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By *layfullsam OP   Man
over a year ago

Solihull

Just reading a forum thread and a fab lady commented that she’s never sent a first message

So the big question is “have you never sent the first message”

I understand women don’t have to because they’ll be boob deep in messages but I thought what a shame more don’t

Or do you

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I used to. Not all the while but if something caught my eye I'd go for it

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By *layfullsam OP   Man
over a year ago

Solihull


"I used to. Not all the while but if something caught my eye I'd go for it"

Love this answer, did you have a high success rate ?

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Yeah I’ve done it many times. Some people I just warm to so I say hello

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I used to. Not all the while but if something caught my eye I'd go for it

Love this answer, did you have a high success rate ?"
Yes I had a good success rate. Sometimes it was just chatting and then it fizzled out and sometimes it led to a meet. I got ignored a couple of times but never had a flat out rejection

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By *apxxxWoman
over a year ago

North Shropshire not Wales!!!ffs & Manchester

Loads of times

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

We spent almost a year with a lady who reached out to us. It does happen Xx

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By *layfullsam OP   Man
over a year ago

Solihull


"We spent almost a year with a lady who reached out to us. It does happen Xx"

Great love to hear a success story

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By *layfullsam OP   Man
over a year ago

Solihull


"Loads of times "

Mmmmmm I like that

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By *abrielle43Woman
over a year ago

Kildare

Yes I message first occasionally. Sometimes get a response, sometimes not.

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By *layfullsam OP   Man
over a year ago

Solihull


"Yeah I’ve done it many times. Some people I just warm to so I say hello "

Love this

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By *layfullsam OP   Man
over a year ago

Solihull


"Yes I message first occasionally. Sometimes get a response, sometimes not. "

Thumbs up for trying

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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago

Boo's World

I send piss taking messages

Funny messages

Bad jokes

Never a super sexy I want you now FAF message.

Those usually come after too much Malibu or if I already know them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women like to complain about the crap they receive but don't actually send any.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Vast majority yes. I gave up doing that awhile ago. One or two exceptions though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Vast majority yes. I gave up doing that awhile ago. One or two exceptions though"

Just seen your status.

You likkkkkkeeee me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah absolutely. Most of the people I talk to regularly I’ve sent the first message to

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By *ambo LadMan
over a year ago

Brixworth

I honestly don’t think I’ve ever been sent the first message. Can completely understand why, women on here are obviously inundated with messages constantly, friend of mine sent me a screenshot the other day and she had over 400 messages just from that day!!

Never received the first message but would be nice haha.

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By *layfullsam OP   Man
over a year ago

Solihull


"Yeah absolutely. Most of the people I talk to regularly I’ve sent the first message to "

Wow that’s brilliant well done you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, it's better to look for what you want than wait for it to land in your DM's IMO. I just wish the search functions made that easier here.

I'll wink first normally, but if they wink back I'll start the conversation.

If their profile really stands out I'll dive straight in with a message - I'd need to feel like I had something worthwhile to say based on their bio and mutual desires, which is rare in the sea of vague/blank profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done a first message usually of the back of a forum post or something though haven't in a while.

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By *he ass man 666Man
over a year ago

paradise city

Would be nice occasionally

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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If I'm interested, of course I do. I don't message from a sexual, faf stance. I message because I find something about them interesting and I'd like to learn more about them.

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By *layfullsam OP   Man
over a year ago

Solihull


"Yeah, it's better to look for what you want than wait for it to land in your DM's IMO. I just wish the search functions made that easier here.

I'll wink first normally, but if they wink back I'll start the conversation.

If their profile really stands out I'll dive straight in with a message - I'd need to feel like I had something worthwhile to say based on their bio and mutual desires, which is rare in the sea of vague/blank profiles."

Love this answer

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By *layfullsam OP   Man
over a year ago

Solihull


"I have done a first message usually of the back of a forum post or something though haven't in a while. "

Brilliant to hear

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By *929Man
over a year ago

newcastle

I never message first or approach in real life either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The women don’t have too, have so many too choose from

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By *layfullsam OP   Man
over a year ago

Solihull


"I never message first or approach in real life either "

Oh no, but if you don’t have to you’re winning at life

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By *layfullsam OP   Man
over a year ago

Solihull


"The women don’t have too, have so many too choose from "

They don’t have to but they might want to

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I haven't sent a first contact message in nearly 4 years.

Every conversation I've had since has been started by a woman making the first move, sometimes through something on the forums but sometimes just because they like my profile.

My fab bestie who I also have a couples profile with made the first move and got in touch so there are lots of women out there who do.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

I don't think i ever have. But i know i should...i'll pluck up the courage eventually

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By *layfullsam OP   Man
over a year ago

Solihull


"I don't think i ever have. But i know i should...i'll pluck up the courage eventually"

Definitely do you’ll make someone’s day

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By *ineapple_PrincessWoman
over a year ago

in the waves

I regularly message men, it's resulted in some of my best meets. Shoot your shot ladies

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By *layfullsam OP   Man
over a year ago

Solihull


"I regularly message men, it's resulted in some of my best meets. Shoot your shot ladies "

Brilliant advice for the ladies

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

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I used to when I was looking to meet...why waste time trawling through all the crap in my inbox when I could just message the people that I was interested in?

In fact, I've only ever met one guy that I didn't initiate contact with.

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