan.

It just reminds me of how I was back then, what I thought my life would be. How different it actually is, how different I am.

Are you where you're meant to be?

Where you'd hoped to be?

* I seem to have a thing for guys whose name begins with R..."

Professionally I couldn't even have aspired to achieve what i have, so i am immensely proud of myself.

Every other aspect of my life is a disaster zone... I wish i could live up to the perfect daughter /friend /partner etc that other people seem to manage with such grace and ease

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

Yes and no.....like someone said some parts of my life now I'm ok with others not. I wish I changed direction in my career choices ages ago instead of this year. Did I expect at this age to be by myself....definitely no but it is what it is.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Where you thought you'd be in life?

I've watched the Robbie Williams documentary, he was my Ryan before Ryan was my Ryan.

It just reminds me of how I was back then, what I thought my life would be. How different it actually is, how different I am.

Are you where you're meant to be?

Where you'd hoped to be?

* I seem to have a thing for guys whose name begins with R...

Professionally I couldn't even have aspired to achieve what i have, so i am immensely proud of myself.

Every other aspect of my life is a disaster zone... I wish i could live up to the perfect daughter /friend /partner etc that other people seem to manage with such grace and ease

Midnight, most of us are just winging it, we don't feel like the perfect wife/daughter/mother etc and most of the time, I feel like I'm an immense burden and total letdown.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

Yes. Exactly. No surprises, no setbacks, no happy accidents. All part of the plan.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Where you thought you'd be in life?

I've watched the Robbie Williams documentary, he was my Ryan before Ryan was my Ryan.

It just reminds me of how I was back then, what I thought my life would be. How different it actually is, how different I am.

Are you where you're meant to be?

Where you'd hoped to be?

* I seem to have a thing for guys whose name begins with R...

Professionally I couldn't even have aspired to achieve what i have, so i am immensely proud of myself.

Every other aspect of my life is a disaster zone... I wish i could live up to the perfect daughter /friend /partner etc that other people seem to manage with such grace and ease

Midnight, most of us are just winging it, we don't feel like the perfect wife/daughter/mother etc and most of the time, I feel like I'm an immense burden and total letdown. "

Yeah thats how I feel too

i wish I could be a better version /person

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By *allandathleticMan
over a year ago

Asgard

I'm a firm believer that I am exactly where I'm supposed to be at this moment in time

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

Certainly not. I expected to manage to live a very normal life thinking I was just a slightly quirky man and maintain a happy marrage. Instead hitting a divorce and then a few years later identity crisis has been quiet a rollercoaster.

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal

"I'm a firm believer that I am exactly where I'm supposed to be at this moment in time"

Agree...seem to have bounced around the world all my life and am contented...many would disagree but i don't give a .....

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

On the whole I've achieved more than I thought possible when Angels came out. Some things I'm a bit further behind than I thought I'd be but also I'm ahead in others.

Though I generally set a to do list at the beginning of the year, to push myself to get things done. Which I've found to be useful.

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

I've never had a life plan really. I may have had ideas when I was younger but becoming a mum very young changed my perspective.

I'm just happy having good friends and family around me and a job that pays my bills. Things could definitely be worse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are where we are, it is what it is, fate will weave it’s merry dance

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By *hrek101Man
over a year ago

Herts

I don't have much really but way ahead of where I thought I would ever be. The bar was set low for me though.

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By *unny.side.up.cplCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

I neither hoped nor expected to be here at all. I was lucky enough to get a second shot at life. It’s sometimes hard to deal with the past but at least I think about the future now, and I’m happy where I am.

And with that said, for anyone struggling, keep your head up and keep marching on. Your time will come.

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Transsexual Transylvania

No, I'm not. Life's funny like that.

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By *heelz69Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Definitely not, being disabled was definitely not in my thoughts, I was probably having the best year of my life, great job, great gf,great

Mates etc. When it all went tits up and some twat knocked me off my motorbike!

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

"Definitely not, being disabled was definitely not in my thoughts, I was probably having the best year of my life, great job, great gf,great

Mates etc. When it all went tits up and some twat knocked me off my motorbike!"

Sorry to hear that, I exoect there will be a fair few bikers thinking there but for the grace of god on this. I have certainly had a couple of moderately serious accidents and some near misses that would have been worse. Hope you find a route back to as many of these things as possible.

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